What happen to being courteous ?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I agree with you ...ah you see the odds are in the ladies favor so many emails to reply too not enough time !!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Unfortunately the girls on this site DO get bombarded and I think I'm a very courteous person but especially when your a new member TRUST me it is near on impossible to reply to all messages even if its a "thanks but no thanks". When I was new every time I was on I was getting more messages than I could reply to... everytime I would read one I would get three more and it didn't settle down until about 2 weeks by which time I was worn out trying to get through them all! This was also made difficult because I don't have a computer at home (still don't) so was just using the work computer when I could get away with it. So my advice for you is to try not to message the new members... if you like the look of someones profile and they are new just rememeber their profile name and message them like 2 weeks later when thier inbox is getting under control.... oh and don't use the forums to whinge... its not attractive and this topic has been done to death!! Have fun! xxx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  friskyeatin, this topic has been discussed many times before and to tel you the truth, there is no solution. You make some very good points and they are the maind reasons why women don't reply to messages. Courtesy works both ways and unfortunately a lot of guys get angry with women who reply with a "no thanks" and send them abusive messages which turns a lot of women off replying. The best thiing to do is to forget about it and move on. I know that this is not easy to do but give it a try anyway. If you can't seem to meet anyone privately, try attending private house parties that are listed in the events section. Partoies are fun and a good way to meet people in a relaxed and friendly atmosphere. You will find yjat women are more likely to play at a party than privately. I know this to be true from personal experience. Good luck.

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  contemplating1

  14 years ago

  Yes, I certainly empathise with those genuine members (who have a complete profile) and who take the time to contact members (with which they fit into that members profile requirements) and then don’t receive ANY response. LoL! Gawd, now that’s a mouthful! I agree in these cases it is reasonable manners to send back a response in either the negative or positive! However, having read similar threads, there can be differing valid points of view. It doesn’t help the genuine ppl on here when many don’t bother reading profile requirements and more or less spam some members. And even people with the best of intentions on here have so much time and patience! Some others will say, look at the site we are on, what do you expect etc. Sometimes one does wonder just how members here are currently true to what their profile projects……? But….There certainly are some good people out there! (Plenty on forum!) Have a good ‘un!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  So easy to set up and so easy to reply to messages. I have a few different ones....one for thanks but no thanks, one for need to see a face pic please, and one as a thankyou to those who simply pay me a compliment without wanting anything more. I get a ton of mail and honestly its easier than hitting the delete button. Hey at least it doesn't ask you "Are you sure you want to send this message" every single time :( I reply to all of my emails except for ones that are crude/disrespectful or the good old one liner brigade - Hi, how are you today - LOL I think it does the guys confidence good not to be ignored, berated or laughed at for taking the time to send a polite introductory email, and it shows that there are still some nice classy women out there... I do get the odd few that cannot take a knockback graciously, so I send them a not so nice email pointing out the unattractiveness of them not being able to take it like a man....and then promptly block them and move on. The block button is my friend ;) If you still can't be bothered, at least have an auto-reply set up so as when someone emails you they will get a message from you along the lines of "Thanks for the email, I will get back to you if I am interested, if I don't it means unfortunately I am not and best wishes..."

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I just think its good manners but then I do not get a ton of stuff, but I know that many women get over run.   Rejection is not always easy to take or to dish out.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Having updated my profile last week to inform the RHP community that I am taking a break from meeting new people to study for exams, I am still getting bombarded by people who dont read my profile !!! grrrrrrrr   Then when you go to the trouble of putting together a polite and courteous no thanks your not my match but enjoy your search on RHP, I get back a rant from a guy.   WTF can you do to GET your message across to these tossers!   You ignore people who dont read your profile - they whinge You send a polite no thanks - they rant!   READ people's profiles and respect their wishes - surely it cant be that hard, seriously!   I thought learning Mandarin for a commerce degree was hard enough without having to deal with tantrums on an adult site. Next I will be going straight for the ignore/delete button !!   That is my exam-stress rant for today.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  If you are experiencing some upset on this, you may have to lower your expectations somewhat.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think how you are approaching your replies is very well organised which obviously you are in life in general together with being courteous and somewhat thoughtful in a generic way. Its like sending a scratch it with a birthday card or gift voucher its the thought that counts and better than nothing!!.   Btw love your pics!!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  i totally agree , a lot of people dont realize there are genuine ones out there, if the get an email be courteous and reply back. i lot of women profiles say msg me and find out more. But when you do its all quiet from them, i think a lot of people look at the pics or the first email and judge straight away

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  and there's really nothing you can do except to have a rant on the forums. People are either going to reply, or not. Nothing personal.

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