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Why didn't you go back for more..?
January 09 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was crap in bed, was one of those YAWN moments. Also was told how he would have to put it in real slow as he was soooooo big that he didn't want to hurt me, well need I say any more 😏 next. I have also been totally into someone and had the most amazing chemistry but sadly it cannot be, I still ache for him 😥
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Been around too long and had it all except the last one. Dud roots, kids, distance, and baggage (luggage compartment is full of my cases and skeletons). But been lucky in that if have wanted relationship they have wanted to reciprocate. Maybe my defence mechanism prevented any other outcome. Not saying it's been smooth sailing, hurt comes by lots of different ways
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never to ring a male after. When he liked me he will contact me again when not....so be it. When he contact's me again and I liked the person I say yes when I have the time, when I didn't I let him know. I know this sounds one sided.......and I handle it this way because most man are scared when you ring them after because they think you want a relationship......puzzles me..... And maybe someday you find a kindred spirit where "relationship" crosses your mind.....but this is a two way stream and will develop slowly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The meeting was good, had fun and could not say what was bad or wrong, but the parting words ring as hollow. "Lets do it again sometime." knowing full well that it will never happen again. There is no loss, nothing to lament, but just two ships passing in the night. Maybe luck would see us passing again, but the bearing I head does not consider your port. Yet there are times when it is not that good, and I know why, what a waste of time. But then next thing you know I am back their again. Is it because there is a glimmer that there could be more, could it be just selfish needs, or just that I find it hard to say NO? Without the positive of mutual attraction I can not find my self giving more than what is offered. I did once meet a young lady and attractive, successful, like minded kinky, and such instant and trusted fun. Best friends the moment we meet. Nothing could hold me back I wanted more, and it was such. Yet something was not right, and she would without reason turn into a stranger that I did not know. There was still the smile but it was cold. This I could not handle, and for me I had to turn my back, not wanting to, not at all. The last time we parted and with so much joy that night before, I kissed her knowing but not wanting, that it was the last time. I could not go back, my heart is to brittle to handle the constant movement from hot to cold.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Never to ring a male after. When he liked me he will contact me again when not....so be it. When he contact's me again and I liked the person I say yes when I have the time, when I didn't I let him know. I know this sounds one sided.......and I handle it this way because most man are scared when you ring them after because they think you want a relationship......puzzles me..... And maybe someday you find a kindred spirit where "relationship" crosses your mind.....but this is a two way stream and will develop slowly. Am puzzled too now Litonya Doesn't seem logical to me either
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I haven't gone back for more with. 3 to be exact and they were all the same no kissing (but one licked my face) got head but didn't give rubbed my clit dry then 4 maybe 5 strokes and they were done I was left high and dry and feeling very used I really was just a hole (not even a particularly wet one) for their dicks. two of them contacted me afterward expecting a repeat... They were surprised by the no response. I don't always not repeat if the first time is a bit awkward as it can take time to build into amazing sex. It's more about the overall feel of the encounter like these guys just radiated "it's all about me, I don't really find you attractive but you have a vagina" and like litonya I don't always contact a guy after, sometimes I will if I thought it was particularly good between us. I used to do all the follow up but soon got sick of that. I really am not a chaser.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess, that I've just worked out how to screen my experience well... for me. The only woman I have never gone back for..... was perhaps 5 years ago.She looked fantastic, corporate elegance, great banter, highly intelligent, and was a beautiful woman inside and outside. But...... there was her scent. Thats one thing you just can't screen for until the point of no return. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I generally don't go back for more. But.....if i choose to, my husband and I have agreed that three times is the max. For those that find it hard to separate sex from love, they could develop feelings if you go back again and again. I've been in this situation once before. He kept texting and texting me....asking over and over again 'do you like me' and if so 'how much do you like me' etc etc. It was awkward and I felt somewhat responsible for the predicament (maybe three times was too much in that instance). I guess ultimately it depends on your own circumstances, tolerance and how great the sex was!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
but also agree with the 3 rule of JessicaRabbit101
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Plain280
11 years ago
I have been with a couple of ladies that as we chatted, ok as soon as we got to the bedding stage. What are we doing? Not me or her, just this mutual hang on a minute this aint going to happen thing occurs. So we get dressed and discussed it and worked out nice to talk to entertaining even, would I honestly bed him or her not really gelling for that and attempting to go through the motions and being honest about it. I also have gone through with the whole business once and did not enjoy the encounter at all, actually put me off the Adult Dating for awhile. Honesty pays more to your self esteem than anything.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
There has been a couple where I didn't pursue further contact for very specific reasons... One wouldn't respect my boundaries. They exist for a reason and if they're not honored, I'm not going back for more. The other.... we ran out of steam. Sometimes sexual friendships have a life expectancy and we reached ours. We're still good platonic friends and in regular contact.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe it is about the age of the men Litonya sees, I assume men in their 50s? Maybe they feel that women that call them afterwards are too forward? I may text a person to say something saucy, them leave it up to them usually. Freya, I have had a few encounters which unintentionally ended up being one night stands. I think it is more that I very occasionally will jump in with a why not attitude without taking the time to see if there really is a strong chemistry... that is maybe spending some time smooching first maybe?? Anyway, it's one of those things, the sexual attraction somehow didn't make it as far as the bedroom. My miscalculation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Crusty bread is fine I can eat that any time...Any thing else should not be crusty...
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RHP User
11 years ago
That doesn't sound very satisfactory. I remember watching a couple at OSS swingers club and having a little laugh to myself. I have never really had a jack rabbitter before, but I was watching this guy rooting this woman and he was going so fast I thought her pussy would catch fire. I sat down to watch because I wanted to see how long he could keep it up. Well.......... a long friggin time. He must have been so fit, I thought most men would get a stitch after pumping so fast like that. Anyway, the poor woman wasn't impressed, there she was on her back legs straight up in the air, looking at everything else but him, she was clearly utterly bored. He didn't even seem to notice. He was a man with a mission and he wasn't going to allow anything to distract him. He had the nine yard stare and he didn't even look at the woman in the face the whole time. I wondered if they were married or had only met that night. I couldn't tell.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I feel my screening techniques are good but screening to make sure they rock your socks off in bed???? Words mean nothing, actions do, so not sure how you would screen that. I have found that the ones who talk themselves up the most are the ones who don't quite deliver. You just never can tell until you sample the wares.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You is wicked...too funny 😃xx Freya
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RHP User
11 years ago
it would be my view that those that need to talk themselves up to the point of being annoying are usually the ones trying to convince themselves.... Not you... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh I totally agree, I don't buy into the hype, I am usually doing some major eye rolling when it happens Quoting 'sir_stir' it would be my view that those that need to talk themselves up to the point of being annoying are usually the ones trying to convince themselves.... Not you... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
11 years ago
One didn't want a repeat with me, all is good. One I won't repeat again but I'm going to own some responsibility. I SHOULD HAVE spoken up, I'm upset that I didnt. Very much as MissB has said, I don't think he even touched my pussy let alone rubbing it dry. I don't give to receive but I felt completely unappreciated and I faked it, the first and only time :( . Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
when there's obvious compatibility, they tick all the right profile boxes, are approachable and available, the conversation and connection flows, but then you discover there is no sexual chemistry. Or the opposite, the chemistry is red hot, you ache to feel each other's naked body, but you can't relate other than physically or one of you is still hung up on an ex, or steps straight back into the busyness of life, or is just passing through never to return. Chemistry x compatibility x timing is a powerful equation, albeit very elusive.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'funbuns43' I feel my screening techniques are good but screening to make sure they rock your socks off in bed???? Words mean nothing, actions do, so not sure how you would screen that. I have found that the ones who talk themselves up the most are the ones who don't quite deliver. You just never can tell until you sample the wares. Well, maybe because often men set the pace of most first sexual encounters so therefore they will usually find the sex good or good enough as one assumes they make the effort when they are very attracted to the woman. OR is that a gross over generalization? Well, I am sure it is but I don' t mean that in a bad way. Would most women take a bit of a back seat in the first sexual encounter and let the guy dictate the play... ,the first time? Thoughts?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes food for thought. I can only go by how I am on my first encounters and I would say yes maybe I can take a back seat if I'm not feeling it but more often than not I won't. I have at times taken control in those situations when I felt it was lacking, last thing I want to be is a starfish. :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
My fat fingers strike again, Meeka not Meeja 😳
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive done a few 360's in the past,after ive had a great mutual hookup,( that could have become an occasional repeat.) One guy text me the next day to ask why i was back online so quickly after spending a great night with him.And... even suggested that i should stop looking and close my profile!! ( And yet he had obviously also been online to notice that I was) That turned me off any continued contact, I dont need someone to tell me what to do within 24hrs. One guy i spent 2 weekends in a row with, started talking about "our" future plans. He had my next 12 months planned out for me. So that freaked me out, and I pulled away from contact again. I cant see why ppl ( not just women) cant just relax and enjoy the connections and mutual appriciation of each other if you both had a great time and want to do it again. Being a FB (for me personally)doesnt mean it has to be every week,(or exclusive)it could be every couple of months that you see them again.Maybe its me being older now, im more laid back and chilled in my approach and expectations.Or maybe because of the way we have met on here,and fast forward getting to know each other with the focus mainly on sex, then skipping the dating and getting straight into the wild thing makes some peoples emotions/feelings all upside down and inside out and a little bit too full on too quickly? I dunno.lol. Its too much energy to analyse it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Her name is angela and yep I'd go back for much much more :) we simply connected at the highest of levels when sexual encounters came into play :)) never a dull session... Such is life we find we play then we drift away...
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RHP User
11 years ago
if you don't make a good one with me, I am not going back to be disappointed a second time. First impressions count for a lot with me and if someone isn't willing to try to make themselves look good the first time, then I doubt that any other time is going to be any better. If they talk themselves up then don't deliver, then I am harsh and will tell them as such, I am much more forgiving if someone hasn't claimed to be a Greek god in bed because there is no expectation or pretense. Some guys just need to know when to shut the fuck up. As Funbuns said, actions speak louder than words.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...and interesting.Thanks for posting.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wouldn't a little of it be very refreshing 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I also wanted to express is. Because I am not contemplating a relationship and I am not after sensation and more sensation, I am ok with SEX. And as I am not in love with the person, in a way it doesn’t matter. I come across great males and I like them, but that's it, sex is fine, I don't need a mind-blowing fuck every time, but how do you get this across to a male when they are frightened you " want" something from them. And as Meeka said most males I meet are older, that’s my preference, they have been often in long relationships/ marriages and don’t know what I am saying or expressing. BUT, should I fall in love with a man, and it could happen, I am not over the hill yet, then it is a different ballgame. And even there I don't know how to approach that. Haven’t had a relationship or was in love since 17 years, I wouldn't even know how to go about it.Hahaha, I am sitting here at 2.43am couldn’t sleep. I wouldn’t even know what I have to say to a man.....do you want to be my boyfriend? Can you please fall in love with me? Am I your girlfriend now??? I have no idea anymore.......my last boyfriend was my late husband in 1980. Hahahaah, I think I am a nuts this morning.So I need help to approach something like that....I mean it could come my way.....this falling in love....and then......????? I wouldn’t know what to say......
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RHP User
11 years ago
cos her eggs were over cooked, bacon was crispy like biscuits.... 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
If it's no good, I don't go back.......💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
no going back for me,is when my body is engaged but my mind is somewhere else...I feel that it wouldn't matter who I was,he is having sex with all the women he has had sex with before,bossy men,do this,do that..meh..And phoning a friend 😒xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' cos her eggs were over cooked, bacon was crispy like biscuits.... 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile Crispy bacon is to die for, but overcooked eggs, nup, deal breaker.
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