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What is your greeting style?
February 07 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Both cheeks, no matter who I meet or where it is we meet. Bit of an embrace also perhaps. I think it's the European in me. It can often cause some awkwardness with people that aren't used to this style of greeting, especially when they hold out a hand and I bypass it and go in for the kill. Oh well, they soon adjust. :) -KK - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hug everyone. You can tell a non hugger, they stiffen (body) in your embrace. But I greet everyone with a hug, and my son is the same, bless him. Its just a nice, friendly gesture, especially on a first meet, puts people at ease a bit.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm the same as Koko... and my son is too lol. Sometimes I come across people who aren't huggers, but I persist until they get the idea :) Much love, Elle xx PS Koko gives great hugs :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
a kisser, and a hugger. But you do need to be aware of people's personal space. As an extrovert it is sometimes hard to judge :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who I am meeting but am more of a kisser. - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
11 years ago
although..........that is subject to immediate change once I have set eyes on the person of interest......Or.........a hug as second choice....Now - at the end of the meet...hhmmmm well, that is a different story.......especially if both on the same page!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I only get into someones space if I feel that I or they want it that way. I can be aloof and just shake hands. I do hug and kiss people I know, I am tactile with people that I do know. If i am flirting, I lean in and pretend i can hear what they say. I love it when guys then inhale , my perfume seems to do that to guys. Guys that I am walking past or near will comment, gee you smell nice beats soap and mothballs but when I met you kiddo, it was a great big grin and a hug , cause we knew we were going to be good friends right off the bat
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RHP User
11 years ago
And they all seem to go the handshake, then bring it in for a hug. It's taken a while to get use to and still doesn't come naturally. With the ladies though.............. Actually it depends on how well I know them. On first meeting, I wait to see their body language. If they look like their shaping up for a kiss, I'll go for the cheek though some manoeuvre so the kiss is on the lips. How am I to complain?
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6exxy
11 years ago
Love both when I know them😘
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Hottie1
11 years ago
Nothing short of a proper hug and I'll kss both cheeks. In the swinging world, I'm finding a first time greeting can be a quick kiss on the lips. Fun, we're meting in a couple of weeks, to avoid confusion, lips please 😎💋 Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
for the Brissy M & G? Mary - Hug and kisses Fun - Kiss on cheek Elle - Well we're sharing a hotel room so we're definitely on a hug and kiss basis Peach - We've already met so I think we can do the hug and kiss... Have I missed anyone?? For me, I play it by ear, but usually a kiss on the cheek works...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Koko, Elle, hugger and my kids are too. Hug, kiss on cheek, but reading body language is important, some people hold back, always some kind of touch though, I cant connect otherwise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I generally don't make the first move. And depends on the person and why I'm meeting them. I have found most people from rhp are hugs and kisses types and that's ok I can deal with it. Don't do the multiple cheek thing though that just confuses me 😚 and try to keep your nose out of my eye and don't leave lippy on my face 😄 I would love to have someone walk up behind me one day and do the big dip and kiss *sigh* so romantic
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Depending on how the friendship status it might be a kiss on the lips or a kiss on the cheek. I've been known to leave a lingering hand on an arm or shoulder or hip... that's a sure sign you are a special friend, or I'd like you to be ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not a touchy-feely person at all. I don't hug. I don't kiss. I don't shake hands unless one is offered to me first. I just smile and say hello. What more do you need?
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RHP User
11 years ago
it's a handshake.If it's pleasure, it's a kiss on the cheek and a hug.If I like you and I've had a couple of glasses of bubbles, I may just grab you on the bum.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Grab a handful of crotch.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I make eye contact, if another can look me in the eyes and keep too it... then I will offer a hand shake while still keeping eye contact, if they shake on that, then I guess they are thinking the same thing as me. I kiss girlfriends and there mothers if it be, but feel awkward doing the mwa mwa kiss on introductions mainly because of working up a sweat in the travels, especially if the ladies have obviously spent time doing the make up, don't like the after taste of rouge on my tongue~
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RHP User
11 years ago
...hugs and kisses. Types, styles and duration depend on the circumstances. xxooxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
My greeting varies. However, usually it is the man that shakes my hand, leans over and gives me a kiss on my cheek first. My "usual" is to shake hands first. If I am attracted to him, I won't want to let go of his hand. If the sight of him has me "thunderstruck", I have immediately gone up close, placed my hands on his arms and given him a full kiss on the lips. This has only happened once !!! Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
If instinct says slight affection, I gesture that way. A warm caress, a maybe kiss, a sniff of the crotch etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
In business - definitely a hand shake. In meet the stranger off RHP - a kiss on the cheek though usually a cheers with our glasses In meet a good friend - a hug and kiss on the cheek
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RHP User
11 years ago
An initial handshake for business and maybe a kiss on the cheek if it's a personal meeting. ...... Stay out of my personal space until I am comfortable with you and invite you in. .... Sorry @kokoflamingo and @elle67 .... Unwelcome hugging is a consent violation. And "persisting until they get the idea" is just plain abuse.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never been a hugger with strangers , my mates find it funny to watch me to stiffen like a board and then try politely to extridite myself from the arms of those that see my manner as willing to be hugged or god forbid in need of a hug.... if I like someone it can be different but still start things off with a handshake. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really xxxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I get how you feel, we are all different. A bit extreme, though, to say that a show of affection amounts to "violation" or "abuse". It's a friendly gesture, and goodness knows, in todays world, it's nice to be nice to people. I love the "free hugs" people, it's a great idea. I attended a course ( quite a few years ago ) and got chatting to the guy sitting next to me. At the end of the day, when we said goodbye, I gave him a hug. A few days later, I received a letter which had been sent to me via my company. It was from Pete, he said that he had been feeling pretty down that day, but chatting and getting a big hug had really picked him up. It was a thank you letter for the hug, basically. I've still got the letter somewhere, and so a simple thing like a hug can actually cheer people up. Elle.....big hug x
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Persisting till they get the idea" was very much a tongue in cheek comment. I'm astute enough to pick up when someone is really uncomfortable with physical contact and I wouldn't 'abuse' or violate'. We all behave differently and like different things and I think that's what the OP was driving at. You say you prefer a kiss on the cheek... I don't. I think that's way more intimate and 'in your face' than a hug :). But I don't consider it abuse if someone I don't know that well tries to give me a kiss... I just move my face into air kiss space and they get the message. Also, just to be clear, my comments are only about social interactions with people I know. Professionally or outside of my social circle, you either get a handshake or absolutely no physical contact at all. Hope that clears it up, and apologies for offending... wasn't my intention at all :) Koko, that's a beautiful story :) And a big hug back xx Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I offer my hand first for first rhp meets, I usually kiss on the cheek If its a successful meet. I lock lips for a long time Im not a hugger. Hugging for me is very very intimate and personal. I have the type of job where I do a lot of hugging as result of people letting me into their traumatic world so for me hugging is more about comfort and reassurance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My Greeting style is a handshake and a light bow......when I have never med this people before. My Friends I hug and a kiss on the cheek, my very good friends and kids a hug and a kiss on the mouth. My lover a different style all together.
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RHP User
11 years ago
never visit France Italy or other European countries they would freak you out. I found Aussies at the beginning very reserved, men didn't shake women's hand this was in 1988 as I migrated. I also would be lost when I couldn't hug people. I think we read to much in a hug.....its a hug so hug its nice its wonderful....I am glad we hug at work. I know when someone is new they have to get used to it, but not everyone has sex on their mind when hugging. I find it sad we are going this DON'T TOUCH anyone way....for me its a cold world and I don't want a cold world. I went the other day to a home and the visitor of my tenant lost his wife two week into the holiday, there was nothing I could say only sit with this gentleman having a cup of coffee giving him a hug and holding his shaking hands as he told me of the passing. So I have never before seen this man in my life, but I think it was good to embrace him even he was a stranger. SO HUGER OF THIS WORLD UNITE I SAY.
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RHP User
11 years ago
With men its usually a hand shake...........With women its usually a long passionate tongue kiss right after I ask if they wanna fuck!
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
On the situation, nice firm hand shake for a more formal meeting, but I'm definitely a touchy feely kinda girl..... So I nice hug, not to long (unless you're incredibly yummy), a kiss on the cheek if its our first meeting, on the lips if we like each other and yes Freya even tongue if we really like each other.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Formal/business only a handshake ever. Social/rhp...handshake and kiss on cheek if you get the vibe or have been messaging and got on well. Not usually on lips. On saying bye then that varies even more depending on the person and type of meeting, minimum a hug though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
First meeting - he shakes hands of both sexes, she does likewise, on farewell after first meeting, he shakes man's hand and hugs woman, she hugs both Acquaintances - he shakes male hand and hugs woman, she hugs both Friends - he hugs both, she hugs both and cheek kiss Close friends - he hugs and kisses both cheeks (if you are REALLY in the "inner circle" kiss, kiss kiss), same for her FWB - hope to find out soon!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hugging and kissing at work? No thanks. I was recently in a work place where the 77 year old boss got to walk around every day kissing and hugging all of us girls. Of course once I was "leaving" I had to put up with a kiss on the lips. Definitely not appropriate and I completely doubt that is what happens in Europe Litonya!
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I'm in a work or other formal environment I'll shake hands, but otherwise I'm all for a hug. I'll definitely pay attention to body language though, as I've learned some people experience it as a violation of their personal space and I want to respect that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It wasn't my bum you grabbed!
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RHP User
11 years ago
You planning on coming the Qld meet and greet in March by any chance? If so, I expect a good crotch sniffing! Sorry, had not actually seen the comments about personal space above. My phone skipped page two all together when reading.
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RHP User
11 years ago
next time. I like you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will repeat that... UNWELCOME. .... Yes, @Kokoflamingo, I am taking an extreme view. But I am trying to make the point that not everyone enjoys the full body contact of a hug all the time. .... One of the reasons I prefer the handshake and kiss option for personal greetings is that I can moderate it to suit the person. .... I can step closer for a more intimate greeting, or step a little back. ... If I go om for the kiss and see that like @elle67 that they are not comfortable - then I can change to an air kiss or skip the kiss completely. Thus adapting the greeting for the comfort of both of us... But a hug is all or nothing. ... What are my choice if I am being hugged and I don't like it? Do I push you off ? Or do I grit my teeth and stand stiff as a board like @AllFotTheFunOfIt , enduring until you see fit to release me? .... Both outcomes is are negative experiences if the hug is UNWELCOME...... ...... As @elle67 said , we all like different things. So to all the huggy, touchy feely types out there, please be gentle, and make sure your hugs are welcome first.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To all the huggers out there. If I reject your hug, please don't take it personally. I'm not rejecting you. It is just that I don't experience the full body contact of a hug as casually as you might. .... We are all different. With different likes and dislikes.... Please don't belittle me if my limits are different to your limits.
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RHP User
11 years ago
FYI I am from a European background. And no, I am not freaked out by the standard form of greeting when I visit relatives in the old country. But thanks anyway for your concern.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Unless I know them on a personal level, it's a handshake. Not even a kiss. Standard business stuff. And day to day. Annie mode or man mode, both the same. Friends are different including those on here I may have not met but have got to know by message. Expect a stray tongue or roving hand........
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RHP User
11 years ago
unless in the bedroom. I have never been someone to be touching others all the time, I like my personal space. I put up with it when people come in for the hug but I am not comfortable with it, I tend to lean in rather than use my whole body and pat their back awkwardly, lol. I am getting better though and tend to go in for the cheek kiss and if I have a good feel for someone I might also gesture with some other form of touch maybe like on the arm. I find a good hug is a bit intimate for my liking initially, more so than a cheek kiss because there is more body contact with the hug. I need a minute upon meeting to get a feel for someone, I suppose to judge, assess, feel their vibe then make a decision on my feeling of them. I don't even like people standing too close to me. Even in a relationship, I am not affectionate out of bed. I am not one for PDAs or sitting on top of each other on the couch, holding hands. I do like some spontaneous flirting just not consistent touching. I guess I prefer to show my affection in other ways like doing things for someone or random acts of affection.
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JohnAnn2227
11 years ago
In our vanilla world I am a handshake girl when I meet people who are not close friends or are first time meets eg. my chiildren's frineds parents.. With my girlfriends we all give each a hug. In our swinging world I am a hugger and a kisser. With people we regularly swing with it is more often than not tongues when meeting (if we are somewhere discreet).Complicated aren't I?
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Plain280
11 years ago
Somebody I know and respect its a firm handshake and friendly greeting.Someone I recognise but cant remember their name a nod and tight smile, I will eventually own up usually its a mutual thing.If its someone I dont like or respect shake hands very firmly and usual greeting with something along the lines of I am a very left hand dominated person and there is only one thing I use my right hand for, usually puts the wind up them and lets them know not to mess about.These are only applicable to males.Females a polite handshake hold properly and eye contact and greeting, wether they are friendly or antagonistic, usually if they are anti body language is telegraphed don t touch. If I am greeting a lady friend usually a kiss on the cheek or the lips depending on body language, depending on the ending well... Friends and mates G,day you so and so.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I've had to learn to be more respectful of other people's space! . And be wary of letting them intrude into mine. . No hands below the waist, thanks.
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RHP User
11 years ago
was that city and country people tend to have a tendency to shake differently (yes, we're still talking hands, lol). Country people will extend their arm further. I've checked it out. Curious.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would be my preferred greeting if I was meeting you Freddy I would soon discover how awsum you feel. And yes, I enjoy playing the lascivious older woman because it is sooooo NOT who I am. I'm a bit hesitant, I like to shake hands and at least have one or two conversations with someone before I hug or kiss them. I think imposing a hug on someone without their invitation is dismissive of their right to personal space. Just saying :) Quoting 'Freddyawsum' Koko, Elle, hugger and my kids are too. Hug, kiss on cheek, but reading body language is important, some people hold back, always some kind of touch though, I cant connect otherwise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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