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What makes you uncomfortable
May 06 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
when people started to recognise me in public and approach me when two guy sent details of my house one even sent a picture, I Had not met either of them when a guy wanted to come to my house and wank under my bedroom window when men ask me about private life and if I have daughters and how old I don't mind if men talk about me being sexually enthusiastic as I figure if men don't talk about what women are like in bed then your a dud root or its their wife. Its mostly when what I do here, starts to get to close to home that I back away quietly and quickly I have had phone call from a guy who I only met briefly in the pub I had had sex with his mate and the word got around and next thing this guy is making a dick of himself. In the end I arranged to met him face to face and said if I was attracted to you when I meet you in the pub, I would have indicated that and as you see I am not attraced, so you need to deal with that. he took the talking well and not heard from him since. the sad part is that guys go for the myth of who a woman is, not the realityno one is better in the bed than another, its just pure chemistry combined with mutual respect. if you don't have that then you have a dud root. LadyT handing out duds
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now that's a handful. Well, I think this is my first, or if not, then the most memorable, but then I'm just a newbie.
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RHP User
12 years ago
having to tell guys that I am not attracted to them. I get all sorts of responses from... ok fair enough, to... so you think I am ugly or... you are not exactly a supermodel yourself! In my mind attractiveness is not all about looks, it is a combination of looks, attitude and sex appeal and that varies from guy to guy what I find attractive. I know that I am no Elle McPherson and if someone said that they weren't attracted to me, that is fine, I am glad they have some standards. It gets to a point where you feel you have knocked back so many guys for one reason or another that you just feel bad for the things you have to say to people because you know they are never nice to hear.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Supermodels don't handle rejection very well lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' having to tell guys that I am not attracted to them. This is really difficult to do.I have gone to places where men can be downright pushy.I even told one man that I had a preference for women (a lie)even though I like men.When someone figures out what to say let me know please
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RHP User
12 years ago
So agree with you in that it's not just looks that make an attraction, it's that certain something you get, when looking at them :). It must be hard for the guys, taking into account the ratio of girls to guys, however we can't be attracted to everyone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We live and learn, I guess due to my work, I'm not use to 'discussing' certain things. Hey I talk about guys I've been with, however I also ask the guys permission first, lol they've all been fine with a bit of self promotion :)........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is that the guy ones or the girls ;). I can't believe I took your pic at the meet n greet and didn't even know it was you
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RHP User
12 years ago
That is just bloody creepy Bigmamma...I am a private ,person and I would hate that...l once had a man say to me...."Does your daughter know how naughty you are?"'.big,big turn off for me..DG,I thought when was a mermaid named Lilith:-) :-) :-) xx Q
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I told you it was the bloody hair......😜
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Yes telling someone they're not my type and then they proceed to ask what my type is then.... Coming from a very small town, I learnt years ago never to sleep with anyone in the town, for the simple reason that I didn't need everybody knowing just how naughty I really was....whatever happen to what happens in the bedroom, stays in the bedroom.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've yet to find something that makes me uncomfortable discussion wise... there are things I don't like doing but I feel that is different in this context. As with others here I generally try to hold my tongue when prompted to speak of people I have met, though I don't mind others talking of me... is just a matter of courtesy to ask for someone's permission and with some of the fun people have in the circles they travel discretion is very important. SG
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RHP User
12 years ago
When your right your right....... Love it, We are all flies on the wall and privy to information about each other that is personal.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a guy contact me and say that he saw me in person. He said someone who looks like me was easy to spot (nice compliment but creepy). He knew what train I caught home from city, he knew what time I was waiting on the train platform and what I wore. I figured keep your enemies close and I would tell him about my fabulous (but make believe) job WAY WAY WAY on the other side of town. He told me that he had visited every beauty salon in a particular area looking for me. I told him that I was about to go away with my boyfriend and he wrote..."WHAAAAT... you have a boyfriend" and never contacted me again. That's why I am hesitant about photo pics. Also, if you have rape fantasies... you're not coming back for a second date! Thank god I lived in a security apartment at that time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I was in sport part and parcel was people coming up for a chat, mostly about football. One of the most memorable was at a pub when this super confident girl came up and say's point blank ' when are we going to get it on again.. ? I did the double take and drew a blank.. Sorry ' I think would remember if that happened but I dont... must of been another one of the players.. Nope ' it was definately you, then she smiled , turned and walked away. ? About a hour later she walks up to me smiles and says she's sorry.. About what ? then she tells me she only fucked me in her mind and thought it was sexy to say what she did. One thing for sure, if she wanted to get my attention ' it worked... but that's as far as it went..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been on a couple of 'free' cam sites, and I was in this chat room once where this girl was obviously not 18 and even admitted to only being 14. Every cam in the room has a 'report' button and can be immediately reported where mods do usually give a swift banning. I couldn't have clicked it faster... But what made me sick and my heart literally break was that there was a stack of guys in the room knowing exactly what was happening and still encouraging it until the mods arrived. I couldn't get out the room fast enough. Every time I'm reminded of that experience it truly makes me sad. In reply to some of what I've read above. Guys with self-esteem issues have a really hard time dealing with rejection (in fact I'd say its safe to say no-one likes rejection), and depending their personality, they all handle it differently. Through my teens and early 20's I was a disaster with females mainly over my self-esteem. Because of that being 'normal' around women was a mystery to me so I've said some stupid stuff. Got my head straight and my shit together a few years later and now if a lady isn't attracted to me, well she isn't attracted to me. All the talk in the world isn't going to change that, move on, it's not personal, it's not a reflection of who I am. Ladies, as uncomfortable as it may be to you, I would encourage you to continue to be upfront as you can when telling a guy trying it on, that's it not going to happen. Guys, if she says no, she's no, doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person, be mature and...next... As for the creepy just being plain creepy, well, I apologise on behalf of the male race... :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just does in for me everytime lol as soon as someone does that it makes me so uncomfortable i find it very hard to continue any discussion. There you go the power of some words!
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RHP User
12 years ago
to a guy on another site once and we were chatting about sex and he asked if my kids had ever busted me and then he just went into a whole heap of questions about if had I caught them up to anything and what anyone had seen. I tried changing the subject a few times but he kept going so in the end I told him he had an unhealthy obsession about it and not to contact me again. It was just bizarre and told him he sounded like a pedophile and how would he like it if I made references about his kids like that. That one creeped me out!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've had similar things happen at the last two meet and greets, to the point where I may just be over them for now. Questions from: "I heard you are fucking...", to "**told me that you..." and "that post about the bi MMF was about **, wasn't it?" Not to mention all the "Can you believe she did him? Eww!" and "Did I tell you I fucked ** after the last meet? He was terrible." And that's to my face. I can only imagine what people are saying behind my back.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why you shut down that other profile Mea....people make assumptions,add alcohol,stir well and voilà the gossip pit...add a dash of jealousy a soupçon of envy,lust and presumption.....people read your posts and think they know you,the keyboard of protection from utter bores is no longer there xxQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didn't want to go on dates with men who already knew everything about me, that's the main reason I started fresh.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didn't want to go on dates with men who already knew everything about me, that's the main reason I started fresh. I learned early on to not talk about who I was fucking (Tuscan sorted me out quickly.) People I meet now often assume they know who the lovers are I sometimes write about and some will ask me point blank. I don't answer that question, as I respect my own privacy as well as that of the people I have sex with. Hint: I know and like the men and women I'm friends with on here, it's not an "I have totally rooted these people" list a la Lindsay Lohan. Feeling a little disappointed after Saturday.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wish people would sit back and listen for a moment... If you like to gossip or 'chat' then so be it, but do it with someone else who likes to as well, don't just assume everyone wants to listen...... If you know something, do you honestly think the person wants it as a pickup line, I don't know, there are just always some out there!! RALF you dodged a bullet, a truck and an oncoming freight train, whoa to wrong on to many levels.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' I wish people would sit back and listen for a moment... If you like to gossip or 'chat' then so be it, but do it with someone else who likes to as well, don't just assume everyone wants to listen...... If you know something, do you honestly think the person wants it as a pickup line, I don't know, there are just always some out there!! RALF you dodged a bullet, a truck and an oncoming freight train, whoa to wrong on to many levels. After he saw the pissed off me, I think he thought HE dodged a bullet! All 5ft fuck all of me is pretty nasty when I go off.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Once saw me when I was out in public and he was wise enough not to approach me at all. He just sent a message later to say, I think I saw you were you wearing a pink top or what ever, so there are ways to say you saw a person without going up to them in public I also find it hard to reject someone. But I do it in such a way that I let a man know way in advance with lots of chat on the phone that I will know within five minutes if I want to go there. I just come out and say, your lovely but the answer is no. I have kept friends with a few men I will never go to bed with, even send them dirty pictures and texts sometimes, as they like that. But they know that I will not change my mind. Women have tremendous power on rhp and that does not often equate to the same thing offline, so they tend to over use the, popular with the boys card. Every rejection has a sting in its tail no matter how nice you are. but its part of RHP and as women we just have to make it swift and fast no death by a thousand cuts. I cannot believe DG was under the radar with meeting you women, he must look a lot different to his picture or maybe without a dinosaur or mermaid beside him he is unrecognisable?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I've had similar things happen at the last two meet and greets, to the point where I may just be over them for now. Questions from: "I heard you are fucking...", to "**told me that you..." and "that post about the bi MMF was about **, wasn't it?" Not to mention all the "Can you believe she did him? Eww!" and "Did I tell you I fucked ** after the last meet? He was terrible." And that's to my face. I can only imagine what people are saying behind my back. there is class, that is you,and then there is scanky arse. Sometimes we meet people of RHP and that's all they can talk about is sex , its fun for a while but then everyone likes a little substance to a friendship.I am a snob, yes very much so and if I feel uncomfortable in a social situation with someone that rabbits on about fucking bubba in the back of the ute then I am polite but try to slowly step away from the bogan unless its guy then I will rip his flannel shirt of and drag him to the ute and kick the dog off first. Lady T liking a bit of rough in private
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' someone that rabbits on about fucking bubba in the back of the ute BubbaJ, something I missed?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Pinched, slapped and carressed by many women in Sydney was uncomfortable to start with......but I got use to it. To be honest, I can't blame them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
make me uncomfortable. Really, I like to talk about it as much as the next person but some people go on and on. I hate being asked what I like to do in bed or what turns me on when I'm sitting in a crowded restaurant with people at the next table able to hear. I don't know if guys think it will turn a woman on - it just makes me think you're a bit of a pervert, and not in a good way!
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RHP User
12 years ago
They were just checking out the cut of your cloth,...you do suit up beautifully xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
er,there actually is a thread about fucking in the back of a ute.......don't know who Bubba is though,I thought his name was Craig :-) xx Q
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Pinched, slapped and carressed by many women in Sydney was uncomfortable to start with......but I got use to it. To be honest, I can't blame them. But that kiss you melted Tara with was out in the middle with everyone present, so it aint like it was something we can't talk about. It's just that effect you have with women, but as you have mentioned, you have no restraints, Fun.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No way! If I knew your butt was up for grabs I would have totally made a play for it.... But I didn't want to scare you. :p
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gazpacho
12 years ago
I like to think I have empathy. This I suppose so I don't go around thinking that I have the capacity to be a serial killer. So, I get very protective of people's circumstances in a sexual situation. I need to feel that theyre doing whatever the fuck it is, at their own volition. Otherwise I dive right in there and get in the line of fire. I'm a rescue daddy! Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Jeez, I never hear any of that stuff! Obviously it's not a good thing to be the topic of less than flattering gossip BUT it just makes you the bigger person for not indulging in it or rising to the insults. So sorry you or anyone else at a meet and greet has to go through that kind of immature speculation/questioning. Had I been within earshot someone would've been re-educated. The other danger being loose lips sinking ships and sometimes what we post in the forums can come back to bite us. Especially if you're a dishonest, nasty piece of work to begin with who uses the site to manipulate others. I'm afraid some bullying of others here for sharing an experience or opinion is getting a bit out of hand and causing some of our fellow companions to leave the forums.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This actually did occur at the meet n greet :(
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Just that it's a shame it did....(sigh) what happens on tour should stay on tour. It's not really anyone's business.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' when people started to recognise me in public and approach me when two guy sent details of my house one even sent a picture, I Had not met either of them when a guy wanted to come to my house and wank under my bedroom window when men ask me about private life and if I have daughters and how old I don't mind if men talk about me being sexually enthusiastic as I figure if men don't talk about what women are like in bed then your a dud root or its their wife. Its mostly when what I do here, starts to get to close to home that I back away quietly and quickly I have had phone call from a guy who I only met briefly in the pub I had had sex with his mate and the word got around and next thing this guy is making a dick of himself. In the end I arranged to met him face to face and said if I was attracted to you when I meet you in the pub, I would have indicated that and as you see I am not attraced, so you need to deal with that. he took the talking well and not heard from him since. the sad part is that guys go for the myth of who a woman is, not the realityno one is better in the bed than another, its just pure chemistry combined with mutual respect. if you don't have that then you have a dud root. LadyT handing out duds Quoting 'ralf74' having to tell guys that I am not attracted to them. I get all sorts of responses from... ok fair enough, to... so you think I am ugly or... you are not exactly a supermodel yourself! In my mind attractiveness is not all about looks, it is a combination of looks, attitude and sex appeal and that varies from guy to guy what I find attractive. I know that I am no Elle McPherson and if someone said that they weren't attracted to me, that is fine, I am glad they have some standards. It gets to a point where you feel you have knocked back so many guys for one reason or another that you just feel bad for the things you have to say to people because you know they are never nice to hear. Your thinking is becoming like my view, you said looks, attitude and sex appeal are not same in all guys, it is absolutely true. Actually, I have a past experience with this thinking. So I appreciate this.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unfortunately the actions of the minorities ruin it for the gentlemen that use this site. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Telling a woman iam not interested. you think its hard telling a guy? try being a guy and having to say no thanks to a gal.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice topic its a real shame people have to deal with idiots all the time. I had a coffee with a potential playmate yesterday and we got into the discussion of our bad experiences and to say that a lot of guys are scumbags that think women want to to be spoken to and treated in a disrespectful way is an understatement. some really need to think before they speak or act when getting a ladies attention.it boggles the mind on what they have going in their head translates to real life. She told me she met a guy he seemed nice and went to meet him all went well after a few meets and when they were to actually do something he rocked up handed her a $50 and told her to suck his cock! now she got offended and rightly so. She said she was going to do all those things anyway they were going to have sex but he just pulled out a fifty and she said no he started begging and pleading. massive turn off and ruined a great experience. She's a great lady too. What gets me is its really hard to gauge what way to present yourself to a lady, I think you need to come across confident, respectful, a little flirty and have a little mystery. you should work out early on what a lady is like requesting ridiculous sexual things is disgusting and makes us other men look bad. If I get rejected no harm done I have a tough skin and I'm a big boy. some really need to pull their heads in as for me its become harder to attract women due to their resistance to even start a conversation because they have already assumed I'm a creep before they know me. the lady I spoke to yesterday was worried id be one but after a coffee and a good chat we are now exploring our sexual sides. so its a win for us :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Received a message on that other adult site this morning from a man asking me to confirm I'm real by sending pics and my contact details. This was this guy's first message. Good luck with that approach.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' Quoting 'LadyTuscan' I also find it hard to reject someone. How YOU doin? Mr Sexy Cruz
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