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What has changed since you started this journey?

November 25 2018

A bit of light hearted self reflection, I am curious what has changed about your life, attitude or other since you decided to enter into the swinging lifestyle? No need to state the obvious of how your sex life has changed as that is already assumed, but are there any things you do differently. For myself, I find that I now see other people / couples from a different perspective, in the past they were just people going about their lives, now I find that I am more in tune to seeing them as the people they are, often wondering what kinky little secret they are hiding behind the doors, in the days after going to a party I pay a lot more attention to the people around me, wondering whether or not they may know what we’ve been getting up to 😀😀😀

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FunLoving

7 years ago

Mr here.I see the newly gained confidence in my wife that helped her go about her daily life and making new friends. I enjoy her company and love even more

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RHP User

7 years ago

I’ve definitely become more open minded, and my fuck it list has gotten longer 😂 I’ve also become more selective. At the beginning I was up for fun with anyone, but after a few bad experiences I’ve become a bit more picky.

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RHP User

7 years ago

About seven years ago and took a break for about eighteen months.I met lots of people individually and at Meet and Greets in Brisbane,and Melbourne. Sadly nearly all of them have left this site . Over the years I certainly learnt a lot about myself particularly my sexuality. Hugs Q

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HotNightsGC

7 years ago

What has changed is how much BS we tolerate. Amount now? ZERO. NADDA. ZIP. We know who we are, what we want and aren’t prepared to to be people pleasers as we once were. Having the time of our lives as a result!

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teamaj2

7 years ago

Hello new Vic couple Interesting topic . We would think for everyone the answer would vary . I can only speak about us . For us it’s stopped any jealousy’s or insecurities that may have reared their ugly head in our relationship. Totally nonexistent now . It’s allowed us to explore our inner most fantasies and yes added some excitement into our lives . We agree we look at people differently in bars differently and it makes you wonder if they too are adding that little extra something into their lives. For us it’s been life changing and a great life choice .

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BungCpl

7 years ago

Thanks for the replies so far, they are all intriguing 😉 @alittlefun I know exactly what you mean, Mrs NvC has definitely gained more confidence and is more vacation about her likes and dislikes, that has allowed us to grow as a couple and tailor our experiences to suit. Hope you both continue to grow and enjoy this path together.... @EmmaLou I am certain we have done the same, surely Mrs NvC has become more vocal about who she is happy to to play with / or not and our list of things we are are / aren’t happy to try has definitely changed for the better

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BungCpl

7 years ago

I’m curious Q, have ou found the experience better or worse since you took that break, great to hear you have met some people at M & G events, just curious about the differences between your first experience and now... HotNights I completely understand, people online can be terrible, be it lies about who they are or what they represent, then there is the whole sexual side of things and having to communicate with people we may or may not be attracted too. t that being able to filter out the unwanted is a positive to mind and spirit alike @Teamaj2 jealousy is a great topic in its self, it is certainly something couples that are new to this scene need to deal with otherwise things will only go sour, for us we have learnt to look at others and point out attractive people to each other in a way that makes it fun, I like the idea of my wife being with other men so pointing out other guys for her is a bit of a play for us, one day it may even turn into something more....

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RHP User

7 years ago

Firstly I'm not a swinger but that's not an issue here. Secondly I've never been more comfortable with my sexuality. So much more has changed I hardly know where to start. I guess the biggest change is Wifey is a lot more comfortable and secure with the changes, she should be because she's got a boy friend.One major change here on RHP is that people are a lot less inclined to have a crack at me online, and that's good news.That's it for now.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Not much has changed except I was in an open marriage when I started on RHP and now 10 months later I’m separated (one is not related to the other). I’ve managed one conversation/friendship in that whole time but still not met anyone in person. Thank god for porn! Haha

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