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Your partner is hot and you are not
May 21 2017
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Be thankful you must have an awesome personality.............
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Must be doing something right if she is choosing you so have confidence in yourself. I know lots of people rate themselves below what they really are and its a shame.Sexy is an attitude not just looks.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Obviously your partner must find you attractive even if you don't think you are 😉 Just goes to show people have different tastes and different types they're attracted to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
9 years ago
Punching above my weight at the moment. I kinda find it exhausting. When I'm with him all is fantatsic. When I'm not i remember how fat and average I am and question why he evens sees me. I come to the conclusion it must be good sex.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think my ex was particularly attractive but did I fancy her? Fuck yes I did!!! And I was gutted when it ended
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think that attractiveness grows once you fall for someone too . She obviously sees something you can't so try and have some self confidence :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Missb4u' When I'm not i remember how fat and average I am and question why he evens sees me. 'Scuse me missy, you are neither fat nor average. You're gorgeous and he's attracted to the beautiful person inside and out that you are. xx
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Freaky_Fun
9 years ago
Far from fat and average! And that was after only meeting you today!
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spreadourwings
9 years ago
You are as hot as hell, with a bod like that, it would get any guy or gal panting. That bum shot is to die for.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Missb4u' Punching above my weight at the moment. I kinda find it exhausting. When I'm with him all is fantatsic. When I'm not i remember how fat and average I am and question why he evens sees me. I come to the conclusion it must be good sex. to your comments,. I was married to someone hotter than me and like you MissB it was exhausting and at times a bit worrying I used to sit opposite him and wonder what the hell he was on, that each day that he wanted to spend it with me as his wife. Even now when I see him I think why do you want to hang out with me ? In the end though it came down to not sex, but character, resilience and strength and although he was blessed with many wonderful, enviable qualities, including a wicked sense of humour, those qualities weren't enough for us to make it and to be honest I think I over thought it all and I ran My advice to you OP, is enjoy your time together, treat her with all the love and respect she deserves, never take her or your relationship for granted and have fun. What will be, will be
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MissBishere
9 years ago
Thanks ladies. Most likely in all in my head just feelin a bit blah at the moment.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you're pretty hot 😘😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You looked delicious Thursday night.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
I've known you 3/4yrs now? You've worked hard to lose the weight you have. Achieving what you're goal is bit by bit....you work hard and when you let your hair down Party harder. You're reserved but you're warm, loyal, spare on insults and rich in truth. You don't suffer fools and you're pretty genuine. You don't pretend to be what you're not and if you have put your heart out there to this person don't you dare allow mixed messages or misperceptions to mess with your self-esteem. You're a beautiful person inside and out, don't talk yourself down chicken there's too many shitheads out there who'll do it for you. Now as for this bloke. How often do we say communicate? You need to have that talk and as necessary continue to talk about how you both feel, expectations, boundaries and what/how both of you see this arrangement progressing. It shouldn't be hard and if it is than maybe he's the wrong bloke. But someone has to step up to open the convo. OR WE GET A KNEECAPPER and life goes on with you still being beautiful 🦋 and him in traction 😏 If I may....you know I loved someone I couldn't have and I drove myself nuts over certain mixed messages. It just ended and that was it. It hurt. But I promised myself that if any bloke ever made me feel "less" than that special someone in his life than "he just wasn't that into me" and therefore not deserving of me. Granted that man already had his someone specials didn't save any hurt it just made me realise my true value. And I'm priceless. So are you. (I hope some of that made sense I suck at this sappy shit) ~ Indy xx
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On_Safari
9 years ago
You aren't punching above your weight!!!!
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Thanks Shells
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RHP User
9 years ago
always punch above my weight 😛
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RHP User
9 years ago
Putting aside the already well covered attraction must be there posts, you aren't stuck being what you are. Short of plastic surgery we have the mugs we've got, but you can change from the shoulders down. And equally work that muscle between the ears with learning more about something you love or a new skill. Read a few ladies profiles here and you'll find being someone willing to improve / work the mind is something sexy to a lot, regardless of the body the mind is attached to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
You're gorgeous, both inside and out, any man would be lucky to have you.💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Missb4u' Punching above my weight at the moment. I kinda find it exhausting. When I'm with him all is fantatsic. When I'm not i remember how fat and average I am and question why he evens sees me. I come to the conclusion it must be good sex. It's more likely to the fact you are gorgeous ;) It's actually quite exhausting if one's partner says he/she is not attractive. If one is seen more than once, it is likely one is viewed as attractive (or just a convenient fling.... :/ ). It is tiring to tell one's partner over and over that he/she is sexy, buuuut: it's always a good excuse to show them how beautiful they are ;) If you are insecure, talk about it, and show your partner how special she/he is. It's not all about looks, and perception is a relative thing, strongly influenced by one's thinking.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're already in the top class.
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Sawadee
9 years ago
You stole my thunder... that's what I was gunna say.. But it's true , Ive always punched above my weight and don't think that's gunna change any time soon. If I must say myself , the strike rate if fairly good and wouldn't have happened if I sat back on my hands.. So for me , I think punching above my weight is a good saying.. But then again , I'm a handsome bugga with a thick 9 inch dick.. ( I wish ) lol..
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I'm totally blown away by all your kind words. Thanks so much everyone. I don't want to highjack this thread anymore. So sorry OP. Just shows me yet again the amazing support and friendships I have and continue to make thanks to this site. Love you all 💋💋😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you do not love yourself, then who will? Everyone is sexy to someone. Just have to say here I am, either you like me or not. Positive attitude outweighs looks in my experience. Think about how many people start off a date being negative. A fighter is a fighter regradless of class. So remain in the fight. Where do you go by throwing the towel in before the bell even rings. A new situation, remain positive, people can see through things and ask... there is more to this person...they want to know more! They explore... There is a saying about 2 people that are happy together...after a while they start to look the same as eachother.. P.s. I think she says something in you or you see something in her......Your COCK! THAT was a cheap shot! But I fight dirrrrrrty!!! EXPECT the unexpected grasshopper😎
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RHP User
9 years ago
Omg 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
My comment keeps dropping to last 😠 I was in aisle 3, now I'm in aisle 4 😀 It's okay, I'm working my way to the ice-cream freezer 😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
Constantly surprised by the caliber of men that want to meet me off here and other sites, I must admit I have pretty low self esteem but having regular meets sure helps. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just a little correction. 'Love yous all' it should be. You're welcome 👯
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RHP User
9 years ago
'Love your guts/gutz?' I don't know I need some help here. Betty, where's Betty? I need you 😎 where have you been? Don't tell me you have a life, that's not a valid reason here in the halfway hotel. You fit your life in around the forum, we come first, we get priority 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
As the more I see intelligent talk from ladies the more they appeal, but I see this thread full of lovely ladies with doubts and wonder 'Are my glasses in need of replacement? I don't see how they can question their worth' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fit_Geek' As the more I see intelligent talk from ladies the more they appeal, but I see this thread full of lovely ladies with doubts and wonder 'Are my glasses in need of replacement? I don't see how they can question their worth' - Posted from rhpmobile because each day , society and the media reinforce to us (especially women) consciously or subliminally on what and how we should be in every aspect of our lives and at some level, most (not all of us) feel we are failing as a result.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"I used to sit opposite him and wonder what the hell he was on, that each day that he wanted to spend it with me as his wife. Even now when I see him I think why do you want to hang out with me ?" Intelligence will never stop being beautiful.You never stopped being beautiful.You were always the smartest, cleverest and talented out of us both.Hotness fades, but beauty of the soul does not. You were, and always will be, my heroin.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Jeez it's a tangled web we weave on here. Sorry but that just kind of weirded me out
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RHP User
9 years ago
and so are the lays of our lives 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
Talk in private about your marriage, you obviously hang out together, why air your private shit on the forum 👎 unless you want to validate each other? Not sure that's going so well
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fit_Geek' As the more I see intelligent talk from ladies the more they appeal, but I see this thread full of lovely ladies with doubts and wonder 'Are my glasses in need of replacement? I don't see how they can question their worth' - Posted from rhpmobile You are only seeing one facet of us on the forum and in our profiles. In real life we are complicated, flawed human beings. For various reasons some of us have had a lot of practice at focusing almost solely on our flaws, and ignoring that which is good about ourselves. Those ingrained thoughts and beliefs are very hard to challenge and overcome.
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usnow
9 years ago
We find here that as the men out weigh the ladies by heaps , most ladies get loads of messages , compliments and attention. Then sometimes they get a touch carried away with themselves and start believing their own publicity . Usnow .
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RHP User
9 years ago
At almost 40 I've finally come to accept the fact I'll never be a super model ;-)My looks may appeal to some, but not others...but eventually it will be my personality you either love or hate.Looks fade with time...a caring & genuine, or asshole personality lasts a lifetime.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have personally found guys whom others would describe as average extremely sexy, it's about the entire person. An intellectual match, great sense of humour, playfulness, sexy eye contact, someone who knows how to turn you on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Chickenlilly
9 years ago
I don't think it's looks. It's your confidence and the way you hold yourself...love yourself and other will love you to...corny but totally true 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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LickMyAss86
9 years ago
I also don't like the term 'Punching above your weight'. Smart and funny is very attractive! I bet you're an awesome guy ;) The strongest connection I've ever felt with someone was with my ex fiance. He was my other half. We had the same sense of humour, got annoyed with the same things, and we could always tell what the other was thinking. You're personality is your soul, it's what makes you, you. I wasn't instantly attracted to him but the more I got to know him the stronger my feelings for him developed. When I introduced him to my family they couldn't understand why I was with him 'You can do better! His not even attractive!' Hearing that from your family is a huge kick in the gut. My friends were very supportive but I got a lot of crap from a work colleague of mine who flat out said to me 'How can you date this guy his ugly! You've dated much hotter guys before'. People shouldn't be so quick to judge. Personality is far more important than looks, and that's what makes you attractive! As long as you're happy with each other, don't worry about what other people think xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel your pain! Mr 71
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RHP User
9 years ago
Take the towel off fit....sorry got distracted. I think that it's not looks that attract us to each other , I read somewhere it's smell, From my understanding looks are more a modern idea , has anyone read or heard similar? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Curvey is way to hot for me!! Thankfully she thinks she is punching above her class because she is older. Works for me 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Remember even good sort has a sheriff - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ah... the good ol' pheromones! Yes, I believe in that! It's the reason why I suddenly feel ultra horny when that rare man with the "right" pheromones walk past me or linger near me! I become like a cat with catnip! Utterly helpless and totally caught up! Very embarrassing! :P But it makes me feel super alive within nanoseconds!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Pheromones sometimes cause opposites to attract. It could be the driving force behind totally odd couplings where both are as different as night and day. Apparently, the differences in the genes between the couple will help to spawn offspring who are stronger because they would supposedly benefit from two very different immune systems and enjoy the strengths of both. Survival of the fittest kinda thang. It's hardwired into our genes. Nothing guarantees against the occurence of the offspring somehow ending up with the weaknesses of both sets of immune systems though. :P It's a gamble of the genetic lottery! ;P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't understand what you mean? Pony I am the same sometimes you are close to a guy and wow! It's funny there has been times that I have been attracted to similar people and other times opposites. I do think it's the smell.... that has the final say!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel that the female half is hotter than me, but she's completely into me. Other than cultural conditioning (which does impact everyone unconsciously), what we find beautiful is subjective to ourselves. Physically, I don't think I'm a bar above average (except I have nicer hair than most!), but my girl is maxxed out as hotness personified. Given that perspective, judging hotness by comparison is bound to be somewhat meaningless.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know what you mean, I have always seemed to get funny looks when walking in public with the girls I have dated. You can see the look like what on earth is she doing with him haha. Not really sure why, I don't have money I am just a simple country boy but whatever it is I am glad I have it haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fit_Geek' As the more I see intelligent talk from ladies the more they appeal, but I see this thread full of lovely ladies with doubts and wonder 'Are my glasses in need of replacement? I don't see how they can question their worth' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You must be doing something right! As long as you treat your lovers well - because that's what really matters.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I believe it's the pheromones:) Apparently we are hard wired to be attracted to people who are as far away from ourselves genetically as possible... Nature's way of preventing inbreeding:)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can fully relate.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im most definately punching above my weight. My wife is gorgeous and im average at best. Lol. Ive lost count of how many cpls and women we have chatted with here via messages. We open the gallery with nude body pics and everything is cool. We chat some more. Then we open our facepic gallery. Id say 70% of the time the conversation ends there. I dont think im ugly but maybe im just dont appeal to 70% of RHP members. I would bet my house that its not my wife that puts them off. Im not gunna say that im used to it. But now i just expect it. 😏 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Alot of comments people are making refer to personality. Im a fun loving guy, im funny, i can hold a conversation, im easy going. But what can you do when people judge a book by its cover?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm a bit of a late poster Miss B, but there are plenty of men out there that love a more full-figured woman. I had a girlfriend many years ago that was quite voluptuous but so very hung up about it. She was a beautiful woman in all senses of the word and I loved her body, but I could not convince her of this. Lovemaking consisted of re-assuring her half the time that she looked just fine (and she did). I believe they call this ''dysmorphia'' these days, and whilst it was not the cause of our end, it certainly contributed to it. If you haven't already, you should possibly have a discussion with your partner.
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aaenjoy
9 years ago
Full of the you know what. We think they are well above what they think they are
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wow this is such a good topic as my wife and I were only just talking about it. I absolutely love and adore her and yes I am "punching above my weight" and sometimes I think it's great for me to think that to want and lust for her more and more and she has been open as with me and states when we met she wasn't attracted to me but my personality and great nature got me through. I asked the question "did she just settle for me?" And the answer is NO attraction doesn't just mean looks thank god! Lol anyway I think society puts to much pressure on us and we should all love ourselves and each other and to be honest that's why we are all here right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Beauty is not just Physical. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You are gorgeous, people want to be with you again means they want to. It says all. If I'm in your location sure I will meet you. The connection and attitude matters but you have added advantage of sexy body. My love to all who underestimate themselves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You are very much true jandAfun. We love all - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have to admit that I look at my partner most days (there are the odd days where I wish I could trade him for another horse) and think 'How did I get so lucky?' or "I am punching above my weight', but I never forget how lucky he is to have me. Having these thoughts shouldnt lower your self confidence, it should raise it! Your 'partner' chose you! Embrace the fact that someone you find insanely attractive (mentally, physically or otherwise), also finds you incredibly sexy! Put your shoulders back, raise your head and know that someone out there would consider themselves fucking lucky to have you between their legs :P
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Sawadee
9 years ago
Thanks for putting that straight ... I always thought the saying was ' in eyes of the beerholder ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I understand this feeling. I'm only new to this and I don't find myself at all attractive. Admittedly I lost a heap of weight and still have move to go & will require extra help to pull everything in to place. But I'm nervous about my looks and being attractive enough to other people - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's awesome to read so many great comments that are spot on! Yes, attraction has a physical component, but so much more goes into being attractive than just looks (or money ) I've never quite understood my partners taste in men. It used to bother me that I felt some of the guys she liked weren't good enough for here and that this was somehow a refection of me. But in explaining it, she's taught me that she looks for (and I suppose women in general look for) lots of other little things to signal attraction. At the end of the day, your best following the advice of some of the people above, it's all about how you feel about yourself too: head up, shoulders back, be you!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Interesting forum and many heart felt responses. However, have you ever thought that the other person may feel the same? Im going out on a limb here. Being attractive is not all that easy. You also question yourself a lot. You wonder if that person is with you because you're attractive and they can show you off. You wonder are they using you to make themselves feel good. You wonder if they actually know you past the shallowness. You wonder if you'll be another notch. Its not always about you. Sometimes it is about me. I think we ALL have elements of self doubt. Regardless of attractiveness. ⚘ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Average. Being told you're attractive, beautiful, intelligent, sexy, funny, articulate and a great communicator so why aren't you in a relationship, any man would be lucky as hell...... because I dont trust a man to understand the inner broken and want to stay. We are complex creatures. This was not an addvertisement. Just simply a different view. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
9 years ago
And really just wanted to add that I think it is hard to be with someone that you find incredibly attractive as you assume that everyone will find them equally attractive. In reality this isn't the case. I personally struggle with limited feedback. I like to be told if he thinks I'm pretty, or likes my arse or spending time with me. When there is no positive feedback I doubt he is that interested in me as a person and is just enjoying the sex on his terms.
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MissBishere
9 years ago
Yes I'm needy 👍😁
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Quoting 'Missb4u' And really just wanted to add that I think it is hard to be with someone that you find incredibly attractive as you assume that everyone will find them equally attractive. In reality this isn't the case. This is true. I thought me ex was incredibly attractive and physically to me he was, but after we broke up all of my friends told me how much they didn't enjoy mixing with him because of his personality. This the core of what makes a person attractive. Looks fade but connection and compatibility is what holds a relationship together.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nope, you're just human. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know this feeling well. Mrs B is 10 years younger, very hot and very out going. She gets hit on regularly by much younger guys yet she still comes home to me. I know I'm a lucky guy and I make the most of every minute.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Missb4u' Punching above my weight at the moment. I kinda find it exhausting. When I'm with him all is fantatsic. When I'm not i remember how fat and average I am and question why he evens sees me. I come to the conclusion it must be good sex.
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