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When someone makes plans then cancles on you.
February 28 2019
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'd need to know how she reacted to be able to say if she over-reacted. Yeah it's a bit disrespectful but at least honest, sometimes that happens what's the guy supposed to do? Did she get upset for 10- 20 minutes then move on with her day or did she burn his house down with his dog trapped inside while making him watch, tied to tree out the front naked with honey in his anus?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Happens all the time To be honest, be grateful to be told they couldn’t come, and not be left waiting at the meet spot
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
At least he cancelled and wasn't a no show. No big deal really..... ok to be miffed but why waste anymore time or energy on it. He was honest and I commend that.
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Supernova
7 years ago
A Guy cancelled on her?!?! My god, how will she cope with such undeniable grief?!?!? she must be devastated...but at the same time I have to add: NOBODY OWES HER ANYTHING!!! JUST BECAUSE HE SAID HE WAS GONNA MEET UP DOESN'T MEAN HE *HAS* TO!!! OMG LIKE, SHE IS SOOOOO ENTITLED!!! ENTITLED I SAY!!!
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MissRedFox
7 years ago
Sorry I'm not male but if you're gonna juggle multiple people you need to be aware of what you can take on At least he was honest but it's a poor excuse really and given it was self inflicted he should have manned up and gone anyway To me this says your friend isn't really a priority - she now has the choice whether this is acceptable to her for a second chance XX
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RHP User
7 years ago
Highly disrespectfulEspecially for such a piss poor excuse
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Sawadee
7 years ago
His excuse of being with another date the night before and being too tired seems to me abit ego driven .. Personally ' l think your friend possibly dodged a bullet ... Real men dont need to brag about why they need to cancel .
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Bonus that he let her know and wasn't a no show. Understandable let down especially being brutally honest that he was busy shagging someone else. A little bending of the truth would have spared her feeling like he was up all night with gastro and bit tired, let's reschedule. She would have been relieved she was spared catching it, happy to reschedule. No unhappy emotions. Seems few care about people's feelings. A bit of consideration goes a long way peeps
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RHP User
7 years ago
I understand that people screw around, chat with and date multiple people at a time... But really not necessary to give full details on how he can't make their date cos he got lucky and fucked the night away with someone else. If that happened to me, *I* would feel like that made me second choice/option if the date the night before didn't go as planned (eg; Not getting sex). So I'd just delete and forget him. I wouldn't be waiting around for him to 'fit me into his schedule' the next time his first choice falls through.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Bonus that he let her know and wasn't a no show. Understandable let down especially being brutally honest that he was busy shagging someone else. A little bending of the truth would have spared her feeling like he was up all night with gastro and bit tired, let's reschedule. She would have been relieved she was spared catching it, happy to reschedule. No unhappy emotions. Seems few care about people's feelings. A bit of consideration goes a long way peeps Really, he did her a favour, best to find out now that he's not worth her time (or that he's a liar if he'd lied), than later. Cross that one off is my reply Mazz, I'm not into fighting for attention and I'm worth more than that, as is she. Peachy
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
1. She had expectations and they did not meet hers. It was a first meet (yeah), so why did she overly invest. It's not like they were in any sort of relationship. He can be with who ever he wants. 2. Good on him, he let her know. At least he did not Ghost. She should appreciate he made the time to contact. I hope she thanked him. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
The revolving Door does happen a lot, here. I know myself, I have done it. When I look back now, I was burning the candle at both ends. I don't know how I did it, but I did and was shift working too. Now, if I was to do it, I would listen to my body however I wouldn't let them know a lover just left. Somethings are best unsaid. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
His budgie didn't die His best friend was killed in a car accident(yep that was a lying excuse as I found out later.) His mother decided to come to dinner and I was a big secret. The sound of crickets chirping in the silent zone. At least he contacted her BUT it still could of been a lie by a bragging coward :) Hugs Q
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' His budgie didn't die His best friend was killed in a car accident(yep that was a lying excuse as I found out later.) His mother decided to come to dinner and I was a big secret. The sound of crickets chirping in the silent zone. At least he contacted her BUT it still could of been a lie by a bragging coward :) Hugs Q ------------ that guys's excuse for one second and agree with Q that it seems like a lie by a bragging coward.Very ego driven as someone else said in this thread.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think it’s more about scheduling your day/night that’s annoying. Especially if there’s kids involved. And really what’s wrong with investing time on someone ? we don’t know how long it’s taken her to get to this point of a meet up. And who does he think he is. king dingaling..He would of been better off making a lame excuse than saying he’s to shagged.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well yeah he didnt need to disclose exactly why he couldnt make it. A simple sorry got called into work would of been nice i guess. She said he was the one that wanted to meet up with her and kept hounding her to meet. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️ she wasnt really invested but was annoyed she went out of her way to make time for him. She said that she jst calmly told him that she was annoyed at him and told him it was rude and that was it. I told her from the start he was a douche but she didnt listen lol Oh well i guess you are bound to come across a few doucge bags in your life at some point lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Cancellations are a part of the journey. Excuse may be offered - some believable some not. It’s inevitable to some extent that disappointment will be felt after the build up of flirting and exchanging messages and pics and imagining what’s going to happen. Especially if you get along and the cancel is completely out of the blue. I wonder if the ones that cancel with the clear smell of bs hanging as an aroma around their excuse consider the couple they are cancelling on. I mean if you cancel because I’m a bitch or because you don’t find us attractive or whatever - I mean ouch - but honesty is appreciated and it does stop the what’s wrong with me questions... canceling hours before is low but it has to beat being ghosted by some degree..
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RHP User
7 years ago
One of my pet hates honesty 🤦🏻♀️ and what a PAMF! He couldn’t back it up! I honestly wouldn’t waste my time on him again, although he was honest, I think him telling her the reason was both disrespectful and a rejection. He’s not interested anymore. Another one bites the dust... next!
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DaddyRP
7 years ago
Interesting reading some of the reasoning in comments. Firstly, lets be clear on one thing - this isnt about nor should be drawn up with any gender reference. This is about good manners and courtesy. One may argue, well at least he was honest about the reason. Sorry, but that doesn't wash with me. Yes he couild have lied. He could ALSO have thought ahead, reasoning that it's not only unfair if I cancel out on his person tomorrow but it also would be disrespectful and RUDE. maybe if he thought about someone else instead of just himself then this line of logic might have taken place. Inasmuch as I refuse to accept that the behaviour being commonplace makes it in any way acceptable, I do concede the point made that it does indeed take place far too often in the scene. It just speaks of bad manners. It's quite simply really people. If you make a date then turn up, unless there is a bloody good reason not to (and understand they might not want to make a second date - the chance you take). And while we are at it, if someone writes you a message that is somewhat well constructed ( not just one line crap), then take the time to answer it - even if its a short reply to say thanks but no thanks. If we all start to a) be respectful of each others time invested and b) refuse to accept less, then the overall standard will lift and those with poor manners will be forced to lift their game or bugger off. Apathy = Consent, so get busy caring
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RHP User
7 years ago
It depends on the type of relationship they have established. Is it fwb or fb? Do they communicate well? How often they see each other? Every week? or just started? If it is a fwb relationship with good communication - then no, she should not feel offended as that kind of relationship does not include responsibility or any obligation, and no promises are made. Fb means even less. Would she rather he was dishonest ? Guess what? She has no obligations towards him either. She will never know why he said what he said unless she ask him but does it really matter? Perhaps he may think you two got too close and that is why he said it... or he was just an a... Anyhow, it is up to her now. (Ms)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'vampavibe' I don't believeQuoting 'Qefenta3' At leastHis budgie didn't die His best friend was killed in a car accident(yep that was a lying excuse as I found out later.) His mother decided to come to dinner and I was a big secret. The sound of crickets chirping in the silent zone. At least he contacted her BUT it still could of been a lie by a bragging coward :) Hugs Q ------------ that guys's excuse for one second and agree with Q that it seems like a lie by a bragging coward.Very ego driven as someone else said in this thread. I just thought I'd point out that Q did not say she thought it seemed like a lie... But that it could have been. Cheers, Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Honey up the arse.....😂😂😂 One truly sticky date
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RHP User
7 years ago
At least he didn't turn up reeking of the previous nights aromas still hanging in the air
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