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What's with the "don't bother reading her profile, I'll just message her anyway" and the nasty email ettiquette fellas???
January 28 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
90% don't read the profile. They just see your profile image and go from there. I have to wonder if they ever get anywhere with their arrogant queries. I am not a sexy young person, like you nrgizabunnii, but still have to deal with the endless simpletons that have obviously not read my profile. Ignore or block. In the end you are on a site that promotes contact. If you have the time mess with their minds, as you seem to be intelligent enough to bite hard and deep, and maybe they will learn a lesson.. Thats what I do when I have the time. I can be fun..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi . Welcome to RHP. . There was a thread about this last month. It's a common complaint of those who actually write their profile rather than use a template version. . Try being someone who actually replies to every message out of consideration! You lose so much of your life you just can't ever get back! LOL . In saying that though, as someone who has had both a couples profile and my own individual one in the past, this will continue to happen to you as long as you use a female profile. I'm absolutely certain of this. . On the other side of the coin, it is also a pet peeve of mine that as a bisexual female, when I open up a female's profile that catches my eye, I'm frustrated a lot of the time to discover that the profile infact belongs to a couple or female who only plays with her partner. . Enjoy your RHP experience though, if your patience stays intact long enough to wade through the waste of messages you will receive from people who don't read. Men are visual creatures, perhaps you should upload a profile pic of your partner ... Just an idea!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Hi . Welcome to RHP. Men are visual creatures, perhaps you should upload a profile pic of your partner ... Just an idea! But that'd be weird, because it'd be a man's pic on a female profile... oh hang on... you made that point didn't you. You mean on a couples profile.. Gotcha!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I get the whole *read read read* and then oh snap she's meant to be in a couple... but I can't do anything about it when my partner works away for long periods at a time... so for the time being it's just me. Hence why I make it VERY CLEAR in my profile that I'm not actually a single female looking to play on my own. Still I don't think that anything in my profile let alone any one else's profile warrants repulsive nasty porn-like messages... just me having a whinge over it because I actually do respond to EVERY SINGLE message, and yes it is so time consuming and I'm well and truly over it, there's chunks of my life that is gone and I will never get back! Lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I got off on the part where you said "make me wanna drop my panties and ride you like a naughty cow-girl should, nasty"There's all kinds of people using this site so although I appreciate what a waste of time it is wading through the crap you get in your inbox, you're still going to get people who get off on writing nasty suggestions to women... that's how they participate and they're disinterested in actually meeting... too busy hiding out in their mother's basement. So... umm... I'm curious about the comments above mine..... what's your partner look like? I mean... if you only play with your partner involved isn't it fair that I should know before I put on my favorite frock and write you a really well considered personal letter sans cock and fanny references... I mean.. I'd hate to waste all that effort.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Hi . . Men are visual creatures, perhaps you should upload a profile pic of your partner ... Just an idea! Believe me when I say that doesnt do the trick either . My own experience talking here - middle of last year sometime I decided for an experiment to change my photos regualrly to see what gets the most response and conversly what gets the least...anyway for a memorable 48hrs I had a gorgeous cock shot up as my ONLY pic (Thankyou to the man who loant his cock to me - you know who you are)...I still got heaps of messages and flirts from people who obviously either didnt care, had a warped sense of humour (hmmm maybe I should revisit those messages lol) and obviously couldnt read because the wording of my profile also said I was taking a break. . This is a numbers game for many and the reasoning behind it is thatif you send out enough messages/flirts then eventually one will work for you. . The rude/crass messsages HAVE to work for these people occassionally otherwise they wouldt continue now would they?? . But I would have to agree with Flirty in that I too am a bisexual woman and when I open a 'single' female profile to only find its a couple or a woman or only plays with her partner around then I too am frustrated. Its hard enough to find genuine women who want to play with another woman all on her own to be constantly finding couples masquerading as single women (and in one meorable case for me a single guy) . My suggestion is that while your profile is very clear as to what you are looking for you may need to change it to a couples profile - that is afterall what you are (and how your profile reads) and also know that you arent alone ALL single women profiles get mail thats suggestive, rude and soemtimes highly amusing....you will find the right person eventually you just need to take the right approach. . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
tjandjs at gmail dot com, send us some pics
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RHP User
15 years ago
This is so common here and let's face it...you are an attractive young woman so no doubt that what is actually read is about two lines "I am a female" "looking for men" ...and the flood gates open up. I sometimes wonder too if the emails you are talking about aren't just guys (in particular, some "females" send some beauties too) that get off on sending something really trashy for the sake of it and not really expecting an answer? Who knows what fires people's rockets? How often too I wonder to people actually read what is behind the preference tabs in the profile...they tell a lot too like whether you are a bit more adventurous, open to anything or a bit shy at first. | I did get a chance to meet a very attractive young lady who blew out of here after about 4 weeks or so for that very reason...email toxiciity got to her and she had enough in short order. Pity, she was really lovely and quite intelligent as well. | Just a couple of thoughts....you don't have to read them. Glance at the opening line and/or the age then if they are not "in the range" just click the little box marked delete. If they look particularly offensive if you do glance at them, then just block the profile by clicking on the name of the offender, hit "block sender" and forget them. If I were an attractive female I would not bother reading things that are clearly way outside of the zone......and yes, your profile is very articulate and clearly states what you want and who you would like to meet. | Simple solution....use the force and just blast them before even bothering reading them. Besides, if they can't write a half way articulate note back and can't spell half of what they are suggesting they want to do with/to you....chances are they aren't going to deliver. Could be the one handed typing syndrome again...all I bet some look like they are typing with their toes? | Confession...I do "fudge" now and then around the upper age limit (say "40") but make a note that I am breaking the posted limit for age and am/try to be polite about it. Shoot me...I am male, and if I don't hear back just leave it lay. I do sometimes get a nice surprise saying thanks for the well written note and that age really is the least of their worries. I often head a note like that with something like "Please read then delete" just out of courtesy....so if you get one headed that way from me? Kidding...but common courtesy just isn't that common at times. | You will probably find that the floods slow down a bit ...maybe not, and best to leave the ladies to help you there. Just a male perspective...and what is nice is that often a well written note and/or a bit of half decent conversation has lead to being contacted later by a few very delightful ladies that have had enough of the bottom feeders or decide to look at things a bit differently. | Good luck...have fun and enjoy the adventure.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'nrgizabunnii' I get the whole *read read read* and then oh snap she's meant to be in a couple... at least you get it out there in the opening line... It's not like you have to read a novel of a profile and then get slapped with a 'oh and I don't play alone' at the end of it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would change it to a couples profile. I know you say that he is away and that is why you have a singles profile but that doesnt really make sense...I mean you are planning to play as a couple...so you should troll as a couple. Mr H is never on here....I do all the profile work and just update him on what is going on. He does find time to look at the pictures though....hmmm So I do all the work & he gets the honey! lol That said Im impressed to see a lady driving the RHP profile and from PERTH nothing less! Very nice to meet you & good luck in your search! Mrs H xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Men mostly use their lil heads ..hehe.. I got a message recently from a guy I rejected.. his words were along the line ..* your loss there are plenty of other whores to fuck on here* OMG! I just replied that being nasty won't get him anywhere. We all get rejected and for him to stop being insecure. block n delete! If they get blocked enough from girls will they get the message? proberly not ... huggies sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxxxx ps any girls want his name? lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I see where you are all coming from, but I actually wasn't asking about whether bi-females get annoyed at PEOPLE LIKE ME with a profile that turns out being a couple profile. Number one, I say I am attached and number two I get it out in the very first line that I am apart of a couple. We are getting way off the subject here, and I'm not going to explain why I do or don't have a couple's profile yet, (because I actually did that in my first response?)... It was purely a whinge and a curious streak in me that wanted to know what the big deal was with the nasty dirty talk and the not bothering to read profiles. I usually respond to most messages, even the one liner messages that don't quite catch my eye I will still reply to you, because I think well "heck he took the time out to write those 3 words, surely I can do the same" so I will reply but lately the nasty filth messages, I'm just not sure about?? Do I reply and how do I word them?? Or shall I just ignore them??? Bunnii
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RHP User
15 years ago
So... umm... I'm curious about the comments above mine..... what's your partner look like? I mean... if you only play with your partner involved isn't it fair that I should know before I put on my favorite frock and write you a really well considered personal letter sans cock and fanny references... I mean.. I'd hate to waste all that effort.Hahaha Stalky, I've been reading a few of your comments on other forums, you have quite a knack for these things!! Well my partner is a very blokey-bloke, if that make sense? Your typical Aussie tradie, works well with his hands... comes home from his stint away smelling like hard work and sweat. I looove it, you can give me man like that any day... I do have pictures of him in my private gallery, but... getting access to it, well that's another thing! I'm not just gonna show any random my hoo-haa and other naughty things! Why... because I've been given access to alot of private galleries, and I did read up on another forum (which I believe you were apart of also) the other week about disturbing profile and gallery pictures, and let me tell you... everything they described in there I have seen.... not a pretty sight at all. So if you ask me nicely and I've had a decent few messages from you, then I'll send it but to send it to you right off the bat... Hmmm maybe not so. People may question my methods, especially on a site like this... but meh...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes I am about to commit forum suicide! To the OP, you have a single profile, the only pics on your profile are of a "single' woman. If I did a search of single women in Perth, lo and behold, THERE YOU ARE!!!!Yes you have it clearly written in your profile that you are a 'couple', but even someone as new to the site as you would have quickly realised that some people here (men, women, couples - hell everyone) don't read the profiles. It is a fact here, some are totally incapable of reading a profile. It could be that some are so misleading that you might as well be reading something in the fiction section at Borders. To some here with a warped sense of reality, the simple fact that you have a single profile, even after reading you are in a committed relationship will mean to them that you want a bit on the side. Try creating a couples profile, with photo's of your guy and a lot of the unwanted messages will cease.On the subject of crude messages etc, it still amazes me the number that are sent (well according to the forums at least). I am beginning to wonder if guys actually have some success with them. They must, otherwise after sending a 100 or so of them to every female profile they see and get a 100% rejection rate they should have got the hint. But if they get even 3 out of that 100 messages sent get a favourable response, then they will continue to send them.After all this place is just a numbers game, if you can come up with something to make yourself standout from the multitude then you have a winner.Mooka
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RHP User
15 years ago
See I knew there were good reasons for us flying in to Perth soon...just hope we might bump into Bunni and her boy! ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Yes I am about to commit forum suicide! To the OP, you have a single profile, the only pics on your profile are of a "single' woman. If I did a search of single women in Perth, lo and behold, THERE YOU ARE!!!!Yes you have it clearly written in your profile that you are a 'couple', but even someone as new to the site as you would have quickly realised that some people here (men, women, couples - hell everyone) don't read the profiles. It is a fact here, some are totally incapable of reading a profile. It could be that some are so misleading that you might as well be reading something in the fiction section at Borders. To some here with a warped sense of reality, the simple fact that you have a single profile, even after reading you are in a committed relationship will mean to them that you want a bit on the side. Try creating a couples profile, with photo's of your guy and a lot of the unwanted messages will cease.On the subject of crude messages etc, it still amazes me the number that are sent (well according to the forums at least). I am beginning to wonder if guys actually have some success with them. They must, otherwise after sending a 100 or so of them to every female profile they see and get a 100% rejection rate they should have got the hint. But if they get even 3 out of that 100 messages sent get a favourable response, then they will continue to send them.After all this place is just a numbers game, if you can come up with something to make yourself standout from the multitude then you have a winner.Mookawell said mooka and dont worry buddy plenty of water here ready to put you out when ignited
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'puppy'See I knew there were good reasons for us flying in to Perth soon...just hope we might bump into Bunni and her boy! ;) Hmmm you know I don't usually like the zoo... but there's something kinda hot sounding about this petting zoo with pups and bunnies... . Oh and Bunni... you've just learnt the two sure-fire things about RHP 1 - You will get no shortage of crap vulgar messages 2 - No forum topic ever stays on track. . I can proudly say I am only ever responsible for number 2 though.
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RHP User
15 years ago
9 out of every 10 men will NOT read my profile and email me asking what do I want, what am I interested in etc... Uhhh read my freaking profile?! It just annoys me, because I put time and effort into my profile so I don't have to repeat myself on every single message I get. I am so straight to the point there really isn't much left for me to tell you... so, um, what are they supposed to say in order to get you talking/get to know you/see if you're for real? honestly, not defending the "you, me, fuck, now" messages but you can't expect EVERY guy to be ready to do exactly what you want solely based on your profile. Penises are... oops, i mean MEN, men are people too, leave them something to talk to you about, or direct the conversation yourself.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'andreweagle' Quoting 'mooka'well said mooka and dont worry buddy plenty of water here ready to put you out when ignited I dont think water will do it. We may need to up him with the fire extinguisher, smother him in salt, or wrap him in a blanket and beat the flames out.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Alright I get that I should change my profile over to a couples, profile... but until I can and when hubby gets home and he can be in the verificatoin picture with me, then it's just little ol' me. I didn't choose to not have him with me when we signed up, and it cant' be helped he's a FIFO worker... so until then it's just me. I've ready some very helpful pointers on here, and they've been great! So thanks to everyone for their input, it has put a little more perspective on everything for me. Oh and curiousnewgirl78 "so, um, what are they supposed to say in order to get you talking/get to know you/see if you're for real? honestly, not defending the "you, me, fuck, now" messages but you can't expect EVERY guy to be ready to do exactly what you want solely based on your profile. Penises are... oops, i mean MEN, men are people too, leave them something to talk to you about, or direct the conversation yourself." If men are emailing me to ask me, am I looking for an affair, or just a naughty night out on my own... and I've pretty much told you that I am NOT looking for either of those, and it happens at least 5 times a day, wouldn't you want to have a whinge about it?? I'm sorry but I'm sticking by what I said. They don't necessarily have to be a modern day Shakespere to get my attention, just don't be so daft and say "hey wanna fuck tonight?" maybe start off with a simple introduction. A few lovely ones I have had, they tell me who they are, that they read my profile and are interested in both myself and my partner and would love to meet up sometime, see how it goes from there. That's all... just simple. Bunnii
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'puppy'See I knew there were good reasons for us flying in to Perth soon...just hope we might bump into Bunni and her boy! ;) Hehehe Puppy and Bunnii... oh so cute!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'nrgizabunnii' Quoting 'puppy'See I knew there were good reasons for us flying in to Perth soon...just hope we might bump into Bunni and her boy! ;) Hehehe Puppy and Bunnii... oh so cute!!! If there was a god... this would be captured and transmitted in my dreams in high definition 3D with 7 point surround sound. :p Errr... ooops.. did I say that out loud?HUgsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
You know you dont have to verify straight away...We were guest members for a couple of weeks before we finally got round to sending in the verification photo. . . Besides, as hot as you are I dont think anyone will care if you are verified or not. lol . As for this not being the place for whinging, you are wrong, this is DEF the place for it...We may not always agree but we always like to hear others thoughts (unless its ' what music gets you in the mood' or ' Do older women really like young guys' or Do women like big penises?' ((coincidentally posted by a bloke with a large penis lol)) . People have agreed with you! And feel free to ignore our suggestions . Am thinking those guys who send rude messages were lucky you didnt take them up on it, cos judging on these few posts, you are WAY to much woman for them to handle!! . . Keep up the good work! Mrs H xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
How do i know....?well im an evil genius...My profile could be considered a small essay, so to make sure its been read in full,In my profile i have a Code word...i ask people to use the code word in the subject line of the messageAny message i receive that dose not contain the code word in the subject line is not read its deleted.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah have to say what are some people thinking ? without reading your profile!!!!! it says all that should mean anything about you but most people just loo at the pic and think ohhh yeah if only they took the time guess it's a males way of thinking!
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RHP User
15 years ago
You sound like an intelligent, moral, conversational girl, however in your pics you look like a porn star, thats about as far as a penis needs to get to send a message, maybe a less slutty shot would raise the level of respect the writing dicks are giving you. Rach
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' If there was a god... this would be captured and transmitted in my dreams in high definition 3D with 7 point surround sound. :p Errr... ooops.. did I say that out loud? Yes indeedy, you sure did!!! Bunnii doesn't mind :) everyone needs to have dreams right? Bunnii P.S Nudierudie - That is a FANTASTIC idea!! Love it!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have set up a few different 'no thank you' templates. One simply says 'That was offensive. Please don't contact me again'. Easy peasy...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not laughing at you...but the topic itself...AGAIN!!! There are men who, as stalky said, get off on the nasty porn-like messages..same as the polite ones in chat who say"get your tits out" to the women on cam. Charmers!!! There also the ones who just don't read.. part of the associated problems of this scene.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'rachlovespete' You sound like an intelligent, moral, conversational girl, however in your pics you look like a porn star, thats about as far as a penis needs to get to send a message, maybe a less slutty shot would raise the level of respect the writing dicks are giving you. Rach A less slutty shot??? I have actually experiemented with different pics and it doesn't change a thing. I've seen alot worse... and wasn't asking for your opinion on my profile picture... Oooh Irrespsonsibility I like the template idea, I have a few but I haven't got one that's "that was offensive, please don't contact me again" and I really like that one, so I might just steal that!!! Anyway thanks again everyone for all your input and idea's whether I liked reading them or not I did appreciate them Bunnii is putting this whinge to rest now. X
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