M54 F52
When it doesn't come naturally
December 31 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
The ploy I use most often depends on the situation.1) At a private location - their place for drinks or somewhere intimate (private corner of a bar etc) then the old leg rub or lingering brush/bump in a tactful manner none of this yawn/arm stretch to ass grab.2) lean in to whisper something and then "notice" how great they smell then kiss them quickly 3) be honest and upfront about being happy to have met. "I'm glad I took the leap of faith to meet with you. You just never know how it would turn out and I feel "comfortable" with you. 4) bluntly honest - "gosh your arms are sexy" " Sorry could you repeat that? I can hear you but I cant get past the look in your eyes and the urge to kiss you..."obviously these are just examples and your mileage may vary.R
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RHP User
15 years ago
Women can ask one simple question to get all that out of the way.... "are you as horny as I am at the moment?" .... as for guys... well, we could ask a woman that question... but the answer, in my experience, is likely to be an unreliable indication .... so we have to try and use instinct and intuition, read the signs, try to interpret the signals. That's pretty fucked up isnt it... but then women are from venus.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Like Sweetiepie I am happy for others to take the initiative but rarely do so myself. Many men are shy little things and could possibly also be worrying about the same things "Does she fancy me?" " Is she gonna slap my face if I kiss her?" I am by nature a tactile person so touching comes naturally to me. However, if I do not sexually fancy the person, I do not touch them at all. It is all part of the game, you touch, you tease, you flirt, the conversation will usually turn towards things sexual sometime, as most do. But if he still does not respond...there is always the kiss at the end of the time together....now that can be a deal maker or breaker!
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RHP User
15 years ago
If everything else is there...the mood is right, everything is working, try relaxing and doing what comes naturally. I would hope that everyone knows why they are there...something as subtle as a kiss or light caress should answer any questions as to the next step, and body language is easy to read most of the time. | It's not like you are sitting in your car at a traffic light waiting for it to turn from red to green...and usually you would have had enough conversations or met before that moment arrives, so just do what should come naturally. If the light turns red you can always hit the brakes. | Ϲɧαṩιɳǥ Μιɗɳιǥɧʈ ♂
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RHP User
15 years ago
See the problem here is you're doing it all arse about face.. The awkwardness only really exists before sex. You're best off getting naked early on... in the first 15 minutes is really best. You'll still cop an awkward silence or two - but it's only awkward if you're both staring at an imaginary point on the wall.... if you're taking clothes off, the silence is somehow, noisier. . Just remember - noone likes an awkward silence.. so get undressing!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
That's something we always struggle with - we see all the super sexy people with sexy attitude, sexy bodies, and sexy personalities....and we wonder "Why us???" - it's probably the major reason we don't play on a first meeting as we figure that if they are prepared to meet us a second time then we're pretty sure they liked us enough to take it further ;) - and that's good enough for us, as if we are feeling super horny after meeting another person/couple, we are more than happy to go home and relieve our sexual frustrations on each other! haha :) Mr O
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RHP User
15 years ago
Total-Recal I am such a sucker for that line. No doubt it has served you well. AP
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RHP User
15 years ago
Our motto is 'trust & believe'. If something is meant to happen, it will. If not, then move on. That next opportunity is just waiting. Like many others, we've had our share of stress & grief - so the last thing we want is to try and push a situation that simply doesn't want or need pushing. For us, it is more about meeting people and having fun times. If this develops into a sexual connection, then so be it - but this may not be at the first meeting (or the second!). We have already met some beautiful people here - and they know that, for us, patience is a virtue! But worth the wait..... Hugs to all!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
The first MFM i indulged in was to say a tad nerve wracking ! We met for drinks........exciting and that wonderful nevous tension Then......the boys chatted almost non bloody stop about everything from world politics to racing cars While I sat demourly.........saying almost nothing !! Finally...after I had decided that I was going to take a deep breath and push this boundary...... I stood up, walked along behing the boys running my fingers lightly across their necks and said I was going to powder my nose and hoped that when I returned they would have decided what the rest of the evening would hold and made the necessary arrangements.......and walked off to the ladies...... When i came back only one remained.... and he took my hand and lead me away to a nearby hotel room and the second one waiting..... women hold the power is this game...... being submissively assertive works.....and if not..that kiss will
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with Fionabee and Sweetiepie. I find that touching is the best flirt and a good indication on if the play will happen or not. That way you can also see if the kiss will be returned in a slap or a kiss.I do like touching as it can make the senses excited and ticklish and fun. But a good conversation is also needed. Quoting 'MRSSWEETIEPIE' Quoting 'fionabee' Like Sweetiepie I am happy for others to take the initiative but rarely do so myself. Many men are shy little things and could possibly also be worrying about the same things "Does she fancy me?" " Is she gonna slap my face if I kiss her?" I am by nature a tactile person so touching comes naturally to me. However, if I do not sexually fancy the person, I do not touch them at all. It is all part of the game, you touch, you tease, you flirt, the conversation will usually turn towards things sexual sometime, as most do. But if he still does not respond...there is always the kiss at the end of the time together....now that can be a deal maker or breaker! Aaaah Fiona! I love when others teach me more about myself. I've never noticed but although i am very tactile i NEVER touble someone if i'm not interested in them sexually (unless showing compassion) Good Grief, never realised that about myself. When i fancy them i flirt verbally and i'm very touchy feely but when i don't, NOTHING. Hmmm....learn something new every day.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'attachedplus' Total-Recal I am such a sucker for that line. No doubt it has served you well. AP So what else are you a sucker for....perhaps coffee....???? [email protected]
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RHP User
15 years ago
...at an Impasse, then found youselves in a quandry. Why? Well if you look at your words describing ways of being: And if we swapped your word 'Desperate' with 'Intentional' and swapped 'Sleazy' with 'Playful' then your pre-concieved judgements others may have, no longer have to avoided.(Impasse lifted). . Do you see that trying to 'Look good' (and not look bad) is your issue to address?. Social talents like "Gift of the`Gab' don't have to be mastered here. It's not something missing, the presence of which, would make the difference. Quite the opposite, it's something present that does not need to be present - if you follow. Throw away the heavy meaning words and apply positive ones = new meaning. (if you're compelled to judge/be judged). . I have experienced the same as you guys did, once many years ago and only got a grip on 'ways of being' later in life. And it extends into all areas of social interaction. Consider this if you like: Be - Do - Have. To arrive at Having something in your life (in this case having an erotic experience together), you be a certain way about it (be enthusiastic about it) then do something about it (arrange to meet when & where), you've then created a very distinct possibility to Have (the desired experience).So who u gonna BE about it next time....?
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RHP User
15 years ago
reach down, grab your junk, heft it a couple of times and say, "so...what do you want to do?"
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'missbowpeek' The first MFM i indulged in was to say a tad nerve wracking ! We met for drinks........exciting and that wonderful nevous tension Then......the boys chatted almost non bloody stop about everything from world politics to racing cars While I sat demourly.........saying almost nothing !! Finally...after I had decided that I was going to take a deep breath and push this boundary...... I stood up, walked along behing the boys running my fingers lightly across their necks and said I was going to powder my nose and hoped that when I returned they would have decided what the rest of the evening would hold and made the necessary arrangements.......and walked off to the ladies...... When i came back only one remained.... and he took my hand and lead me away to a nearby hotel room and the second one waiting..... women hold the power is this game...... being submissively assertive works.....and if not..that kiss will OH Missbow :) :)when i read that i went AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983' reach down, grab your junk, heft it a couple of times and say, "so...what do you want to do?" lmfao.... I've got an idea... Let's do some tagteam work!HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
good idea. and kind of like they do in the wrestling, we could cheat a bit, and both be in the ring at the same time.
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RHP User
15 years ago
we had gone to their place for dinner...we talked about life kids culture dance politics religion creation the creation of the universe ...you know every banal subject other than sex........then she said...."so if we wanted to start something how would you suggest we go about it ?"I said "knowingly" cause we were the experienced ones.....lol..."Start off with a kiss"........she cleared the dishes walked back from the kitchen and planted a passionate intense kiss on me that almost knocked me off my chair !!!!!this was her first Bi experience and I think I got the full force of all her desires............the evening got pretty wild after that LOL.....so yeah...the kiss seems to work....lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983' good idea. and kind of like they do in the wrestling, we could cheat a bit, and both be in the ring at the same time. So.. do you mean like a daisy chain kind of thing or.... :pHugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
i bounce an idea off u thats made of lead, and get one back thats made of gold, the alchemy of naughtiness.
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