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You read a forum post. versus a profile read. Do either now read differently?
January 01 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
I does change my mind about a person, or rather it makes me interested in them. Reason is we just get to see a bit more of their thoughts, fills in a few gaps missing in profiles.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Definately!!!you can see how a person reacts to a posed situation based on their experiences that you may not ever get to see if conversing politely through messaging. Although all it confirms to me is , that I have created an image of them that was totally unrealistic and if Im then disappointed, that it doesn't match up....I'm the dill pickle not them
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think any regular forum reader would change their opinions of people he/she sees posting here. I know that I have made friends with some wonderful people who I would never even looked at their profile, much less considered.Conversely there are some that I had read their profile and thought about contacting them. But then I noticed they had made posts here, a quick read of said posts were enough for me to reconsider contacting them, one could say I didn't like the way they expressed their opinions (shudder lol).mooka
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RHP User
14 years ago
but our forum postings are a little bit of our soul ...our thought processes... that we choose to publicly share with god knows how many..and yes like the above posters.., well fellow posters postings (did that make sense?) have definitely influenced me...usually in postive way. As a result of the forums , I ve made contact privately with quite a few RHP (including posters) and have made two really great female friends from the forums who luckily live in or around Perth. (you know who you are !!!) .... of which I am blessed.... funningly enough I have received emails from males commenting on my posts...which is lovely but havent got a date out of it....mmm now thats a interesting thought... Defence of the American way of life must have really scared them off !!!....ah well
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RHP User
14 years ago
People get all brave behind thier keyboard and I have met quite a few that were not as they seemed....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Skillful i really think you have to meet the person. I have been fortunate enough to meet lots of RHPers in the flesh and people who i thought I'd never get along with I got along famously with and some of those i thought I would really love spending time with sent me running in the other direction. People have had the same experience with me so i've been told. A now very good friend said to me." i thought you would irrittate the hell out of me and we would clash but you're a darling sweetiepie" naw!!!!! THank you! I erm....think.... hehehehe Also i might ad a very good idea to meet potential play friends. You will fancy some you didn't think you would fancy and go off some you thought you fancied. It's lots of fun though
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RHP User
14 years ago
Profiles and posts can help us deciding to meet people. But meeting is definately best in deciding wether you would take things further. We will meet most people that contact us even if they dont seem to have a matching profile as they often turn out to be very nice. We dont play with everyone we meet but have made some good friends.D & L
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thank god for nom de plumes - I use one.. definitely. I often throw things into the arena that are actually not reflective of me as a person, nor even my own deep seated view but, more as a devil's advocate type of thing. I would hate someone..anyone, to judge me on what is really, just one facet of me (what is seen here in the forums). I am also, deeply private. I don't want the real 'me' being contained, boxed, viewed, judged, or any way associated with the 'me' on rhp. I know some people say 'pretender', 'fake' etc, etc, etc..but that's the way I swing. I am fluid, why be held up to be liked, disliked or otherwise because of a few words on a page. I like the old fashioned way...where you actually get to the know the person in the flesh, for real, drawing out their secrets and untangling the knotty parts of who they are.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'CrackUp' Thank god for nom de plumes - I use one.. definitely. I often throw things into the arena that are actually not reflective of me as a person, nor even my own deep seated view but, more as a devil's advocate type of thing. I would hate someone..anyone, to judge me on what is really, just one facet of me (what is seen here in the forums). I am also, deeply private. I don't want the real 'me' being contained, boxed, viewed, judged, or any way associated with the 'me' on rhp. I know some people say 'pretender', 'fake' etc, etc, etc..but that's the way I swing. I am fluid, why be held up to be liked, disliked or otherwise because of a few words on a page. I like the old fashioned way...where you actually get to the know the person in the flesh, for real, drawing out their secrets and untangling the knotty parts of who they are. Crackup I think you are doing yourself a major injustice here. This is a visual medium, both graphically and textually. Our only interpretation of you is through your profile and what you post here. If you aren't being true to yourself and honest with your opinions with what you post, how will someone find the real you? You may well be pushing the right person away, cyber wise, who forms an opinion of you from here and decides not to contact you, especially if you sometimes post comments just to stir, sorry play devil's advocate that doesn't reflect your own personal paradigms.I am not saying you must lay your soul bare here, but I would like to think the majority would prefer honesty over sensationalism in what is posted. This forum is of the type that I doubt people would become too revealing, everyone values a certain amount of anonymity here and we all accept that.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I prefer the forums as a way of getting to know people. The profiles don't really show a whole lot about who a person is for the most part, although there have been a few profiles that do stand out.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'CrackUp' Thank god for nom de plumes - I use one.. definitely. I often throw things into the arena that are actually not reflective of me as a person, nor even my own deep seated view but, more as a devil's advocate type of thing. I would hate someone..anyone, to judge me on what is really, just one facet of me (what is seen here in the forums). I am also, deeply private. I don't want the real 'me' being contained, boxed, viewed, judged, or any way associated with the 'me' on rhp. I know some people say 'pretender', 'fake' etc, etc, etc..but that's the way I swing. I am fluid, why be held up to be liked, disliked or otherwise because of a few words on a page. I like the old fashioned way...where you actually get to the know the person in the flesh, for real, drawing out their secrets and untangling the knotty parts of who they are. Quoting 'mooka' Quoting 'CrackUp' Thank god for nom de plumes - I use one.. definitely. I often throw things into the arena that are actually not reflective of me as a person, nor even my own deep seated view but, more as a devil's advocate type of thing. I would hate someone..anyone, to judge me on what is really, just one facet of me (what is seen here in the forums). I am also, deeply private. I don't want the real 'me' being contained, boxed, viewed, judged, or any way associated with the 'me' on rhp. I know some people say 'pretender', 'fake' etc, etc, etc..but that's the way I swing. I am fluid, why be held up to be liked, disliked or otherwise because of a few words on a page. I like the old fashioned way...where you actually get to the know the person in the flesh, for real, drawing out their secrets and untangling the knotty parts of who they are. Crackup I think you are doing yourself a major injustice here. This is a visual medium, both graphically and textually. Our only interpretation of you is through your profile and what you post here. If you aren't being true to yourself and honest with your opinions with what you post, how will someone find the real you? You may well be pushing the right person away, cyber wise, who forms an opinion of you from here and decides not to contact you, especially if you sometimes post comments just to stir, sorry play devil's advocate that doesn't reflect your own personal paradigms.I am not saying you must lay your soul bare here, but I would like to think the majority would prefer honesty over sensationalism in what is posted. This forum is of the type that I doubt people would become too revealing, everyone values a certain amount of anonymity here and we all accept that. hi MookaYou say 'stir' or 'play devil's advocate like it's a bad thing but I in fact, think challenging the way you feel about something, in debate is a good way to stretch yourself. Debate teams are often called to play the opposite of what they think...a lawyer does it too.. he defends based on facts of the case, not his own personal viewpoints. Of course, you are free to think I am doing myself dis-service - perhaps I am, but for me, as I said, I like it. If someone finds me 'not to their liking' based on what I write, that's entirely their choice - same as I feel the same way when I read certain opinions - I just don't want to marry it alongside other parts of me. As I said, I like my privacy - above what anyone else thinks of me, or how I operate. At the end of the day, I like who I am...people in my 'real' life, like who I am..this is after all, nothing but a cyber playground, a place where rough and tumble play abounds..I would prefer to go into it with my armour in place..and take the risk of self injustice, than that imposed by other people. I also think, if someone is open minded .. (and I have met some in the 'flesh' from here), they will still approach me and find, I am not a two headed forum monster...just a regular person who simply adores 'chai latte' , a good yarn and someone who is entirely too open for her own good in the course of face to face banter (the not wanting to disclose on here is entirely self protective you understand - because I do..tend to lay open my soul in 'real time'...never did master that sophisticated cool 'thing' sigh).
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RHP User
14 years ago
I find that most regular Forum posters are the most kindest, warmest people that I have met/never met! They are all there for each other if you are going through a rough time as I try to be there for them when they are going through rough times. I have been to a social drinks night through being invited on the Forums as a regular contributor and I met some amazing people...true, genuine people with heart and OMG a sense of humour that would put Achmael (sp) The Dead Terrorist to shame lol! . While some might think that there is a "click" going on in here...I invite everyone to write in Forums, have fun and make some wonderful new friends that you would probably not make without contributing and bantering! Yes, the Forums are full of great people! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thank you all for your comments so far, I am certainly enjoying the diverse range of comments. Skilft
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have to say I'm with CrackUp on this one, and one hundred percent of the way. The forum is a place for entertainment, enlightenment and diversion, yes? Each person brings somethig different to the board, whether he lays his heart on the table for public dissection, or she provide interesting factiods, others are bent on keeping a sense of humour in each thread, and some are feisty. A few look at each post on a case by case basis and decide what would bring the best out of the conversation at the time. Every approach to the forum is a valid one, and acts in its own right as a filter. Mooks might not like CrackUp's approach but that doesn't make it wrong. It does presumably highlight them as unsuitable partners. .In answer to the OP, I think the forum plays a big part in exploring what our profiles do not show. I would certainly hope so, anyway, or our words are wasted.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree you can make perceptions from people posts and I have often thought before posting before and also refrained from speaking my mind. Remember there are these notorious whore bashers out there that we must protect ourselves from but I will get to that other topic later.In saying so I think take all with a grain of salt and look read and become engaged and try not to dismiss others for the drivel that we write.Some are better at it than others.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we should all take note on the profiles we look at, and read the topics and the postings that the links lead us to.... you'll find that invariably, people will expose themselves with the words they post... and reveal their inner selves, more than their profiles manage to.......
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RHP User
14 years ago
Both are important, but as I rea forums first and then browse profiles of those that post something I can relate to it's "natural selection process" :-) Unlike on some f social sites which I'm sure we all have something to do with there is little more than profile to get information from- because I noticed only small portion of users here is active in the forums... but again those active ones are making yhe effort so should b more rewarded, right :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Reading the postings can really make me regret that there is so much distance between me and like minded people that I would so much like to meet. Hi, Krissy.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I guess you can tell if a Forum participant is consistent with their profile. The character or personality could shine through that their profile may not show. . I dont read many profiles at all but consider the people on here to be real no matter how many profiles they may have or their preferences therein. . A Forum of like minded people. . Who like to express their point of view.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...perhaps give you an opportunity to play with more diversity across the range and scale of your personality. I don't think (or hope not...I would hate to meet one) anyone is one dimensional or should always be "personality secular" post in and post out, I suffer from a type of "boredom syndrome" and that would definitely be boring. | I enjoy the light that emanates from a multi-faceted personality...seeing someone that can range from playful to sensual to very intelligent to what may even appear to be the village idiot and hopefully they will be exactly like that if or when I meet them. Voices tell a great deal too...and I would never meet anyone I had not spoken to first at least a few times. That alone helps shape what becomes the imagery in my mind...and often redefines everything you may have read or seen here. It's all good fun. | ...thanks, for letting me play.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I find that most regular Forum posters are the most kindest, warmest people that I have met/never met! They are all there for each other if you are going through a rough time as I try to be there for them when they are going through rough times. I have been to a social drinks night through being invited on the Forums as a regular contributor and I met some amazing people...true, genuine people with heart and OMG a sense of humour that would put Achmael (sp) The Dead Terrorist to shame lol! . While some might think that there is a "click" going on in here...I invite everyone to write in Forums, have fun and make some wonderful new friends that you would probably not make without contributing and bantering! Yes, the Forums are full of great people! xFunlovingx Yes FL I am finding that too.. slowly. There are a couple that I have emailed to just say thanks for their posting or what ever, I would also say that most but not all the time, we as humans fall back to who we really are by habit. that can be shown by some, but not all the postings. As m&s pointed out @ steeletto In answer to the OP, I think the forum plays a big part in exploring what our profiles do not show. I would certainly hope so, anyway, or our words are wasted. Yes one would hope not (wasted that is) Reading the postings can really make me regret that there is so much distance between me and like minded people that I would so much like to meet. Hi, Krissy. LOL Jenny, yes know that feeling............. well. I like your thoughts Mr&MrsE
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RHP User
14 years ago
and not just the voice CM, The eyes...... the window but yes talk first before meet, would've thought that be pretty much the norm for most folks. Thanks for playing.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm pretty sure I've sabotaged my own chances of making contacts with some of my postings.
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RHP User
14 years ago
They weren't going to be contacts you wanted anyway JennyLee Carry on posting
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contemplating1
14 years ago
It all adds to the interest! Over time it can be be like putting together a jigsaw puzzle! Seeing if and how "things" fit or they don't!?! Winds the evening down! Have a good 'un!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with Joe Melfi, Mrs P and Mr Midnight. . I don't use the "search" function on this website, in part because I am not searching but also because I can gauge more about the likelihood of someone stimulating me sexually if their post has intellectually stimulated me first. So I never view a profile first and then read a forum post. It is always the other way around. But that is just me. If someone interesting lands in my lap, then it's a bonus. . I agree with Mrs P in that, having been here for a few years now, you do get to watch changes take place in people over time and prolific posters are missed when they leave. . And yes, as CM says, the forums do give you an "opportunity to play with more diversity across the range and scale of your personality" and as a bit of a people "studier", I rather enjoy the varying dynamics of this place. Most of the time.
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
It really is all in the mix for me, the profile, forum posts and of course the actual meeting in person.The forums are a great way to learn things that you may not read in a person's profile or even find out in exchanged messages, you see how people react/interact with others you get a better sense of a person's sense of humor and so many more things but at the end of the day until you meet them in person you will never really know for sure.To answer your question directly though, Yes i have changed my mind on people before based on forum posts sometimes for the good sometimes in the negative.
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RHP User
14 years ago
doesnt change our opinion of them. its not hard to get a block or no thanks from us, but theres always some reason. Internet forums are basically giving everyone an opportunity to speak public. Being able to speak publicly doesnt change our opinions on anyone. Whatever reason we werent interested in the people.. that reason is still there.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we've read, and i've read some really clever forum posts..... not clever as in funny or cynical or sarcastic....as they really dont mean very much.... but clever...as in well informed, or passionate, or even educational...that made me or us have a look at a persons profile and think....'this persons someone worth knowing'.... theres a lady in Perth, who we may never meet, but whose posts stand out as some of the best here.....thanks Deb.....
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