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Why do people not respond to your enquiries
April 12 2023
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RHP User
3 years ago
strap yourself in Maracus
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lets_have_fun
3 years ago
Yep, happens all the time. I estimate that 20% don't even read the message, 75% read but don't reply. The remaining 5% will actually reply. I'd imagine a good female profile gets dozens of messages daily, which is intimidating and daunting by itself (especially if you are an introvert). To make it worse, most of them are generics that didn't even bother to read the profile, and some are straightaway rude. It's like when you get endless messages from recruiters on linkedin - most of them never even bother to read past your current employment, not mentioning matching skill sets - irritating, isn't it? I can understand why some people don't want to bother wading through this goo of words to reply with even a generic "no thanks", though I don't approve - I think replying is the right thing to do if the message is at least semi-decent.
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Felicitous
3 years ago
There are some great threads about this - if you search 'no reply' some have over 100 comments. It's a continuous and contentious issue. I suggest wading through those... so you have a better understanding of the 'whys' Arguments made on both sides are valid.. but on here 'no reply' is a clear 'not interested' Women don't want to engage in the response. As a female who does reply but then needs to mostly hide to curb the messages . Here's a few reasons why I completely understand others not responding. 1. MOST men / couples who might send a 'lovely' message are wonderful about being rejected... But I'd say 5-10% are utterly disparaging, rude, and hurtful when knocked back. I am barraged with name-calling, slut shamming slurs and DIC pics.. it gets very nasty and very ugly very quickly. Another 35-45% just don't accept the rejection - see it as an opportunity to chat further or question why (never wise to enter into that discussion) they can be relentless in re messaging and eventually get blocked. When most messages start nicely how are we to tell who's going to morph into the above? Honestly sometimes I'm tempted to not engage also 2. Time - if left on 'active' it's entirely possible to get over 70 messages a day. If ones actually not 'on here' all the time that compounds and becomes impossible to keep up with. 3. The disparity on here. Some couples and women may only occasionally partake in 'others' so they are spoilt for choice and they can be picky about who they want to engage with... coupled with the reasons above they choose to not engage with the majority. There are many many more reasons. But basically no response is another form of rejection without the engagement. Is it shit when you've taken the time to read a profile and craft a well thought out message.. absolutely. Rejection is horrible no matter how it's 'buttered' up. Is it rude / egotistical / lacking manners etc... I absolutely don't think so... It's more a form of self and time preservation. It just is how it is on here and it's wise to try understand so as to not take it personally or allow it to erode self esteem. V
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Ex007
3 years ago
I assume most women here are looking for a particular type of person. My profile is written in a way so as to find the particular type of person I'm looking for. Unless the messager has actually read my profile in full I won't reply. I've embedded a very simple request in my profile and if that request is not in the opening message I'm not wasting my time. Sometimes I'll reply with “I don't think you've read all of my profile”. Sometimes I'll get a smart-arse reply “I read the bits that were important to me.” This type of reply tells me they are either trying to use humour to deflect from their inability to be an intelligent human. Or they have a complete disregard for boundaries. Both will get them nowhere. This topic has been posted many times, if you use the search tool you will find many helpful comments.
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RHP User
3 years ago
We get a lot of messages, too many to reply to all so here's a few reasons why we don't. Huge distance away. Short one word message. No clear photos. Only photos of the female half. No photos at all. Unverified. Out of our age range. Messages have been deleted before we've read them. Messages have been deleted and we've forgotten what was said. Crude or sexual first message (usually happens in the chat from single men and gets an instant block) Profile doesn't match what we're looking for ie single male, couple that only does soft swap, girls play while guys watch. One of us doesn't find the profile attractive. We both don't find the profile attractive. The latter two we will try and reply if they've made an effort with everything else but sometimes life gets in the way. In the end no one is obliged to respond, sometimes people don't respond to us but we don't like to waste time wondering why.
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time4us4play
3 years ago
Unfortunately when we say “no thanks” we get abused hurled at us. We don’t owe anyone a response, but if your profile and message is interesting we we respond.
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time4us4play
3 years ago
#we will respond.
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boobsandbusted
3 years ago
🍿🍿🍿
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RHP User
3 years ago
Thankyou all who have taken the time and responded
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FeistyFatty
3 years ago
In short, they don't owe you one sadly.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I don't like being rude when someone has made the effort but when you receive so many messages it gets a little overwhelming some days. In saying that some messages also don't warrant a response.
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madotara69
3 years ago
Let’s say for example you send us a message today… In a week, maybe a month from today we feel a bit toey and look to the messages, spontaneous yes, ready to play up and a window of opportunity You may be the one we reply too, if so then once we have begun a friendship, it’s forever we would like to be friends with you. Hope this makes some sense for understanding just us. Mado Mado Tara xx
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
You are not entitled to an answer. No answer is your answer.
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OpalRose
3 years ago
I was reading this thread. I looked at your profile to see who started the thread. You looked at mine, and five seconds later sent a ‘hi sexy’ message. You didn’t read my profile at all. You went by images only.
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Sawadee
3 years ago
Appears many find it much easier to find reasons not to reply than it is to reply.. ? If every message is looked at with suspicion it's no wonder replys are so few and far between.... Just the way it is here ?
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CuriousAsianCpl
3 years ago
You're not entitled to a reply, especially if you aren't what the person/couple you've messaged is looking for. Your profile and initial message needs to give a good reason to engage. If not, then no reply is your reply.
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boobsandbusted
3 years ago
maybe just think ,ok I’m not what they are looking for ,cos if I was ,they would have replied ,the fact they didn’t ,means your not ,it’s actually pretty simple believe it or not Mr b
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EarthQueen
3 years ago
Wouldn't it be better to get no reply than many saying "No, not interested". If someone reads your profile and you aren't for them that's why there's no reply. Either way its a no, so does it really. matter? Not everyone wants to chat with someone they aren't interested in and that's fine.
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lets_have_fun
3 years ago
I actually have a somewhat related question too. What is the motivation of people who claim to be interested but then barely maintain any conversation, at best replying with single words or short phrases? In my understanding, if you are actually interested you want to establish an acquaintance as soon as possible, if not - then say so and don't waste your own and anyone else's time. Am I missing something?
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Kattere_70
3 years ago
I don’t see messages from single guys or girls as that’s not what I’m looking for, so the site filters the messages and puts them in a separate folder … which for 6 months I didn’t even know existed … so now from time to time I go through it 😊
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RHP User
3 years ago
As a female who has used a variety of sites , I personally don't reply to all messages but usually for the following reasons. 1. The person lives far away and just wants to sext. Which isn't my thing. 2. I get a lot of messages that just say 'Hey' or 'Hi' - I will usually reply 3 or 4 times but if the guy is putting in the minimum amount of effort and I have to force the conversation, then I don't have the time or energy to continue. 3. Sometimes the person based on their profile is just not my time - I used to send polite replies saying thank you but no thank you. but I ended up coping lots of abuse and name calling so I just stopped . Also if it makes you feel any better use women often don't get replied to either . I figure if it's meant to be , it's meant to be ...and keep looking :)
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RHP User
3 years ago
The reason why is in my profile, but no one reads that. But I guess that's a completely separate issue and an invalid response.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Most I find are from interstate with absolutely no intention of meeting up so I don't know why they waste there time and no I don't reply to people outside of my state.
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Makin_Waves
3 years ago
I think we should start a column and name and shame everyone of them that doesn’t bother to reply it really pisses us off
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Sxceey
3 years ago
Because they don't want to respond 🤷🏽♀️
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RHP User
3 years ago
If people expecting a reply can’t read an entire profile first then it’s your own problem. Your expectations are not someone else’s problem
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SugarSugar69
3 years ago
I usually don’t reply due to they haven’t read my profile properly. Can’t read then I won’t bother replying, it’s that simple.
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Makin_Waves
3 years ago
This site is full of people like that . We should have a page where they are named and shamed . It’s totally disrespectful.if they are not here to meet and play then ban them from the site!
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RHP User
2 years ago
I tend to agree as there are some on here who are respectful and reply “ hey thanks for your message but not what we I am looking for good luck with your search” which I do also , but I also get people connecting me interested and i respond and they vanish? Umm you contacted me, odd
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hornyfarmers
2 years ago
In our scenario, being premium you only get 10 messages/conversations to use in a day. Sometimes we simply don't have the message to spare to send the no thank you. I would rather use that message on someone we're interested in, especially if the person is not what we've stated we are looking for. Rejection messages actually hurt the self confidence more than being ignored, even though I do appreciate the honesty.
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RHP User
2 years ago
Probably because people either get one liners or an essay with 5000 words !
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