What makes a good first message?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I respond to most of my messages even if its a "thanks but no thanks" but a good first contect is anything thats not a cut n paste message. Do not write your e mail addy/msn details or phone number in the first message it reeks of desperation. You don't need to write a novel but just a few (perhaps witty) lines and personalise it with something written about either a pic or something thats written in the profile you want a response from. A little bit of cheek ( not vulgaity) will also get me wanting more, always good to see a sense of humour in the first message, good luck xx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Even a 'thanks but no thanks' reply is fine with me. Seems then that I'm doing most things right. I genuinely avoid the cut and paste thing, but there's no danger of me writing a novel. I don't claim to be a word-smith, but I'd like to think that I can put a few words together to resemble a sentence. I even try to put punctuation in the correct places.... Punctuation is sexy right? ;)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Yes, punctuatuation and stringing a sentence together are definitely a good start :-)...when a guy gives some reference to something in my profile it shows that he's at least read it n taken an interest...humour goes a long way to generating interest and future replies...smut n "come knock on my motel room door" doesn't...sometimes just something that shows an intention to get to know you as a person goes a long way...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  There is nopoint in not beingopen, honest and upfront Just deal with facts - possibly compare paper or photo matching. Of course I personally want a mental connection and so exploring that aspect is so important. Humour is always helpful.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Honestly we have have had emails that have made me cringe, is there any need to be vulgar.. I quote " do you wanna f---k like now " this will never capture my attention although it could make me vomit!! As if that little scenario would be welcomed with a YES PLEASE, I think not.. A little decorum and imagination required boys!!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  What a wonderful and genuine profile to read.... I will be smiling all day.. Wish i was that that it is your looking for... Have a great day and a fantasic journey... x

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