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Why trying the seduction angle when you’re talking to a couple?

October 22 2017

We often enjoy chatting with people in the chat rooms, but there’s this thing that puzzles me about people in the rooms flattering my partner and, some with poor eyesight me also, and going the whole charm route. I don’t get it. Firstly they compliment me for my partner being gorgeous, which has nothing to do with me. She’s gorgeous but that’s just a fact. Water is wet and I had nothing to do with that either. Secondly I get compliments for “sharing “ her! Like she’s some thing! I usually point out that she’s not mine to share. She’s with me because she wants to be. Thirdly they flatter her and I about our looks and try to charm us about how either one of us could be with them. They don’t seem to get we are a couple looking for laid back witty people for NSA fun. There’s no seduction and romance going on here. Is it just that people are so limited in relating to anyone with sexi in the mix that they don’t have the language to interact other than the romance seduction style of interaction? I’m just wondering. It’s a subtle concept in many ways so others may not notice or care. Anyway, just thought I’d put it out there for comment.

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RHP User

8 years ago

What are you expecting? Wanna root? Happens in clubs/parties too. Men will approach my BF and ask if he minds if they have a go with his wife. His response is similar to yours, that is you will need to ask her.

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DynamicCouple36

8 years ago

In the hopes that this will score brownie points so as to get them what they want- pussy !! We too have seen it in the chatrooms both in here and on other sites, including some of the FB swingers groups. It’s painfully obvious and cliched. We can spot the bait being thrown out miles away. There is a clear pattern & lead up. Whether or not the receiver in question (almost always a female) is attractive and or in good shape or not is irrelevant, the “flattery” is almost always the same, and is, in our opinion shallow and not said with any sincerity at all. It’s intention is clearly to attempt to say things that might get the receiver to be attracted towards them and ultimately into bed. It’s akin to walking up to a 99 year old, obesely overweight toothless granny, and telling her that she is so extremely sexy and that you get turned on by her. Who is going to believe that you actually mean what you say? Perhaps the granny would be utterly flattered....? We have learnt to laugh it off and not take it seriously at all. - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsJonesy

8 years ago

It depends on interpretation. Compliments are not necessarily romantic, and a bit of flattery never goes astray (emphasis on 'a little'). Totally agree with regards to the 'share' comments; that would usually result in a no thanks from me. The chat room can be hard work, I've not been in there for quite awhile because I got sick of being hit with private chat requests and cam requests from men. How to approach people in manner they are comfortable with is difficult to achieve in there...as it is via messages. I think I would prefer a little seduction over the alternative...which is usually hey, wanna meet and fuck? How do you want people to initiate conversation? What are the alternatives?

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RHP User

8 years ago

without seduction? And you're looking for women? Good luck with that

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RHP User

8 years ago

is you're getting toey, worried she'll find a younger love interest? I think you are insecure. To be swinging as a couple, you better be in the right head space because that insecurity will trash your relationship long before she finds that younger love interest, it will drive her away

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RHP User

8 years ago

What would you prefer them to say..? - Posted from rhpmobile

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FeistyFatty

8 years ago

Damned if they do, damned if they don't by the sounds of it. I think it's funny that you actually seem to take everything they say as gospel lol......... I doubt you'd find their communication any more palatable if they were to deliver the unfiltered more truthful version. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

It’s because they are only interested in your wife, not the two of you as a couple.

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RHP User

8 years ago

The majority are generally talking to Jae of course. But even the women speaking with me similarly seem to think that some sort of sexy focus on me as an individual is going to charm me. I'm pretty upfront in conversation and our profile that we're interested in playing as a couple, not two individuals in the same room. Looking for couples or singles to engage with us. If it's a gent then he and I will tease and please my wife. If it's a bi girl then she and I can tease and please Jae and Jae and I can tease and please her. If it's a couple then more of the same. I guess I'm looking to share experiences with my wife, not have experiences at the same time. I've just been surprised that that doesn't seem to be how most couples think or are focused or have experienced this. Doesn't mean their way of looking at things is wrong or anything. Far from it. Just surprised me that my paradigm seems to be most unusual. Anyway I'm appreciating other's responses. Thanks.

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Why trying the seduction angle when you’re talking to a couple?

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