M40
being available and willing yet finding people bailing
July 06 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
You feel "entitled" to people's attention because you've "paid good money" to meet people. If you were to flip the script on that; wouldn't you feel like a commodity?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Except probably the attitude and expectations Just because you have paid "good money" means F*** all. Paying money gives you membership and that is all. Nothing more nothing less. Membership only and its privileges of being able to make and possibly meet contacts, the rest is up to you and also a good dose of fate plays a part here There is not entitlement, there is no fairness, it just is So perhaps lower your expectations, don't take it all so seriously, do not make this the be all and end all of your sexual journey and just chill Build it and they will come
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
It's easy to pin too much hope on things coming off. Get to girls talking on the phone as quickly as possible as it tends to weed out the fakes pretty quickly...
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qinqinbabe
12 years ago
It is difficult to meet people on this site - especially if you've set your expectations high. Weed out the people who are not genuine, and perhaps you will find some of the gems that are also hiding within. We've been lucky enough to meet some fantastic people on here.
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RHP User
12 years ago
until after you have met. Act quickly, meet and decide if you click, if they aren't interested in meeting, ditch them. When things seems good, then open the pg before the play meet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I disagree with Ralf... I would personally never meet anyone without seeing their PG first, and that includes pictures of their face. OP are you new to online dating or swinging? I think at first we all make the same mistakes, but after awhile you will start to recognise which sort of people are time wasters or are just here to get access to peoples PGs. I suggest that you meet people for a drink somewhere public first.... That way you don't give your address out to people you haven't met before and you also don't go to any additional expense yourself. Just because you pay good money to meet people.... Doesn't mean you will.
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DynamicCouple36
12 years ago
There are plenty "couples" profiles on here , where just the male is playing and or hunting for access to private albums. As a result we now only open our private albums to verified couples. We have also now moved most of the public album photos into one of the private albums. Our advise is to only deal with verified couples. And or speak with the female half, on the phone, as early as possible once contact has been made . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
How fortunate for that 'lucky' lady........ You are a loving couple, so maybe invite someone to share the love...... When someone looks at a profile (male or female) they are trying to weed out all the weird from the wonderful........... If you looked at a guys profile and it said 'lucky' female, you'd run............. As I mentioned, just something I'd do.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I disagree with Ralf... I would personally never meet anyone without seeing their PG first, and that includes pictures of their face. OP are you new to online dating or swinging? I think at first we all make the same mistakes, but after awhile you will start to recognise which sort of people are time wasters or are just here to get access to peoples PGs. I suggest that you meet people for a drink somewhere public first.... That way you don't give your address out to people you haven't met before and you also don't go to any additional expense yourself. Just because you pay good money to meet people.... Doesn't mean you will. I was assuming everyone's pgs are just the dirty stuff like mine, my face pics are open already. I agree with you that I like to see a face pic before meeting, my bad!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Id say you need more girl on girl pics..One isnt enough you really need atleast 5-6 good girl on girl pics ...Thats what RHP recommend anyway..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with BigMamma, I think some couples seem to come on RHP and expect that women will be gagging to join them for a threesome. Nothing could be further from the truth. You will need to basically woo the single female as she is very difficult to find and win over. You will be the lucky ones.... not her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' How fortunate for that 'lucky' lady........ As a single woman I find that wording to be a complete turn off.
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RHP User
12 years ago
FWIHS
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' You feel "entitled" to people's attention because you've "paid good money" to meet people. If you were to flip the script on that; wouldn't you feel like a commodity?? - Posted from rhpmobile It seems too controlling, yuk!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is a little confusing...you say that you are looking for a woman,not couples... so maybe change that...Profiles are your immediate sales pitch....yes Sir Stir,sex is a commodity here...make your profile a stand out and good luck xQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
While I see your point; that sex plays a very dominant factor in ones decision to join RHP; I don't wish for it to be "expected" of me because someone has "paid good money" in order to make contact. They - like the other paid up members - have paid RHP to be exposed to other like minded people; whether they get laid as well is up to their attitude. Which isn't all that good from what I've read so far... :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Welcome to the club of rejection :) stuck it out guys you will come across the nice honest peeps here :)) Or you cld give a slightly older guy (yep that would be me lol) a go ;) I'm open to anything ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you everyone for your help we will use it wisely and change how we approach everything and one. Thanks again werewolf appreciate it but please don't put assume things we are an open book and are happy to share or answer anything at all. And we definitely don't feel "entitled " but anywho thanks again everyone you have all been a huge help - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I pay NO good money :pMy expectations have been exceeded :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi playful fun, Nothing wrong with you, we would have sex and play with you in a heartbeat, yes please BUT we are way too old for you and I'm pretty sure you would not like us as we would not live up to your fantasy at least in the looks department. So it's really hard to find a match that meets all four peoples fantasy, much better to treat it like tennis doubles, a fun activity for you and your partner, but your not playing at Wimbledon, more like nar nar goon social club. Go to a party, date hundreds of people in the hope that one day it will work out, or if you are really desperate play with us in a darkened room!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Stirry dear,is not what most here think... not the good peepd of the fora of course.. Well there are a few exceptions,but sex as a commodity here....yep.....maybe you need to read a few more profiles :-) xQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's too many reading mine ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
...Expectation not met.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think your gorgeous back off it'll cum baby
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie' There are plenty "couples" profiles on here , where just the male is playing and or hunting for access to private albums. As a result we now only open our private albums to verified couples. We have also now moved most of the public album photos into one of the private albums. Our advise is to only deal with verified couples. And or speak with the female half, on the phone, as early as possible once contact has been made . - Posted from rhpmobile Ok I might cop some flack over this.....Yes I am one of them, and am clearly up front about it and not looking to deceive anyone. Not sure what you expect of a married male (where a mate might play)..... I wouldnt want a single profile, as I am not that. It doesnt matter at the end of the day, as most couples and single women arent interested in a guy thats married......which is a shame as thats pretty safe territory on so many fronts......or if they are after a male at all they are after someone that is younger. Please dont flatter yourself that guys are after access to your PG. There is plenty of free porn on the internet. I might also add that there I have seen quite a few couples profiles with women that are playing, and the male is not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe you should expand your horizons and allow a single guy to join you to pleasure you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just read your profile change, now you sound young and fun, something people will want to join in with........ Question, do you only want this person in the bedroom or for social as well? If social as well, you could put that in..... Enjoy
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RHP User
12 years ago
RHP is a little like browsing a used car lot. Plenty of clunkers with the clock wound back and plenty of tire kickers taking a peek under the hood.There are a few late model low mileage prestige models as well, with a shit load of tire kickers and over eager test pilots queuing up for a spin around the block. Some people put more effort into selling their car than they put into selling themselves. Now where are the keys to my little red Ferrari?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Definitely social were here to make friends and friends with benefits I'll definitely update it again with that info soon. Thank you again for the help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'classywicked' I wouldnt want a single profile, as I am not that. It doesnt matter at the end of the day, as most couples and single women arent interested in a guy thats married..... By having a couples profile you are implying that your wife is part of the package. You're not single but you're a man playing on his own and I think your profile does not match that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'boingboingboing' RHP is a little like browsing a used car lot. Plenty of clunkers with the clock wound back and plenty of tire kickers taking a peek under the hood.There are a few late model low mileage prestige models as well, with a shit load of tire kickers and over eager test pilots queuing up for a spin around the block. Some people put more effort into selling their car than they put into selling themselves. Now where are the keys to my little red Ferrari? Here xxxxx
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