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Why do the guys send messages in the first place?
September 26 2009
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Almost_Ready
16 years ago
Well…. I too read that forum started by MZBeautician, then I went & looked at her profile, in the bottom left of our profiles there is a list of our activities like MZ has added a picture, MZ has made a comment on a particular forum, MZ has started a forum topic etc etc & it seems that just after creating that particular subject MZ updated her profile. I also checked mine but figured it was perfect just the way it is… Anyway back to your question why do guys message / flirt if the profile isn’t quite right. If you don’t ask for it you wont get it, even if you do ask you probably wont get it but you might if you try… think of that Oldog sitting by the side of the dinner table licking my lips watching you eat that steak, I can see it in your eyes Angelic-Blonde you’d chuck me a bit, but if I sat there licking my nuts you’d toss me out. It’s a numbers game, the more you play the more you win ….the stats were posted in MZBeauticians forum I think…. given the type of people this site attracts (no offence to all those types of people .. there are a lot of owner operators out there) you have to expect that there will be some out there that would send a flirt to Lorena Bobbit or Ted Bundy (could be a couple of interesting profiles to try out lol). You just gotta live with it, I rarely send flirts & rarely receive them, but when I do its usually worthwhile. I just spend my time reading the forums & looking at some profiles, I think danny4988 had the best idea he posted a forum “searching for buggalugz” & had every one else chase her for him (hope that one works out) Well that answers your question, think I will go have a look at your profile & send you a flirt see if you reply? Don’t forget every one you miss out on is one you will never catch up on..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hiya,We think this applies to all profiles. Like any others, many a time we are pulled in by a pretty picture(s) only to find a templated profile. Boring. These simply get flicked and we move on. Its a shame people don't see their profile, and what they write in it as a reflection of themselves. Mr. FF
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RHP User
16 years ago
hehe... I am not so superficial to make a judgment on someone's character based solely on their pictures and what they have to say on their profile. It may be something you say on here that inspires me to write to you, for example in which case, I might not read all the proviso that you have placed within the wording of your "WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR'. Besides, not every woman has the beauty of a sunrise, a graceful way with words and a sex addiction Bill Clinton would covet.... As well as a heart of gold... Fact is, sometimes I just might want to meet someone with a heart of gold so that I can feel comfortable knowing that such women exist, irrespective of their looks, libido or objectives for being here..... surely that's enough motivation to continue a search..... to contact someone for the joy of communicating? AND.... so what if guys choose write to people who have nothing inspiring on their profile to say..... AND WHY NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT WOMEN WHO CAN'T BE BOTHERED GIVING A DECENT MAN THE TIME OF DAY FOR A "NO THANKYOU". :p
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RHP User
16 years ago
looking past the photos is ímportant for some people, photos aint everything!!!, we dont expect a 20,000 word essay on ya but something to go off to start a conversation off would be a help, i have left stuff out of my profile for a reason, one of the reasons is cos most people never heard of what sport i do. but have still given enough info 'for a conversation starter'.
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RHP User
16 years ago
i think your on the wrong website i dont wanna sound like a major asshole but... this site is alot to do with sex us guys she a hot chick of course we wanna message and try to get a piece of it ..... yes personality etc is important but in some cercumstances it doesnt matter cos of animel attraction... maybe you should try yes dating .... there you can make friends instead of guys just looking for a root .. PEACE
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RHP User
16 years ago
....but I think that you are missing a couple of important considerations: 1. Lots (not all) of girls & guys are very visual and I think an attractive pic is more than enough to spark initial interest. It's the same as seeing someone that interests you on the street or in a bar. Initially you can't know anything about their personality. You need to get to know them first and then decide if that initial attraction was justified or not. If, on this site, someone's pic appeals to you, how can you get to know them if you don't make some sort of contact??? 2. I'm fine wth a person who bears their soul in their profile (each to their own) but I would never be tempted to contact such a person, for friendship, for sex, for a long-term commitment, for anything really. For me, intrigue is my favourite word. I want to find you intriguing, I want to be curious about you and discover you slowly. Also, being light-hearted and fun are also characteristics that appeal, to me at least. There is plenty of time for soul-bearing later. 3. From listening to MANY guys around here, it doesn't sound like there is anything at all like a "safe bet" on this site. As a wonderfully wise man pointed out the other day, women ARE fickle. And we women are the ones with the PRIVILEGE to be able to pick and choose and I don't like women who abuse that privilege. I understand that often it is impossible to reply to everyone. But please, ladies, do yourselves and everyone else a favour and at least stop complaining about how it's the women who have got it hard. End Rant
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RHP User
16 years ago
because the profile might be totally fictitious. however many fail to think that the photo could be too. son_of_thor I agree you are exactly right. people rant on about what its important is what sort of person they are. The majority of the real world dont work like that. I myself need both. Someone attractive to me, not necessarily attractive to anyone else and a good person inside.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Jeese, you really are beautiful, Sophie.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Im not saying that you shouldn't write to a pretty picture with a non-descriptive profile, just don't be surprised if you don't get a response. It would be like standing in the rain and then complaining about getting wet. If you don't wanna get wet, get out of the rain. Simple. And for the record, according to my profile statistics, I have received 1,750 messages and I have responded with 1,420 reply messages.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Rolls eyes at Thor. Why I have an age limit starting in the 30's. Moving along.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey gang interesting topic Boring profiles lol, why do many women use that Profile maker thing, what a load of crap I don't contact alot of people but the ones I do have at least put some time and thought into their profile. If you use the profile maker it shows me a couple of things.1) The woman can't think of anything intelligent to say about herself.2) The woman thinks that guys are thick and love profiles the same as countless others on here.3) That the woman can not think of anything positive to say about herself. (alarm bells go off)4) The woman is not really serious about meeting someone because they would at least put something original in to get a guy / girl to send them a message.Now that said lol, the Profile Maker thing should be used as a guide to what someone would like to say about themselves then change it up to make it sound original and sincere.Now I will probably get dragged over the coals but firewalking is supposed to be fun isn't it Pierced
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RHP User
16 years ago
They were all just answering her question which was why she is always getting bland emails. There are also lots of people who will message any pretty girl hoping to have a shot with her. I would take a good guess by saying those guys messaging her were not the same people replying to the forum.
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RHP User
16 years ago
But xxMiss_Honeyxx, they leave High school and stop learning at 17, if they stay that long, do you really expect their grammar to improve between then and 30? ;P
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RHP User
16 years ago
is this place not an administrative nightmare for you. How do you have a real life.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Pierced_Knight: Thank you, that is exactly my point. Women with profile like that are either men pretending to be women, women who are paid by RHP t put profiles up to get more men to buy memberships or really not that committed to meeting anyone. Princevaliant: perhaps some of those in that forum were not complaining but I have heard the same complaint from men (and sometimes women) thousands of times. I_watch_yours: are you saying that majority of the world don't care what sort of person you are? Surely majority of the world would care if a man she is thinking about meeting is a serial rapist, or the girl you want to get to know is a drug fucked junkie who's going to steal all your money while you sleep peacefully post coital so she can go and buy her next hit.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wow "I watch yous" 1750 messages AND 1420 replies - I am amazed you replied to more that 50. That is almost a martyr complex in good behaviour. Can you give some idea how many were more than "thanks but no thanks" and if so what it was that got past the wall of crap message - auto response? Angelic_blonde - RHP is just like the real world but without the instant roll of the eyes rejection. Instead it is usually the bottomless void of no reply. It takes a lot less courage for a guy to send a message (expecting it to be ignored) than it is to say hi. Mind there is far more chance a real relationship saying hi than sending 100,000 messages. I suspect at least half the girls on here are guys - either trying to figure out what sort of crap the women are receiving and stealing any good stuff or just bored and wanting to mess with peoples heads. The really sick ones are pretending to be a couple but the partner just isn't available at the moment. P.S. If a drug fucked junkie could put together a vaguely coherent profile that even admited who and what she is she would probably get 50 to 100 messages a day from guys who range from "lets get together anyway" to "I'll help save you from your terrible situation" and then they would get on the forum complaining how they had their wallet stolen post coital (if they got that far). Reminds me of the story of a prostitute that hit the dating sites pretending to be married and after an affair - lining up men to meet at a hotel as long as they paid half the room fee. 7 or 8 guys later and it is a very well paid for room.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Miss Honey, you might want to consider lowering your age limit to include mc21283. The boy can spell real well, among other things ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Stop it Sister Sophie, You're going to make me blush..... Any chance you'l lower your age limits, and does Schizophrenia mean I qualify as a Couple??? ;P
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well well well MC....if you can convince Miss Honey to get all wet with us under your Dirty Shower (I suggest purchasing a ruler to help with that :P).... then I'd say you qualify summa cum laude ;-) LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
angelic-blonde: come on now predators write the best profiles and say the best things and have the best photos. Profiles are not the person. what I am saying is in the real world its all about outward appearance. Even on here its like that. Tell me which girl gets the most messages an ugly or a glamour.
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RHP User
16 years ago
hehe.. That hilarious young man from Tapping (please invite him along too, Missy :p) ... is calling you "Sister Sophie"... Sophie_74 your cover is blown... lolz... hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
You were the first to out me as Sister Sophie, remember??? :P Now everyone will think I am sadistic BDSM bitch from Hell.... boy will they be disappointed when they get me into bed!!! :P LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
MC wasn't his spelling, was the content...right up there with the messages ya get reading "wanna root call me"? How did I get back to this thread?...oh finks it was Sophies cute bot bot. Oooops late for school. xx Miss Honey xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'd write to you Sophie based purely on yr profile pic....it's a killer !! Dog.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah, babes in boy shorts, dog. I love it. HUgs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
another aspect to the debate on messaging is the fact that this site heavily censores profiles it doesnt like.i have be warned and my profile changed at least 3 times by these tin gods .so to stay on you have to blend in .once you realise you have to do it,the realisation hits you that others may have experienced the same draconian treatment and then you are forced to ignore the profile content.in the end its a crap site because of the trickery previously mentioned to gleen money out of unsuspecting people ,so i hope to recognise some of you on sites of better exchange or chat.the flirts are merely to acknowledge you and hope we cross paths or you can get me useable contact details.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I ever contacted a woman based solely on her looks, when i had a solo profile. I was more interested in what they had to say about themselves, and if i honestly thought i would want to get to know them.If they had used the generic profile builder...it was...NEXT, because i figured they were either to illiterate to write something original, or they were tooo lazy to put in a modicum of effort, or they were too busy , in which case you can bet they won't make time to meet you!If they used the ASK ME response, i would think, " what are you hiding"....so again... NEXT!If i liked what they wrote, i was always prepared to chance a meeting even without a pic.The hottest woman i ever met up with didn't have a pic, and she was everything she said she was and much much more, from looks through to personality to ability in the bedroom! but there some times when the reverse applied as well!Cheers Nev
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