F52
What’s wrong with those who won’t go down
February 22 2024
Second: I been having conversations with some female friends who have long term lovers who don’t go down and/or their partners who have stopped going down.
When I ask why, I’m sadden by some really poor shitty excuses they are given.
Do their partners care about them?
Do they find vaginas appealing?
Are they scared of the awkward silence of the woman who isn’t enjoying?
Is it porn?
What’s wrong with those who don’t like going downtown, who just make up excuses as to why they don’t want to spend time and attention on their partner and their needs?
Why are they in such in a hurry to get down and dirty to get their cock suffocated by a vagina?
IMO: Refusing to do something that pleases your partner doesn’t only make you selfish but shows that you have no affection for the person you’re with. For a man to ask for head and not want to go down, is straight-up selfish and a double standard. So please don’t make women feel bad or be complete arseholes about it.
Ms Foxy
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BornToBeMild2024
2 months ago
Those who don't go down are missing out.
RagnarPrime
2 months ago
I’d counter with maybe understanding why someone would want to go down on their partner.
It takes two to make it work. Why should I expect Abi yo suck my dick or let me throatfuck her just because I want it? I need to give here a reason to want to do it.
Same with her and me playing with her pussy.
The reasons can vary but there needs to be one. And that usually requires both people to have done what’s needed to create that want or desire.
Viccpl
2 months ago
Incredulous to me! Cannot understand it at all!
RHP User
2 months ago
Hey Foxy! I had a long time partner who was very self conscious about her vagina, mostly due to prior bullying and trauma. When we first got together I would go down on her all the time. I really enjoyed it and always had. After the first few months she'd pull me off her and would always try to move the attention to something else. Oral on me, breast play, anything else. She'd told me about being self conscious about it before, but I thought if I continued to show her I had no problem with it that would help. While it didn't make things worse, she also wouldn't let me go down on her properly for ages. Eventually things were getting a bit stale with us (not solely because of this) so I flat out asked her if there was something we could try or I could do to get our spark back. Surprisingly she said she really missed the feeling of me going down on her, but had mixed feelings about it. She was constantly worried about getting in her own head. To keep a long story long, she continued to be hesitant about it so I would offer but never push it. It's not something that sank our ship, but it didn't help bail us out.
It's a bit counter to your post I guess, (or maybe not counter but parallel) but for someone who really does enjoy giving oral to see that reaction from selfless pleasure, running into a stop sign can also be pretty shitty.
Loveoral39
2 months ago
I can't speak for those (men) that will not go down on a woman as I love oral - hence my name. All I can think of is that maybe it's a germ thing, you know a womans vagina was designed by the Public Works Department, who else would put a playground next to a sewer. :) I can say guys can be selfish, as I've come across many that love to be blown but will not return the favour. Good luck in finding an answer to this question.
DMSR1999
2 months ago
Hi SuperFoxy, I’m a lover of going down on a woman or man and could not imagine ever having a session without oral involved. However, not everyone may feel the same way about it as us. There could be a myriad reasons why someone may find it not to their taste (pun intended). To brandish all people who don’t want to give oral as selfish is a bit harsh. Although, I do agree that they are missing out on a lot of fun.
countrytouch82
2 months ago
In the reverse scenario as a man, we are supposed to be nothing but respectful if a woman partner does not want to go down on us, regardless of how much we want it or enjoy it. I do though agree that double standards can come into play, about returning such sexual favours, especially if shitty excuses are given. If someone does not really care for the other, or is just using them for their pleasure without a mutual engagement, that's very different from other reasons that may be some sort of genuine discomfort. Thus my goal is always to make the other person as relaxed and comfortable as possible.
Another separate reason not mentioned may be that the giver has doubts about their own skill level, especially if they have been rebuked by someone in the past. No one wants to be a disappointment, or be made to feel like one. Yes, many receivers do not want to be in the position of "teacher", and givers are not expected to be an Adonis. But again, if both people actually do care for each other, having understanding and inclusion helps bring about experimentation and exploration.
I've only ever found one vagina unappealing because of a strong scent, at the time and in hindsight much different than any other, but I still went down on successfully. But it was also early in my sexual life and I was still experimenting, but I'm still unsure if it meant there was actually something amiss down there. (Not withstanding a case of tonsillitis that I came down with some time after). Before and since though I have never encountered anything/anyone that didn't smell/taste normal, natural and appealing.
On the flip side I've found a number of women that were quite meh about receiving and would rather not. With opportunities being once in a blue moon I'm disappointed there, but again, I respect the other's choice (mainly because they were actually upfront about their reasons and about how their own body works or doesn't). Likewise about giving, if someone is actually honest and upfront and their hangups, it gels much better with the other person.
OP can you give examples of the poor excuses that have actually been given or you've heard about?
Swede712
2 months ago
Ive met a fair few women who hate the idea of anyone going down on them, it kind of put me on the spot as that’s something i enjoy and always thought it’s just the regular flow of things.
RHP User
2 months ago
There could be many reasons for this. Starting with education, lack of or false. As young men you always read or heard the fanny is like fish thing well yeah it is if you have a PH level problem down there and many women think that bathing and showering keep their beautiful quim perfect. Once you experience this PH imbalance it is hard to get out of your head.
I would say some men have been put off by women telling them they are no good at it.
Possibly lack of experience as I have also met women who didn't want or like that. Much to my disappointment
Too into the porn thing. Incredibly going down on a woman isn't the most common thing in porn and it certainly wasn't back when I was a youngen. Men get off pretty easy and there isn't much need for warming them up yet women tend to need that warming up. Porn seems to think the opposite generally the female gives the man head for some time and then a teenie bit of going down on her if at all.
I do have a theory that possibly many women have had the PH level problem as it is now almost a majority percentage of females being shaven down there. Hair down there is there for several reasons and a major one was regulating temperature and keeping nasties out. Perhaps it has been a put off to many men. I can certainly tell you I could not get rid of the stank of a bad pussy much to the amusement of a female friend I confided in :)
Libertine001
2 months ago
For me there's nothing better than a 69 where both parties lose any inhibitions they have and go for it. if your bodies can get in sync with each other, that will blow your mind (pun intended)
It's the perfect primer for an amazing session
When someone over thinks situation they are unable to let go and go with the moment.
Libertine
ank13
2 months ago
may be they smell sensitive
MsSuperFoxy
2 months ago
Let me make this more CLEARER!
It's not the smell, PH levels or anything wrong with the ladies vaginas. 🤦♀️
As stated in my original post:
IT'S THE GOING DIRECTLY TO POUND TOWN or REFUSING/WITHOLDING PLEASURE TO PARTNER FULL KNOWING AND NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN THEY ARE ONLY WANTING TO GET OFF.
It's the selfishness behind it.
My question is: WHY? WHY all of a sudden the change of heart?
Ms Foxy
Qpp75
2 months ago
Absolutely no idea. Best thing in the world (almost)
gentleman_4_fun
2 months ago
Happy to help you Ms Foxy :)
munji
2 months ago
Well it is disappointing when a partner stops doing the things you like. And it not a good sign for a relationship. I would be wanting to know why. I enjoy using all my body to please a partner and oral pleasure is a great way to prepare partners for a satisfying time playing together. Without it are you satisfying your partner properly ??????? And what are you replacing it with??
Yellowpenguins
2 months ago
I mean I was in a relationship like that , I figured that anyone can not like doing something sexually. That's their right. But then you also should not expect to receive.
Your added comments make it sound like they used to though and then stopped in which case yeah nahRHP User
a month ago
Just my two cents but it is quite an intimate thing to do for someone and some ladies are self concious about having a person feasting on them lol. And then the other thing is that lots of men aren't sure how to do it and if they have got a woman who is shy. She won't say anything about it. Then there are those beautiful souls out there who not only have thier oral game tight and sexy but also the lady is also vocal and say "little bit to the right! Yes! Now don't stop and a little bit more pressure!" Nothing better than a woman who is happy to say how she's feeling and what's going to make her feel better :)
Me.personlly love giving face. It's yum and also gets her all nice and ready for yummy love making. Sorry I know that maybe corny for some but I like saying that Instead of fucking:)
EddyWooly
a month ago
Going down on a women makes me so hard and keeps me there .. I love it .. love pleasing them and just being completely engrossed in the moment
WHY_NOT_LOOK
a month ago
Great topic for me I'm not keen on 69s, as I soon loose focus if my partner is doing it right. Not everyone is the same so I'm happy for saying what I like and for them to suggest ideas to me. Once you get in sync with each other then go for gold. But it takes some time to see what gets a new partner off. I've also had partners that are all about fucking... well they can wait, while my toys get me started. They soon learnt that there is more to it than wham bam. And Don't get me started on ONS very rarely the first time is that great. Unless the chemistry is hot and heavy... I remember the great sex I'm not that old yet. 🔥🔥
stu73
25 days ago
Just recently had a female friend I have been on and off for 20 years caring on how she hates sucking cock or having her pussy eaten it's taken her 20 years to say this, for me eating pussy is the only craving I have
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