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What's more Important to you?
June 27 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
The great profile which is clear about what you offer and what you want, honest, with a bit of humour thrown in to show your personality and sense of fun is alway a winner. Yours is very good. In the end most people have to fancy each other so the clear and current face and body shots are the way to go to avoid time being wasted and opportunities lost potentially. Happy Hunting
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RHP User
15 years ago
Looks for a quick one off shag. Personality for a good and more satisfying shag, with possible on going friendship (& shags) xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personality and common interest... looks are a bonus! :D
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RHP User
15 years ago
How they look is definitely important! Maybe the most important thing. However I can be swayed to someone who doesn't fit what I find attractive if they display certain personality traits and if they have a sense of humour that aligns to mine. However, there arte some that I will never find physically attractive, and they could be smart, and funny, and caring and all that other stuff, and yet there's still no way I'd go there.
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RHP User
15 years ago
PBG yes that is true, but I don't know... I think personality definitely can sway you... or at least an appreciation of someone's mind and wit, etc. I find that I can be "attracted" to the most unlikely people, just because of their humour or because of how their mind works, or maybe because their kink is similar to mine? I just have a good time with them, even if they may not always fit my "ideal" man in the looks department. xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Although it helps that I don't really have an "ideal" man, or a type. Well I don't think so?? xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
There have been a couple who, personality wise, everything I ever would want, but something about how they look just wasn't right. Actually, one didn't smell right. I can't get past those things, shallow creature I am. Ha, well, I'm overlooked all the time on the basis of my looks as well, so it's all good. :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Gawd, they most definitely have to smell right. And, yes you have to find them physical attractive. I suppose what I was getting at, is that they don't have to look like George Clooney if they have a personality that you find attractive.I love boys that smell nice. :PM
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RHP User
15 years ago
Looks over personality.....initialy anyway. But it's always about if I find them attractive so if I dont I will never know what their personality is like anyway and thats fine by me. What I like in looks may not be what the next girl likes so its all about personal choice.
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RHP User
15 years ago
lmfao.... Let's find one for licking cockbait! Someone who doesn't mind getting down and bit ... dirty so you can try out your new and improved technique on him. :)HugsStalky Quoting 'Meeka100' I love boys that smell nice. :PM
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personality is generally more important for me. Though I need to have at least seen a face pic before I agree to meet, even a social meet. One gentleman has a pic in his private gallery but wouldn't show it to me. He wanted to be Mr Secret Identity and I told him I've never been a fan of Marvel or DC comics... I'm glad personality is important to many women as it's my main selling point. My looks are good but I understand that they're a niche market. ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I check out their photos... and then read the profile... But for me - it's all in whats written. If they're smokin' hot and can't write their own profile (ie. use the profile builder/write some crap one line about not knowing what to write) then I click the big red X at the top right hand of the page. Not all about looks for me, although, it certainly helps if they are decent looking too. (MRS)
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RHP User
15 years ago
The intial response must be attraction. For me, I need that attraction and then if they have a personality to match, Ive hit the jackpot...
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RHP User
15 years ago
initial attraction is for me, weight, i am just an addict for slimmer bodies, not possessing one myself, i can marvel at the effort that people go to , to keep themselves slim. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so everyones different. but a cheeky smile, and a great pesonality also can clinch a meet
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RHP User
15 years ago
100% both, looks catch the eye and words get the mind thinking, can't have one without the other. Mrs hisandhers82
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RHP User
15 years ago
Height is a big thing for me, for men six foot or over I'll read the profile, then look at the pictures, under six foot I just move into the next one.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have rejected a few gorgeous guys in my time because their personalities didn't live up to their looks. I do have certain physical preferences but they aren't important compared to what is on the inside.
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RHP User
15 years ago
looks matter definitely, personality does too, but don't forget how good they are at fucking, chicks that really know how to fuck always get me comin back
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well not true, I like a good perv like everyone does but when choosing a playmate I tend to go with what is written. Personality will win every time.
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RHP User
15 years ago
except for height. I am only 5'2" and am not interested in anyone shorter than I. I do preferr tall...big bears of men.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think you need to be attracted to someone physically as well as personality. Having sex with someone will only work for you if you like and respect each other which can only be achieved at a face to face meeting to hear the sound of their voice and to determine whatb they are really like. Anything can be written in a profile. Meet first play later as they say. Then if you want to have sex well an good, if not, no harm done.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Altho Most Men Prefer Looks Over Perosonality or BrainsAs Most Men can See Better Than They Think...Most Women Prefer Personaility or Brains rather than Looksas we know all too well that Looks Can fade and Personality is Forever...Personally myself... I like a Healthy Mixture of Both
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just to complicate the thread - For playmates I actually much prefer a person / people who have a relaxed and quietly confident attitude to sex and all its possibilities. The hottest people I know are often not the most physically attractive, nor are they oozing pesonality - in fact often its the quiet ones that pleasantly surprise. What they have in spades is a confident (not arrogant) self assurance, a really horny and open minded attitude and a desire just to have fun without any hangups.
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RHP User
15 years ago
totally agree with Krissy_G ......... " If the first thing I see is the horny and need attention now thingy Im instantly put off. It just doesnt show any personality and invariably the profile content is all template. So even if they have a pic up and its attractive Im not attracted"Yet in saying that........ you gotta like what you wake up next to the next morning....... they may be good looking...but....... all show no go..... as Mr NS would say.I once talked to a guy for over 4 hours on the phone, had the most funniest, open, amazing conversation I had had with a guy for ever...... we finally met..... OMG....he was smitten..... but man I just couldnt go there.... Its awesome when there is both attraction and personality. Really its core values, sexiness, loyalty, and trust that gets me.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I guess what we are talking about here are the filters we apply in selection...what changes the light from amber to red or green. To me, looks are only a shallow top end filter...sure, I am shallow enough to have certain prefences but those can be deceiving. | Meeka, I hope you don't mind if I borrow a page from your book...you have graced us over time with several different looks and very different depending on your perspective. One picture of your face fully made up, the smile just enough to show of the ruby red lips...and I find that attractive. You also put up another...no makeup and a big cheeky smile, that one too is also attractive. I do tease you a bit, but just used that as an illustration as both would be you and neither you exclusively in who you are. | I have often thought, if everyone would play in honestly...that we should have PG3 and the requisite be for nothing but "pillow hair and the morning after" look. Really, if we are going there chances are we will see that look too. Mine would carry a consumer warning. | By far and away...personality wins out every time, whether it's the one portrayed as the persona behind the screen or the one that comes shining through here sometimes but always in person. I have walked headlong into situations where the online bravado suddenly melts from the person when you say hello and find yourself talking to a little puddle of melted butter...that's not a lot of fun or they reach for self confidence by going over the top and that's no fun either. In all things balance...and not just an act. | Fun, funny, a bit quirky and even silly all work for me...and let's face it, sex is not serious or shouldn't be and we all have those moments when we would hope we can laugh with each other rather than at each other. | I have been with women that would rate 11/10 on the first quant and 3/10 on the second. The sex was interesting but the rest was what put it on the "don't go there again" list...something I again remind myself as I am applying the filters. Similarly and the inverse...6/10 looks and 10/10 personality can light the world on fire for me. | The last is perhaps the most important and hardest to define and that is just the chemistry...like watching two piecs of a jigsaw puzzle click together in place, and sometimes you just look and think "damn...I would not have spotted those two as fitting together like that but they do and now I get the picture". | Just one man's opinion expressed to excess as usual...but that's me. I also value communication and someone who can think on their feet. My posts may get shorter but then again... | ....that wouldn't be me.
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RHP User
15 years ago
From my point of view I think what a guy is saying is initially more important than how he looks.I've met far too many good looking assholes in my time!Sarah x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personality is the main criteria but looks also matters... As matter fact gr8 personality wid good looks dats it... After all the whole occasion special...
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RHP User
15 years ago
we have each found our 'ideal' and have cemented that by marrying...here though, we are looking for fantasy play, so can afford to be as 'superficial' as we choose.....this is about 'wants' and 'desires' and the pursuit of some 'fun'.... so appearances play a huge part in our selection process. we see no point in playing with some one who wouldnt rate a second glance elsewhere, or with some one who is just 'ok'. settling for 'second best' is not who either of us are.we also feel that theres nothing more unattractive than someone with the intelligence or personality of a floor mop, so in addition to capturing the imagination by looking/smelling/sounding good, they also have to be able to string more than 3 words together and behave in a way thats acceptable and confidence inspiring...........so for us its a combination of the two..looks and personality....
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rupamohan
14 years ago
It is not that simple. It is never one or other..it depends on the mood too..this site is not about intellectual friendship..so physical attraction is must..but it needs to be realistic. We don't believe quantity and quality are always mutually exclusive but some balance is required and everyone has a different balance. One needs to also look at who is free enough to meet... Let me say if I have to rate usefulness of a profile. Usefulness to me means how I can rate your profile is unique and specific to you. This is how I will do For main pic - you can get up to +100 for nice pic but a genital shot will get -100. Each sentence containing -relevant but useless info – for e,g I am hot, sexy etc…gets -10. -irrelevant and useless info – for e,g I am prof, educated etc…gets -30. - relevant and useful info- gets +30 Plus each sentence above 50 gets -5 ...lol too long profile!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Aaahhhh...the old nature Vrs Nuture debate....in a slightly different guise..... The wheels on the bus go round and round etc..... have fun.
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