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Your RHP journeys/paths
June 29 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Here I was thinking it's a destination......singing..."welcome to the hotel California,such a lovely place "...xQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
As I've stated previously I have met some fantastic people on rhp. I'm in the middle foxy ☺the beginning is a perilous time of finding your feet, and getting to know the site. Once you have got over the stage fright and the knockbacks, you use the site for what it is a fantastic social network that really doesn't always revolve around sex, but hey if it comes your way ☺ it would be so anti social not too. Big smiles from the west ☺ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
towards the end. Had so many amazing experiences, as well as one or two really bad experiences lol. But have learnt so much! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
It has been a great learning experience & social medium. Sex wasn't & still isn't the drawcard. Have learnt so much on here about women. Wish I knew what I know now 20 years ago.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Only being on the site for about 7 or 8 months, t should be the beginning I guess but there are defiantly days where it comes close to being the end..... So maybe I'm in the middle that means, it's been an interesting journey, whether it lasts for another 2 years or 2 weeks....😊
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been here for 2 years and it has been an amazing journey so far- I am now in a place creatively, sexually,professionally and friendship wise that I could never have even dreamed of before I started. As for where I am on the journey.. I have no idea.. I don't know where the destination is.. Or if I'll step off at a roadhouse and reflect for a while.. Xxviolet
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have met some awesome ladies on here over the past year or so, but It does take up a lot of time and effort as a guy, spending a vast amount of time delicately crafting the perfect message time and time again, more often than not for no reward. When the effort does pay off, it seems worth it. But us guys gotta pay to be on here so it is something I need to weigh up... Knowing me, I'll probably cancel and then renew it a few weeks later!
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RHP User
12 years ago
My only friend, the end... Lol. It's been 18 months for me and I'm towards the end. In the beginning it's like being a kid in the candy shop. You go a bit crazy. In the middle you settle down a bit and put it in it's place. Now that I'm at the end I'm just reading the forums to keep myself amused while working towards being in a proper relationship. It's been fun! And very educational!
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RHP User
12 years ago
As most regulars on these forums probably know. It's mostly a function of my location, it limits me in everything - sexually and socially. It does get very frustrating.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Had some fun and been to some great parties, come and go occasionally but wind up back here.....I'd say the middle but not really playing as we have some more important life issues to sort. We will get back to some fun soon though!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' I have been here 9 months. I initially was looking for something specific which I found. However not everything is what is may first appear. I needed to have a break so I left. Well I tried to but I couldn't find the door. Like they say this place is like Hotel California. I came back again. It is the forums and people that draw me back. Being able to talk to people who don't judge me and are in similar situations. I am tenderly putting my toes back in the pond. So I don't know if that means I am starting again or are in the middle. It is a journey with an interesting learning curve. I don't know if it ever ends. I find that people who you think are long gone are still around. It seems that nobody ever really leaves. Yes such a lovely place............... Shells. I am having trouble with 'nothing surprises me and nothing excites me anymore'. I feel like I am in a bit of a sexual black hole. I seem to complain about everything I get, if I do get something good it goes and I feel the whole experience is just leaving me feeling hollow and worthless. I need some sort of connection but that is never on the table in here so when my membership lapses, I will probably leave.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am just here for the forums, which to me is just like a rude facebook, and to go to the occasional meet and greet or night out. I haven't met anyone for a date from here in years, casually bonking blokes isn't my thing and never has been. It bores me, so I don't do it. And I absolutely hate all the online emailing and going through all the messages. zzzzzzzzzzzz But of course I have met over 100 people from RHP by just attending social functions which are a fun night out with NO expectations. If I meet someone one day, then that is just a bonus. Most people get to a point where the casual bonking becomes totally unsatisfying and boring and they crave more intimacy. Nothing wrong with that. Some just take longer to get to that point.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Somewhere in the middle of that. Have enjoyed myself so far and made some really good friends out of it too which is a bonus. Lots more I want to experience and do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am just here for the forums, which to me is just like a rude facebook, and to go to the occasional meet and greet or night out. I haven't met anyone for a date from here in years, casually bonking blokes isn't my thing and never has been. It bores me, so I don't do it. And I absolutely hate all the online emailing and going through all the messages. zzzzzzzzzzzz But of course I have met over 100 people from RHP by just attending social functions which are a fun night out with NO expectations. If I meet someone one day, then that is just a bonus. Most people get to a point where the casual bonking becomes totally unsatisfying and boring and they crave more intimacy. Nothing wrong with that. Some just take longer to get to that point. I know you are right.
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RHP User
12 years ago
its been a blast and I have learnt some interesting things chatted with some lovely women and great guys all willing to offer advice and share experiences.one thing I have learnt being on date site whether normal ones or the adult ones every one of them are the same just the people on normal date sites wont admit to what they want out of the site.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I feel the same.. LMAO @ Rude Facebook.(I love it)... I'm a little over the mindless messaging back/forth the unsatisfying boring bonk and if I do meet someone I want it to be a natural meet. To me meet and greets are the only way as well. That's were I've met some pretty amazing people! :) Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I agree. :) Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
But I think I've travelled a full circle and back at the beginning again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
One day I will declare that's it ! I want someone special for me, I'm over all the casual sex..... And then the next day I'll just want to play and get laid ;p But like Meeka said if I meet someone special then bonus! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A break from searching for now though. I have a lover now, that's enough for me.
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MissBishere
12 years ago
I've been here for just on a year now...wow hasn't time flown. Still consider myself to be at the beginning of this wonderful journey.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' I hope you don't leave. I really enjoy reading your posts. Like I said it is the forums and meeting like minded people that really keeps me here.I have been lucky in that I have met people online that I have made a real connection with and who I consider to be my friends. Unfortunately you have to take the good with the bad. Shells. I might hang out with all you cool people in the forums and ditch the sex search :) Def going to have to get on with meeting some of the awesome peeps in here. I have had the brief pleasure of meeting a couple in here, wasn't long enough though :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been on here for just about 2 years. I am over the casual sex and prefer one partner and go as a couple to meet the right couple to help us with whatever fantasy that needs satisfying at the time. The list is ever changing and have met some wonderful people along the way and hope to meet more in the future. So much to do in so little time :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think I'm in the middle. Some days I think the end, and then I don't respond to messages for a while and just stick to reading the forums. I've also given up looking but I'm still open to the idea of meeting a longer term lover. I'm not always quite sure what I do want but being on RHP has shown me what I don't want. What does piss me off is when people say it's just a sex site. I totally disagree. I've made some amazing friends since I've joined. They just happen to be a bit kinkier than my non RHP friends. And I've gained one hell of an education
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RHP User
12 years ago
I honestly love reading the forums I have learnt a lot but it has at times made me feel like a cheap slut ... Eg a regular forum person saying (words not quoted correctly) a free wanking sleeve I joined for the reason I wanted great sex without all the bullshit/fake/relationship stuff .. I know I'm not being played to get laid its straight to the point ... Many people on here I have seen on regular dating sites . Yes I'm on both but I would rather not be mind fucked - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Now this is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning." Time does continue, who knows what happens next.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been here almost 2 years and have found a wonderful man I love and cherish with all my heart. Even though I've come a long way from when I first joined, I feel like my sexual journey's only just begun. I've learnt so much being here, especially reading the forums... but the more I learn, the more I know there is still to learn. I've become a lot more confident, more open-minded, more adventurous (and a whole lot naughtier lol) than I ever have been in my life, or would've been without RHP. I'm lovin' this journey! I have my gorgeous lover to thank, for holding my hand and allowing me to ride beside him through all the adventures. It hasn't always been smooth sailing but we've managed to sail through some of the roughest seas. I say, "Bring it on!" Here's to many more memorable moments together
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hope I'm nearer the end than the beginning... As a single guy anyway. If my next partner wants to be in here with me then that will be a new chapter... but nothing would make hp happier than being able to find the woman to allow me to ditch the "rhp single male" label... Maybe the next leg of my physical journey will bear fruit... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' I hope you don't leave. I really enjoy reading your posts. Like I said it is the forums and meeting like minded people that really keeps me here.I have been lucky in that I have met people online that I have made a real connection with and who I consider to be my friends. Unfortunately you have to take the good with the bad. Shells. I might hang out with all you cool people in the forums and ditch the sex search :) Def going to have to get on with meeting some of the awesome peeps in here. I have had the brief pleasure of meeting a couple in here, wasn't long enough though :( Stay... I'll miss you.. You can call me anytime for a chat or catch up drink sweetgal... warm thoughts to youxx.XXX
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Haven't been here long, 6months but have learnt so much about myself from letting go so some expectations and inhibitions re sex and have been the better for it. I have been slow to come out of my shell, very shy at the start of the year to meet. Thanks to the Forum mainly, a great eye opener to an alternate sexual universe that I would not have thought is open for my discovery if not for RHP. ...The advice and insights from the Forum posters have been very helpful and gems to behold for a novice like me. I am glad that I am not alone in feeling that the traditional relationship is not the exclusive domain for those who seek intimacy and that meeting men NSAdoes not have to be a cheap soul-destructive exercise...And sex can be enjoyed for what it is, between two consenting adults... a Sexual awakening indeed. Enjoying the journey and believe there is a lot more for me to discover, all in good time. No rush. I don't know how my experience here will transform me as a person. I will continue my wonderful journey and welcome the changes as long as it enhances my life and nobody is hurt.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But probably closer to the end. I've been lucky enough to have met some amazing lovers, and would continue seeing them even if I closed my account. I like the forums though (yes, really) and of course I'm still looking for that TP as well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To me, it's not linear. RHP extends out from where I am, in one direction, of many posdible directions. It's not my "everything".... It's merely a form of entertainment, a venue of some faces and names..... some I've met, many I've not.... and a whole bunch of people who belong on an island reserved for unstable frantic masturbaters who you wouldn't trust to stand behind you or your dog. Hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
There's an awesome community out there, I do like the forums but they're not the only thing we're here for. We are in the middle of our RHP experience, using the forums for longer than we've used the dating aspect of the site, I think they're part of what makes RHP a better site to use than others. We're not totally disillusioned but we've come across enough fakes, flakes and timewasters to know how to spot them or ascertain that someone fits into that category before we've wasted any time, energy or interest. We were not content until we started to understand the fakes and flakes are part of the tapestry here, just knowing that makes it less frustrating.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Some sexual and some non sexual. RHP I think is finding out about ones sexual kinks/likes and dislikes.. I've learnt and know what my likes/dislikes are and what I want..here is just a small part of my own journey. I know it will end one day. When I'm not sure - I will know, when it's right. I've certainly enjoyed my time so far. Thank you to those who posted... It's a great read so far. 👍👍👍 Foxy
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Chaucer
12 years ago
I've been to 3 meet & greets and been reading & lurking on the forums for over 3 years. But I still haven't felt comfortable enough to go on a RHP date. So does that put me back to the start? I don't know. I don't feel new? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have walked the path before, seen the sights and enjoyed the tourist spots. This time round you can find me sitting on the park bench somewhere along the path under a tree enjoying the sunshine and gentle breeze. If someone comes and takes my hand to stroll further then so be it, otherwise I'll just be sitting and chilling and enjoying this awesome view. Life is too short not to stop and smell the roses :) SG
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have learned a lot about myself from the forums and enjoy the interactions and the friends I have met on here. Yeah it's kind of like a rude version of FB but it's also more in that I don't have that same outlet and group of friends in RL who are all vanilla where I can just be totally open with about my devious ways. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I lurked and then due to unforeseen circumstances, I found my self laid up and with a lot of time on my hands so I joinedAvid reader of the forums, a sometime participant - its a interesting potMade some friends, met some men, but the trick is not to expect anything Somewhat ambivalent, its not the be all or end all - it just isI do believe everything begins and ends at the exact right time and place
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RHP User
12 years ago
What a really good thread, it's been educating and funny, scary and upsetting, loving and friendship making. It's been a door opening on life. What have I learnt so far? The meet and greets with other girls are awesome, still can't get over the sexy pics you took of me Foxy, and L4Q... My what a night.. That people can hurt you but they can thrill you and make you laugh and that, most of all, there may be someone out there who likes what I have, which isn't a lot! I have met some brilliant, absolutely brilliant people on here. For that alone it was worth the effort of joining RHP...
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RHP User
12 years ago
We are not sure what to think of it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
This place WAS the zoo shells... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
And HP,quite a few Zoolanders here:-) :-) xQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
That sums it up pretty well to me. I've been here for 7 months and it was a novelty to me at first( still is to an extent ), but it's hard work. I have an easier time conversing and getting a response from the opposite sex in the real world : ) But I have no hard feelings. It is what it is.
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abcplus1
12 years ago
But probably somewhere closer to the end than the beginning. For whatever reason we have never had any success on this particular website. A couple of dates in the several years we have been members, but that is it. Every successful experience for us has come from another site or from pure blind luck of connecting with someone we already knew, but didn't know they were that way inclined :-) We may have always been looking in the wrong place being on RHP for what we want though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been on this journey, I guess since 2008 on and off. I meet really great people on this site, and still friends with them. Then find the special some one on a vanilla site or in "normal" life. I agree that with the RHP journey people are more honest about what they want. The funny thing is i am still in contact with more people from here than any other place.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Been here for just on 7 weeks..can't lie and say there isn't just touch of trepidation and yet excitement that the next step could be actually doing the real life meeting someone one day - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is not the end, infact it's not even the beginning of the end. But I could say that it's the end of the beginning.
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Two_Tarts
12 years ago
Thank goodness we are not at the beginning any more. After three years here we must be somewhere in the middle, but since we have no idea how long the journey will be it is hard to say how far into the middle. We love the journey and so we hope it continues to be a long and winding one with lots of lovely scenery and fun stops along the way. The begining has such a steep learning curve that many don't seem to make it to the top of that hill, but that is how natural selection works isn't it. Enjoy the journey because then the idea of a destination ceases to matter. Xxxx
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Those pics....on your profile yet?? Huh...LOL Welcome to those who have just started a journey. :) It sure is an interesting yellow brick road. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is my second time around so its more than a beginning but I am probably refreshed enough that the end is not in sight at the moment. It also helps that I have changed my first expectations from a rootathon to something more social with the for a and the recent meet & greet this time around. This is not the beginning of the end but maybe it is the end of the beginning.
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multifun
12 years ago
We have been married for close on 34 years and first got involved a year after that. We have a "normal life" with kids, family, friends and work.We have had periods of years of both full on swinging but then had years of not doing a thing, but all along the way we have been "content with the stage we are at". There was a beginning but hoping there is no end:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Multifun,but you were fifteen when you got married and swinging at sixteen....wow:-) xQ
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Quoting 'ezydude' I have been on this journey, I guess since 2008 on and off. I meet really great people on this site, and still friends with them. Then find the special some one on a vanilla site or in "normal" life. I agree that with the RHP journey people are more honest about what they want. The funny thing is i am still in contact with more people from here than any other place. So why do you discount the women/people here are NOT worth being your special someone? Is there anything wrong with the women here, not deserving of being your special someone. Have we got boils on our faces or scarlet letter tattooed on our forehead? In my opinion, quite a patronising comment. I find the honesty, candor and directness of the people in rhp refreshing as opposed from any of the vanilla sites or in real life. It is very liberating for me to be on this site, albeit been here such a short time. Each day I get to be on here, I get to know more about myself thru the forum (great educator) and the people I meet. For that I am grateful. My life is slowly evolving into what, I can not say but each day a facet is cut from the slightly rough diamond I have started in this journey. There are a few mini milestones I have marked and reached that made me want to go further in this journey. I have not discounted the possibility of meeting someone special but as my profile says, time constraints limit my ability to sustain a long term relationship at this point in time. There are lots of great people here and they lead real lives too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah Ezydude, what's all that about?
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