Whats the meaning of this?

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  I took it as meaning that the person was interested in or willing to be a part of liaisons outside of an already existing relationship of a secretive nature, I:e keep it on the down low

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  Blueyesxxx

  3 years ago

  It’s a really good question you ask. For many I think the word affair indicates something secretive/ and or what others are not intended to know about. That being said, whilst I’m a single and solo guy, I like my privacy, I don’t wish to intrude into others lives/ relationships/ or simply enjoy the time, moments and experiences with others. I think at the end of the day it’s what you and the other wants it to be. Words are open to interpretation and misunderstanding. Rather than think of the negative. Maybe start a chat. You will very quickly realise their intentions and perspective. Of not aligning it’s easy to walk away or you may be pleasantly surprised. Hope this helps

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  Lostyanumber

  3 years ago

  I heard that we have three lives, public, private and secret, so a discreet affair could in the second or third category. Cheaters will definitely use the term as they little choice to do otherwise. I am looking for a discreet affair because Wifey accepts our mis-matched libidos and has given me a hall pass. She doesn't want to know about who I'm seeing let alone anything else, all she needs to know is that I'm going out, and may not be back until tomorrow. SBS Insight, recently had Mid-life Sexual Awakening as its topic, some of the participants in that program were in the discreet affair category. It's recommended viewing for those who are interested, Wifey definitely didn't want to watch it.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  3 years ago

  I'm in two minds: Discreet: keeping something confidential or to avoid embarrassment. 1. Yes, Affairs are planned deceit, without partners knowledge. I don't like that. 2. Most of the time is is just free meaningless sex people are seeking, no other arrangement like emotional. Which I get. People get their fix, go home to partners where sex is missing, due to various reasons: could be partner had an accident, are bed bound, are non verbal or something like that *its just an example*. I have understanding and empathy in that situation, others not. It means to me: Unless we know a person's real life situation, we can not really judge. All tho I have, when necessary. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Good question. It usually means keeping it quiet from his/her partner and you would only find out the reason once you got to know the person. The reasons could be many. It could be a simple as protecting professional reputation. Or it could be they have sexual desires beyond their partner but do not want to mess up the life they have at home. Personally, I prefer meeting women who I can be social with. Have a coffee, go shopping, the simple things. Having to avoid public gaze is not comfortable for me.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  My take is that they are fucking around, and I'm not missing out on anything 😂

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  There are some exceptions but for me I see it as building a secret life. This is likely to involve dishonesty and if discovered will cause hurt. That’s not cool

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Discretion can be summed up in lots of ways that doesn't necessarily mean going behind someone's back. For me for example my wife knows i am on here and looking for a sexual liaison due to our circumstances and is ok with it. But at the same token we wouldn't want the family to find out especially the girls they would be horrified hence the term discrete affair. Just to put the topic in a different light

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  My view, my wife does not know about me seeking companionship with another lady and would not be agreeable to it either. She has not been interested in any physical or emotional interaction for probably 4 years now (some medical issues involved) where as I still need these things. I do not want to leave my family or leave the life I currently have, but why should I go without two of life's most awesome things just because I am married, to which society dictates I cannot be with anyone other than my wife??? Discreet for me is minding my business and respecting the privacy of the other person involved. FWB is the best arrangement. No obligations, no hassles, no stresses. Meet at a mutually agreed time and place and enjoy someone's company then head off back to YOUR life. I have always thought of the term "affair" to mean clandestine meetings with one exclusive person to which you build strong emotional ties, with the view to forming a monogamous relationship. Remember, these are my views and I know that doesn't necessarily make the right.

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