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What to do if a couple have a threesome with another female, but won't have one with another male.
August 28 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
As the guy here, I understand the trepidation. We both got into this as we were both turned on by the idea of a mff threesome. Then we tried a mfmf with another couple and I was quite unsure of how i'd feel. The first time I saw Mrs Pup with another man it blew my mind, it was such a sexy sight and such a great feeling to realise there was no jealousy at all. So I understand us men can find it hard but really we're a bit selfish to think we can have 2 girls and not reciprocate with 2 guys for our lady if she so desires. Tell him to give it a go, it's only fair!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thank you. For a while there I thought I was been selfish. He is not sure how he would react. We almost got there a few years back when we were getting to know another couple, but then he decided he couldn't see me with another guy. I see it as all fun, there are no ties. But yet he will say to me that I can go out and be with other guys, just not around him. I can't figure that out
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RHP User
15 years ago
Really, the way I see it, playing with others is something that has to be talked about, understood and agreed between the couple. Not as easy to achieve as it is for me to write it lol.I see on your profile that while you don't have guys in your seeking preferences, they are mentioned in both parts of your write up, so I'm guessing you & your partner had at least talked about the possibility of including fellas. I imagine it would help to talk about why you would like to and what it is he has against it. For him, is it the guy on guy closeness or the closeness of the guy to you, the most obvious sort of things I can imagine or something else?Lotta fun to be had if yas can work it out... Hugs, Mrs P
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RHP User
15 years ago
Is this a gee up or are you serious? Just in case you are serious.I think your hubbies definition of open minded might be a little different to mine.or in your case,Whats good for the gander is not good for the goose.Could this be yet another case of " I want to screw as many chicks as possible, but no way is any guy getting his mits on my girl"Cheers Nev........c'mon hubby fairs fair, so share!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well you see, I am bi-sexual. So he didn't talk me into it. I think for him its a matter of he wants me to do want I want to, but does not want to see it. Which pisses me off because we are a couple and have always said when we first started talking about this kinda stuff, that we do things as a couple. I am starting to think that maybe I may be more open minded than him. But I see your point, it could of been a way of him getting what he wanted first.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm with Mrs S.....Mix and match.....Only way to fly!!!Chill
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
(Mr here) Sorry to say but he is in the wrong game!! Fair's fair! He's insecure & selfish!! This situation can only lead to trouble cos eventually you are going to really push the issue cos you're feeling ripped off. He will probably eventually try it..and then either one of two things will happen...he'll realise just how much fun it is..or he'll freak out ..probably the latter!!Then the real trouble will begin. I'm speaking from experience here...we have seen it happen more than once! Good Luck
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RHP User
15 years ago
So is he OK with you having the female on your own too. And you go bACK TO THIS COUPLE THING WHEN ITS 4 Way fun. Sorry I'm with the others
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RHP User
15 years ago
don't you suggest to him that you meet other couples, instead of just having 3somes. That way you will both have some fun.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It might not be about his greed to have more than one cake and eat them all ... He might be homophobic. Not all people here are bisexual or even bicurious. He simply might not be that comfortable with another guy (who he might not know or trust) in such close proximity. As far as I am aware, there are different levels to swinging, Mr NextLevel might simply not be comfortable in the MFM situation and have absolutely nothing to do with him being perceived as greedy. mooka (awaiting the flames ...)
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RHP User
15 years ago
This is what we have thought for a long time. The typical profile Bi wife straight hubby, 95% of these couples tell us the number reason for swinging is the girls must play, if you suggest no girl girl play hubby is not interested. Hubby convinces / encourages his wife to be Bi, so she can orginise him a root, and he doesnt share.....simple as that!
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RHP User
15 years ago
It might just not be his thing. I have had a few FMF threesomes with my partner and would love a MMF threesome however my husband is not bi at all and so the thought of it does not interest him but he is more then happy for me to find that on my own. Also he does get how a threesome would work where he and another guy take turns with me, but he is happy if we have a foursome. The one thing I have learnt from this swinging scene is that it is important to talk about things ... you might find he has his reason for not wanting a MMF threesome or even a MFM one or not seeing you with other men. A lot of people on this site will offer advice based on their experiences but you need to find what is right for you and your man. Take peoples advice with a grain of their sweaty past salt.
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RHP User
15 years ago
But we shouldn't crucify him just yet, we don't know the whole story. Miss Next said he's happy for her to go out and shag other guys but he doesn't want to see it. I think this is so risky, he obviously has a problem with sharing her with other guys and I'd say he'd eventually get pissed off if she took him up on the offer. He needs to understand that if he likes enjoying another woman in a mff situation then his partner is giving a huge gift of love and trust, exactly the same as if he allows her to enjoy another man. I have a mate that would love to see his wife with another woman and join in but he just couldn't cope with sharing her with another guy. He knows it's a double standard so he chooses not to go there at all. Mind you I think Mrs Pup may change his mind one day haha
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RHP User
15 years ago
Leroy get the horse I reckon were gunna have ourselves a hangin ! yeeeeeeehaaaaaa. Grab the tar and the feathers , some hot oils and slat .......... l Then lets roll him in honey and put the vammit on a bull ants nest ! Anyone else hear the Banjo playing ??? That'd be me sitting on me veranda in me rocking chair with me gun and me blood hound ! He's histroy ...... lets get him I'll hold him down and you bash him ... we'll do it behind the toilets at little lunch ! yeeeeaaahhhhhhh that'll teach him ........! Anyone else see this getting a little ummmmm excited ? Brae ...... School prefect !
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RHP User
15 years ago
yeah my partner is really into Mff and at first I dIdnt mind as I'm bi and up for it, but now... .... Haha Not sure if I have any advice to give.. Except we're talking more about it. And it's helping.
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RHP User
15 years ago
...your fun too????? What arent you having fun doing MFF??? Lost now...someone please lead me out of this black tunnel I have found myself in....I'm going to go and find Mooka the voice of reason might be able to explain what I am missing here...cause I agree with him some guys just arent comfortable with another guy near him why should he be crucified for that?? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
It would seem we have the same problem only totaly opposite,you see we both love mfm but my wife dosnt want to see me with another girl although she is happy for me to go play with another female on my own.Well i gave it a try one night an to my supprise there was no reprocutions(2 years on).I havnt been there -done that again as i feel its something we should be sharing together.Oh and by the way--you dont have to be bi to have fun with mfm,im straight just not phobic. Good luck and i hope it gets better for you because as my wife says--2 heads are better than one
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ah i love the logic in these forums. Focus, thank you hun, I am glad someone read my post lol Look everyone, not everyone is into everything. Some guys just don't like being in that close proximity to another naked male. It could be anything: he might be homophobic (yep there is that word again); he might be worried he might not perform as well as the other guy; hell he might be worried the other guy will show him up - IT COULD BE ANYTHING. From what the OP has said, her hubby has been very accommodating to her needs in regard to women. This whole swinging situation, from his view, could just be letting the Mrs enjoy what she wants in another female. Quite a few people here have had the hide to call him greedy. It seems to me that the couple in question set out their rules, a female for the Mrs, now the Mrs wants to change the rules, so who is being greedy? Hell going by the respondents here, it seems that everyone should be willing to fuck everyone (or anyone) - unfortunately real life or should I say reality, means that that just isn't going to happen. And as usual here in the forums, the poor male is always wrong, no matter what the situation is. Yes I know I will get flamed, bring it on
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RHP User
15 years ago
I wonder Mooka if the contributors would be saying the person involved is greedy and selfish if the man posted he wanted to enjoy a MFM and the woman wasnt into it...what advice would the lovely couples here be giving to the couple in question then??? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh Mooka you are usually an undeniable source of truth and wisdom and I get your first point but from the little we've been given to go on I think that the whole homo-fear thing isn't at the base of this. Any male I have ever talked to about this, whether they indulge in mff fun or not, if they wouldn't do a MFM the root of the choice rests in their inability to see a partner with another man. Yes there's all the other reasons you list but surely these go the same for a femme in a mff. If hubby is more than accommodating his wife's i tendencies ie he is playing with the other woman as well, then there is absolutely no logical reason to not give her the same choice. Us Pups started all this to indulge each other and Mrs Pup's curiosities and the mfm thing hasn't been on our wish list. As time rolls by it's been me who would love to find the perfect male specimen to give her the best sex she's ever had whether mfm or just for 2. (oh and this isnt an invitation for a million winks and msgs, the lucky guy will be found by us thanks and premature messaging may only get you blocked!). Oh I just saw focus's last post...so here the couple is...I mention finding a hot Romeo for my wife and at best just get a coy chuckle and a "that might be fun" but no great interest. So what do I do, push ahead and find her a guy to fulfill my desires or be stuck with having to persist with these damn mff 3somes, hahaha life's hard isn't it, but really thank god for other couples!
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RHP User
15 years ago
you should just stop giving him mff til he comes round to your way of thinking if that doesnt work...stop sex all together lol isnt that what us girls are ment to do?? roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had my first MFM experience while I was working in Beijing. There was a very gorgeous Brazillian girl who essentially liked both her friend (my colleague) and I. Being the dirty bugger I am, I suggested that she had to make up her mind as to whom she liked ... him, me or both of us at the same time. Heheh.I was quite shocked to hear the latter and my mate and I looked at each other thinking we weren't really keen on seeing each other naked.Being the adventurous one though, I figured there's no harm in trying as long as there was no crossing of the swords, warn when orgasm is approaching, no eye contact and the only physical contact being a high-five to switch sides. :)When you're in the heat of the moment though and she proceeds to go down on both of you and pulls down both men's pants to get her mixture of flavours, all that discomfort seems to just melt away and you're not even thinking about not seeing your buddy naked with a raging hard on. You're just enjoying what she's doing and what you're doing to her. Besides which, logically, it's not like we haven't seen naked men before ... all that porn we've watched in our lifetimes! I think it's just that in this case, it was a little more uncomfortable as it was a friend and not a total stranger.It is perfectly understandable that he's not comfortable with the idea of another naked guy but keep persisting and just encourage him to try it once. If he doesn't like it after that, or feels that he couldn't perform because of the fact there was another naked guy in the room, well there's always that old saying ... you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. In the end, I guess it just is what it is but there's no harm in trying just the once. It's not like you're signing him into a death sentence.
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