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What sets the Men apart from the Boys?
September 02 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
The first thing that popped into my head was the word responsibility. From my experience the thing boys and girls would try to avoid being responsible whenever it suits. In my experience peer pressure and fitting in was far more important. When an individual owns their responsibilities even when it may cause embarrassment or take them away from what they would prefer to be doing and defending what is right even if you have no support, that is when u think a boy is ready to be a man and a girl a woman. So in terms if RHP, responsibility would equal respecting safety, health, differing needs and making every effort to make the experience great for everyone,not just yourself and within the community red flag bad behaviour, not turn a blind eye and help those who are putting themselves at risk etc Wow my one word answer went on a bit! Something like that is my first thought anyway?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Great topic Salina, love this! For me and what attracted me to hubby was that he was soft and kind and thoughful and he knew how to be a gentleman. I can walk into a room full of women and know that behind closed doors I am treated the best BUT......(and this is where the man vs boy comes in) whilst he caters to my every desire as much as humanly possible. He will NOT be pushed around or manipulated by me or anyone else. He's intelligent and makes (most of the time) smart decisions and choices. He puts (most of the time) me first and ALWAYS puts his children first above everything and everybody. He works VERY hard so we can have everything we need and is a great example/role model to his children of how a husband and father should behave and live his life. Sure he's imperfect just like everyone else, there are times (just like the rest of us) where he's not Mr Perfect but 95% of his life involves him being the best friend, son, husband, father, human being and boss he can possibley be. THIS is a man.......not a man child/boy. xx Kitty
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RHP User
14 years ago
One of the most important signs that you have a MAN on your hands.....He controls his cock, his cock does not control him. Can't have the tail wagging the dog now can we?
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RHP User
14 years ago
What sets the men apart from the boys? It's not the clothes we wear or how saggy our bum is... or a paternal attitude... It's traditionally related to the getting of knowledge... customarily signified by some kind of ritual. I'm a boy trapped in a wrinkly old man's body. I am also a responsible determined professional man about town... a sophisticated artist, a dirty little slut... etc..... I accept the multiple facets of my personality and try to embrace them without conflict. I think it's perfectly acceptable to be or not to be. That is not a question, because we are what we are. We are men. Das all. In all our creepy, playful, masculine, dominant or submissive modes, we are still men... and puppies... and rabid beasts... all concurrently... So get used to the idea that men cannot be caged into one definitive modus operandi.HugsStalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
...quality of "mental maturity" maybe be the one you're asking about, Salina. It's perfectly normal and in fact very healthy for folks to play up a bit and act like boys and girls. Hey, I really would be the one that wanders in with water cannon full of hot fudge. At some point though, you know where to draw the line...children are great, but I wouldn't want to be one all the time. | This is different from the less reliable measures we try to throw around IQ or the near useless EQ...those are just things that keep psychiatrists and social psychologist employed or writing books. For example, if a male couldn't look at your body and appreciate that it's a canvas and the master artist who is mother nature has painted an amazing story of your life...then he's a boy and shouldn't be privileged to find out what you can do with the experiences gained along the way. Same thing with a female that might see wrinkles around the eyes and not realize they could just be real laugh lines or maybe caused by a bit too much sun when you have been kicking around the planet. Simple form maybe....boys and girls are very superficial, men and women see beyond that. It's part of the process we call growing up. | Of course, you could try to avoid playing the cards you've been dealt by running out and having more parts lifted than Mercedes left parked in the streets of the CBD overnight. Of course in a few years you will look like Donatella Versace or Paul Hogan....yikes, some folks actually prefer to see your mouth move when you talk and it's scary sleeping with someone whose eyes are always open and bulge out. Not a lot of value add there...I'd rather go on a nice long vacation. | Boys and girls are fun...they can add life to a party. We should be able to put them back in the toy box though when we are done and still be able to have fun as men and women. | "The only difference between men and boys is the price and number and size of their toys". | I need a big toy box. | | And he or she who dies with the most toys.....wins!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
is the answer. I would have to disagree with Boobalicious (sorry) as I have known six year olds to be very parentalised and responisble mini adults and I dont think a six year old would qualify as a man or a woman. It has been life experience that have made them so. Some teens can have the mental maturity of a fifty year old as well. These are the ones that have had to have this maturity in order to make any sense of thier lives. I think becoming a man or a woman has a lot to do with attitude. It stops becoming all about me, me, me and the thoughts and needs of others takes over. One also needs to strike a balance though as all sacrifice and nothing for self is damaging as well. This is not age specific and is also something that some never ever acheive. They remain little boys and girls trapped in adult bodies.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' The first thing that popped into my head was the word responsibility. From my experience the thing boys and girls would try to avoid being responsible whenever it suits. In my experience peer pressure and fitting in was far more important. When an individual owns their responsibilities even when it may cause embarrassment or take them away from what they would prefer to be doing and defending what is right even if you have no support, that is when u think a boy is ready to be a man and a girl a woman. So in terms if RHP, responsibility would equal respecting safety, health, differing needs and making every effort to make the experience great for everyone,not just yourself and within the community red flag bad behaviour, not turn a blind eye and help those who are putting themselves at risk etc Wow my one word answer went on a bit! Something like that is my first thought anyway? Agree with you 100%
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RHP User
14 years ago
Real men call ...not text..something that totally annoys me.. One of Mr welsh's qualities that I adore as he has never sent me a text. Real women make that extra effort for her man and she will be rewarded 10 fold. Knowing to balance work, partner and the best quality time for her children, to inspire them into becoming the best person they can be. Simple really Respect and kindness to all huggies sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxx Nice post Sal
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' is the answer. I would have to disagree with Boobalicious (sorry) as I have known six year olds to be very parentalised and responisble mini adults and I dont think a six year old would qualify as a man or a woman. It has been life experience that have made them so. Some teens can have the mental maturity of a fifty year old as well. These are the ones that have had to have this maturity in order to make any sense of thier lives. I think becoming a man or a woman has a lot to do with attitude. It stops becoming all about me, me, me and the thoughts and needs of others takes over. One also needs to strike a balance though as all sacrifice and nothing for self is damaging as well. This is not age specific and is also something that some never ever acheive. They remain little boys and girls trapped in adult bodies. Have you followed the lives of some of these mini mature kid/adults at all? I think in some cases, like my mum who spent 7 years in an orphanage, can have and behave well beyond their years early (they have wisdom and can make big decisions rationally, plus handle a lot without signs of stress), but also at times go through stages where they re-claim their stolen childhood so to speak. My mum is 75 and my bub 3, and my mum has a toy/doll collection that she adores like a child does, moreso than my toddler. I can literally keep track of my toddler out in public/travelling/shopping etc But lose my mum over and over, which gets rather stressful, as she can behave like alice in wonderland at times, goes to her own magical world! In fact i give her (well she takes) some of my toddlers toys as they make her happy. My mum at times shows great strength and smarts and ability for anything she fancy's (MADE me book a plane jump for her 70th against my comfort zone), she has a very young, playful child like spirit and has always prefered the company of friends 20-30 years her junior, because she has a young spirit... I also find parents who have the children in their early 20s, sort of rediscover their lost early 20s and the party lifestyle later at 40. So I guess what I am trying to say is, people can be both? This question really opens up a fair amount of discussion which i think all may have some valid points?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes it does open up valid points. I guess there is no one sure fired answer to this one. I have not followed the lives of these kids yet but have been lucky enough to get a few of them back to the age they should be. It is sad to see a old woman looking out of the eyes of a three year old girl.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I believe that we are all capable of very adult thoughts and very juvenile thoughts! Perhaps the reality is it is all based on the individuals perception or mind read. That is to say it is different for everyone, and no one answer is correct and no one answer is wrong! For me personally its about knowing that I am trying to be the best person I can be, and helping my fellow man to be the best that they can be.Possibly this will grow into something that works for everyone in a positive way!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I reckon you still have a great bodie Salsa
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RHP User
14 years ago
Inny vs. outySimple really Oh, wait, reread the topic before I hit "post"Speaking on a purely personal level... I find I grew up about the same time I "gave myself permission" to make mistakes. I was one of those people that was raised in a glass cage... I had the privelege of watching everyone else experience the world, I just wasn't allowed to go experience it with them.I find that Adults are separated from Children by how they deal with mistakes. Adults own their mistakes, apologise for them, fix them when they can and accept responibility for the consequences when they can't. Children just blame the Boogeyman :PJust my belated two bits' worth, Sal
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RHP User
14 years ago
Boys become men when they stop deliberately wearing their jeans low 'gangsta-style' because they want to show off their $50 CK undies and start wearing their jeans low 'plumber-style' by accident, revealing their $2 Target white (well they were white once) cotton Y fronts. . I am somewhere between the two I think, because my jeans are set at a sensible height.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Boys become men when they stop deliberately wearing their jeans low 'gangsta-style' because they want to show off their $50 CK undies and start wearing their jeans low 'plumber-style' by accident, revealing their $2 Target white (well they were white once) cotton Y fronts. . I am somewhere between the two I think, because my jeans are set at a sensible height. On that note, I can't wait for more boys to become *almost* men
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RHP User
14 years ago
This topic has really made me think over the last few days and I've decided my reply falls somewhere in the middle of Fiona's, Stalky's and CM's. I wonder what this says about my mental maturity? LOL. Great topic Sal, I love the ones that make me think nice and hard :-) Flirty x
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RHP User
14 years ago
A man is the sum of his actions and the company he chooses. He is the measuring stick to which all others are held against. He is the shield and the sword and walks with intent. He is first and foremost his own man.
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