Will you discriminate against ppl who are seeking wider choices?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  When we used to be on this site last year, we were looking for straight couples and if the female half of that couple was open to experiment or bi curious or bi sexual, that was great. We were also looking for straight guys for threesomes and bi girls for threesomes. Although we received a lot of response, as well as people more than happy to play with us, we eventually realised it wasn't what we really wanted. And after taking a short break, we decided to change what we were looking for because in many regards, we have changed as individuals as well as a couple. We have finally been able to articulate exactly what we want and what types of people we want to make friends and play with. Maybe we are discriminated against for changing our preferences, who knows. But we're not worried because there is nothing strange about changing our likes and dislikes as well as changing what we are looking for. Because we have changed, we don't discriminate against straight couples or men or women who look at our profile or even the ones who want to get to know us even if they don't match our pre requisites. So we politely decline and say we are not what they are looking for. Better to be honest and up front than give them false hope in our opinion. Maybe our actions to decline their contact will be seen by people has discriminating, but I guess my point is everyone has their likes and dislikes, every one has their compromises and things they won't budge on. But as long as you say it how it is from the start, everyone knows where they stand. And now I think I haven't answered the question and I'm warbling on about utter rubbish so I will leave it there. My apologies if I am impossible to understand...:-) Mrs Bi

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  rupamohan

  13 years ago

  I think once you make very clear in your profile what is a must for you. That becomes point of common interest and onus is on other party to understand this. My point of wider choice meant for example when a profile gives a long list of interests with out making clear which of those interest are mandatory. And you have your own wish list. Do you expect 100% match both ways. If all your interest match but other profile has extra interest that doesn't match with you. Will you then assume it is NO match? All this becomes very clear when PAL write profile clearly listing what is mandatory and what is preferred or optional. In practice no two pal think in same way and can never have exact same interest. Making mandatory and optional interests clear in profile can dramatically cut down on confusion. Writing a good profile in my opinion means defining boundary conditions clearly. Something where you will stop. Means defining what you wont do and what others have to at least do. Unfortunately bcos boundaries are where you stop. It is best defined with negative statements something that provide a clarity but at the cost of sounding negative which is unpleasant to read. It is unfortunate that defining your boundaries is taken as a sign of being inflexible even though your boundaries may be much wider then somebody who has not specified his boundaries (does have limits but just not told upfront).

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  we are very selective and particular about who we play with....and look closely at things like marital status, experience and attitudes of the people we meet, before even considering the possibility of play.... but we dont see this as being 'discriminatory'.... more like 'honest'....this is about fantasy play and fulfilment...and as such we dont see how or why we should leave our standards and ideals at the door...and play with people who we find less than 100% attractive...

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I don't want a bi guy joining us. I am not against bi or gay man at all. All there choices in there life style. But for me my man is a fit sexy man and he has a great bod and a nice size penis and I am sure if we had a bi guy over his eye wouldn't be just on me and I think it would make my man a little uncomfortable to. He has no problems with bi guys (each to there own) but doesn't want to be sucked or fuck or be perved on by a guy while his big hard cock is out. Good luck to those who enjoy male bi mfm but not for us.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'bisubtouse'I don't want a bi guy joining us. I am not against bi or gay man at all. All there choices in there life style. But for me my man is a fit sexy man and he has a great bod and a nice size penis and I am sure if we had a bi guy over his eye wouldn't be just on me and I think it would make my man a little uncomfortable to. He has no problems with bi guys (each to there own) but doesn't want to be sucked or fuck or be perved on by a guy while his big hard cock is out. Good luck to those who enjoy male bi mfm but not for us. how do you 'know' who is bi ......or not? you'd be surprised by how many 'straight' guys identify as either 'bi' or 'curious'....most wont tell you, unless its on offer and appears safe to do so........ we've found a huge number of 'straight' men...actually arent...

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Reading through the comments, I do wonder Rupamohan, if you mean the interests tabs on the profile or what is actually written in the profile text under "About us" and "We are looking for". I'm thinking perhaps you are speaking more generally about profiles people look at.For us, we don't really have too many discriminatory things. Smoking is one of them. We both hate smoking with a passion, the smell, the taste on someone else... eww. No thanks! (That, and it exacerbates my sinus condition so I'd be sneezing and blowing my nose all night long.) The other mandatory one is safe sex. Love with a glove or no love at all. Other than that, there are some profiles we will steer a bit clearer from, such as hugely obese people (I am just not attracted to that), older folks (sorry, if you are my parents' age, that's too old for me) and complete noobs. Being a couple's first time is fun, but I prefer those who have been around the block before, we won't necessarily decline an offer, but it is something I consider if profile searching. In terms of people's sexual interests, we do look for similar to us but we don't necessarily decline if they're not a perfect match. We play on the principle of respect for everyone's boundaries. Play within the strictest couple's rules, and ensure that we all have the discussion about what goes and what doesn't before heading into the bedroom. For example, if a couple are into anal, we politely tell them that, no we're not into that and it's usually fine. If there's a problem, well we don't have to play.The other thing I discriminate on are misleading profiles i.e. a single lady that has a male partner who wants to play as well. That's a couple and should have a couple's profile. It's such a let-down because if you are looking for a single lady, you are looking for a SINGLE lady. Single males masquerading as a couple are the other example, really annoying when you get suckered in, set a date and the "lady" can't make it but he can. Piss off!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  is being 'selective' or 'particular' about who we meet...or who we play with....and what their habits might be (ie smoking)...really being 'discriminatory'? we dont think so at all....its about making a choice and being comfortable with it... we dont 'discriminate' againts married or attached men for example....we just exclude them, without malice or any ill will, from the group of people we find attractive.... its about making choices and recognising preferences....and acting upon them....nothing more.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'mikeandshel' is being 'selective' or 'particular' about who we meet...or who we play with....and what their habits might be (ie smoking)...really being 'discriminatory'? we dont think so at all....its about making a choice and being comfortable with it... we dont 'discriminate' againts married or attached men for example....we just exclude them, without malice or any ill will, from the group of people we find attractive.... its about making choices and recognising preferences....and acting upon them....nothing more. I agree, I think the discussion is more about choice rather than discrimination. I think the OP is poorly worded, because we don't go out of our way to troll or slander, or put down anyone who doesn't match our preferences. We just politely decline and move on. In order to have any fun, one must be attracted to the other and vice versa so if we didn't act on preferences, why would we bother to specify any interests or desires in our profiles?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  No one is bound by any rule, take what you want. Each to his own, any couple that is going to make it works on trust, were a straight cpl, who enjoy every combination of straight cpl sex with those who we choooooose, in the moment sex and planed, we chooooose & we r much stronger as a couple for living our lives as honest lovers who share. The sex is almost unreal

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We all discriminate in some sort of way, either it be a checked selection on our profiles, age groups or NO bi-sexual males. We have this choice but whether it is set in stone is another matter. To answer you example question, We have been on this and other for years now and each time, what we are looking for has differed over time but the one thing we have found is there are a lot of single males out there that state they are straight but actually Bi or Bi curious. The whole question on Bi males (which has been posted many times) does not bother us at all. We have played with single men who have turned out to be Bi and had a lot of fun .We now prefer it and this is why 1. If the men accidently cross swords..lol no one freaks out. 2. I can have 2 cocks in my mouth without anyone freaking out 3. Seeing I love DP there is no drama with the guys being so close I could go on but I am not here to convince anyone on the advantages on Bi guys in the bedroom. On a broader note, A physical is important and we always try to wait and meet the people, chat and see if we all connect before we respond with – Sorry but you are not what we are looking for.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  i wouldn't call it discrimination, but we look at size as a main look, mainly because I am only short and weight under 50 kgs.also we love very long play sessions so someone who seems totally into having fun playtime..plus we both love women so a new play friend need to be bi sexual or an least totally curious about being with a woman or a bi girl who loves being with a woman as much as a male. At playtime we do a lot of girly time with my partner watching or..uhmmm help out.....don't get me wrong I love watching my partner pleasuring our female play friends too...actually makes me squirt just watching..hehe...mmmmmmm,,but we play for the girl on girl times equally as much as the boy on/under girl part and the who knows whos parts..hehe.....too so we make sure of girly interest before meeting...well most of the time....and openness is always a plus...and yes males pretending the be females....totally pains.....

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'mikeandshel' is being 'selective' or 'particular' about who we meet...or who we play with....and what their habits might be (ie smoking)...really being 'discriminatory'? we dont think so at all....its about making a choice and being comfortable with it... we dont 'discriminate' againts married or attached men for example....we just exclude them, without malice or any ill will, from the group of people we find attractive.... its about making choices and recognising preferences....and acting upon them....nothing more.We don't discriminate against black people, Moslems, gays, fatties, skinnies or the disabled .. we just exclude them without malice, ill will or judgement ?Is there a reasoned argument as to why #1 is perfectly understandable while #2 is heinous ?

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  madotara69

  12 years ago

  Hello naughty folk. I am not bi, simply as men do not press my buttons in a sexual sense. However!!! We had a fantastic time with a guy who was curious, Tara found that to be very enjoyable and we have had some great times reflecting to the moments. The guy, who we have since played with again, has mentioned his wish is to meet couples for a while. He certainly did focus to help me with giving Tara a memorable experience, again and again. Go figure..The moments were quite honorable. Not to mention the great fucks!!!All for one and one for all. he heMado, Tara xx

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  Fantasyplus

  12 years ago

  I dont discriminate if they want a wider variety but I am very choosy with how I have a roll around with:My men have to be:* Taller than me (I'm 5'8") * Athletic * Non SmokersIf they are circumcised it's an extra bonus If they bigger (weight wise) than my husband it's a no go zone also.I have on occasion "taken one for the team" lol and played outside my comfort zone

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Has different desires in their sexual lives..We don't discriminate against anyone for what they like, and will play with couples who enjoy different things, and even if they're are Bi. It's all about discussing the "Doo's n Don't's" before we venture into they play pen, so there's no surprises along the way..

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'bisubtouse' I don't want a bi guy joining us. I am not against bi or gay man at all. All there choices in there life style. But for me my man is a fit sexy man and he has a great bod and a nice size penis and I am sure if we had a bi guy over his eye wouldn't be just on me and I think it would make my man a little uncomfortable to. He has no problems with bi guys (each to there own) but doesn't want to be sucked or fuck or be perved on by a guy while his big hard cock is out. Good luck to those who enjoy male bi mfm but not for us. I will not state the bloody obvious but I also will not let a pretender in. Doubt is always in the mix when a judgment is made on my part, but where does a lady find so much testosterone.Off to wank over your profile for a while....

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  My profile at the start was very narrow, age, sexuality, size, looks all were the important parts that confined me to who I met and maybe played with. But with time and a few lonely desperate nights I explored outside my boundaries. Thank god I did for the true gold is not where you might expect. The most wonderful people I have met via this and other sites have seldom been in my idealized requirement. There are some that have a constant knocking at the door and well lucky you and you have the right to pick and choose, but you are rare, you age, and are sometimes not so bright. But the path to my door can be quiet if 35 years old 5'9" blond blue eyed 67kg, big breasted, single, educated, and owns a brewery is all I am after. Did I just give away my perfect girl?No for me diversity is the key to happiness, the surprise to stare into eyes that one never expected could make one tingle. Oh the times that I would have lost if I stood by crazy self imposed requirements. Yet I do still discriminate, never will I say no, never will I judge till we meet. I have my right to say no thanks and good bye. What a loss it would be if I had said no to someone not on my list of predefined perfect, for I would have missed so many perfect people.

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