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Why are women in Australia shy in coming forward ???
September 25 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dont cook so all I can say is come up to my house and I will show you my etchings then rip your clothes off but then I have no bleedin culture like those swanky european women besides I like my men Alpha me the wabbit them the hound
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RHP User
13 years ago
But I don’t think a man should be less Alpha just because the woman is independent and sexually free to take a lead.....just seems a very naturally thing in this part of the globe.....I like the simplicity of it....that is all
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RHP User
13 years ago
is full of messages after this post, Fuzzless one...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it would be fair to say that most Australians are pretty conservative on the whole. And women have been conditioned to allow men to take the lead or at least they feel that men should take the lead when it comes to asking people out. I have lots of girlfriends that wouldn't dream of asking a guy out. I don't see the problem with it myself. I very rarely do it & maybe I am not as forward as asking a guy around to my place first up like in your story Nofuzz but I would suggest going out. Safety is also issue for most women. I found in the US that men easily asked women out on dates whereas Australian men are not so forthcoming with the dinner invitations either! Maybe we should all start asking more!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these.
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playful4u
13 years ago
I totally agree with you NoFuzz. I (Mr) was amazed when I travelled to London at how direct the girls would be in approaching me for a conversation or just flirting, even a good snog at a party. I mentioned this to a friend of mine (from Perth who was living in London) how forward the UK girls are , he said "I know, isn't it great".
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RHP User
13 years ago
EvertheOptimist, where's your optimism. Cheers Felonious
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' They do.Ok, "some"..... do.... for two very different reasons.However..... generally speaking, women DO need a man to BE a man, and take the lead in any interaction..... simply because this takes the responsibility off her shoulders and removes the likelihood of being judged for her potentially forward attitude. I must be in a fiesty mood because this comment also gets my back up. We NEED you to take the lead in any interaction? You are kidding! What, are we still in the 50's and I haven't realised?? Judged for being forward!?!Maybe this is a generation gap thing....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'EVERTHEOPTIMIST' Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these. Mate, you have absolutely nothing in your profile not even a picture??? Why would a woman show any interest in some random email she received from a total stranger that they know nothing about who says nothing about themselves? It's annoying.... why should I a woman be interested in that??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like my men alpha. I'm more than happy to take the lead from time to time, but first I need to know he's man enough to take the lead.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Australian women can afford to be reserved. You only have to look at the ratio of men to women on RHP. I have no idea what that number is, but when women are saying they are getting a overwhelming response to their profiles, I guess there's a shit load of guys in here... let alone out in the real world hitting onto women.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's all about fear of rejection plain and simple
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think DG has done too much 'research' from behind the computer and not enough in the real world. I totally disagree that men need to 'take the lead in any interaction'.... meh what does that say about women in general in this day and age, let alone on a site such as this. I smell a very well hidden but faint stench of mysogyny!
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RHP User
13 years ago
so now I am coming again with this boring comment. Go to europe and call a women a "Girl" in any sexual contence I think they slap you. Maybe thats just the culutre I am from. In Germany men would never say this to a women no way.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe i'm in the minority but i'm comfortable in asking a guy for coffee....dinner.....or more. Don't get me wrong......i love a man who takes control....but i'm not willing to sit back and wait....and hope......and wait....and hope..... All too many Aussie guys are slow off the mark - LOL....or maybe they're just not that into me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe i'm in the minority but i'm comfortable in asking a guy for coffee....dinner.....or more. Don't get me wrong......i love a man who takes control....but i'm not willing to sit back and wait....and hope......and wait....and hope..... All too many Aussie guys are slow off the mark - LOL....or maybe they're just not that into me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Mate, you have absolutely nothing in your profile not even a picture??? Why would a woman show any interest in some random email she received from a total stranger that they know nothing about who says nothing about themselves? It's annoying.... why should I a woman be interested in that?? Exactly Meeka ...thats why I didnt respond to Evertheoptimist on the two occassions his contacted me in the past. (he didnt meet my criteria) .....does that make me up myself ???...apparently..............but based on what he wrote above...Im glad I didnt.... Like others I prefer my man to be alpha however Im not adverse to asking men out either.....and have done so in the past...must be the American in me where in my culture it is encouraged......however Ive had my fair share of knockbacks....(asked a bloke out 3 weeks ago...he stood me up approx 30 minutes before kicked off.)......and it does deflate the ego somewhat...and of late...havent found anyone to get bent out of shape about, so life goes on .....ah well...Im enjoying "Big Bang Theory series 4" on DVD ................and lets face it..can any man surpass Sheldon ???
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RHP User
13 years ago
I adore women who will approach me, even if it's only to have a chat. It speaks volumes to me.It says they are either confident enough, or have the balls tomake the first move, and it says strength of character.If theres two things that really make me interested ina woman it's strength of character and intellect.These qualities can be found in select women of any age.Namby pamby, wishy washy...not so much.Cheers Felonious
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'EVERTHEOPTIMIST' Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these.sorry hon if that is your perception of me. Fair enough
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RHP User
13 years ago
I will flirt, make eye contact and I hope he will know that I am interested in him. I have ask me out or to bed more than a few times, but I much prefer a man to lust after me its what turns me on. I am assertive in all other way, where it counts and once in bed well then I do ask , for what I want. I can understand why a person would think I am up myself if they judged me by posts or by my lack of interest in them. Its just the way it is with internet interaction. I have not had a man say that to my face when they meet me, or when they are up me either I cannot control what others think of me , especially on the net its just the way it is. Australian men can be also thought of as more into hanging with their mates rather than talking to a woman, thats why when the usa fleet hits town the women just swim out to the ships. The usa boys are more than happy to seduce the ausie women and the women are glad of it. so it works both ways hey Velvet how about fleet day in NYC? WHOOOO WHOOOOO
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RHP User
13 years ago
Where men are men and the women know it????? . Bahahaha. I have never in my life had any difficulty at all in getting my point of interest across. Not now nor when I was younger. . I have absolutely no NEED for a man at all. I like to have my current partner in my life because he compliments me in so many ways and is my best friend. He is most definately an Alpha male and guess what? I approached him. Yes, I sent him a flirt on line, sent him the first message and suggested the first date. When it came to sex, I gently took my very big, very strong and undeniably masculine man by the hand and led him into MY bedroom. . MischeiviousLad....I have never felt the need for another to take responsibility for any of my actions, be it man or woman and if others wish to judge me....they may, I simply do not care! . I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR! . Evertheoptomist.....if you do not have a pic, your profile is very basic and you harass me up to three times a day...I would ignore you as well. Cyberstalker! If you message or flirt me once or twice and I do not respond then consider it an indication that I am not interested, accept it, move on.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Led to me now now living just down the road from you in Mandurah - Western Australia !!!.......................um where ? Silly what one silly little flirt and kiss (on my part I may add, so hell I can be forward, confident and assertive...you would love be Felnious.....) can lead to !!!...oh yeah..change of countries !!!! Ah Fleet Week...got me into ALOT of trouble !!!! I wanna go home !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fear of rejection!! This is only one instance that you state and yes you rejected her I have been rejected before but not taken it too much to heart, but it does slow you up on the next time. I wouldnt approach a stranger though it takes more confidence than I have.But Tuscans comment on aussie men is what i want to post about next ......might have to wait till I get back from holidays though, dont want to miss the replies. Quoting 'tuscanred' Australian men can be also thought of as more into hanging with their mates rather than talking to a woman, thats why when the usa fleet hits town the women just swim out to the ships. The usa boys are more than happy to seduce the ausie women and the women are glad of it. so it works both ways
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well Said Hun..I agree totally Good for You :) Cheers Lu
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Hun I like the way you replied to evertheoptimis..it was fair but straight to the Point ..Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a new motto of "seize the day". If I'm out of town I love to push myself out of my comfort zone of approaching a stranger...and not always with the intent of sex . I'm often at hotels by myself so ill start up conversations with other lone business travelers. Have met some really interesting people My all time favourite was when I could not resist this delicious young man at the beach so I went up to him and started a conversation. He was a traveller from France, we swapped numbers went out ....and had an incredible time...turns out he was a part time escort at home. No of course he didn't charge me! Minxy x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ms VB,I think most men would surpass Sheldon !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'facefirst'I think DG has done too much 'research' from behind the computer and not enough in the real world. I totally disagree that men need to 'take the lead in any interaction'.... meh what does that say about women in general in this day and age, let alone on a site such as this. I smell a very well hidden but faint stench of mysogyny! I agree that I would not want a guy to take the lead in "any interaction". But it can be very sexy to be lead. And after spending some quality time with DG very recently, I can only say: This guy loves women!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can’t walk into a pub / club, or go to the shops without women of all descriptions, rushing up to me and wanting a piece of my action. It gets very expensive, what with all the ripped clothes and everything. And their maniacal grabbing at my cock, leaves it quite swollen at times. I wish they were shy, and just patiently wait to be noticed by me.It would save them a lot of hysteria. Know their place.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Last week as i was at Sydney Airport, travelling back home very early n the morning , still half sleeppy after big nite out (friends's party) and not looking my Best at all, sat at the Airport lounge area and saw few people mostly people who were ready to do their interstate business and here i was sitting there with my big sunnies at 5 am,in the morning and slightly feelin confused and super tired, i saw few men wearing suits and looked very handsome but never thought much of it ( but having say thisthere is one particular man stands out,he was young and handsome...again i didnt think much of him either other than, yeah you looking good boy )..anyway, plane landed at destination and we were all back at the Airport once more, as i walked back to the luggage collection someone whispered and breathing almost on my neck, and said " would you like to have a coffee with me sometimes ,when you free?...i turned around and saw the same gorgeous blond in suit i saw earlier..cant believe my eyes, but its happening...cut long story short, we exchanged fone numbers and we meet up the same nite, had great time together and i found out he was A 29 y.o German definitely beautiful inside-out , warm, kind, and gentleman...the next day he invited me for 2 hours lunch ( no sex, hiks,hiks... ) before he had to leave south that afternoon, and me leaving for my home country the next day after, we now planned to see each other again when i come back to Australia and he is moving to my Town with his work ...the moral of this story is that i just love the European directness so refreshing, who would've thought at 6 am in the morning and didnt even care how shitty i looked that day, still came up and approached me , thats just amazing when he looked that good,hmm !.. i am sure God was with me that morning, and when i asked him why me?.. he said, i just loved the colour of your skin and how you were ,... and i said " Hallelujah "....now i cant wait to get back to OZ so i can see him again..2 more weeks b4 OZ...aahhh !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
The same lines as misspoppins. For many, the fear of rejection is massive price to pay. Along with being laughed at and humiliated by some men's utter disrespect, it hurts not just women's pride but also that of a male in theoptimists case as well. I've got a very good friend of mine who received a text message that simply read "no thanks." At the point of meeting her date for a coffee on the first meet. While this can happen on both sides, the rejection can be a little too much for some to WANT to put their heads in the noose.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Im going to add what trax49 obviously forgot in his post.......lots of laughing faces. Because any man in a white g-hammock just cant be taken seriously. RAAAAAAOOOOOOWWWWW !!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'EVERTHEOPTIMIST' Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these.i have to disagree with you here mate!i sent a message to a woman on july 20th and two weeks ago she sent me a message asking if i wanted to meet for a drink.have met her twice now and we are going out for dinner in two weeksand also dont forget the ratio of guys to girls on here!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'EVERTHEOPTIMIST' Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these. Mate, you have absolutely nothing in your profile not even a picture??? Why would a woman show any interest in some random email she received from a total stranger that they know nothing about who says nothing about themselves? It's annoying.... why should I a woman be interested in that?? Meeka, I agree wholeheartedly - a guy in my state emailed me with a few words, I ignored it along with the other 20+ shitty one liners I got that week from guys with a RHP generated profile and no pics. If you can't put the effort in to make it WORTH replying then fuck off and don't call me shallow because when you finally DO put pics up, I respond. I have asked a guy on a date before and he ran away with his tail between his les. I lumped all men in the same boat after that, can't handle a woman being confident and actually propositioning a man for a night of dinner and possibly sex. This is an interesting topic because I am SICK and TIRED of waiting to be asked out, yet if i ask someone out they shit their pants...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don’t give up.....Just because someone decline/didn’t show up/or whatever should not make you less confident and shy.That is the whole point. To be confident in yourself that you can ask somebody out and be perfectly OK if they decline.It is a common scenario for most guys. But it does not stop us (some of us at least) to keep having a go when there is something that interest us ( talking about myself here).You look adorable....I am surprise that you don’t have more proposals....Keep it up
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe a cultural difference.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like being the Alpha. But would not mind if a lady asked me out. I like confident ladies who know what they want and aren't affraid to go out and get it. Hey i'm a male and have an ego and nothing better for a mans ego than have a lady asking him out.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They are just sick of guys who have no idea , sending messages with dick shots / no names / stupid lines / badly dressed etc. yes many are rude...like optimist says... maybe if the guys acted like men , not lapdogs to any girl they find...the girls would have to do some chasing of their own ;) B
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have recently got some flirts from a guy who complains to the max about not getting contact on here. He has sent me tons of flirts and I always reply with no thank you. In the end I sent him a message back and again nice note no thank you. Still more flirts So I say listen, your not for me but maybe you might like to come to the rhp meet and greet at the gallery , in a week or so. You could meet some others in the flesh and maybe find a woman that is attracted to you. In a social setting kinda thing as he has no picture and not much on his profile I get this back. " Why don’t I just come down to your house and Fuck your brains out? " I said sure, my husband carries a glock to work, I will get him to answer the door. Some guys just make it so hard for themselves at times. I kinda feel sorry for em. Gentlemen: Please just follow the same rules you would in any normal social situation. Be prepared to get no interest if you have no face picture or nothing in your profile. Its not only an advertise yourself its also a safety thing for women. Or you could be someone we know, like a friend of one of my kids. Perth is pretty small. And NO means NO, this does not mean you can insult us because we did not find you what were looking for.
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RHP User
13 years ago
in my belief I think it is because we are a young country. Suppression of woman has not long left us and as we inherit more male dominated cultures it does not help woman feel confident. I also realise European counties have a greater populace than our own and perhaps the less confident woman stay indoors. I am only 48 and I remember growing up as a teenager in a male dominated society whereby if a female "cried" rape it was seen as "she is provocative and asked for it" this, now days is seen as confidence. (Food for thought)I remember there were not so many working mums and a woman was "meant" to home looking after the family. In my own experience l have found the children of then who's mums worked have grown up to be well adjusted woman and confident. (Just my own observation)I have found in today's society men lack confidence in many ways as they feel threatened by not being the "bread winner". No, not all men are like this though a large percentage are. Their reason also being fear of rejection just like many woman. No one likes rejection if they are not comfortable with who they are. Rejection is not a personal attack it is simply a persons choice by which we have the right to make. At the end of the day it is their loss not yours. As for me......... society did get to to me though I have made a choice not to let it any more. Confidence is a virtue
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RHP User
13 years ago
It also appears to me that after reading some comments by women on this thread, they think they are on Oasis or the like.RHP is an adult web site, where people come to have fun sexy times. If you don't think people are suited to you, say it once then ignore them. Don't go banging on about, he said, so I said, then he said.... That's bullshit.The way some women carry on, it is clear they are on the wrong site. It is also clear why they are on their own. Just piss off and take your haranguing with you.But lets face it, most women only get on this site for the perve. Or out of desperation.
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Mr_MrsJones
13 years ago
I just had an incident on another site. A guy, who had approached me in the past, twice, and had been told thanks but no thanks because he is not what I (Mrs Jones) or we (Mr & Mrs Jones) are looking for. Messages me and asks me to put in a good word for him to a mutual friend. Now said friend is confident and would likely ask for what she wants as NoFuzz is advocating. However in doing this she has somehow put a signal out there that she is fee, easy and available to any guy who wants a piece, regardless of what SHE would like. So now she gets hassled by countless wankers like this one who won't take no for an answer and think it is OK to act like a complete arsehole when they don't get what they want. So perhaps the problem isn't the women asking for what they want. Maybe the problem is the guys not listening to her when she asks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'trax49' It also appears to me that after reading some comments by women on this thread, they think they are on Oasis or the like.RHP is an adult web site, where people come to have fun sexy times. If you don't think people are suited to you, say it once then ignore them. Don't go banging on about, he said, so I said, then he said.... That's bullshit.The way some women carry on, it is clear they are on the wrong site. It is also clear why they are on their own. Just piss off and take your haranguing with you.But lets face it, most women only get on this site for the perve. Or out of desperation. Um, well it's a public forum dude ! And after you've thrown dolly from the pram I don't like your chances.The ladies are trying to help (in there own way)I have been totally harassed by some bi guys who just won't take no for an answer, it's bloody ridiculous.Why they can't see that they are their own worst enemy is beyond me.And yes it is a sex site, but since when does that mean any discernment has to go out the window ? I'm sure there are plenty of women on here that you wouldn't be interested in ! Hmm maybe not.Everyone has a right to be here for their own reasons including you.Why does that seem to mean manners and respect go out the window ?No self respect ? Now who would want to touch that ?Rant over.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That one little word no woman ever wants to hear... No.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'trax49' It also appears to me that after reading some comments by women on this thread, they think they are on Oasis or the like.RHP is an adult web site, where people come to have fun sexy times. If you don't think people are suited to you, say it once then ignore them. Don't go banging on about, he said, so I said, then he said.... That's bullshit.The way some women carry on, it is clear they are on the wrong site. It is also clear why they are on their own. Just piss off and take your haranguing with you.But lets face it, most women only get on this site for the perve. Or out of desperation. you have quite a hairy bum
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'trax49' I can’t walk into a pub / club, or go to the shops without women of all descriptions, rushing up to me and wanting a piece of my action. It gets very expensive, what with all the ripped clothes and everything. And their maniacal grabbing at my cock, leaves it quite swollen at times. I wish they were shy, and just patiently wait to be noticed by me. It would save them a lot of hysteria.Know their place. Sorry! Learning my place now and waiting meekly to be noticed.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'EVERTHEOPTIMIST' Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these.sorry hon if that is your perception of me. Fair enough
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fl37ch
13 years ago
same as always... all talk no action !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'EVERTHEOPTIMIST' Aussie women are rude about 75% of them, take this site for example, you can send a message every day showing interest , sometimes three a day, they dont have the decency to reply not interested. They are mostly so far up themselves , there is no room for any one else lol Tuscanred you are one of these. Dude, way to be optimistic. Wake up man, women on these sorts of sites get ridiculous amounts of emails. Typing no thanks to each one that didn't appeal to them would be a massive waste of time. If you don't get a response back from your first email why are you even bothering to send another, let alone 2 more in the same day?! Stalk much?God help the poor women who are associated with the likes of you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'trax49' It also appears to me that after reading some comments by women on this thread, they think they are on Oasis or the like.RHP is an adult web site, where people come to have fun sexy times. If you don't think people are suited to you, say it once then ignore them. Don't go banging on about, he said, so I said, then he said.... That's bullshit.The way some women carry on, it is clear they are on the wrong site. It is also clear why they are on their own. Just piss off and take your haranguing with you.But lets face it, most women only get on this site for the perve. Or out of desperation. I love this post, dude you made me wet myself laughing, you're absolutely right, what the hell do some of these women expect? Don Juan and Casanova? Yeah, riiiight, 'cause all the best men use hook-up sites to get women. Ladies, you really ought to wake up and realise that only a very small percentage of the men on here are going to be men that you would actually want to date, the rest will just be the kind of shags that you had in your teens: fun, but best forgotten, hehe!
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RHP User
13 years ago
... what on earth is with all these people complaining about being harassed? The site has a block function, USE IT. I've blocked tons of people, it's no big deal, end of, no more wankers who won't take no for an answer, no need to get your undies in a twist, yeesh!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'trax49' Now you are all getting it.Although I didn't think it would be that difficult for people to comprehend.... But then again. But you are all still making contradictory comments. Snap out of It people.Yes everyone has a right to comment and have an opinion, except me. So It seems.And I think you are all suffering from penis envy.If kissing the dinosaur works for you, I'm happy for you.The man G works for me, I'm happy for me. And after all this is all about me.Also don't ya just love the hero heads who come in to bat for the ladies, hoping to score the tim tams.Trust me the sheilas are on to it. They can smell a phony under snow.Maybe women aren't backward in coming forward, maybe its the limited choices.Men who are members of a sex site aren't their favorite people.That's right, me included. The kind of behaviour I've gotten away with on this site is stuff that I would likely never do in a real life setting because I would feel mildly foolish. Here though if you do it and it makes a woman laugh then it's great 'cause you know that when you meet in person you'll get along just fine Since being with a few women from this site I've come to realise that what women want from guys who are what one might call "relationship material" and what they're just plain and simply attracted to are two different things. Frankly when I'm nice and polite to women here I get nowhere but when I'm - and apologise for my language here - just a cocky cunt who takes the piss I seem to get what I want all the time (so I can totally understand why it quite likely is working for Trax49)Trax49 and his man G make me laugh and I bet he makes a lot of women laugh and those are exactly the sort of women I imagine he wants to be getting with. The attitude works as a filter: any women who take him the wrong way and don't appreciate his sense of humour are not women that he's likely to have a good time with anyway and so everyone saves time in the long run.Ladies, if a dude sends you an unwanted cock-shot straight up or an email that just says something along the lines of "wanna fuck?" then don't piss and moan about it, just block'im and move on. Yes, you're going to have to do a fair amount of blocking but it only takes 2seconds. It might seem unlikely to you but some women out there do actually respond to those weirdos who send them a straight up cock shot out of the blue and it's these women that are the target audience for these fellers. I've looked at plenty of women's profiles and in there friends section there's nearly always some dudes in there who have pictures of themselves with their wangs hanging in the breeze as their profile pic. Don't believe me? Have a look for yourself!You shouldn't think less of these guys for doing what they're doing here, that's like going to the red-light district in Amsterdam and complaining about all the scantily clad ladies in the windows: just plain moronic. If you don't like it, LEAVE. There's plenty of other normal dating websites out there. Personally I'd find it hilarious to have women sending me naked photos of themselves, even if they were hideous, I'd put them all together with their usernames subtitled in to a video montage backed by a sleazy 80's song and upload it here for a laugh Have some fun with it and stop being so bloody serious, jeez!Oh, and on the original topic of this forum post: Nofuzz, I don't find women in Oz to be any better or worse than women in England and Europe when it comes to being forward. I think that it's highly likely that this woman you met on your travels may have had no designs to do anything other than have dinner with you. It's quite common in Europe for people to invite others home for dinner. I'm sure that you probably could have got your end away should you have wished to but what I mean is that the reason that she was so openly able to invite you back is that over there inviting someone back to yours isn't immediately seen as being a, "Oh, so we're totally going to have sex if you come back to mine by the way," deal or no deal situation the same way it is here a little bit. She would have been perfectly happy just to have dinner and some conversation, it's called being sociable
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RHP User
13 years ago
Everyone realised we're all different. Lots of different women wanting lots of different things and, collectively, attracted to lots of different men. Fingermouse, Trax, D G, none of you are right and all of you are right. There's no 'should' here. There are no rules because it's a so-called sex-site. I'm a woman, I like to fuck, on an almost daily basis I contemplate finding a casual, random man on here to fuck, and I laugh at myself and don't do it because it's not right for me at this point in my life. Does that mean I shouldn't be on this site?! Hardly. Does the fact that I don't approach men make me shy? No. It makes me me. Just me, doing things my way, attracted to what I'm attracted to, and - importantly - accepting of all the different people here doing things all their different ways. No-one has all the answers to what women want, or what men want, or what makes us all tick. Assumptions are rarely right - anyone who takes any notice of my posts would have probably assumed by now that I'm boring, vanilla, naive blah blah - and they couldn't be more wrong. I have many, many layers, many of them flirty, naughty, spontaneous etc - and there's a handful of men on this site who could vouch for that (but they wouldn't, because they're discreet and respectful). My tip is, don't pigeon-hole people. And on a side note, Finger mouse I agree wholeheartedly that the delete and block keys are fabulous tools :)
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13 years ago
Awesome thread ha ha, could do 50 quotes or more . Fingers last one was great lol, and dig meekas earlier ones. Hey yeh, tis 2012...asif there are comments like "guys should take the lead" "I like a real man" lol lol. A "real" man? Oh dear. Definition please? Surely we are done with that stuff? How about a "real" woman......what would that be in our Aussie history?....a woman who "knows her place" ??? pleeeeeeeese Move on haha, that crap should be dead n buried by now.......but sadly it's notI dig it when a woman hits on me or approaches me in RL, and would I ever thinks she's "easy" or "slutty"? Like....No!! Never!! Why would I think that? I would never attach any negative connotation to a woman taking the lead or approaching me, and would only have various positive thoughts n feelings in her doing that. You want the thrill of the chase, the hunt, the romance, the mystery, want to be coy, and tease him a bit, make him want you etc etc as a some have said?....well yeh, fair enuff, that can still take place after the woman has approached him first. The woman approaching first doesnt negate anything.I am and always have been an equalitist, and would love to see the disappearance of stereotypical "roles". After years of society and groups trying to rid us of this stuff, society struggles to also maintain it. No wonder there is so much confusion these days Could do a book, lol, but yeh, great topic no fuzz
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13 years ago
If everyone had the same approach to this adult sex site as Fingermouse and Halcyon_days, this would be a totally awesome site.Awesome.Two different individuals, with different needs and wants, but with the same approach.This would be the site where people do actually want to get it on and not just chew the ....um....fat about it.This site, like any other site offers you choices of how to handle contacts. IE: Accept, decline ,block,Go the fiddle. So to my mind anyone who says they are getting hassled, are allowing themselves to be hassled, like some form of masochistic relief. Or desperation. To them shit attention is better than no attention.So who really does have a problem with my man "g" ? And do i care ?I have been on stages and looked out over a crowds of totally animal, salivating women whilst wearing that man 'G'Even miss prim and proper from next door. She didn't know what I did. ROFL. The look on her face when i finally came on and did my thing on stage.Priceless.The ONLY thing I regret is not having a statue of a dinosaur on there with me.My god that would have really got them going.
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13 years ago
Quoting 'trax49'If everyone had the same approach to this adult sex site as Fingermouse and Halcyon_days, this would be a totally awesome site.Awesome. Two different individuals, with different needs and wants, but with the same approach. This would be the site where people do actually want to get it on and not just chew the ....um....fat about it. This site, like any other site offers you choices of how to handle contacts. IE: Accept, decline ,block,Go the fiddle. So to my mind anyone who says they are getting hassled, are allowing themselves to be hassled, like some form of masochistic relief. Or desperation. To them shit attention is better than no attention. So who really does have a problem with my man "g" ? And do i care ? I have been on stages and looked out over a crowds of totally animal, salivating women whilst wearing that man 'G' Even miss prim and proper from next door. She didn't know what I did. ROFL. The look on her face when i finally came on and did my thing on stage.Priceless. The ONLY thing I regret is not having a statue of a dinosaur on there with me. My god that would have really got them going. Your right, different stroke for dif folk I have always loathed them, and also ditto with the male stripper thing. I get embarrassed as all hell for myself and them, only seen a couple of them. Just when a guy comes bumping and grinding to me in a crowd of adoring women, I want to fun for it. I even saw that strip movie the other day and it ruined it for me with the main actors, as I though they were hot till that movie. Now I want go home and stick needles in my eyes and wished I never saw em, in the g strings. I like my arse with a bit of class, and g does not say that for me. But not for other women, some love em. so you will speak to those women , and that is what rhp is about. I guess we do the approach and select online. Its a universal language, internet hook ups. naked yep, boxes yep, jocks yep the G just gives me the giggles. This is the delight of rhp and the world. Each of us is our own little Faberge Egg.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess you must care if you ask for feedback trax :) Man g's do nothing for me, though obviously suited to stripping etc. Guy in nice snug shorts type undies have the best look for mine. Yeh strippers dont do a thing for me, mates are like....wow, lets go, but hey, some disinterested woman feigning interest and hotness to a crowd of sniggering leering guys? Not on my hot list. One puff of wind, and a flash of panties, one whispered hot word, one sideways glance, all would be hotter than a night in a strip club. But hey, wateva, that's just me
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13 years ago
When did the discussion about women being forward or not turn into a bitch fest? Isn't this meant to be an Adult Site?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Shake my head......
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13 years ago
Great profile photo halcyon_days, very, erm, cheeky! Hehe! I know, I know, puns are probably the lowest form of humour but dammit I like the gutter! (also like your username, I thought my halcyon days were long gone when I finished University but I appear to be experiencing a revival on my travels, hehe! Also incidentally Halcyon on and on is my favourite Orbital track too )Trax49, dude, I think you're funny but put your bitch stick away man, I'm pretty sure Tamarite was referring to female strippers who to be fair in my experience don't seem to enjoy their job as much as the male ones do (probably because having a load of the opposite sex leering at them isn't much of a novelty for them) and their obvious disinterest is something of a turn-off (though this isn't true of all of them, some feign interest very well indeed, haha)! You're actually a little sensitive about your banana hammock eh? Hehe! Tuscanred was just saying it wasn't for her, I know there's no need for her to get embarrassed for the stripper, that's just her foisting off her own embarrassment on to him, it's a natural human reaction for people who are a bit coy, no need for you to get all snippy about it mate Careful now, you might let slip that you're not as devil-may-care and callous as you make pretend to be, hahaha!Anyway, as DeviousMissM points out, perhaps we should get back on point a bit: Personally I don't think Australian women have any problem being forward. In my experience (which I grant you is rather limited as I've only been here 3 months but I have gotten about a fair bit in that time... Feck, that makes me sound a right man-whore, oh well!) women here are as forward as they feel they can be with the men and that usually is as forward as men are with them. In Europe women are used to men being forward more often and so they in turn have become more forward themselves.I think it's all about how you present yourself to a woman. If you are approachable and friendly and endearing then if you don't flat out get asked out by a woman then usually you will at least get definite signs that she wants to be asked out. However if you're overly alpha male and give off an aura of dominance then whilst that is certainly no bad thing you can hardly expect that if you do that a woman is then going to take the lead and do the asking, that's not how social dynamics work. So far that's what I've seen here in Oz, men just being too damn manly for there own good, haha! It's almost like many of the guys here are still living in the 70's where men were "real men" and women needed to be won or claimed. I think the real problem is that women's place in society has evolved so quickly that men (and women too) are still struggling to make sense of how the new social dynamic works when it comes to dating and the problem is particularly prevalent in Australia (especially WA, no offence peeps but Perth is backward-as, seriously!).Women haven't cottoned on here that they can be more like men used to be and chase guys they find attractive without being viewed as having loose morals. Men haven't had enough practice at seeing the signs of when women are into them. The amount of guys I come across who on a night out have no clue that a girl they're talking to digs them or that another who they've been talking to all night just isn't interested... It's ludicrous, honestly.All said and done though it's fine, just like with everything else people will eventually catch up. Women will start being more forward with guys here and guys will start realising that they don't always have to do all the chasing and instead of spending all their time being "alpha" they'll do more simple things to make themselves more attractive to women (like get a decent haircut, some nice threads and hit the gym occasionally maybe, haha) and NOTICE more the kind of signals women give off. Though ladies, do us and yourselves a favour, seriously, if you think a guys cute; don't just stroke your hair behind you ear, laugh coquettishly, part your lips, touch his arm and rearrange your clothing to show more skin, GUYS DON'T NOTICE THIS STUFF (especially not when they're 4 beers down and all they're biologically wired to see is your cleavage anyway) - just TELL HIM YOU THINK HE'S CUTE. He'll likely get a bit flustered and momentarily embarrassed - especially if he's a real ocha Aussie - but give him a moment and he'll recover like a champ Anyway, that's just my two-cents.Peace out Pie-lovers! xxxP.S. Hardtruckin2011, don't just shake your head, contribute or go crack one off to internet porn, that would be a more useful way to spend your time then just popping up to show you have nothing to say on the matter (and that's the only bitching I'm going to do, haha)!
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RHP User
13 years ago
that may not have come across clear enough...For me a woman who is confident, forward and a bit bold have a lot more respect , appreciation, regard and attraction from me that one that doesn’t.It does NOT make her cheap, easy, desperate, lonely, slutty or any other form of negative adjective....It just make her a woman comfortable in her own skin and knowing what she wants....no more no less . And I will always admire her for that
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'NoFuzz' that may not have come across clear enough...For me a woman who is confident, forward and a bit bold have a lot more respect , appreciation, regard and attraction from me that one that doesn’t.It does NOT make her cheap, easy, desperate, lonely, slutty or any other form of negative adjective....It just make her a woman comfortable in her own skin and knowing what she wants....no more no less . And I will always admire her for that
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'NoFuzz'that may not have come across clear enough... For me a woman who is confident, forward and a bit bold have a lot more respect , appreciation, regard and attraction from me that one that doesn’t. It does NOT make her cheap, easy, desperate, lonely, slutty or any other form of negative adjective....It just make her a woman comfortable in her own skin and knowing what she wants....no more no less . And I will always admire her for that Well said!
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13 years ago
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13 years ago
Quoting 'TheFingerMouse'(especially WA, no offence peeps but Perth is backward-as, seriously!).shove your peaced out non judgemental head up your arse..............Hypocrite probs lose my instants on this this but it's worth it
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RHP User
13 years ago
They're not shy, who said they're shy?
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RHP User
13 years ago
How so?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'TheFingerMouse' How so? you make a statement saying "no offense peeps" and you sign off all peace loving I class you as a hypocrite. As l see and just I.... one who passes judgement like this and uses a cop out is there fore a hypocrite. Off course it is going to offend people especially in the context it was said. Why say it if you did not not intend offense
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RHP User
13 years ago
... well to be honest I just used "peace out" as sort of a standard sign off really, most places it's considered as such. People who aren't religious say "goodbye" as a parting statement as it is also standard, that derives from the old saying "God be with you" but that isn't necessarily what they mean when they say it, they're simply expressing a farewell. In any case, that's all semantics really & neither here nor there as what really surprises me is, say I was literally wishing everyone peace, your response to me was to, and I quote, "shove my peaced out non judgmental head up my arse," before calling me a hypocrite. Good grief. First of all make up your mind, am I judgmental or am I not? You say later that I passed judgment (your reason for calling me a hypocrite apparently) and if that is so then what am I to do? Simply shove one hemisphere of my head up my arse? Secondly asking people not to take offense before saying something that may offend is not necessarily a cop out, it is only a cop out if there is no possible way that what follows could ever not be considered offensive. For instance, if I was to say, "No offence, but you ma'am are an uppity cunt," and then provide no reasoning or explanation to show this to be a considered statement, then that is most definitely a cop out (& before you get all uppity again do remember that was only a for instance to illustrate my point). In my post I feel I went to reasonable lengths to explain what I felt the problem was in Australia with regards to this forums original topic, my reasoning for what I said about WA being backward wasn't totally clarified but that's because I felt that this is obvious: Perth is the most isolated city on Earth, it suffers from major back woods, small town syndrome. So, to answer your question, I say no offence in the hope that people might take pause to consider my reasoning. I think that's fair. Now, finally, and perhaps I could have saved myself a lot of explaining by saying this straight from the off; If your thoughts on someone who is peaced out and non-judgmmental is that they should shove their head up their arse, then thank you, you've saved me the trouble of having to find an example to show just how backward this place can. be. See? No need for insults to get a point across. P.S. apologies for any spelling or grammatical errors, this was typed on my phone and she loves to make me look a fool with her predictive ways.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you just got the finger
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RHP User
13 years ago
... so I can take it Besides, I'm really not too bothered about the opinion of person who is dim enough to incorrectly spell "offence" not once but twice and this despite having just quoted someone who had spelled it correctly. That's a special kind of blindness to learning and beyond my patience, yet more evidence of my assertion that this place is backwards.
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RHP User
13 years ago
women are the same here, as just about anywhere else.....and will ask you out if they feel its appropriate to do so.... i'd say the only reason you found it different was that as an Aussie abroad...you were a curiosity...something novel and unique.....here, you obviously arent...take it from me...if women want you....they'll ask you out., at least in my experience they do...lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Backward you say? What did you expect,we were colonised by the English
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RHP User
13 years ago
You seem - and note I said seem, because the evidence available to me is limited - argumentative, maybe even one of those blokes that in Australia we like to call a prick. A prick's generally not a good thing, but the way, in case you're not certain what to make of my comment. But oh my lord you can string a sentence, and even a somewhat irrefutable argument, together. This I like, a lot. A man with a brain and the capacity to put forward a compelling argument, not because he's trying with all his might but because the words flow easily for him, is a delight. Shame about your propensity for personal attacks and insults.
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RHP User
13 years ago
... nice one, and I see your point, but so was half the rest of the world :-P You're gonna need a better excuse than that ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just what people who lack wit call someone who won't validate whatever tosh they say/think. I've been very careful not to actually personally attack anyone here with a direct insult, just indirect ones, hehe, but if they've been indirectly insulted by me then that's only because they have left themselves open to it and also because they've attacked me first; show me an instance otherwise & I'll hold my hands up to it. Yes, I may have insulted WA, but for someone to take that personally to the point of attacking me for it is silly, to associate your own personal self esteem with your country shows an insecure nature & I believe it was Oscar Wildest who said that patriotism is a virtue of the vicious, it seems he was right as I can now say with certainty that some people can get very nasty when they perceive you disparaging their country. Oh well, their problem not mine :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I might be a Prick, but if the choice is validate someone who is being unreasonable/irrational or be labeled a Prick then frankly I'll wear my Prick badge with pride and a Cheshire cat grin :-D
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RHP User
13 years ago
is the refuge of the timid,Mouse
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RHP User
13 years ago
A timid prick, you ladies may have found a new species ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Brittanicus mentula of the timidus mus is native to the British Isles,although its peripatic ways has meant that it can be found on nearly every continent.Not unlike its close cousin the rat, it often has difficulty in adjusting to new environments and should be approached with caution.Although wily and intelligent it has difficulty in communicating with female Australis timidus mus but can be coaxed out of its hidey hole with Brighton rock,Pork pies, Yorkshire pudding and warm beer.
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RHP User
13 years ago
i forgot to flick "follow this topic" bugger l am missing all the compliments from you. Such English charm Quoting 'TheFingerMouse' ... so I can take it Besides, I'm really not too bothered about the opinion of person who is dim enough to incorrectly spell "offence" not once but twice and this despite having just quoted someone who had spelled it correctly. That's a special kind of blindness to learning and beyond my patience, yet more evidence of my assertion that this place is backwards. .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' Brittanicus mentula of the timidus mus is native to the British Isles,although its peripatic ways has meant that it can be found on nearly every continent.Not unlike its close cousin the rat, it often has difficulty in adjusting to new environments and should be approached with caution.Although wily and intelligent it has difficulty in communicating with female Australis timidus mus but can be coaxed out of its hidey hole with Brighton rock,Pork pies, Yorkshire pudding and warm beer. Damn love, you are very funny, had me chuckling for quite some time with that one Long enough that I'll let slide that I hate Brighton rock and am not a massive fan of Pork Pies. England doesn't really do cuisine, we just take food and then put a pastry hat on it as if that makes it something new, haha! Luckily though being of Bengali descent and growing up in a family of restauranteurs meant that I grew up with food that was flavoured with delicious spices instead I have an Islamic family background too so I didn't start drinking until well after I left home which means I kind of missed the whole warm beer thing I guess, though I don't really no wear that stereotype comes from, I think perhaps visitors to Britain don't really understand the difference between beer and ale maybe, who knows. I'm a whisky man myself, though I am partial to Absinthe too and I gotta hand it to Matso's brewery up in Broome, they do a mango blonde beer that is way better than any of the blonde beers I had in Germany where they supposedly do the best (thank you Milinda for switching me onto that by the way)!I must take umbrage at your joking about Yorkshire pudding though my dear. Anyone can be coaxed out of hiding with Yorkshire pudding, they're delicious and versatile as hell, how many other foods can accompany both sweet and savoury dishes? There's cheese, chilli, chocolate and pancakes (which are basically just flat Yorkshire puddings anyway), not that many I think you'll find, possibly mango at a stretch I suppose but that's besides the point: YORKSHIRE PUDDING ROCKS, don't knock it miss!
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13 years ago
I am perhaps too pedantic for my own good.I'm curious as to why people keep diverging from the point of this forum original post to attempt to tease and or aggravate me though I must say. I should warn you it's a rather pointless endeavour, I'm here on a working holiday y'know so I can pretty much shoot the shit all day However, it is rather rude to ruin someone else's forum post with silly off-topic banter. Should anyone wish to continue a discourse then feel free to message me directly or better yet start a forum post dedicated to mocking other users, could be fun... (probably wouldn't be approved though, ya'll love your rules here in Oz )
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13 years ago
Really? That's what you want to belittle, my supposed lack of the quintessential English Charm? Oh. My. Word:Quoting 'inspirit'shove your peaced out non judgemental head up your arseHahaha! You're quite charming enough yourself ma'am, I don't think you need any from me
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13 years ago
TL, DR
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13 years ago
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13 years ago
Its good to see you treat people the way you like to be treated!Very nice I Must return the favour you little mariner!
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RHP User
13 years ago
As some pointed out you have been out of place, and a very exotic specimen... Me being on the opposite side - coming from Europe and living in OZ can tell you it's same everywhere. Without wanting to generalise - women do not ask directly, they send signals to men to follow... and we often are like large ships, it take time to manipulate us in the right way, whether in the inbound or outbound direction... and the point of ration of men to women is correct - even with the female accounts that I know belong to paid staff sitting in exotic locations collecting fees for converting freeloaders like me to subscribers there is rarely much to go for - the best is found in the forums... ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don,t think I would ever straight out ask, they would have to show interest in me. You weren't attracted to her, there are heaps of subtle clues to go on , I think you can usually tell which men find you attractive or very attractive or extremely attractive....and you are going to have heaps more fun with the ones that go crazy over you ;) Tease them first then make them beg for it hehehehehehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
I must have a lot of European blood in me.... I will make the first move and quite blantantly at times or make manouvers so they think they are making the first move.. Rejection doesn't worry me, as I know I can't be everyone cup a tea.. I do laugh however when they ask for my number and I say no.. One guy wanted to know if I was just using him !!! Why yes Grass Hopper.. I did say over night loan only hehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a woman moving forward not backwards I have no problem with my sexual prowess or confidence to ask a man if they would like to join me for a drink , sex, dance what ever the mood or situation calls for . This must be mouth dropping stuff for most Aussie blokes who then stumble and get nervous and a free pass for others to change into a (excuse language) "dickhead". Most men don't like a woman that oozes to much confidence ( commenting from experience and observation). whilst many say they do they observe from afar and would decline offers of invitation. Dont get me wrong I do like my men to be "MAN" but we are talking about submissive needs here and there is a a very big difference in MAN and ego/attitude.I would suspect that whilst many men like confident women who have a sexy classic style , many go for the type of girl that chooses the stereotypical in a guy. There are many of us out there who are confident, sassy, sexy women ...maybe guys should put ego aside and come along for the ride on occasion.
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