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Wife only wants to do mmf with friends only
August 24 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't shit in your own backyard! Can get very messy sleeping with friends, best to keep your private life private and pick someone off RHP and then take the time to get to know them till she's comfortable. Look she also said she didn't what a 3 sum before so she might change her mind again about it having to be with a friend. There are some really great people on RHP . Good luck xxxmrs cs - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I could be way off with this assumption but ...The way you've written the post leaves me with the impression that it was your idea and you have spent a year convincing her to try it .. for you ? Why you would want to coerce your apparently otherwise unmotivated lover to accept another man into your bed escapes me but it does make sense that your partner would prefer someone she knows under these circumstances ... think about it.This would be a very bad idea if you ask me. Involving existing 'normal' friends is fraught with risk in more ways than one.
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RHP User
12 years ago
FWB, only that your friends are benefitting
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do not play with friends.way too many variables you can't control.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ok, she has found your friends to be attractive, it almost looks like she has wanted your friend for some time,could be a number of reasons, for a woman to do mfm, she has to be attracted to them first especially if its your first time,it makes her feel safe and comfortable to do this, your first time with your friends would no doubt be nerve wrecking, you wouldnt be able to perform the way you and would normally do with your partner, if it was all full on with you gf, then to me, it would seem shes done this before and is more experienced than you thought, it could be shes done this before you guys met! again, who knows! it may pay to befriend others, what would she say if you wanted to do mff with her friends? i would say ok, if we carry on with mfm, then its only fair that you do mff!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting Strangers can be a bit tricky. I tried it with strangers and loved it.:) Would you feel awkward around your friends? J&S- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Friends could be a tricky one... If your cool with it then fine but when of your good friends is in the bedroom with you and your lady he knows your intimate details and your wife's body very closely... Could complicate things between all parties so make sure your friends is a respectable discreet person ...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Friendships can be ruined and tongues can talk. IMO if you want your private life to stay private consider making friends within the lifestyle. SF
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hope you got lots of friends. Be safe so as not to become a father to one of your friends children - if you know what i mean?
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Localtradie
12 years ago
ive been pretty luckyover the yrs ive been lucky enough to meet some real genuine nice couples for mfm funhubby either watchers or joins ineven develop friendships with the couples to the extent when hubby would invite me to the footy with himwas always discrete safe and respectfulrespected there private situation and family lifewas a real win win situation
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RHP User
12 years ago
she hit the nail on the head--great advice
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey I would love a 3 sum :) but is it with you and another girl or??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
...with sensory fun, it is a potential minefield! It would be safer to stick with friends you make in the lifestyle as their expectations are more likely to coincide with yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
First time hubby and myself played was with friends after a few drinks and things have or will be never been the same between us and them ever again the hubby is always asking about our rhp life and hinting he wants to do it again and the wife never trusts him to come over for a drink on his own either (we have always them it will never happen again and it hasn't or won't happen again to many repercussions - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
your partner worries how you may cope if she expresses intamacy with a stranger.mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
after having threesums with a friend, however that friend is married and even though we all had a lot of fun and didn't affect our friendship, it didn't feel right and nothing is worth losing a 20yr friendship over or hurting someone who had no say in the matter. So we moved onto here and haven't looked back.Please make sure this is something your girlfriend really wants and is not just doing it to please you, most of the couples on here will tell you neither one of them don't take one for the team, that way leads to trouble.
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RHP User
12 years ago
depends on the definition of 'friends'our fem is looking for sexual stimulation with some capacity to connect for both her and her guy - CONVERSATION! cannot be underestimated... and if return visits or camp trips are a possibility for the future - even better
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RHP User
12 years ago
What will the next BBQ be like at your house when you realise that your GF has bonked half your friends. Can you handle that? What if someone tells other people about it. Can you handle that? Maybe I am too conservative, but I would say it isn't a good idea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My hubby did a friend years ago in Perth ? Great friendship then n now we don't speak it was all 2 much for everyone... Keep your friends just that and your lovers simply that as well
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RHP User
12 years ago
Risky 3way fun all good but do you really want to risk a friendship over sex? She may just feel comfortable with someone she knows all good. Still could lead to a world of crap. Personnally Id rather take the time to meet someone hear. Maybe chat then meet up over drinks. If its all good set your boundaries and av some fun. If it works well ya got ya self a play mate. Sex is one thing mates are another play smart and keep them seperate.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
her to dip her toe in the pond ... Me thinks she's found an ocean.She choses your friends because she trusts them. She knows them and they need a root. You say ok it so it happens.If she is happy, you are happy ... what's the big deal? Keep in mind that you are both young and anything can happen. Go into this with an open mind ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's a reason we call them friends and that's because they're the crutch in our life when we need them . You will never look at them the same if you bring them into your bedroom... A stranger is the way to go providing you do your homework. Let your wife do the choosing and always meet for a coffee or drink beforehand . That way it gives her a chance to get a feel if she is comfortable with the guy. I will guarantee the both of you will be excited before during and after the meet even if nothing comes of it. But if you hit the jackpot .. It's a win win all around.. You guys get your mfm with a uncluttered mind. Jay....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been on RHP for 5 years and one thing I have learnt is that a couples profile is a dangerous thing.Ok so I sit and contemplate what you are asking.Please Mr OP do not take this wrong.Levels of danger.A couples profile that displays the lady but not the man is wrong.Then double the danger with.A couples profile written by only the man is wrong.Double againA couples profile that has any mention of no single men is wrong.AgainIf all above is true and lady has more "ask me's". Oh so so wrong. (in fact any ask me's on any profile is instant sign of bull shit covered lies) I have been around this block and know bs when I see it. It smells of shit you know.So now I ask questions.Does she know that a picture of her is on public display asking for sex?Does she know that you post and represent her on public forums?As I am a slut, a well versed asshole, and a walking talking bullshit detector that needs occasional calibration I will attempt to understand what you are saying with the presumption that you are not a lie."We had our first mfm thressome about 3 months ago she always said I am not a fan don't wanna try it then after a years of talking about it we tried it and loved it and know when she's want to do it again is with my friends only she's very freaked out my strangers Ect what do you think about this , by all means I am happy to do it with them to as its easy to pick a good friend Ect." Quote "We had our first mfm thressome about 3 months ago."Fucken awesome and lucky the two of you. Quote "She always said I am not a fan don't wanna try it."I hate that men must push women like this. SHE SAID SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TRY. oh steam level high. sorry.Quote "Then after a years of talking about it we tried it."You must really love her to take so much time to force her into something she said she did not want to do.Quote "and loved it and know when she's want to do it again"WTF are you saying. What the hell does that mean????If you were a real man you would ask her to say it in her words.Dude if your woman makes demand on who and when and how she wants sex. You listen. If you feel you must push her to do things she does not want to do, you are a . If she is freaked out you better slow down. Or both of you could just be really stupid. Men do what they want. Men have the balls to move on if they can not. Men never demand or insist what another does not want.Lucky for I think its just your and your cock. BS
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67'I have been on RHP for 5 years and one thing I have learnt is that a couples profile is a dangerous thing. Ok so I sit and contemplate what you are asking. Please Mr OP do not take this wrong. Levels of danger. A couples profile that displays the lady but not the man is wrong. Then double the danger with. A couples profile written by only the man is wrong. Double again A couples profile that has any mention of no single men is wrong. Again If all above is true and lady has more "ask me's". Oh so so wrong. (in fact any ask me's on any profile is instant sign of bull shit covered lies) I have been around this block and know bs when I see it. It smells of shit you know. So now I ask questions. Does she know that a picture of her is on public display asking for sex? Does she know that you post and represent her on public forums? As I am a slut, a well versed asshole, and a walking talking bullshit detector that needs occasional calibration I will attempt to understand what you are saying with the presumption that you are not a lie. "We had our first mfm thressome about 3 months ago she always said I am not a fan don't wanna try it then after a years of talking about it we tried it and loved it and know when she's want to do it again is with my friends only she's very freaked out my strangers Ect what do you think about this , by all means I am happy to do it with them to as its easy to pick a good friend Ect." Quote "We had our first mfm thressome about 3 months ago." Fucken awesome and lucky the two of you. Quote "She always said I am not a fan don't wanna try it." I hate that men must push women like this. SHE SAID SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TRY. oh steam level high. sorry. Quote "Then after a years of talking about it we tried it." You must really love her to take so much time to force her into something she said she did not want to do. Quote "and loved it and know when she's want to do it again" WTF are you saying. What the hell does that mean???? If you were a real man you would ask her to say it in her words. Dude if your woman makes demand on who and when and how she wants sex. You listen. If you feel you must push her to do things she does not want to do, you are a . If she is freaked out you better slow down. Or both of you could just be really stupid. Men do what they want. Men have the balls to move on if they can not. Men never demand or insist what another does not want. Lucky for I think its just your and your cock. BS Hey thanks for your input , as you can read in our profile it said no single guys as we are not looking , we are very new at this and we are taking this very slow atm , she knows shes on the site as we set it up together the reason I am talking about this story is because I am trying to show here there are couples who pick guys from this site to get to know first , its just a huge thrust thing atm,
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RHP User
12 years ago
and let her do the picking. There is lots of great guys on here and most are willing to get to know you before you play, let her take the lead.
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RHP User
12 years ago
U stand the chance of future awkwardness all your worst fears could come true, turn her off pick unwisely 1st time round. U could want that....other than that, live your life as u have, make a choice based on what u know. We've fucked both, some don't work shit happens, we won't bother with them, some do how ever we've got 3 as a couple.....a good recipe is alot of friends from alot of different lifestyles, u do lose a few along the way but gain more. Complex or simple, it is always worth ago, two of ours r complex 1 is simple, as it stands.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am sure there are plenty of men on here happy to oblige with multiple huge thrust things lol :)
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madotara69
12 years ago
Trust is everything, unless someone tells me I am wrong. Though the trust should be that the third person Man/woman, respect your intimacy for what it is. A lady can bare a lot if she begins to feel uncomfortable, she can remain to be accommodating in fear of upsetting a guest (taking one for the team).If the third person is disrespectful to your invitation as a couple, sharing sexual exploration, and attempts to take over the moment (prize grabber). Then you may become witness to your lady becoming lost in the moment, Enjoying or pretending to enjoy. (confronting)Maybe your lady understands this more so, I would take good time to speak with her. You may be very important to her, you need to trust her. Can she trust you?Can she trust that you can hold any moment close for her best interests?Can she trust that you will not buckle under pressure if she is being fucked by a man, that may just want her all to himself? Can she trust you to be smiling with her when she cums for another man?The friends thing makes sense, I believe for the wrong reasons.Mado, Tara xx
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