M56
Younger generation
January 14 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Being one who has a child on this site, I dont care either way. I know my daughter is a little older than 18 to 25 BUT if this site was that bad, then why are you on here yourself? Maybe the child is too busy studying or building a career to be out and about, maybe they have been dumped by their partner, left holding the baby (so to speak) and cannot get out as easily as others. Either way, not many 18 to 25 year olds I know are going to listen to thier parents anyway and they certainly would not appreciate thier father interfering in thier life.
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RHP User
15 years ago
On line is interacting with others. I tend to meet a large percentage of the people I regularly chat to. This is the way of the world now and you cannot turn the clock back.
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RHP User
15 years ago
...who may be in rural, remote or just smaller communities that want to seek people elsewhere???...are single parents???...have a kink/fetish/desire/need that they dont feel comfortable finding someone in the pub/club/'real' world to explore with???...dont feel they have the confidence to date in the 'real' world and feel stronger within themselves behind a keyboard???...there are many and varied reasons for being on a site such as this and I know if any of my younger siblings wanted to join a site such as this then I wouldnt have any problems with it at all....would probably help them write their profile infact - oh and be their safety call also . Kisses Focus (not quite the older generation...and not in the younger set either..standing out here in no-mans land..lol)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why do you think young people shouldn't be here while older people can? Why should age make a difference? If you think that getting out and about, having fun and interacting with people one's own age is the way to go then why doesn't that apply to older people too? I find it particularly telling that your profile says you're looking for 18-60 year olds, while at the same time suggesting that you're uncomfortable with your own children hooking up with older people online. xx Stuck
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RHP User
15 years ago
No doubt my "kids" and their friends are within that age group and have been on this web site. They've never admitted to knowing me and vice versa. In fact I started anonymously answering questions on line when I discovered that as teenagers they had asked "embarrassing" questions anonymously on-line. (You really can't keep anything from your parents you know). Really, it' easy to turn a blind eye to the names and give the opportunity to ask and answer anonymously. That is an acceptable way to deal with a potentially embarrassing situation.. not that I would be embarrassed.. but teenagers are so awkward when for them life seems so mystified. Frankly, we're all adults here with our own adult interests. Why not accept that proposition and back away from the parenting and let these adults, that you may have helped shape as children, be the independent mystery solving adults that we know they are.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
and for some strange reason was taken aback by the amount of 18 + in attendence. \ I did mention this to my then, 23 year old niece.....and laughed out loud at her reply which was along the lines of.....What did you expect? We are at the age of exploring sex! (she did meet her partner out and about, not online) \ Her answer hit me like a whack to the head.....and I loved it. For a moment or two I was in danger of becoming an 'oldie' hahahahahaha \ I have embraced my sensual - sexual side since my late teens, I think its great that so many of todays youngies are open in their views and attitudes.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Being one who has a child on this site, I dont care either way. I know my daughter is a little older than 18 to 25 BUT if this site was that bad, then why are you on here yourself? Maybe the child is too busy studying or building a career to be out and about, maybe they have been dumped by their partner, left holding the baby (so to speak) and cannot get out as easily as others. Either way, not many 18 to 25 year olds I know are going to listen to thier parents anyway and they certainly would not appreciate thier father interfering in thier life. MS Fionabee, Perhaps my topic was misconstrued. I certainly didnt say being on here was bad, nor was i trying to in anyway denigrate anyone on here. I Agree that there will be circumstances for some that make an internet dating site an only option. You are correct, the internet now is the way to meet people, whether it be on dating sites or social networking sites. Unfortunately, in my view, that has been detrimental to this current generations social skills, as they are so used to interacting via text, or chat or twiter....etc. Many young men for example would not hesitate to send a lady a message via a website, but would faint at the prospect of physically walking up and introducing themselves in a social gathering. I am not sure that is a good thing. I also never suggested that i would interfere in their lives, as the last sentence of your comment suggests.I simply said i would RATHER them out socializing in the more traditional manner. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stuckinthemiddle'Why do you think young people shouldn't be here while older people can? Why should age make a difference? If you think that getting out and about, having fun and interacting with people one's own age is the way to go then why doesn't that apply to older people too? I find it particularly telling that your profile says you're looking for 18-60 year olds, while at the same time suggesting that you're uncomfortable with your own children hooking up with older people online. xx Stuck Mr Stuckinthemiddle, I fail to see why your comment, seemed to be an attack on me. Did you read what i wrote? I never suggested that i was uncomfortable with my children hooking up with older people. If you read my response to ms Fionabee, you may understand what i was trying to say a bit better. As for what my age specifications are on my profile, What has that got to do with anything?? Maybe try and read posts a bit slower, and comment on what was actually written, rather than your interpretation of it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maxking, I did read what you wrote. The point I was attempting to address was that you specifically mentioned you would rather your children interact with people their own age, while your age criteria showed that you were quite happy for yourself to interact with people not your age. Perhaps I focussed too much on this little point, though, to miss your main point, which seems to be that people can't talk to each other any more. And I would agree with your response to Fionabee: it probably is not such a good thing if a generation of people find it easier to txt speak rather than physically talk to someone face to face. Personally, I much prefer talking in person and really don't like emailing or txting. It's so much more difficult to communicate emotions in txt: humour, (un)attraction, body language. Unfortunately, the reality is that it's not always so easy to physically meet people anymore. On the other hand, online socialising has its plus side too. I've socialised with people from all over the world (and yes, even met some in person) whom I would never have had the opportunity to meet had I been born in a different generation. My other questions tried to point out that you seem to be drawing some arbitrary distinction between "older" generations and "younger" generations, and that you would prefer the youngins to meet in the more traditional manner. That's fine, it's a valid viewpoint to take. What I'm interested to know is *why* you think that. My gut says it's probably because you have children of your own, and naturally you want what you think is best for them. Stuck
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just because people can meet online doesn't mean they aren't out meeting people in the real world......I think its safe for you to remove your head from somewhere dark and join the rest of us here in the year 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stuckinthemiddle'Maxking, I did read what you wrote. The point I was attempting to address was that you specifically mentioned you would rather your children interact with people their own age, while your age criteria showed that you were quite happy for yourself to interact with people not your age. Perhaps I focussed too much on this little point, though, to miss your main point, which seems to be that people can't talk to each other any more. And I would agree with your response to Fionabee: it probably is not such a good thing if a generation of people findcHRTdGF0ZUFVX2N0bDA4X3BubEZvcnVthan physically talk to someone face to face. Personally, I much prefer talking in person and really don't like emailing or txting. It's so much more difficult to communicate emotions in txt: humour, (un)attraction, body language. Unfortunately, the reality is that it's not always so easy to physically meet people anymore. On the other hand, online socialising has its plus side too. I've socialised with people from all over the world (and yes, even met some in person) whom I would never have had the opportunity to meet had I been born in a different generation. My other questions tried to point out that you seem to be drawing some arbitrary distinction between "older" generations and "younger" generations, and that you would prefer the youngins to meet in the more traditional manner. That's fine, it's a valid viewpoint to take. What I'm interested to know is *why* you think that. My gut says it's probably because you have children of your own, and naturally you want what you think is best for them. Stuck Stuck, Your spot on with what i was trying to say. I agree that the words"people there own age" could have been written better, its certainly nothing to do with that. I too have met lots of people, that without networking sites, i would have never met, so totally agreed on that point. My point about the older generation was trying to highlite, how people around my age group interacted. As a teenager, i certainly didnt have a computer or mobile phone, so if you wanted a girl, the only way was to go out and meet, face to face. In some ways, profiles on dating sites can be terrible missleading.Someone, who may be a great person, who perhaps has a bad profile or pics, might be ignored by prospective partners, where as in real life, that person could be perfect for them. So essentially people get judged on a few written words and a couple of pictures. Your gut feel is spot on. I have 4 young children, and noticed how my eldest son seems to interact with his friends, text, facebook, twitter.MSN. LOL..they dont even talk to each other these days!!. I decided to limit his "electronic" communication to a few hours a day.After that, he either goes to his friends houses, or rings and speaks to them. I just believe that long term, it will be far better for him.Being able to network socially is a very important part of business and life generally. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting '2hunky2spunky'Just because people can meet online doesn't mean they aren't out meeting people in the real world......I think its safe for you to remove your head from somewhere dark and join the rest of us here in the year 2011 HunkySpunky Its hard to understand why some choose to make a personal attack on someones post. Not sure why you would say what you did. Yur intitail comment was a good one, Did you have to throw in the last sentence?
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RHP User
15 years ago
and i am on here to meet people for fun. i do go out and socialise every now and again but i do have a fetish for older ladies and its not like i can just walk up to any 40 year old woman in the street and start flirting with her. anyways this site is for perverts (well thats what they call us) and it doesbt matter how old you are as long as youre above 18. yungblek
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RHP User
15 years ago
The younger generation do meet in the traditional sense. Walk into the nearest high school, university, T.A.F.E or shopping mall and you can find them in droves, all laughing, giggling and draped over each other. Try going to night clubs and the likes. Certainly not many in my age group there. I dont think social skills are being lost at all....they are just encompassing new technology and evolving.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think the answer is that there was no internet 20 years ago... We had to go out and about to meet people and do our sexual exploration
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RHP User
15 years ago
There will be plenty of time to ponder that question later on. In the mean time, lead by example and all the best.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee'The younger generation do meet in the traditional sense. Walk into the nearest high school, university, T.A.F.E or shopping mall and you can find them in droves, all laughing, giggling and draped over each other. Try going to night clubs and the likes. Certainly not many in my age group there. I dont think social skills are being lost at all....they are just encompassing new technology and evolving. Ms Fiona, A simple search on Google will highlight the many concerns that professionals have of the negative impact modern communications is having on the younger generations social skills. Essentially the main issue is their ability to say anything to anyone, electronically, yet have great difficulty on a face to face basis. Young Black's post above is an example of that. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'youngblack'and i am on here to meet people for fun. i do go out and socialise every now and again but i do have a fetish for older ladies and its not like i can just walk up to any 40 year old woman in the street and start flirting with her. anyways this site is for perverts (well thats what they call us) and it doesbt matter how old you are as long as youre above 18. yungblek Hi Youngblack, You actually highlighted my point when you said i do go out and socialise every now and again but i do have a fetish for older ladies and its not like i can just walk up to any 40 year old woman in the street and start flirting with her. In a way thats what i meant to say...dont get me wrong, not trying to knock you or anything, but in a way thats a lack of a basic social skill, the ability to meet and introduce yourself to people face to face. A question?..Why cant you walk up to a 40 y/o Women and introduce yourself and go from there? Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
maxking 2010 in the right social setting like at couples international, diversionz or any other swingers club/party where theres people like me i will flirt with any type of woman that i find hot regardless of her age. what i wont do is just try and chat up a random stranger without knowing of they embrace this swinging lifestyle. sites like this are meant to make it easy for people like me and you to meet people that are into swinging so we should take full advantage of it. youre so worried about the younger generation using this site what about you mate? shouldnt you be out and about meeting prospective partners instead of using a dating site?
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RHP User
15 years ago
...remind me to walk up to some strange man and ask him if he wouldnt mind coming home with me and flogging me til I cum..... . seriously though I understand where youngblack is coming from...he does that (flirt/hit on and older woman) in a 'normal' social setting and is likely to get his face slapped or laughed at...and the fact that the majority of women in the age group he is interested in are usually out with friends and/or partners means he has to approach a group of people too - tell me Maxking2010 - if you had a fetish/want/need/desire that is not part of the social norm could YOU approach someone in a bar/club etc especially at a young age?? Maybe now you could but then at 20??? Sure things have changed since you were that age and many things are more socially accepted but so has our way of communicating.... . As for the professionals who are concerned about the 'decline' in the social skills of the 'younger generation' due to increase in popular of social networking sites - their ages would be???? . Kisses Focus
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Tart_Du_Jour
15 years ago
Fact of the matter is as one generation gets older, they will often bemoan the behaviours of those younger than them. Everyone thinks that were better behaved at whatever age group bothers them at that point but it seems that lots of people have selective memories. "In my day we had to walk to school in the snow uphill. Both ways!"
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RHP User
15 years ago
whats wrong with variety As a young girl I met people face to face and learned to mix socially. As i aged and new technology come along I used that as well, BUT im very glad I have the social skills needed for when one gets off the internet. I Have studied with younger people and some have appalled me at their total lack of social skills, is technology to blame?are the parents at fault for allowing children to hide in their bedroom/study with a phone and a computer? I dont know. Im glad I dont have children,but i would like them to be well rounded and versed in mixing without making mono syllabic grunts when spoken to. Maybe its like learning to drive, teach them the manual method, the automatic method and even the motor bike way and then let them choose,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, knowing they have the facts at hand? interesting to see the different mind sets in here cheers maxking GL
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twowithnolimits
15 years ago
I think the problem lies with your basic premise. Im not sure this site IS a "dating" site nor a place to be "meeting prospective partners", not to say that cant happen but this is primarily a site for adults who llike to get laid. Not wishing to burst anyones rosey perception of their kids or their kids friends, but a hell of a lot of them arent waiting till 25 to find sex! Myself and my partner were using the contact mags, BBSs and newspapers of the day(no RHP back then) to find randy playmates of all ages when we were 18, it had no impact on us, our friends, our <25 party and social scene, it was simply something else we did. I dont think its really my place to pass judgment on my kids adult behaviour, do you? They all mature differently, they all have different tastes and they are all MY kids, thats all i need to know. Think Baise is on the money with "selective memory" too..why DO "adults" think they never did what "kids" do now? Or are they just jealous? LOL Paul
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Baise_Moi' Fact of the matter is as one generation gets older, they will often bemoan the behaviours of those younger than them. Everyone thinks that were better behaved at whatever age group bothers them at that point but it seems that lots of people have selective memories. "In my day we had to walk to school in the snow uphill. Both ways!" The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannise their teachers. Socrates Source: Attributed to SOCRATES by Plato, according to William L. Patty and Louise S. Johnson, Personality and Adjustment, p. 277
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'youngblack'maxking 2010 in the right social setting like at couples international, diversionz or any other swingers club/party where theres people like me i will flirt with any type of woman that i find hot regardless of her age. what i wont do is just try and chat up a random stranger without knowing of they embrace this swinging lifestyle. sites like this are meant to make it easy for people like me and you to meet people that are into swinging so we should take full advantage of it. youre so worried about the younger generation using this site what about you mate? shouldnt you be out and about meeting prospective partners instead of using a dating site? I am assuming that you dont have any kids.(apologies if i am wrong)I have kids, so getting out is far more difficult for me, than you. So using a site like RHP is ideal for me. Secondly, when i do go out to regualr social settings, if i see a lady that i find attractive , i have no problem whatsoever in walking up and introducing myself etc. I have recently gone out on a couple of dates with a lady i met at the local supermarket.I noticed her a couple of times.Thing is i started talking to her, without giving a thought. This is because as a younger man of your age, i had no option but to go out and socialize if i wanted to meet girls. if i didnt approach girls,i would have gone home to Mrs Palmer. Reading what you have said, i got the impression that you wouldnt feel comfortable in approaching a lady in those circumstances.So essentially you will only approach a lady, in a setting where you know she is receptive to having sex, if she finds you attractive. Gourmet Lady's comment, is typical of what i am trying to get at. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'focusliason' ...remind me to walk up to some strange man and ask him if he wouldnt mind coming home with me and flogging me til I cum..... . seriously though I understand where youngblack is coming from...he does that (flirt/hit on and older woman) in a 'normal' social setting and is likely to get his face slapped or laughed at...and the fact that the majority of women in the age group he is interested in are usually out with friends and/or partners means he has to approach a group of people too - tell me Maxking2010 - if you had a fetish/want/need/desire that is not part of the social norm could YOU approach someone in a bar/club etc especially at a young age?? Maybe now you could but then at 20??? Sure things have changed since you were that age and many things are more socially accepted but so has our way of communicating.... . As for the professionals who are concerned about the 'decline' in the social skills of the 'younger generation' due to increase in popular of social networking sites - their ages would be???? . Kisses Focus Ms Focus, It's a bit extreme to be talking about sexual desires that are not part of the social norm here.Obviuosly, if my fetish was not the "norm" i wouldnt approach a stranger with a request to come back home with me and indulge in it. Not sure what you mean by "flogging", but lets presume that you were into "normal" sex, and you saw a good looking guy at a bar or club, could you not approach him? Couldnt you flirt with Him? I disagree about the your comment about Youngblack and what would happen in a normal sociial setting.Why would he be laughed at or slapped? Clearly if he walks up to a lady and says "Come back to my place, and lets have group sex", yes he might, but a normal friendly approach is very rarely treated with a laugh and or slap to the face. I have approached lots of women, and not once has that happened.If its a sleezy disrespecful approach, yes it could happen. In relation to your question about the ages of the professionals, not sure i didnt notice it, but there have been a number of studies and books written about the subject. I am pretty sure there has been a couple of posts recently on here, by female members, bemoaning the fact that they dont seem to get approached by guys anymore. A classic example is this. In late 2009,i went with a group of guys on a month long holiday to the USA.Ourages ranged from 20 to 40.Us "older" guys were far more succesful in our female pursuits than the younger ones.Why?..the young blokes just couldnt randomly approach girls, whilst the older guys had no problem.It was obvious that they had no clue, when it came to using their "social skills", Simply because they had rarely used them. As i said, i dont think thats a good thing. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
that my generation's lack of of social skills is being caused by dating sites like rhp? and that the older generations have better social skills because they had no internet? i know quite a number of older men than me who have little to no social skills when compared to me. social skills arent wholly determined by how much you interact with others, theres a lot more to it than that. i think its a good thing that you worry about your kids. you should also keep them away from sites like facebook and myspace because i have heard that those sites are just as dangerous
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'youngblack'that my generation's lack of of social skills is being caused by dating sites like rhp? and that the older generations have better social skills because they had no internet? i know quite a number of older men than me who have little to no social skills when compared to me. social skills arent wholly determined by how much you interact with others, theres a lot more to it than that. i think its a good thing that you worry about your kids. you should also keep them away from sites like facebook and myspace because i have heard that those sites are just as dangerous Totally agree with you on alot of that.Facebook, myspace ets can be dangerous. My oldest son is on Facebook, and i keep a very close eye on his friends lists, and from time to time ask him to log on to the site and show me his account. He is still young, and obviuosly as he grows older, i wouldnt do that. I maybe should have elaborated more in the original post, but no its not just sites like rhp and others. Its the total social networking thing. Way too much done electronically.Yes it is the way its done now, and obviuosly the future. No doubt there are lots of oolder people with little or no social skills, but i think that number is going to get a lot bigger as the years go by. Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'youngblack' i know quite a number of older men than me who have little to no social skills I'm just not sure if the "older men" had ever learned them....or they lost them. Women (I speak of Gen X here) are in the same boat. I know divorce/break ups can rock a person's confidence. It takes effort to re-learn the art of conversation or flirting, probably because traditional marriage frowned upon the roaming eye (or the spouse did.) so skills were lost to the ether. And a site like this is a good place to start re-learning because it provides 'obligation free quotes' ;P . As for the younger generation using sites like this for social networking? I say go for it....because in my opinion the curiousity factor has a use-by date and those skills/lessons learned here will be applied to the next segment of "life"...like travel for example. . Good topic :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
...that gen-Y suffers from a genetic predisposition to social retardation and that this is the reason why they might appear to be frequenting sites such as FB...RHP...AMM etc. Society - technological development - is geared toward making life easier. Look at the Car, the plane, the microwave - what purpose? To make local travel, interstate and international travel, and cooking faster, easier and more accessible to the average man (excusing gender). They are simply a product of their environment. My mother - god bless her irritating self - still refuses to learn how to change the time on her VCR and microwave...but she recently told me, quite humbly, that I should love her for who she is. True. Just so happens she's the mother of my 16yr old sister who I personally stalk her FB page monitoring her comments and advising (wanted or not) about appropriateness...scowling at long haired EMOs who are giving her shit thinking how much a plane ticket to WA will cost and when can I get on it haha!! Point being i guess...it is a reality, & we should accept the things we cannot change. I don't have any kids of my own, but I can empathise with those that do... still, the age-old addage of 'you can lead a horse to water....' They're gonna do whatever they want whether you say so or not, moreso if you buck! The shit I did as a teenager would have made my parents blush and jump up and down and complain that 'in their day they didn't do that sort of thing' - what makes todays teens any different? Hav fun u horny kids! But i'll be watching....lil sis... ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Maxking2010' A simple search on Google will highlight the many concerns that professionals have of the negative impact modern communications is having on the younger generations social skills.Many of the worlds greatest minds believed the world was flat too. We all moved on though
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Total_Recall' Quoting 'Maxking2010' A simple search on Google will highlight the many concerns that professionals have of the negative impact modern communications is having on the younger generations social skills.Many of the worlds greatest minds believed the world was flat too. We all moved on though Total... Great comment..lol.. But there was also many great minds who suggested it was round, and many thought they were mad!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Baise_Moi'Fact of the matter is as one generation gets older, they will often bemoan the behaviours of those younger than them. Everyone thinks that were better behaved at whatever age group bothers them at that point but it seems that lots of people have selective memories. "In my day we had to walk to school in the snow uphill. Both ways!" It amuses me that people are shocked at the thought of 'young' people using this site to hook up. "How terrible... they should be out and about meeting people in the real world" they say... in a room lit only by the backlight of their monitor, sipping their cask red wine and waiting for the next Pizza Hut delivery - their only human contact that week. . I'm sure there's a forum thread started by someone young, thin and unwrinkly that says "ewww... have you seen how many old people use this site?". But it's probably written in txtspk so I haven't been able to read it. . ps - they probably posted their thread while out with their friends, none of whom they recognise without that little facebook arrow that tells you who it is. . pps - If young people aren't getting 'out' it's because of their cotton wool wrapping parents. When I was young (ooohhh the days!!) I would ride my bike at all times of day and night, play in the park without a security guard watching me and so on. There is no shortage of parents making 'out' a scary place to be. Maybe not conciously....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Baise_Moi'Fact of the matter is as one generation gets older, they will often bemoan the behaviours of those younger than them. Everyone thinks that were better behaved at whatever age group bothers them at that point but it seems that lots of people have selective memories. "In my day we had to walk to school in the snow uphill. Both ways!" It amuses me that people are shocked at the thought of 'young' people using this site to hook up. "How terrible... they should be out and about meeting people in the real world" they say... in a room lit only by the backlight of their monitor, sipping their cask red wine and waiting for the next Pizza Hut delivery - their only human contact that week. . I'm sure there's a forum thread started by someone young, thin and unwrinkly that says "ewww... have you seen how many old people use this site?". But it's probably written in txtspk so I haven't been able to read it. . ps - they probably posted their thread while out with their friends, none of whom they recognise without that little facebook arrow that tells you who it is. . pps - If young people aren't getting 'out' it's because of their cotton wool wrapping parents. When I was young (ooohhh the days!!) I would ride my bike at all times of day and night, play in the park without a security guard watching me and so on. There is no shortage of parents making 'out' a scary place to be. Maybe not conciously....
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RHP User
15 years ago
I attended a party recently of predominantly 18-20 year olds. "Do I put my beers in the bathtub" .... dumb look...... "the laundry tub?".. prompting another vacant face..... "in the fridge then?".... Did you realise that young people hide their grog FROM EACH OTHER?At the party this young thing complained that her mobile phone was stolen. I said "where did you leave it?".. (as I draw in close to rest her head on my shoulder)... "daddy will make it all better"... :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maxking2010 - You and I have a few more years experience and life skill son Youngblack and those of his age group (you obviously have a few more than myself again) and I wonder whether the so called lack of social skills is really a lack of confidence and/or maturity on their behalf. I am not saying ALL young people lack those (as we recognise the not ALL the people in the age group you have targeted are on social networking sites) however those with less life experience may not feel comfortable to approach someone. Fear of rejection is harder to handle for many in a social setting than online...online generally you dont get to see the contempt/pity/humour in their eyes. . My commment regarding social norms was based on Youngblack's admission that he has a liking for older women (those in the 40+ age group) and as a young man could you have approached a 40 yr old woman and flirted with her in a bar??? Especially when many 'hunt' in packs and you cant always tell if they are in a relationship or not???? . I applaud your dinner date with a woman you met in the supermarket however by your own admission you had seen her a few times so to each other you had become familiar faces you didnt just walk up to her on first sight and ask her out...as many women in the older age group (again not all) are either married or in a committed relationship I can understand Youngblack's hesitancy in approaching someone in a social setting...as for a woman not laughing or slapping a guys face (ok the slapping would be dependant on the approach) however I know for a fact that if approached by a younger man many woman go back to the group they are socialising with, tell their friends about it and everyone has a good laugh over it after having looked at the man in question -demoralising for the man involved wouldnt you agree??? . My question about the researchers age was to highlight the fact that the research was conducted by those who are older than the targeted group and as Baise_Moi pointed out every generation complains about the one after...not just that but this research would be 'tainted' by their own beliefs, life experiences and what they wanted as their outcome (as all research is)...the question you ask determines your research style and approach . I understand that it is harder for people with children to get out and meet people but as I stated earlier there are many people in the targeted age group that also have children, and would find it tough to get out also. . Total_Recal - you mean the world isnt flat??? Damn i was looking forward to the wild ride at the edge of the world...lol... . JG - I was just discusing with a work colleague how different is for kids playing today compared to ourselves (both in early 30's) she readily admits that there is no way she would allow her chldren to ride off on their bikes to play the day away with their friends, not knowing where they are, from dawn til dusk like she could do and it is all due to the way the world is percieved and the 'dangers' in it... . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a house full of teenagers. They come and go. Some stay for a few years and some for a few days. I have not noticed any lack of socialisation skills amongst my kids. They all have different personalities...yes. Some are shy and some are out there, in your face. They all, without exception, spend alot of time texting and on facebook. Not one of them has issues socialising with thier peers in the "real world". There are constantly kids calling into my house, eating the contents of my fridge and draping themselves over furniture. Judging by the rate they empty my condom packet and the times I take the girls to the doctor for contraception...they have no trouble in the sex department either. They are open about thier sexuality and the girls will explore in same sex relationships very readily. We talk about different kinks honestly and openly. They all know I am on RHP and even though I have told them it is an adult facebook........they are not fooled as they have looked. As I said before, I have not noticed them losing thier social skills at all.....just adding to them...which is what we have done. Maybe you noticed this with the younger set as they are still unsure of themselves at that age. They are still trying to find thier way in the world and where they fit. Not all of them are like this but many of us were the same at that age. They are not yet mature and confident adults. Sorry guys but at 20, to me you are just a baby.
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