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Worse excuse for canceling last minute.

September 05 2018

So what's the worst excuse you've heard for canceling on a meet the day of or the day before? We just recently organised to meet a couple in Bendigo 3 weeks before we were due there. Room was paid for in full with no cancelation policy. The morning the day before we received a message saying that they had decided the scene wasn't for them (has been in the past) and that they wouldn't be meeting us. This was just 4 days after the girls spoke on the phone and her saying she was so excited. We have played once and been on here since January. Sick of the time wasters we have come across. Definitely tired of the last minute back flips. - Posted from rhpmobile

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FeistyFatty

7 years ago

In the couples defense, at least they contacted you and let you know. And over 24 hours notice is acceptable. Things come up, things change. And just because they have been happy in the scene previously doesn't mean they can't change their mind and depin from it. We all change our minds at times, and sometimes, the timing isn't opportune...... I've changed my mind mid way through a playdate once..... stand by it too. I wouldn't define their reason for cancelling as a "worst excuse", something along the lines of we've both just been drafted into Greenpeace on a secret mission into whale infested waters..... now theres a good one lol Move on from it guys, its no biggy really just a momentary frustrating annoyance👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

7 years ago

Is no excuse. Zip. Nada. Zero. Sitting waiting for arrival.....waiting....waiting.. At least with an excuse, you are prepped for the result and no surprises

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RHP User

7 years ago

Agree with FFF and Annie - at least they had the balls to cancel, instead of just doing the whole ghost thing (which happened to me months ago and still makes me angry to think about). I think there are a lot of people who fantasize about this, that and the other but when it comes time to truly commit the reality sinks in.

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twotootouch

7 years ago

Cancellations are inevitable .... always good to book a refundable room

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HotNightsGC

7 years ago

I really think their ‘excuse’ was quite reasonable. I suppose they could have just ghosted you like so many people do these days, but they gave you 24hours notice, we’re honest with their reason and polite about it all. We usually insist that when a hotel room is agreed upon, that payment of the room is shared between both couples. If people cancel after that then they share the financial loss too. Hope you have a better experience next time xx Ms HNP. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

So this wasn't from me personally, but came from a date with an airline stewardess (from a vanilla site) when I was in Brisbane. I was gobsmacked when she finished this story. She'd been chatting to this guy for some time & they agreed to meet out one day & have a chat over a bottle of wine. She spent hours that day preparing as some ladies do, and headed off to the pub where they'd agreed to meet. She messaged on arrival (went something like this) Her- Hi Dave I've just parked Him- Cool, I'm already here Her- ok great see you soon Her- I can't see you anywhere, what are you wearing Him- Blue T black jeans Her- No still can't see you, nearly grabbed a stranger in a blue t but he had blonde hair 🤣 I'm in the main bar Him- Ahhh that explains it, I'm in the beer garden Her- of course ha ha, I'll head out there Her- I'm in the beer garden & I've been everywhere there is in here twice, beer garden is deserted, are you here? She got silence, was blocked by him & never heard from him again. It's more than likely, this jerk was at home on the couch with his wife downstairs while he completely wasted this womans time. She was lovely by the way but just not my cup of tea, had some bizzare habits, but that's another OCD story. - Posted from rhpmobile

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horneycouplewa

7 years ago

We had the exact same thing happen to us and to me. And this is exactly the reason why I video chat now. - Posted from rhpmobile

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FeistyFatty

7 years ago

Now THAT story takes the cake!!! Some losers in the world👎 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

I was ghosted only a few months ago after quite the extended ''courtship''. I like to think I have a decent nose for bullshit but this one made none of the usual mistakes (wanting dirty chat, asking for pics) and was quite content to let things ''develop'' over a period of time. Anyways, big day comes around - both husband and wife have day off, kids at school, we're on for a day of debauchery. They live out in a rural area, about an hour drive from me. Off I go, as arranged, still sending and receiving messages via that Kik thing, they just had to pick their car up from service and they would meet me out there. Actually arrive out in their area and - gone. Radio silence. I can tell they've read my messages but nothing in return. Sitting there, with my dick in my hand (metaphorically speaking) on the roadside in Deliverance country, staring at their house like a weirdo. I lost half a day to that, sent some very angry messages on here and on Kik, nothing in return. Previous ghostings did not affect me quite so much as this one, just the sheer waste of effort and time. I'm ashamed to admit I got a bit stalker-like, sleuthing my way to their Facebook page, really wanting to let fly at both on both. Thankfully I didn't, and I considered myself suitably simmered down when they messaged me again, only a little bit apologetic but offering no explanation for their desertion and wanting to tee up another time again. I managed to convey my disappointment with only a little bit of petulance, of which I am proud. The best bit was, I had the opportunity to tell them to bugger off, which I did. I have pretty much given up on the game these days, I don't message anyone with any interest and am extremely wary of messages I receive from people. The worst part is that I may let some genuine people slip through the cracks as I am being overly standoffish due to past experiences.

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RHP User

7 years ago

OkeyDokey45. That would suck. We've had great convos and out of the blue, no explanation given, they say we aren't for them....we are like WTF? Now the female of us won't chat on KIK unless absolutely necessary. Getting to the point that we will just go to meet and greets with the occassional party. We are happy to say we've met one really genuine couple and plan on seeing them again. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

And at his age it could be his lost breath from either end. 😕 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

...but this was certainly, well, different. Had been messaging for a while. Arranged to meet for the classic safe public coffee. I messaged "leaving now" when I left home for the meet. Arrived at venue. I messaged that I had arrived (slightly early, so I could snag a table). Waited. Nothing. Waited a bit more. I eventually got a "are you there?" message. I confirmed that I was. What was her excuse? "I didn't think you would show up so I didn't bother getting ready". 😐😐 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

He's there, we message we're on the way and we'll be there in 5, get there, he's not there. It took him 15 mins to get back, that ended as a no. Funny, he lived next door to our last address. Peachy, life's vagaries never fail to amaze me. PS: Large font for folk sans their reading glasses ;-)

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RHP User

7 years ago

It is time to meet up. Then that shit is for REALz and many chicken out. Also for them it is an unknown experience that some will never go thru. Some are serial daters with no show last minute tendancies. Ah I could of had that experience....but...

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AKAHunk

7 years ago

Quoting 'oceandreaming' So this wasn't from me personally, but came from a date with an airline stewardess (from a vanilla site) when I was in Brisbane. I was gobsmacked when she finished this story. She'd been chatting to this guy for some time & they agreed to meet out one day & have a chat over a bottle of wine. She spent hours that day preparing as some ladies do, and headed off to the pub where they'd agreed to meet. She messaged on arrival (went something like this) Her- Hi Dave I've just parked Him- Cool, I'm already here Her- ok great see you soon Her- I can't see you anywhere, what are you wearing Him- Blue T black jeans Her- No still can't see you, nearly grabbed a stranger in a blue t but he had blonde hair 🤣 I'm in the main bar Him- Ahhh that explains it, I'm in the beer garden Her- of course ha ha, I'll head out there Her- I'm in the beer garden & I've been everywhere there is in here twice, beer garden is deserted, are you here? She got silence, was blocked by him & never heard from him again. It's more than likely, this jerk was at home on the couch with his wife downstairs while he completely wasted this womans time. She was lovely by the way but just not my cup of tea, had some bizzare habits, but that's another OCD story. - Posted from rhpmobile Or he was some creepy, unattractive dude who had made a fake profile to get a date with a hot stewardess, then sat in the corner watching her trying to find "him".

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RHP User

7 years ago

My grandpa died..... that’s my favourite. And this is after chatting for about a month.... let it pass then organised a second meet.... got an I’m on my way... then nothing.. Then there is the usual ghosting and also the “oh shit got caught up at work/with friends/traffic then the all time no show and no response. OkeyDoke45 - i’m now jaded as well...

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RHP User

7 years ago

I dont think there can be any bad excuse, if someone isn't feeling absolutely 100% they have every right to say no and cancel. The wasted finances/time is frustrating for sure and there are a lot of fake profiles but thats on you to do due diligence (imo) - video chat/hand written notes/phone calls/split bills are good ideas

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totallygenuine

7 years ago

If Redhotpie would allow us to name and shame profiles on here or better still have all profiles verified. Being a member on here for over 8 years now (on/off) as I did come across a lot of fake profiles in my early stages being a seasoned vet now lol I can actually spot them out after exchanging the 1st couple of msg’s.

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Service_man

7 years ago

Quoting 'oceandreaming' So this wasn't from me personally, but came from a date with an airline stewardess (from a vanilla site) when I was in Brisbane. I was gobsmacked when she finished this story. She'd been chatting to this guy for some time & they agreed to meet out one day & have a chat over a bottle of wine. She spent hours that day preparing as some ladies do, and headed off to the pub where they'd agreed to meet. She messaged on arrival (went something like this) Her- Hi Dave I've just parked Him- Cool, I'm already here Her- ok great see you soon Her- I can't see you anywhere, what are you wearing Him- Blue T black jeans Her- No still can't see you, nearly grabbed a stranger in a blue t but he had blonde hair 🤣 I'm in the main bar Him- Ahhh that explains it, I'm in the beer garden Her- of course ha ha, I'll head out there Her- I'm in the beer garden & I've been everywhere there is in here twice, beer garden is deserted, are you here? She got silence, was blocked by him & never heard from him again. It's more than likely, this jerk was at home on the couch with his wife downstairs while he completely wasted this womans time. She was lovely by the way but just not my cup of tea, had some bizzare habits, but that's another OCD story. - Posted from rhpmobile Thats really fucked up. Its emotional abuse as most women go to a lot of effort to to look their seductive best for first meet.

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