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Women who don't like foreplay and/or oral sex
February 15 2014
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sweetgem
12 years ago
The world is so huge and we are only like a small rock amongst the mountains! Anything is possible! The sister of one of my exes doesn't like sex to the point where she and her hubby only have sex once a month, or even longer wait for her hubby. I had the same reaction like you when I first learned of her lack of sex drive! But I never argue with the Universe ever again since then! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That they don't like foreplay/oral in general or it depends on who is giving it or who they are giving it to? If someone isn't shaved down there I will not want to go down on them. If they aren't too good at foreplay I will say I don't like foreplay just so they don't ask again. And if a guy smokes, or has had alcohol before the encounter, again I will say I don't like oral just so they don't go down on me with that mouth. Or if they are just crap at giving oral I will also say I'm not into it just to close off that discussion. I dated a guy who liked loooong foreplay and he was crap at it. By the time he was ready I'd be all turned off. I ended up saying I hated foreplay even though I didn't; we broke up soon after In the end I won't be going there a second time anyway but I guess it's different if you're married. So, lovemydongle, could it be that you're just not doing it the way she might want it? - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
12 years ago
I'm sure there are. Many years ago in a world far far away, I had a girlfriend who said she didn't like it when I went down on her. (Hard to believe, I know!) She obviously thought it was dirty and that soured her mind to the idea. It's the idea she didn't like and that, I believe, prevented her from finding it pleasurable. By reason of my enormous ego I've been telling myself this ever since. Lots of women, for the same reason don't choke down a perfectly decent cock. They think it's dirty. Give them a tissue box as a farewell present. Hugs Gazpacho
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MissBishere
12 years ago
When you say she doesn't like foreplay do you mean any kind of foreplay, touching, kissing, sucking boobs, fingering? Does she enjoy sex? As for not liking oral I am finding more and more people that say they don't like giving or receiving. This blows my mind. I certainly don't like to receive bad oral and will always cut it off quick and move on before it turns me off completely. Just goes to prove we are all individuals and unique. MissB - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I believe people who feel that way should be tied down and forced to 'endure' foreplay delivered by an expert foreplayist, maybe they just didn't know what they were missing and needed their eyes opened, I know that I never really enjoyed sex till a few years after losing my virginity and couldn't have given a stuff about foreplay because my first few lovers were (in hindsight) just crap, I thought for a few years that I had a 'frigid libido', turned out I just needed someone who took the time to find the right buttons to push for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Probably hit the nail on the head.. In my experience, I have found those who say they don't like it, have issues with the person delivering it. I have been with partners in the past who where ADAMANT that they hated it.. but.. by gently guiding forplay and being alert to her responses, just aabout every single one of the ladies found out they did love it after all.. having said that.. some people, male and female my be so wired that you will have massive works to do to find their switches
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RHP User
12 years ago
In any population there will be considerable variety. Maybe she (and others) don't like it. Maybe she didn't like how you did it. Maybe you didn't like it how she liked it. Regardless.... sexual compatibility is important.... as is the ability and capacity for mentally inspiring and arousing your partner. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My brothers ex wasnt a fan of sex and it was a well know fact in the family yet his new partner saves she cant imagine why she's very happy. I have heard of Asexual people who have little interest in sex. But as has been said it could be the giver.........sorry..........maybe she just hasnt found the one. My ex wasnt a nice person and foreplay ...well....he loved a good BJ, foreplay to him was to put a porno on...then turn over towards me and finger me (no kissing) maybe it was his lack of lovemaking skills that made me cringe. He said he hated my big boobs and I literally found it unbearable when he sucked them. So I learnt how to get myself off even whilst we had sex ...I suppose its all in the mind. After him wow thank god men love my boobs and I havent found one yet I hated touching them...but then again sex is so much more better now. Many men are takers when it comes to oral take lots give little...so that can be really frustrating in a relationship espescially when your the BJ giver......give and take...mmmm.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Met a woman who doesn't like foreplay..... I guess I'm just lucky.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP I do know women who hate giving and receiving oral, as someone mentioned above, they think it's too dirty. As for another saying it was the person giving it, you may not have been sexually compatible with her but I know for a fact that at least one woman thoroughly enjoyed it and I'm sure others would as well. As for not liking foreplay.....again maybe you two just had different ideas about how it should be done. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well there is definitely at least one other OP ... my wife ! Never gives even when asked directly but orgasms quickly from it when coerced into receiving obligation free - I've got the "I WANT to do it ... I love the taste and smell and it as much about my pleasure as yours" spiel burned into my brain ... 10 mins later she's good to go for another month or so :( You'll go mad trying to figure it out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
and as with everything, with some you click with others not.When a male rushes you its over totally and utterly over. On the contrary, to be vocal as a woman and tell the man to slow down.....is a big steppingstone for independence and confidence.You don't have to do anything you don't want, you don't have to give anything you don't want.The paly between you two or three or four should be what each of you like.....otherwise stop have a cup of coffee and say Auf Wiedersehn
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RHP User
12 years ago
My kids father hated oral giving and receiving ... 9yrs I went with out it ... Omfg once I was free of him I couldn't wait to have a Cock in my mouth and have someone eating my pussy .. It was like being a virgin all over again - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A friend of mine has been married for nearly 7 years. He always knew his wife wasn't interested in receiving oral sex, which was fine with him, as he didn't like giving it! But after being married for about a year, his wife told him that she didn't like giving him blow jobs either, and would no longer do it. Turns out she doesn't like sex in general, and they haven't had sex now for about 15 months or so. The poor guy is going crazy! But he loves his wife and accepts that this is how it's going to be. Personally I think she is being quite selfish, but that's just my opinion! Seems true love CAN conquer all!
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
To try and test, extensively before you you 'buy'!!!!! Lol There should be rerun date warranty on all goods....20yrs perhaps??!!!!! Lolol ;)))
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RHP User
12 years ago
In response to a few of the posts above, my ex wife could only orgasm from hard and fast sex in the missionary position while tensed up like an ironing board. She didn't believe foreplay was necessary, including hugging, kissing, nipple play or fingering. Sex was purely fuck hard, cum hopefully. And thank you to nibbleme for the kudos. I really enjoy oral sex and I haven't had any complaints. I guess we aren't all into the same things.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Reggie010' My kids father hated oral giving and receiving ... 9yrs I went with out it ... Omfg once I was free of him I couldn't wait to have a Cock in my mouth and have someone eating my pussy .. It was like being a virgin all over again - Posted from rhpmobile I had a lover like that...it seriously boggled my mind at the time. I have since understood that it takes all kinds to shape a world.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Before I came on rhp, I told myself I did not Like oral. I had never had oral done to me but I was always the giver as I love to suck clock. Well this guy insisted I said it's not going to work. I kept pushing his head away so he gripped my wrists. All I can say is the neighbour's wondered what the fuck was that! I came from here to eternity and back. Now I love it. Guy number 2 decided to rim me, again its no I don't think so. And my god! But the truth is some men are better than others and it's the guy who really loves it, and he does not use it as a stepping stone to get his rocks off. Some men taste I pushy like it's fine wine. Others swill like beer drinker. Women can tell the difference. I have a lover who just eats me till I am a puddle of exhaustion. He then wanks. I have never fucked him, and boy do I like his visits.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not me of course but I have met a number of younger women who do not enjoy fore play...or oral... at all! Personally I thought they were a little strange but each to their own Right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'wisard' Met a woman who doesn't like foreplay..... I guess I'm just lucky..... I've never met a man who doesn't like foreplay! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Why are you worried about it? She's your EX-wife. It's very simple, she was not that into you and not happy. It happens in marriages. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ bores me to tears! What ever happened to...if you're not happy take responsibility! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
He was just sharing a topic for discussion! Not asking for a personal attack or a debate on who is to blame!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MsElle72' A friend of mine has been married for nearly 7 years. He always knew his wife wasn't interested in receiving oral sex, which was fine with him, as he didn't like giving it! But after being married for about a year, his wife told him that she didn't like giving him blow jobs either, and would no longer do it. Turns out she doesn't like sex in general, and they haven't had sex now for about 15 months or so. The poor guy is going crazy! But he loves his wife and accepts that this is how it's going to be. Personally I think she is being quite selfish, but that's just my opinion! Seems true love CAN conquer all! "True Love" doesn't conquer all. "True Love" manages the shortcomings on both sides. I think that Your Friend & Wife need to have a serious "heart to heart", because it's only going to get more difficult. Are there Children / Money / Family factors ? Sleeping next to someone every night, that you love, that you lust, that you see naked in the shower, and being told "No" in its myriad forms, eventually wears you down. "True Love" is a powerful emotion, But so is "Unrequited Lust".
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
My last post was not directed at the OP, nor a personal attack towards him. Sorry if it came across that way. Foxy
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oralalot
12 years ago
All people are different. Life would be boring if we we aren't. We just have to accept and embrace people's tastes. I love giving oral sex so it is a disappointment, but not the end of the world, if the lady declines. Having said that, I have only met one lady that wasn't keen.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I love foreplay in all it forms, but like sex it is so much better if the attraction/connection is there.... I believe there is a lot to be said about a kiss, so I like to get to know someone (email, text, talk) then meet with them and then comes the kiss..... If I don't enjoy the kiss, the chances are I'm not going to enjoy the rest.....but that's just me.........💋
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RHP User
12 years ago
Kudos is given when it's due. I certainly had no complaints, in fact.....get your arse back here! I want more ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
4 play starts from the very small glance when both sets of eyes connect at the very same time... The soft touch (never a grop) the little gestures when out and about :) the touches become more frequent n little my intermit as the hours unfold... The kiss as you hold the side of her face n not her arse... The simple little flirty looks as you get or do something for her... The simple talk of naughty times ahead without the actual words being spoken... The sitting an tenderly running your over a seductive part of her body without being to st8 to the best part (make those parts stand up and say hey hey my turn soon yeh) when a lady is unsure or even not overly interested it's good to turn that into hoe met desires by soft meaningful touches :)) Point is mate never go st8 to the hot spot as it's prob not even warm yet... O and if you find her not keen at the start don't complain it's the worst thing a lady wants to hear...
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RHP User
12 years ago
For play u n me any day ;) and that's an all day for play ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Lovinit28' I love foreplay in all it forms, but like sex it is so much better if the attraction/connection is there.... I believe there is a lot to be said about a kiss, so I like to get to know someone (email, text, talk) then meet with them and then comes the kiss..... If I don't enjoy the kiss, the chances are I'm not going to enjoy the rest.....but that's just me.........💋 It's all about the kiss? I never would have guessed.
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Plain280
12 years ago
Hugging, touching, may not even be aware that the other person can get turned on.A female friend of mine, met over a coffee we were stilted and both not thinking this was going anywhere until we farewelled each other with a kiss on each others cheek, nothing overtly sexy. Then we rang each other up and wondered what the spark was and is, and enjoy each others intimate company to this day and yes we both enjoy foreplay.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Mr funlover and you know it..........😍😍 Warning......😘😘
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