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Why are so many
December 26 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yep!! Fixed it by joining RHP and playing with lots of sexy people!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
My husband until he died. My libido has never waned for any reason, ever. Life's a bitch now with no regular partner!
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
I think it's a combination of so many things! Lots of factors affect a persons sex drive - stress, depression, kids, grand kids, work, low self esteem, boredom, lack of interest, not feeling good enough, compared, selfish, the list is endless!! Some people do not want to spice up their sex life or sometimes they just don't know how too... Plus again society can have alot to do with this - women can feel very low about their bodies as they feel they need to look a certain way to feel good about themselves and of course men like to look at nice bodies, the airbrushed, perfect skin n women who have no children bodies! And some women just could not be bothered! Their life may be filled with other pleasurable activities that sex just is no longer needed
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RHP User
13 years ago
Love how the UNDER 45's answered! Pffttt xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have been married now for 24 years and have had a new lease of life thanks to RHP and the many people who have been in contact/complimented us over the past 6 months - even just to say hi has worked wonders..... We had a healthy libido anyway but we have found exploring our sexual boundaries, considering our first ever MFM, buying new lingerie, dressing up in seductively, attending our first ever swingers clubs, taking off for the weekend and just plain communicating with each other has meant we are now so much into each other AGAIN and without lying probably, being intimate 5-6 days out of the week has been a revelation for each other..... A simple touch of each other, a passionate kiss every day, talking naughty to each other....simple stuff just to keep the fire going LOL.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was married for 20yrs and during that time SEX WAS NIL...boring as all f*ck!!Wasn't until I left (5yrs ago) that sex for me got better and better!! Oh the possibilities since hitting my sexual peak.. :)I do know that it's not going to last long and when it dies off then I know it will be all about COMPANIONSHIP rather than sexual...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Was with partner for 20yrs total...
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RHP User
13 years ago
And I'm struggling with low-ish libido. I think it's definately a case of people prioritising everything else above their sexual needs and wants. People just seem to lose interest once they have kids, get their career going etc etc because they don't have time. I know that's my exact issue. Knowing why is an important part of fixing any issue.
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RHP User
13 years ago
What makes me laugh is the fact that the under 45's are going to get over 45 soon and their wife dose not have much to look ford to if the hubby is only interested in air brushed bimbos.......I'll take a nice over 45 lady any day, some problems are cause from stress and the rest are just dick head husbands....Look after your partner and she'll look after you.....We are all going to be older as the years go on...GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
Low self esteem, women over 40 are basically invisible,we are saturated with media images 24/7 of how we should look to be deemed attractive. For some this can be hard to achieve when you get to a certain age. Then with others it can be a case of boredom, being with the same person for many years can be humdrum. Then there's the case of going through menopause with your hormones all over the place... grrrr can't wait for that one!!! Sometimes women of this age are so busy running around after everyone else they forget about themselves and then when the kids reach independence they have trouble seeing themselves as a sexual being... very sad. For me personally I went through a time in my mid thirties where my partner would not get a vasectomy ( fear and worry, not being an asshole) and I was forced to go on birth control (or have several more kids) the injection made my skin terrible, made me feel very unbalanced and my libido just completely disappeared, was so ironic, being on birth control and not wanting sex at all, I would however put out to keep him happy so had to stay on it... Was really terrible, I felt so unattractive, crappy, angry... anyway three years and a vasectomy later... things are definitely back on track!
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RHP User
13 years ago
....the advances in technology of vibrators. Soon, you'll all be doing your shopping online only and never leave the house.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was 29 when I had my vasectomy. The doctor says "how many kids have you got??" 3 girls..."what if you break up with your wife??" Well doc...it's like this 1. I don't want anymore kids. 2. If I do breakup with her, I don't want to be a father of 7 to 3 mothers. 3. If I do break up with my wide and my next partner can't accept my decision to not want anymore kids, then she won't be able to accept me. If she can't accept me...what have I got??? A relationship that's based on child bearing, and I'm noones sperm donor!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Love how the UNDER 45's answered! Pffttt xFunlovingxI am actually over 45...and RHP revived my sex life! LOL....who wouldn't want to get it off with hot, sexy, young bucks!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
which solved one issue. Quoting 'DontLookDown' ....the advances in technology of vibrators. Soon, you'll all be doing your shopping online only and never leave the house. I never leave the office
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Saskia72' Then with others it can be a case of boredom, being with the same person for many years can be humdrum. Alot of women I know have said it is boredom....same same....whenever they can entice their husband to actually do it! As one woman said to me..."My husband doesn't make love to me anymore, it is just fucking" As for low self esteem, I think that can happen at any age with any sex....They really do need to get rid of History or some other lame subject in Schools and teach kids about Self Esteem and Loving Yourself and also Manifestation classes (positive thinking)! I also think that alot of attached people do play up as they want to feel wanted again...they want to feel sexy...they need that boost to their self esteem to know they still have it! Good on 'em I say! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mrs.P ,perhaps I should have said do you think it is true ...blah blah..I have spoken to lots of men,some women about this,have read Bettina Arndt's book ''What Do Men Want''where she quotesGabrielle Carey as saying that she thought lots of women were still interested in sex,but just bored with having sex with their husbands,...
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RHP User
13 years ago
There is menopause....... . Now apart from kids, work, house, husband, the daily life getting us down and not having the time to feel sexy let alone even think of sexy things along comes those damn hormones mucking around with our libidoes. . *DISCLAIMER... this does not happen to all women.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'polys' We have been married now for 24 years and have had a new lease of life thanks to RHP and the many people who have been in contact/complimented us over the past 6 months - even just to say hi has worked wonders..... We had a healthy libido anyway but we have found exploring our sexual boundaries, considering our first ever MFM, buying new lingerie, dressing up in seductively, attending our first ever swingers clubs, taking off for the weekend and just plain communicating with each other has meant we are now so much into each other AGAIN and without lying probably, being intimate 5-6 days out of the week has been a revelation for each other..... A simple touch of each other, a passionate kiss every day, talking naughty to each other....simple stuff just to keep the fire going LOL..... I think thats fantastic that you have (for want of better words) found each other again...brilliant ..:) And so true Mrs Peachy..:) A friend of mine has always encouraged me to give younger men a chance, but Ive always declined, but to be honest I could not say why .......it just didnt feel or seem rite ...Im 48....but still have the drive and the desires of say a 38 year old.... In the last few weeks....Ive since changed my mind....
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RHP User
13 years ago
appreciate so many people sharing their very personal stories.Over the last three years on RHP and other sites I have heard many men say that their wives are no longer interested in sex.Yes this is a sensitive and complex topic but the wonderful thing about the forums here is that by sharing experiences we can learn from each other. I was married to a man for many years who had a very low libido,it seems to me now that this is not as uncommon that I as a young woman believed,in fact I thought that the problem was only me. So if just one person reads what someone here has shared and that makes a difference to how they see their situation then that can only be a good thing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
seem to get stronger libidos over time
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RHP User
13 years ago
When you look at this site it doesn't seem so, but the women on this site are only a very small portion of the female population of Australia, and a large percentage of those women still interested in sex would be on a site such as this. Most of the women I know over 45 really don't have much interest in sex anymore. More often than not, women lose interest in sex as they age, and yes husbands are constantly bitching about it, don't blame them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Saskia72'When you look at this site it doesn't seem so, but the women on this site are only a very small portion of the female population of Australia, and a large percentage of those women still interested in sex would be on a site such as this. Most of the women I know over 45 really don't have much interest in sex anymore. More often than not, women lose interest in sex as they age, and yes husbands are constantly bitching about it, don't blame them. Most of the ladies I know who are both over 45 and under 45 and who are in long term relationships..arent interested in sex anymore either And there are many contributing issues for this....as already stated....for a lady say 45 and over...menopause is the onsetting biggie, but followed by many other issues - empty nest syndrome, ill health may be happening, return to the work force or study, teenagers causing angst...but it could just be simply that they are "over it" been together forever and the other party is simply a habit... Friends that are younger cite the usual things...young kids, too tired, never time alone, no romance, money issues, women do most of the parenting, yada, yada, yada... I guess in the end you get what you settle for.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Freya... mine has gone in the opposite direction. Lost partial interest in my 30-40s . Libido came back with a vengence in late 40s.... and now 50s, and can be a little out of control at times. I put this down to quality of life and lack of distractions. - Got rid of the dead beat partner - Kids grown up and mostly independent - Financially secure - Great circle of new friends - Experienced to know how to enjoy it and thirst for knowledge to learn ever more. Its true that Fifty is the new Forty.... in all its awesomeness . Wouldn't change a thing. SFxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
and men at 17. How long does this peak last? When do we start sliding down the other side? Is the mens descent a slow and long one, and womens swift? There are so many cruel jokes in life... Perhaps middle aged women should seek out very young men...
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RHP User
13 years ago
They already are, aren't they??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you are absolutely correct about all those reasons for women not being interested in sex,at least in the short term.But I have also read posts from a number of women here saying that they got their libido back after they turned fifty.Post menapause,or post the pause between men can be a sexully liberating time in a womans life.However I wonder if it is possible for that to happen in a long term totally monogamous relationship or is variety indeed the spice to a healthy sex life?
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RHP User
13 years ago
TC I find that the less I get the less I think about it or want it. The joys of being single :-/ I have one friend who has sex with her husband on his birthday and Christmas and she honestly thinks he is happy with that. Believe me I have tried to tell her otherwise. And let's just say he doesn't look like a sexually frustrated guy to me so he is getting it somewhere for sure. Another friend who has been with her husband for 20 years + and they have had sex everyday without fail. Well probably not when she was in hospital having the kids I assume. Her attitude? Well she says she looks forward to that intimate time with her hubby everyday. She sees it as her reward at the end of a long day of working & looking after the house and kids. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh HT, I mean REALLY young like 16 or 17... Just don't think I could go there... sure the student teacher fantasy sounds all hot and naughty but... nope that just feels SO wrong. Although I was 18 when I met my first husband who was 32... Go figure. Freya, So glad to hear that alot of women find their sexual being post menopause, phew!! I had just yesterday watched 'Hope Springs' movie with Tommy Lee Jones & Meryl Streep, a mature couple who hadn't had sex for four years and only sporadically before that, and she was instigating seeing a counsellor and getting it all back on track much to his horror... was not a bad movie. Meeka, yep I know a few women who are like that, my mother included... and I agree these men cannot be happy with the situation, even when I went through my dark time and had no libido I still satisfied most of my partners urges. I also agree that the more/less I get it the more/less I want it. If I go say a week without it it just slowly drifts out of my consciousness sort of, and it's not a priority, but it doesn't take much effort to resurrect, just that look from a man, and va va voom off we go again.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Absolutely...the thoughts were indeed nice back when I was 16&17, however I don't really know if I could be there with an 18 year old now....I need more to attract me than just conversations about "Like my hair, like it's sooo totally awesome, like. Ooooo and I'm feeling sooo devo right now cos like, Miranda got this awesome purple nail polish, so like yeah my life is like over like." Lol :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
We all know the urban myth that woman lose their libidos after childbirth and that in sexless marriages it is "the woman's fault".But one thing that has surprised me since getting out and into the dating world again is that just as many men it would seem do the same !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Love how the UNDER 45's answered! Pffttt xFunlovingx allowed an a voice on here no matter their age or gender old people do not have all the answers to every thing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' Quoting 'polys' We have been married now for 24 years and have had a new lease of life thanks to RHP and the many people who have been in contact/complimented us over the past 6 months - even just to say hi has worked wonders..... We had a healthy libido anyway but we have found exploring our sexual boundaries, considering our first ever MFM, buying new lingerie, dressing up in seductively, attending our first ever swingers clubs, taking off for the weekend and just plain communicating with each other has meant we are now so much into each other AGAIN and without lying probably, being intimate 5-6 days out of the week has been a revelation for each other..... A simple touch of each other, a passionate kiss every day, talking naughty to each other....simple stuff just to keep the fire going LOL..... I think thats fantastic that you have (for want of better words) found each other again...brilliant ..:) And so true Mrs Peachy..:) A friend of mine has always encouraged me to give younger men a chance, but Ive always declined, but to be honest I could not say why .......it just didnt feel or seem rite ...Im 48....but still have the drive and the desires of say a 38 year old.... In the last few weeks....Ive since changed my mind.... So good to see your taking the TR libido wake up , you and freaya both and I want details....................... All I can say that after years of pain and illness I had no libido, yes menopause and yes I wear patches. God dang those things work a treat. I also go to the gym as now after years of no sex, I have to get my gear off. The truth is most men just enjoy the experience of sex and are not so judgemental as we tend to be on ourselves and even worse on each other. Women are the worst when it comes to judging others for wanting sex at a rip old age like me. So we have to have a covert sexual life, as my god! what man would want to fuck a sixty year old woman. Well all I can say, what sixty year old woman walked around the shops yesterday with a cleavage full of cum Oh wait that would be me, menopausal TR and that flush on my face was not lack of hormones. Some men say, wear something sexy. I do a hormone patch! But Its not all beer and skittles and I have been in a situation where I loathed sex but did my duty, that’s what we did back in the olden days, right before they invented the wheel. Once a your pilot light gets turned on by RHP then your libido will increase if you get the right lovers who make you feel good about yourself. To get that, you have to control the play. If you go back to doormat sex then you will just feel like shit and then really feel your age. One day I will give this up and just paint all day, its a good substitute for sex. Not sure when though, as while I get lovely things who want to have me, then so long as I do not break a hip..then its yes please for me. I was not always like this, its only been since my year of lust on RHP
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi folks we are new to this site and enjoying reading and looking through profiles and topics.Just wanted to say my wife and i have been together since the mid 80s and experienced the highs and lows of being a couple.As we have got older my wifes sex drive has aligned with mine as i have always had a strong sex drive.This is mainly because it took time for me to learn to truly please a woman,and its true it starts between a females ears..and when as a man you learn how to stimulate a woman with your words,fingers, tongue,finally your dick then and only then can you make you woman happyin bed...;))
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RHP User
13 years ago
Are all these shenanigans going on at my place ? Your suppose to house sitting and dog walking :) You vixen you. Sorry is that spelt vickson ? Answer your mail Xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Your house is fine Your dog is fine Im even fine...thanks for asking Go back to doing cold wet snow things...nothing like minus 8 degree Scottish winter is there ? Auld Lang Syne... Ive answered my mail :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
as a male....who has only been with women 45 and above for the past decade and a half...lol...its not my experience at all....women in this age group who i have personally encountered have all been, without exception, sexually active, even demanding.... (i was single for a good part of this and dated...and played here, with resounding success)..... not sure where the OP gets that women are not interested in sex.....if anything, i find women much more interested, and for longer, these days, perhaps its an upside to the internet experience?
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