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What do you want in your relationship?
July 08 2019
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I need to have my freedom. Single, in a committed coupled relationship, it doesn't matter, just give me that and I'll be happy. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
From my husband I want stickability. Being in a relationship can be hard and we've both gone through phases where we both probably didn't like each other very much, but we still were in love, and we stuck with each other. We've both come to realise that a lot of the things others (particularly those not in a relationship or those newly in a relationship) would find unforgivable or relationship enders are in fact the least of the things that can happen in a couple's life (at least to us). We've both been profoundly affected by various illnesses, death of loved ones, devastating personal loss, financial stresses, professional stresses, trauma. I don't want to be in a relationship where there's an opt out clause if things get too hard. I'm sure I'd feel quite differently if I was in a situation where there were drugs, mental health issues, abuse etc involved. But I feel very grateful for having this man by my side. In a lover I want a piece of them in exchange for a piece of me. That hasn't always been the way. But these days that's what gets me off. Not in a Lorena Bobbit kind of way lol! Someone who I can be a little vulnerable with and in turn they can be too with me. Someone who genuinely likes me and I like them. Someone who I share some values with. I could go on and on about what I want and need but then it just turns into a carbon copy of my profile and I'd rather stay focused on OP's post. It's great you're being so reflective and thoughtful and that can only pay great dividends in the future. Being explicit about what you want and need, whilst being open to other possibilities is always a fine line to balance, but worthwhile when you get it right.
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RHP User
6 years ago
From actively seeking a relationship .If I trip over someone then I would be open to it,but I think that is highly unlikely.I don't think that coupledom was ever meant for me. I am content with how my life has been and see myself as being extremely fortunate in my singledom. I was married and divorced twice by the age of twenty two.Apart from two short term relationships since then,I have been single. If I had been part of a couple I know that my life would have been totally different and I am happy that it is not. Perfect coupledom is very rare it seems,a bit like the Loch Ness Monster ..many sightings ,little proof :) Hugs Q
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RHP User
6 years ago
I feel incredibly lucky to have found the perfect partner for me. We have honest and open communication about everything, from feelings and finances to fucking and fantasies. We appreciate each other's kinks and interests, both in the bedroom and out of it. It's incredibly refreshing after my marriage, which was almost completely the opposite of this.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Is with me. We know each other really well and get each other.. we like the same things. And l can go fuck myself whenever we feel like it. We don't talk much..... Perfect
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Time and companionship so sum it up... To do the simple things you do as a couple or on dates. Go out for meals, go for walks, go shopping or browsing markets, entertainment activities together (eg sports, concerts, live shows, games), travel or road trips together, hanging at home cuddling with a movie or other types of cuddling. My varied interests in sex are already pre-described, any shared interests would also be lovely. Like the OP I would be happy to share my woman but ideally I would like to be there, if not involved all the time but also for her safety and security. I don't believe I would need anyone else privately for myself if I live/sleep with this person, except the case where we might have existing romantic partners we would like to keep some connection with. Some blurred area between kink/poly/swinging, or just exploring things mutually together.
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Good topic. I guess freedom is important, at same way someone that i have these unconditional mutual trust and complicit. To make our selfs a live and complete.
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RHP User
6 years ago
After being in a very long relationship and now being single for 5 years I also want freedom and space. I am my own person and can choose what I want to watch/do/buy. However, it would be really nice to share everyday stuff with someone. I do miss companionship and someone checking in occasionally about how my day or week is going. I'm a very tactile person and miss just the basic of touches. Doesn't have to be just sex. I couldn't share a home again just yet but an occasional sleepover would be nice. As for sharing someone in the scene, I am unsure how I would be as I've only been single in the scene.
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Samnite
6 years ago
Dirtyandfriendly, I love this sentence "One thing I really want is my partner to be with other men, I explored that and it drives me crazy for my partner to play with other men. Obviously with some rules. It's not a submissive thing either, I just want her to enjoy herself knowing I want it too. MsFlirt... you hit the nail on the head with Stickability. Superfoxxxy... I totally agree that freedom is essential. Combine those three above with mutual respect and this would come close to what I want.
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usrightnow_Again
6 years ago
Well said Patch., good to see you posting in the Forums again. Mrs. urn. and I have been together for over thirty years now. We're a part of eachother in a way. Yet, individuals. Perhaps like the walls and roof of a house, different things but one goes with the other and just walls or just a roof, doesn't make much sense. .. Mr. urn. .
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
My favourite trait In a person, is curiosity. In me, the world, sex and very importantly ...themselves. It keeps things interesting.
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
A partner. Sick of being single
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wildcrazyloving
6 years ago
Time for us and us as individuals. Shared appreciation for each other, which is reflected in verbal/non verbal means. Missing laying in the arms of someone you love and feeling that hum.. Falling asleep in your lap (the place of ultimate relaxation) while you watched the movie. Waking up next to you. Hugs, hand-holding and lots of affection. We go to Adult Clubs for the voyerism and the themed adventure aspect. Together we will indulge in a erotic massage/dance services and attend sexuality workshops/events. I probably will not wish to share you for some time but i am open to that possibility in the years ahead.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I would want someone who sees me as who I am, not who they think I should be. After 7 yrs single and being 47 I still haven't found that person and think it will be highly unlikely that I do. It gets me really down, I have never married and I spend most of my time alone, I would love to have someone to talk to. Not interested in meeting anyone off here as it makes me feel like a disposable item.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Relationship is a scary word. Good question though. I'm a bit like Q in the sense that I doubt I will find what I want. I predict I will die alone, found eaten by Alsations one day
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RHP User
6 years ago
I want to like your post...but Alsations?:( Hugs Q
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RHP User
6 years ago
Bridget Jones Diary quoting her> "And that was it. Right there. Right there, that was the moment... I suddenly realized that unless something change soon I was going to live a life where my major relationship was with a bottle of wine and I'd finally die fat and alone and be found three weeks later half-eaten by Alsatians.." 😂
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Replace the same with Corgis here lol Welcome back ITM.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks 😁
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RHP User
6 years ago
The lovely Bridget...what about "licked to death by poodles" :) Hugs Q CT I can't get the image of the Queen outta my head now..savaged by her beloveds :)
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Mask_007
6 years ago
I have been thinking about that lately and come to a conclusion. Heaps of sex would be awesome.
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
Pretty simple here ,just open honesty ,whether it be what you want to hear or not ,sometimes what you don’t want to hear is the best ,too many people are Gutless and just tell people what they want to hear Do I look crap in this , yes you do !, Simples ,lol Mr b
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RHP User
6 years ago
Oh yeah forgot about that, heaps of sex yes. Someone who wants to jump my bones 24/7 and doesn't mind me jumping theirs at any given time 😉
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Mask_007
6 years ago
I touch.... Me, me , me... I would love to do that... hahahahahaha... with all respect and a lot of kink imagination...
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Dirtyandfriendly
6 years ago
I read a lot of these replies and there’s that consistent trend of freedom and sex, both work well together. Well for me as well I need energy, effort and enthusiasm. The 3 E’s. I had a meet up yesterday afternoon for a coffee for a potential fwb and it went well and both liked the idea and decided to meet up tonight for our first play. We spoke till about 4:30 and nothing after. 7pm nothing, obviously ghosted and I have my golden rule of always having a back up plan and watched Shazam and made myself dinner. I’m like an energiser bunny and always have energy, getting up early, planning and just doing fun things, but I do not get that back in return. Effort? Well we all know we’ve not had that and lack of conversation, grooming and time. Enthusiasm I get nervous meeting up like we all do, but I also get excited. I want to know about the person and when I do they are to shy to speak about themselves. Retail really brought me out of my shell as a kid. When someone is keen to know about you and enthusiasm about chatting it seems to put people off? ITM I have only ever had 1 person jump my bones more than I jump theres and they were shocked that I could keep up. I’m struggling to find someone who can keep up with my sex drive and enjoy sex. Might have gone of topic a little, what evs.
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RHP User
6 years ago
This part "I have only ever had 1 person jump my bones more than I jump theres and they were shocked that I could keep up. I’m struggling to find someone who can keep up with my sex drive and enjoy sex" For me personally, my hormones went crazy around age 50, which ultimately lead me to experiment and learn about my body, so much more than that, but the guys I've met have been shocked with just how horny I am. One actually took a step back momentarily, said something like "you are horny aren't you", then picked me up, threw me over his shoulder, took me to the bedroom and threw me on the bed 😂 He hesitated, then quickly regrouped haha I was horny when I was young, but I didn't know how to translate that, there was an underlying shyness. I'm not remotely shy now 😉
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Dirtyandfriendly
6 years ago
I think I need someone who puts sex in their top 5 they need in their life. I get it sex isn’t everything, but it feels amazing with the right person and someone who is on the same level. My wants have evolved a lot after my break up, I need someone who loves sex, doesn’t just like it but needs it. I can go without release for about 3 days, but after that I get a little unbearable to be around, so someone who knows that would be nice. Someone who actually enjoys being pleased, you’d be surprised on how many women I’ve been with who expected a wham bam kind of meet, I actually stop and ask why and most just say because it’s what men want, but what about you? Making a woman cum is the greatest feeling in the world as a man or at least me, my ego goes up and I feel like I’ve made someone happy. I’d be demanding, I know I would. I’d look after her, but she would know when she gets home she’s got work to do ;)
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RHP User
6 years ago
any woman who considers it work, give her the flick. I want sex more than once a day. I hope one day to find someone to share that with. I've had this conversation so many times with play friends, who due to age weren't keepers, and have had great phone sex talking about what I would do to them, you know for example arriving home from work, me on my knees inside the front door, but that's exactly what I want. I wouldn't be able to stop myself long enough to carry out normal daily activities. But like you, I want that to be at the top, screw the dishes, screw eating, just screw me 😜 I tend to scare men in everyday life with my open dialogue, but I think for the most part, most men assume that intensity would die off in time, or that it's bullshit, but it's not. You sound perfect lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
To enjoy the good times together and help each other through the bad times. To encourage each other's sexuality and enjoy exploring together.
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