Why are people so rude?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  And while we are bitching.... why do people find it so difficult to compliment each other. I mean, if you find someone attractive or someone says or does something that appeals to you in some way, why is it such a chore to say so?  People just don't compliment one another often enough. We rush home and lock ouselves up in our little boxes and peak out at the world through our windows and computer monitors! But there's no reason to be so isolated or to be so insular about our feelings.   Just because someone says "Hey, you look good in that" doesn't mean that they will demand anything from you in return... so why not reply in kind rather than replying with something similar to "you don't rock my boat so piss off".  I mean, flirts are just a way of people spreading good will, they needn't mean anything more than that... so why dive for the big rejection button!   Spreading the love, bebe. Gazza

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I forgot to say that this was inspired by a girl who's profile says "Any nice men here?"   Maybe she wants to be taught some manners and is looking for a tutor.

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  tamworthguy46

  16 years ago

  WHAT the fuck are you talking about dick head.....lol no seriously....some people get off on the whole anonymous abuse thing, makes them feel good....well as good as someone who is gutless can be !

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I agree with you 100% doug makes you wonder why you do it sometimes

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Yes, I completely agree with you dougahole, not responding to messages, is probably a sign of rudeness, and not very good karma.  But let me present you with another rude or lack-of-response scenario.  Girl meets boy, girl sleeps with boy (they both claim to have had a jolly good time).  Boy then says "f%$# off don't want to know you anymore", and refuses any further communication, and wait for it, labels you a stalker if you wanna find out what went from perceived jolly good time to completely f%$#ked up.  That's just a tad little more rude than not responding to an unsolicited message from a complete and total stranger.  Both sexes are guilty of both scenarios but I'd like to see how the percentages stack up :-)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I can only give you my perspective on this one (and I know you're not just talking about on here, but here is probably the only place that I'd ever be considered 'rude' LOL)....   I will admit that I haven't responded to a heap of messages yet and there are various reasons.  The first is because the first few days/week that I was on here, I received a huge amount of messages and to be honest I found it all a little overwhelming.  I'm only now going back through and trying to reply to them and part of me actually wonders whether I should bother as chances are, they wouldn't actually remember me anyway.  There are also messages that are so blatantly generic that I don't feel any rush in taking the time to carefully read a profile then take the time to respond.  Yeah, I know, I could send a blatantly generic "thanks but no thanks" but as yet, I haven't set one up.  Then there is the crude/crass ones that don't get any response from me at all, and likely never will.   I have and will always respond to the messages where I can tell that they've actually read my profile even if I'm not interested....and I always thank them for taking the time to message me.   As for flirts, well to be honest, I hardly respond to these at all.  Most of the guys sending them are guests so there is no point (plus I don't view them in the highest light when they can see I'm a guest, but use the "I'm keen, please message me" options...I mean, do they really think they're that special that I'm going to become a paying member just so I can message them?)...and then there is also fairly limited options for replies as they either come across as not interested, or as keen as mustard when sometimes just a simple, 'yeah I'd like to get to know you' or 'I think you're hot too' would be closer to the mark.   By the way Dougahole, I really like your new profile pic!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Dougahole Ive been a single guy on here and now [for last 4 years] the male in a couple. I have also seen single female profiles. Venus when we met showed me her huge hot list and also 100s of messages. I couldnt believe the sheer volume. As a single male the hotlists and received messages were very scant. As a couple we are on many hotlists and get messages and flirts from mainly guys, some couples and rare from females. I try and respond to all in some way even its just a no thanks etc. Unless the sender is 100% not what we seek and clearly has no chance and he/she is straight and hairy or whatever we deem as undesirable in a play mate. So why even bother with a reply?  They obviouisly cant read so what I say means nothing so they wont know anyway. Venus also has a female profile as she wants to find a bi lady. In her profile its pretty clear that she only seeks a female, all others are directed to our couples profile, yet guys [and you naughty couples] hit on her all the time. Should she waste her time with a response? I dont think so. I certainly wouldnt and very likely the good old block button would be pressed. Mars

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  It was take last year in Bath, beautiful pace, I will definately go back again

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  OK...I reply to messages that show that the sender has at least taken the time to read my profile.I dont bother replying to those too young...too crass...too generic...too blah!I dont bother replying to flirts from guests..no matter how cute they may be....and i dont reply to those outside my parameters UNLESS they show in their message that they have taken the time to warrant it!While I agree that it seems rude to not reply....you should get a female profile and see some of the crap we gotta deal with!!It's farkin ridiculous!! And unfortunately...sometimes the good guys cop the brunt of it.I think RHP needs some new flirt replies...a simple "thank you...lovely of you to say" in reply to the "just wanted to say I loved your profile" flirt. Perhaps nice let downs....like...thanks but sorry..youre not my type? SOMETHING!!!And on the subject of rudeness.....fark theres some twats in chat lately! Just got a message from a guy that abused me in chat asking me wtf my problem was?? i mean...duh. Anyhoo...Just my opinion....BJxxx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hey Doug,Agree whole heartedly about the general rudeness in society. We are very considerate people in the way we conduct our lives. Having said that, this place can really get under your skin and we do get sick of flirts and messages by people who clearly don't read the profile and are way off what we state we want. Mostly we ignore and sometimes after a few good wines a not so considerate reply is forwarded (haha sorry to the unfortunates last night!)But agreed if you are within the girl's requested age range etc etc and she didn't reply well that's a bit rough but then again if she was a 20yo hottie then she probably gets 100's of messages a day from old men (like us ;) ).I am a health professional who works with peopleto mend the damage THEY have done to themselves and everyday I am treated with rudeness you wouldn't believe as they blame me for their suffering. There is a way out of this merry-go-round that our world is spinning in: the old adage treat people how you expect to be treated to which I must add: if this fails then remove these people from your life and focus on the considerate ones who deserve all your attention.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If ppl dont take the time to read my profile and msg me when they know I wont be interested, then NO im not going to reply to them.

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