Yet another profile question..

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  perhaps you could acknowledge in your message that you have read the profile and noted that you do not meet that particular stipulation but that you have other qualities they might enjoy? I know I've made a few exceptions to my age limits and stuff, and even though I don't bend on the married men thing, I still wish them all the best in their search. . There are so many that put a massive laundry list of desirable and indesirable qualities but there's no way to tell if they'll bend on some things or if they're dead set inflexible about EVERYTHING on their list until you contact them. I think MOST people (at least most of those who speak up on the forums) are nice enough to not screech at you about not reading the profile if you've acknowledged that you did in fact read it. So why not give it a go? If they don't reply, well you knew it was a long shot anyway so who cares? And if they want to be a bitch about it and yell at you, delete them and do a little dance to celebrate! It's your lucky day 'cos you're not stuck hanging out with a bitch! . xx Sarah (feeling encouraging today, might change my mind tomorrow tho, you never know)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  go right ahead and send me a message, age or smoking habits don't affect me for conversation. if however, once you're 'in the door,' you then try to weasel a ..sexual encounter out of me, you can bugger off out of it. Like 'Ken', a smoker, who *just* wanted to drink coffee on my couch naked, and then tried to get me to well..you know. He won't be getting an invitation to return. Probably coz I blocked him.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Unless you try. I tend to answer all flirts and messages so you will be gauranteed at least one reply. Yes I have been known to send a message to someone who has a list of "donts" and I fit in one category. Yes they have answered back, struck up a conversation.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I respect what people put in their profile, back when I was actively looking, I wouldn't message someone even if I was only one year out of their range, let alone not meeting any other aspect of their specification. The reason being that you have to assume people know what they want.If someone is in the market for a porsche there is little point in trying to flog them a billy cartregardless of how well you think your billy cart will go with their latest handbag.At the end of the day you just need to respect their wishes.Of course that can make it exceedingly difficult for some of us.By the time you find someone whom you "match with on paper" that you like sufficiently to want to send a polite well written message, to then have it go unread..or ignored, well put it this way you don't need a platinum membership, and even a premium is overkill. Nobody ever said life was fair.Cheers Nev

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  RcFlyer: I know it fella: I see a few people I would like to contact and do so in messages. I do state that I have noted we are not compatible as per their/her profile, but still make my comment. Most times I get nothing. Sometimes I see they have come and checked out my profile, but still nothing. Both of these is "OK" SOMETIMES, they/she will reply, and restore my faith in the site and the characters of ill repute who reside here.. :) I guess it is a numbers game... IF you try with no one, you will get nowhere.. IF you try with 20, you will get SOME response.... IF you try a thousand, you are pretty well bound to meet somneone... IF you are resonable about how you play it all out.. Dont give up!! *smiles*

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Perhaps you could acknowledge in your message that you have read the profile and noted that you do not meet that particular stipulation... there are so many that put a massive laundry list of desirable and indesirable qualities but there's no way to tell if they'll bend on some things or if they're dead set inflexible about EVERYTHING on their list until you contact them. Hope you don't mind if I paraphrased you post a bit and I do acknowledge that as I agree with what you have said. Some of the profiles I have come across would take about 3 generations of genetic manipulation and a whole lot of luck to meet everything there...and sometimes it is worth asking about bending the rules if you do like most of the rest of what you see. | I have met some nice people here doing that and some of the rules are more like guidelines rather than strict policy...and if they are, then I don't expect an answer or worry about the outcomes. The delete button is always easy to hit...right? | Somtimes what you don't know is way more fun that what you do!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'fionabee' Unless you try. I tend to answer all flirts and messages so you will be gauranteed at least one reply. Yes I have been known to send a message to someone who has a list of "donts" and I fit in one category. Yes they have answered back, struck up a conversation. Is it better to be guaranteed or gauranteed at least one reply Nothing better to do CHEER'S

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  As suggested i think you stand the best possible chance of a reply if you acknowledge the parts you don't match on and state clearly what it is about them/ their profile that still made you feel the need to take a chance and send that message.We were only just speaking about the fact that sometimes based on profile alone you might pass someone by on here and then by chance you meet them at a club or a party or through mutual friends and you find that you are indeed quite compatible so i guess you should see people's profiles as a guide to some degree.Some people will be more flexible on their criteria than others and i think that as long as you approach it from a respectful place and have no expectations then it is perfectly alright to take the chance and see what happens, just don't get all pouty and offended if you get a 'thanks but no thanks' reply and understand that you may not even get a reply at all (rude from my point of view but there are plenty of posts on that elsewhere lol)Best of luck with itMrs GC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  When we first started a membership of sex sites we had 'no single guys' etc but found that to many, that meant little as they basically did not read it or see it in our preferences (mind you, ours is a long profile).But, we tried to respond to all anyway and had no problems with the 'thanks but no thanks' type of answers as at least we were being contacted and that was a good start.However, during that time we did get a few well written messages from people who had clearly read our profile as there was reference to parts in their message. These messages showed a level of regard for us that impressed and we felt that this level of effort warranted something, and so we met a few who were of interest to us. Whilst we have not played with them it was not through anything due to their message, just a lack of opportunity or connection.So, in short we would say make sure that you read the profile clearly and reference that you do not meet their requirements but you also need to have a 'wow' that intrigues and to many, referencing points of the profile are a good start.Funny enough, now we are happy to meet single guys we get less hits - lolShell and Gaz

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Sounds like I should give it a go, but as I said on another thread, I'm horribly shy and it does take a while to figure out whether I'm going to contact someone, and what to say to them. I don't like the flirts - "Damn! You sure are hot! What do you think of me?" is not something I'd say to anyone ever.All that said, when I do contact someone, it's not because I think I might have a shot with them, but rather I see something about them either in their profile or in the forums that makes me think we'd get on well in "real life". Despite the fact that I have a profile on a sex site, sex is not the first reason I'd contact someone, and I'm grown up enough to realise that not every woman I speak to is going to want to have sex with me.....no, really, it's true!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  People have all sorts of reasons they prefer this or don't like that. Lots of reasons, and all valid to them for this reason or that reason. . But we all know reasons are the very things that stop us having stuff. Some people are flexible to a point so it may be worth a shot. You dont want to wind up with someone who's an inflexible, resigned totalist personality? I assume?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'rcflyer69' I'm grown up enough to realise that not every woman I speak to is going to want to have sex with me.....no, really, it's true! You're a little bit TOO grown up then LOL but i'd still have sex with you ;) xx Sarah

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