What does the single male like?...MFM

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  To answer the opening statement in the body, mostly positive this end. Re the open questions. No ones brain is a blueprint of others. Experience is what comes after you need it.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Jumps on the couch - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  (Note: The following spans nearly two years.) How nervous were you fronting up to a hotel or their home? Not at all nervous. At either their home or a hotel/rented apartment. My priority is to do my best to put them at ease with me, if needed. What put you at ease? The fact they have seen something in me to have invited/trusted me in the first place. I try to come across as very non-threatening and relaxed. When you started to engage with the wife/partner how did it happen? Depends. Sometimes they are straight into play. Other times I offer and give a relaxing massage. Other times it's socialising beforehand; once we were all hanging out chatting, then skinny dipping in their pool, then had home made pizza, all before any play started. Were you given one on one time with the Mrs? Yes and no. The partner has sometimes been present/around but not actually participating, or has left me to massage the Mrs alone. Have you ever enjoyed regular meets? Basically all couples I have been with privately, I have seen on at least two occasions. One connection remains, while others have come and gone, depending on their interests and other priorities/private family life etc. As it happens I have met mainly couples/groups as opposed to singles, but I do attempt contact with both. What are your favourite positions? Any where I'm involved ;) Cunnilingus, spooning. DP/DV is a big turn on for all, when it goes well. Have you ever been hit with friendly fire and if so were you ok with it? Without elaborating... yes and yes? How long does the average engagement last? Sometimes an afternoon/evening including socialising, sometimes overnight/weekend. If something put you off what was it? Nothing really. Although if meeting late and/or after work, tiredness can be a real issue. What was the biggest surprise you have had? The unexpected social hospitality and open friendliness, them being actually willing to get to know me more as an individual. How far have you taken the no boundaries play and was it as you expected? I let the extent of play develop naturally and without any pressure. Once you have gained some trust, inhibitions become less, especially for the female. Do you like to take some control or prefer taking directions? Either. I bias towards sub but have taken control. Perhaps I am a switch. And not camera shy :)

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Thanks Ct there were a couple of answers there that were a nice surprise.

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  happy0450

  10 years ago

  Answers below - but first, a brief segue; As Nelson Mandela often said, "Where you stand depends on where you sit". I've been a little fascinated by our sexuality for many years. It started with the only Psych paper I took. Our main lecturer was 50 something, he had shoulder length grey hair and wore shorts and sandals with long socks. He came across more than a little crazy and appeared obsessed with Sigmund Freud. According to the Prof, most aspects of our life came back to either our sexuality or our caveman hard wiring - whatever the reality it did in someway shape my thinking.... The relevance of the above rambling to the topic is that the two couples who I have been privileged to join have allowed me to have some of the most fulfilling mind and body sexual experiences of my life - Thinking about it, it has only be making love while being deeply in love, that has surpassed it. # Nervousness - With both had meet twice before playing. I think this is critical to understand each other, to build trust and ensue a similar philosophy, a good sense of humor and really importantly, knowing its something both of them really want - more on that at the end. So, nervous in general no, afraid the first time of performance anxiety - yep # Putting at ease - definitely meeting twice was important. As cwhereitgoes says above, experience is what you have after you need it. I think I would be more confident now to know what will work. For me the couple have to be equally keen, mutually very respectful and caring of each other and have a high EQ. # How does playing start - It's almost been different each time. The first time with each couple has been slowly getting aroused, a lot of touching, kissing and exploring. Since, its been as diverse as starting preparing a meal and not eating at all, to boating to an isolated beach and spending 4 hours between intense intimacy and playing (in a non-sexual way) in the water and everything in between. # 1 on 1 time - No, haven't sought it, nor, at least with the couples I know, do I think I would want to. # Fav positions - With both couples, we love to tease and get the female partner highly aroused. One couple is more adventurous at the moment than the other. DP has been very hot, with DVP both hysterical and mind blowing at the same time. # Friendly fire - Hmmm, definitely not homophobic, but equally totally straight. It took a bit to process that half the physical stimulation from DVP was rubbing against another guys cock ! # Duration - Varies from a few hours to 24 hours. # Surprises - How natural and intimate it feels to be part of a couples love marking. # Off putting - One guy who messaged would not meet together, or allow even allow phone contact with his wife. They had body pics of her on their profile and he offered to meet bringing facial pics. He was missing the point. I needed to be 100% confident that this was as much about her as him. I fully get that many of us like to role play, however I couldn't see how we could not meet a week or two before - in the end, I blocked him.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Interesting that this topic hasn't engendered more of a response. I suppose I did skip over it to start off with, thinking "too much to type in one answer" :) Like Country, I've probably had more 'adventures' with couples than single women over the last 3 years, but it might be helpful to qualify that, by saying that I started my 'adventuring' in the house-party scene, and rhp/amm became a flow-on pathway from that. How nervous were you fronting up to a hotel or their home. Only a little, in the same way that you'd be excited by the thought of the enjoyment of a sexual encounter with anyone you are attracted to. MFM wasn't a 'new' thing for me first time I set something up with a particular couple. I'd already happily contributed to 'moresomes' in a party environment. What put you at ease? Meeting them for dinner as a first engagement - becoming comfortable with one another at that meet, then arranging play for another time. The first ever time I set up play with a couple, they had a whole plan for the evening, which included some role-play elements, so I just let them roll out the night as they chose and enjoyed contributing to the ride. It seemed to work out well, because we're still in touch 3 years later. When you started to engage with the wife/partner how did it happen? Usually, the male partner would suggest an activity - massage, swimming, playing snooker for 'favours', which then welcomed me in to a physical situation that they were both comfortable with. On other occasions, where the female was almost equally unknown to us both, I might ask 'so what kind of touch do you like?' or if it was very clear that we were there for a reason, 'it's about time we moved to the bedroom isn't it?'. In one particular case - 'so, just how short are you with your heels off? - show me' and got her standing back-to-back with me, then she demonstrated how she likes to snuggle up into a taller man's chest ... and it went from there. Were you given one on one time with the Mrs? Without the partner there, most often no - nor would I seek that out. I'm there to be an addition to their journey, not take over. However, most of the time, there is a period where Mr takes a break and watches for a bit. Have you ever enjoyed regular meets? Yep - and I much prefer to build friendships where we can plan to get together again. 'Regular' for me would be seeing a couple once every few months as their schedule is free, but having 3 or 4 couples I know well, so I see one of them every fortnight or so wouldn't be uncommon. What are your favourite positions? Mrs riding on top of me, with Mr free to get creative, sometimes leading to DPs of various kinds. Also, Mr/Mrs 69ing with me thrusting into her from behind. Have you ever been hit with friendly fire and if so were you ok with it? Can't say I have, but it wouldn't bother me. Sex is messy - we all have to deal with it :) How long does the average engagement last? 3-6 hours depending on the foreplay, and whether I've been invited to stay overnight. Evening/dinner - 11pm is an enjoyable time-frame. If something put you off what was it?When couples don't seem to have their own communication lines open and clear. For example, there's a mismatch in what each of them are seeking from the encounter, or if they've been arguing in another area of their life. I've also come across a number of couples where he doesn't seem to read her well in the moment, which can be awkward if she knows that I know. I usually keep all that to myself, and seek a middle ground between what he's asking, and what she's clearly (to me) wanting. What was the biggest surprise you have had? Most of those would be identifiable, so I'll keep them 'sealed' :) How far have you taken the no boundaries play and was it as you expected? It's hard to know how to answer this, because boundaries are different for every person, and to make an MFM encounter good with a couple the primary thing to make sure of is taking care of their primary relationship while having a fun adventure. As the 'guest' you get to walk away afterwards, but they have to continue to deal with one another afterwards. Again, the most awkward aspect of that for me is getting the sense that Mrs is more into you sexually than she is into her Mr. The reality is though that I'm not the full-package, and Mr is. I haven't been the one to win her heart/mind and keep it - he has, and in the end that's what makes him the better (the right?) man. Do you like to take some control or prefer taking directions? Happy to do both as the situation and the interplay between them dictates. I always default to waiting for the Mr to direct the action. After all, an MFM is usually about Mrs being the centre of attention, so Mr has the job of putting her there. If he or they ask me to take control I will, as a means of serving them and making it fun for them. Just a note that most of these responses are set in the context of meeting an existing couple for MFM. Things are different when I'm the one who's set up the encounter with another guy I know, and the woman is the 'guest'. But I hope that gives some useful insight s_s :)

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