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What do people think about swinging?
January 19 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is there a reasoning behind this Forum?? Are you wanting to swing -coursity ?? Have you swinged with partner or byself?? can you elaberate why you are asking so you can get the right answers you are looking for.... :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is there a reasoning behind this Forum?? Are you wanting to swing -coursity ?? Have you swinged with partner or byself?? can you elaberate why you are asking so you can get the right answers you are looking for.... :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
My wife and I are into it, definately. Just curious to hear other peoples perspective I guess and how you came to realise you were ok with the lifestyle.:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
That your answers could be a little one sided on this question, after all it is a swingers site lol If you not into you would not be here. For the record we love it, a bit of variety is the spice of life don't they say.
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
It's complicated. We might have organically found ourselves interested but it took a brush with the concept of infidelity for swinging to enter our consciousness as one possible way forward. Everything we read said don't try it unless your relationship is rock solid. I guess we're an exception to that rule. Our relationship and communication is now stronger than it's ever been. But then to put more perspective on it we've been a couple for most of the OP's life.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am fine with couples swinging, that's fine by me as long as they're happy. I have no problem with those who swing, and would tell anyone condemning swingers to stay quiet, as long as the swingers in question refrain from jumping on a soap box when they themselves don't like something.Mainstream society wouldn't consider swinging acceptable, however mainstream society condones a lot of things I don't like so I refuse to use mainstream opinion as my moral compass. I quite like the expression "How about a nice big cup of shut the fuck up?".
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RHP User
13 years ago
Our situation is identical to Paradisepair's. couldn't put it any better.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love to watch her enjoy herself. It's better than any porno by far. Without her, I wouldn't be interested in swinging.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Paradise pair summed it up for us too.. Its pretty simple really, we just enjoy the Swinging lifestyle as being intimate with other like minded couples is such a turn on for us.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I did have a conversation this morning with my 17yr old about swinging parties and people..LMFAO Her interpretation was a little different to what goes on in real life I'm sure??For starters I don't think bowls are kept at the front door and the MAN puts his 'watch' in there and the woman takes the watch on the way out and that's who they go home with - bizzare and a little funny at the same time.I explained to her why people do it..their reasoning and that's it's OK for couples to do - that's it's not TABOO.If she chooses later on in life to do...well who am I to say NO don't do..If people chose to do and attend swinging parties that's their choice and I take my hat off to those who are open and honest about swinging.
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RHP User
13 years ago
is right,in the 70's key swapping parties were common.A close friend of mine whose parents live in Toowoomba has told me about his parent's parties. known as key parties. Originally termed wife swapping the practice became popular amonst U.S Airforce personal during the second world war and the Korean war.There was a high mortality rate amongst pilots and wife swapping was seen as a bonding ritual to ensure if a pilot was killed his wife would be looked after.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But it is not for me. When in a committed relationship I am a one on one type of gal. For me...and this is MY OPINION ONLY..... sex outside the relationship is just not right. I dont care if the other person knows and is involved. Why bother being in a committed relationship if you are all going to sleep with others anyway? Makes no sense to me at all. Please do not bother trying to explain it all to me as many have tried before and to me it all just sounds like justification for fucking around. Dont try and tell me that monogamy is not practical as I know many many people who have been married faithfully for 50 years or more. Many more than those who profess that swinging brought them closer together. Certainly dont know of any couples that swing and have been together for 50 years or more....do you?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Handmaiden , I respect your opinion on swinging , however you are incorrect re long term marriages in this scene ! I know one older couple married 41 years this year, swinging for 30 of those years , plus many 20+ year long term married couples just in our inner circle ! Including myself . We are 22 years married this year and swinging for the entire time :) monogamy was never on either of our addenda or life's plan . Monogamy works for some which is awesome - however I know FAR more cheating " monogamous " friends than swinging couples in ugly relationships. Say what you like about swinging, but suggesting long marriages don't happen when you swing is incorrect ! ...............my opinion on swinging is it takes a ton of real communication to make it work, it is fun, social and sexually enriching - however it is NOT socially acceptable . Interestingly enough my daughter , who us 23 , and all her friends all have 3 somes and 4 somes etc but all said ewwwwww when I bought up swinging as a general topic ! ........ This is a secret life for us , our fun time out , decadent , and exciting. I love seeing my husband with another woman , LOVE IT, no need for him to fuck around , I'll bring her home for us to fuck her together :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' Originally termed wife swapping the practice became popular amonst U.S Airforce personal during the second world war and the Korean war.There was a high mortality rate amongst pilots and wife swapping was seen as a bonding ritual to ensure if a pilot was killed his wife would be looked after.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Got to agree with usandu73 n paradisepair. This is a swingers website!
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RHP User
13 years ago
And where you are coming from... I too am a one on one type of gal too... I do support people who are swingers and that it's their chosen lifestyle.. I believe it is Taboo in society and is slowly coming out with education.. For me I am open minded on this subject\lifestyle... Im am supportive but my mind will not convince me to try... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
And where you are coming from... I too am a one on one type of gal too... I do support people who are swingers and that it's their chosen lifestyle.. I believe it is Taboo in society and is slowly coming out with education.. For me I am open minded on this subject\lifestyle... Im am supportive but my mind will not convince me to try... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris'Handmaiden , I respect your opinion on swinging , however you are incorrect re long term marriages in this scene ! I know one older couple married 41 years this year, swinging for 30 of those years , plus many 20+ year long term married couples just in our inner circle ! Including myself . We are 22 years married this year and swinging for the entire time :) monogamy was never on either of our addenda or life's plan . Monogamy works for some which is awesome - however I know FAR more cheating " monogamous " friends than swinging couples in ugly relationships. Say what you like about swinging, but suggesting long marriages don't happen when you swing is incorrect ! ...............my opinion on swinging is it takes a ton of real communication to make it work, it is fun, social and sexually enriching - however it is NOT socially acceptable . Interestingly enough my daughter , who us 23 , and all her friends all have 3 somes and 4 somes etc but all said ewwwwww when I bought up swinging as a general topic ! ........ This is a secret life for us , our fun time out , decadent , and exciting. I love seeing my husband with another woman , LOVE IT, no need for him to fuck around , I'll bring her home for us to fuck her together :) and then...it takes a ton of communication to make any relationship work does it not? and really ...if they are cheating then they are not monogamous are they? . I too respect your right to live your life how ever you like but please do not try and tell me that monogamy can not, does not work or try and justify your lifestyle choices. Quite frankly, it is none of my business if you both want to fuck others. Just please do not try and make it out to be more than what it is...... Swinging is not the be all and end all for relationship problems and I can tell you that many relationships that are flondering anyway will not and can not survive swinging no matter how much the couples invlolve communicate and this seems to be a myth that many swingers seem to try and perpetuate. How many times have we heard "swinging saved my marriage" ? Maybe a little honest communication is what actually saved the marriage. One of my points is that those who do swing (at least it appears so on this forum) is that they are constantly seeking justification for doing so. Why? Why do those that swing want to justify thier lifestyle choices more than say...a vegetarian? Maybe, just maybe deep deep down inside, most of them feel just a little teensy eensy bit wrong and that is why. Out of all the kinks and fetishes on this forum and indeed in this life...swingers seek the most approval from others. Why?
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is not a site for swingers at all. This is not a swingers site. It is an adult social network site. Not all adults swing!
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RHP User
13 years ago
You seem very aggressive towards this topic. I never, nor did the op suggest this was only a swingers website ? Nor do I see a lot if people wanting justification . I see more " whatever works", " it works for us " responses not begging to be understood. I guess the reason I only know one 40 year married couple in the scene , is because this is a small part of our life , and our age bracket for meeting people is up to 45 years old , we are not really going to meet a ton of veterans at the parties we go to . Having said that that, there are LOTS of 20 + year relationships with fun easy going liberated couples . Implying we feel wrong is like Christians telling atheists they are going to hell. Wrong ? According to who's definition of life ? In my life , it is just right :)
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mrsrealistic
13 years ago
we thnk mrs delicious nailed it - whats the problem - people like to play - its times like these i miss ELVIS
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RHP User
13 years ago
when you google Red Hot Pie,it says ''Adult dating site for singles and swingers''
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RHP User
13 years ago
We choose to swing because it's fun. We don't judge people for personal choices and on a site that IS for singles and swingers, it's disappointing to see such negative judgement. Swinging is not the basis of our Happy marriage. It's a hobby and we don't justify it, we just do it. 15 years married. Not bad I say!
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
Of course the odds are that you won't come across many open older long term couples. And those that are out there are unlikely to be looking for it here online. I'm with DelCpl here, we know what is right for us, especially when we've had a long history together. Telling us our thoughts and feelings are wrong or that we are kidding ourselves is a very small minded approach. There are 6 billion people on this planet, that's a lot of different outlooks on life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
My in laws were swingers, and nudists....married 58 years. we have family friends swingers and nudists since the early 70's married since 1967. Swinging isn't uncommon in over50's villages, according to the stories the old's tell us- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I allow myself two moral judgments in life - don't knowingly, avoidably and unnecessarily harm others AND don't abuse children or animals, ever. Other than that I actively practice acceptance and tolerance - and it does require real effort at times - and live by the rule of 'each to their own'. On the scale of things that can harm the moral code of society I'd say swinging would fall off the bottom without even registering. If it's consensual who does it harm? From my own experience and from some years here on these forums I think, to quote Delicious, it can be wonderfully enriching sexually. Not to mention fun, if all the naughty stories on here are anything to go by ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
All I can say is after 20 years on the scene and owning a swingers club for 10 years. The only thing that people need to know is that there is a BIG difference between FUCKING and MAKING LOVE. Swingers know the difference! Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
All I can say is after 20 years on the scene and owning a swingers club for 10 years. The only thing that people need to know is that there is a BIG difference between FUCKING and MAKING LOVE. Swingers know the difference! Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Handmaiden...I have never seeked approval for what I do or what we did as swingers, I can think of hundreds if not thousands of swingers that don't give a flying Fuck..what others think. In fact every single person I think of is more stable than any non swinging couple I know.. FACT! And trust me I feel I am a very good person to say this as I live it 24/7 and have meet thousands of swinging couples. I am proud to say that I know delicious personally and her hubby and admire and admire both, they are the most loving couple I have ever met and are like teenagers together, still in love like they were many many years ago. I have never heard any swinging couples say that swinging saved their marriage..in fact those that swing are the most self assured and communicating couples I have ever met in my life. Leesa xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
...and the battlefield is raising some dust, all I can add is that I like swinging.The best by far are those really cool rope swings over a deep pool on a lake...you can fly out over the water like Tarzan and make really weird noises, I like letting go and flying through the air naked before hitting the water.Just don't let your feet slip off that really big knot at the end of the rope before you let go...if you're going to get your balls busted, make sure it's really worth it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
While I'm a single guy I am enjoying swinging from this perspective, I really don't know how I would go as part of a couple. It depends how I met the girl in the first place and how secure I was in my feelings for her. I've met a few people involved in the scene over the last 2 months and every single one of them has a great relationship with their significant other. It may not be for everyone but one thing they all have in common is that their communication is just as good as any other married couple I know if not better. I don't know that swingers are seeking approval at all... Most are very discrete about it, this site gives them an outlet where they can be open about it. I am pretty open about what I've been up to with a few people I know but then there are a lot of people I know that I would never tell. Each to their own but I wouldn't be critical of anyone for the limits they have, Although there are lines that shouldn't be crossed and there are things I would never ever do, who am I to criticise... Unless it involves children or animals, then I would be straight on the phone to the cops
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RHP User
13 years ago
'swinging'.....ie openly and honestly playing with other adults...with the full knowledge and approval , and active participation of their partners....has to be much much better, for all involved...than sneaking around, sleeping with other peoples partners.....on the sly...wouldnt it? theres no 'hypocrisy' involved if its out in the open.... this is 'play'....and as such, we arent inclined to justify what we do, to anyone else than each other...and while there are willing and available playmates out there...who can come to us, or we to them, out in the open for all to see, we cant imagine why or how anyone here on RHP could possibly condemn us for our actions.... nobody gets hurts when all parties are aware of whats going on...shame the same thing cant be said when theres partners at home, oblivious to their loved ones interactions with others........
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RHP User
13 years ago
Swinging, as it allows us to enjoy our naughty side with other like minded couples..When the sexual attraction is there between two couples and you decide to "play" it's like revisiting your youth, when you first enjoyed sex..We totally enjoy watching each other whilst we're in the moment with others..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am married but here with my special fuck buddy. We agree to swing however with rules. I don't want to watch him fuck or kiss anyone else. I'd be too jealous to share him. Everything else is open for negotiation. If we became partners, then I would not share him at all. I would happily go to swing clubs and the two of us fuck in front of others. He would share me with another female and possibly with guys. He loves to watch his girl go!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Isn't that a little hypocritical? Not judging but are you saying you're happy to swing as long as he doesn't do it? I can understand if seeing you get off gets him off but you said you're too jealous? Don't really get it.. Doesn't sound like swinging to me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Hotdiggettydamn' Isn't that a little hypocritical? Not judging but are you saying you're happy to swing as long as he doesn't do it? I can understand if seeing you get off gets him off but you said you're too jealous? Don't really get it.. Doesn't sound like swinging to me. there are many different types of swinging, and that is one of them. all about communication. I dont play but i am happy for the guys to play wit ladies and i like to watch..no men are allowed to touch me...thats our rules and i enjoy them. Having said that we are over it and simply dont do it anymore as we have been there and done that.Leesa
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RHP User
13 years ago
I never singled one person out in particular now did I? All the swingers are now leaping to thier own defence. No I dont think I am defensive at all. Maybe once a month someone asks a question about swinging and always about what others think about it. Is this not asking for justification of thier own ideas? If you all want to swing that is your decision and I really dont care as it does not effect me at all. Just stop making it out to be more than what it actually is. CouplesInt... you dont read the forums very well at all then do you if you never hear any of the couples say that it saved thier relationship. It appears to me that those couples that do swing...and this comes across loud and clear from topics on here.... that they are very smug about thier life choices and like all smug people they can not possibly understand why the rest of us do not want to join in.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint'All I can say is after 20 years on the scene and owning a swingers club for 10 years. The only thing that people need to know is that there is a BIG difference between FUCKING and MAKING LOVE. Swingers know the difference! Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden' Quoting 'couplesint'All I can say is after 20 years on the scene and owning a swingers club for 10 years. The only thing that people need to know is that there is a BIG difference between FUCKING and MAKING LOVE. Swingers know the difference! Leesa xxx Never said singles dont. maybe you should read the forums better..lol I said Swingers...Singles are swingers too..lol Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hand maiden makes many assumptions without empirical evidence to support her views. The silent majority remain silent! "You see? I never singled one person out in particular now did I? All the swingers are now leaping to thier own defence." NEXT!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have met a few people from the swingers scene here in perth, and smug is definitely not the way I would describe them at all. Not sure where you would get that idea. Smug people will be smug whether they are single, straight, gay, lesbian, swingers, monogamous or anything else. While I fully understand each to their own, You say you have no problem with what choices other people make but then lump all the swingers couples who post here into the "smug" category. Interestingly enough, you are on a dating site for singles and swingers, I would think people on here would be open-minded enough not to judge others, apparently not.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Swinging.....Do you accept the concept? Or do you despise sex with someone other than your primary partner?Please elaborate on why/how you formed your opinion on this.This was the question and I feel i answered it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like a private moment between two people.
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Two_Tarts
13 years ago
For us this is a swingers site and the only reason we are here is to meet other couples for that purpose. So it should be self evident from our presence here as a couple who want to meet other couples that we accept the concept. We feel no compulsion to justify or explain our choices to anyone who does not understand, and those who come from a similar background and have made the same choices as us need no explanation because they already understand (although their exact reasons and journey may vary). When we meet new couples we will often discuss how our seperate journeys brought us to the same place. We take that conversation is part of getting to know each other because it is the source of our common interest but I don't think it is about trying to justify anything to each other. It seemed initially that the OP's question was asking an obvious question of the already converted, however some of the responses have shown the question to be more revealing than we expected. It does appear that there are people who are on this site who have not come from a similar background or have not come here as part of a long term couple that are are neither understanding or openly accepting of couples indulging in swinging. That actually comes as a surprise on what to us is most definitely a swingers site, but is of no particular consequence because everyone's entitled to their own thoughts on what they want and whether they are in the right place to get it. We have certainly discovered that RHP works pretty well as a swingers site for us, but then we are swingers and we have no doubt why we are here and what it is for us. To the Op's question, why do we swing? - Because sex is great and pleasure is good for us, - Because we both enjoy sex, - Because there is a special excitement that comes from the adventure of enjoying sex with someone new, - Because after more than 20 years of monogamy we both decided we were ready to try, - Because having a loving partner to go home with empowers us to be able to enjoy the forbidden, as partners in crime, - Because neither of us approve of the idea of lying to your partner or cheating and so we do it together, - Because it gave us an excuse to get back an awesome social life after many years of family and work stuff, - Because we have met some fantasic people who are good friends (with or without the benefits), - Because a little freedom and adventure is the greatest gift we have to give the person we love the most, - Because it's great to spend time with other people who also believe they can have it all, - Because enjoying time with other couples is an equitable way to enjoy ourselves, - Because we have even better sex together afterwards, - Because you can teach old dogs new tricks, - Because we have learn't more about life, love, people, ourselves, and each other, that we ever imagined possible, - Because it's another great adventure that we get to share together, - Because when we get old we want to look back and know that together we enjoyed all that life had to offer, - Because we can.
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RHP User
13 years ago
its easy...we spoke about it....as adults....we agreed.....as adults.... and we play, openly, honestly, without fear of recrimination, without guilt and absolutely without any deception or dishonesty....if thats jumping to defend ourselves....then so be it......colour us all guilty.....lol... we made the decision to 'play' after discussing such things as honesty and deception...and infidelity. as both of us had previously been betrayed by our respective spouses, we place a huge value on being honest with each other. Shel wont wear any sort of deception from me, not on any topic, and i'm the same with her, i'd walk, in a heartbeat, if i again felt i had been betrayed in any way by my wife....thats not saying it woukld be easy, its a measure of the importance i place on being able to trust my partner. both of us has fantasies.....some of them 'cross over'....so we felt that as adults who trust each other implicitly, we had the go ahead to explore these things.....together.... and together we do. we see it as just another thing we do together...'play'.... that we share...like our socialising, or bike riding, or even frequenting the nude beach...... we have the choice to do it on our own as a couple, or to include others...either way is good, and either way has benifits of its own.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am a ''swingle''
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RHP User
13 years ago
swing·ing /ˈswɪŋɪŋ/ <swing-ing> adjective, superlative swing·ing·est, noun adjective 1. characterized by or capable of swinging, being swung, or causing to swing. 2. intended for swinging upon, by, from, or in: the swinging devices in a playground. 3. Slang . excellent; first-rate. 4. Slang . lively, active, and modern; hip. 5. Slang . a. free and uninhibited sexually: a swinging bachelor. b. exchanging spouses for sex: swinging married couples. Am I a swinger? Well according to option a: yes. I have some FWB's with whom I meet other couples or go to a swingers club. Could I swing with a spouse? I'm not sure, I've never tried it. I think jealousy would be an issue for me though.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Formatting.
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RHP User
13 years ago
you did good peachy...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' when you google Red Hot Pie,it says ''Adult dating site for singles and swingers'' When you open up the first page on this site it says..... . Adult Dating and Social Network Site....but lets not argue with Google as they rather than the webmaster who set up the page for THIS site must have the definition right. . Now I did state right at the start that this was not for me and I did give my reasons...clearly stating that it was MY OPINION ONLY. I do feel that I answered the OP quite well and that this question was not directed at only couples who swing or he would not have asked us to elaborate. Personally I do not despise anybody but hey...that may just be an unfortunate choice of words. . Yes...swingers do seem rather smug on this site...and I have been playing in this particular sandpit for a number of years now possessing an excellent memory. Admittedly SOME couples do not generally comment. I guess they are the ones happy with thier lot in life and not feeling so smug, Maybe they dont need the validation or justification of thier choices either. . Correct me if I am wrong...and I feel quite confident that you will...I always thought that "SWINGING" involved the swapping of partners by married couples and those in a committed relationship, for sex. How is it then that singles can swing? Singles are not in a committed relatiosnhip now are they? They are just sleeping around and good luck to them. If you, as a couple, take a single person into your bed...sorry but IMO (there it is again) that is not swinging.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Handmaiden but perhaps if you think you are a swinger you are,whether you have a partner or not.Maybe this is why the term many people use now is ''the lifestyle''. For anyone who is interested there is an excellent online article posted by the Huffington Post.In this article, single men who play with couples are referred to as bulls and single women who do the same are referred to as unicorns. I doubt that the smugness of some people Handmaiden has anything to do with how they express their sexuality,more a personality trait in my opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Swingers.....are couples..or singles.. There's no distinction. If you have 'multiple' sexual encounters.....with multiple partners...wouldn't you rather be called 'swinger' than any one of the not so complimentary alternatives? I know I would..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ten years ago as a happy married family guy, the idea of swinging repulsed me. For that matter so did BDSM. It was never discussed and I couldn't understand why anyone would be interested in it. However.... after my divorce I met a beautiful woman who introduced me to BDSM and swinging. In love and pushing boundaries, it was exciting and I fell in love with the lifestyle.As a single man I have also joined cpls for play.I am now in a relationship again with a beautiful woman who is recently divorced and is keen to enter the lifestyle with me.Do I believe swinging is for everyone....NoCan swinging strengthen a relationship ....YesCan swinging destroy a relationship......YesI have spoken to many women who were not bi-sexual and their husband/ partner demanded they have sex with another woman.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Singles are swingers...I have met hundreds of singles that sometimes bring a date, or come to the club alone....they love to experiment and enjoy the same things couples do. Singles can go off with couples...or singles...the choices are there. You said to correct you if you were wrong HANDMAIDEN so I am correcting you. You are wrong, single can be swingers.but for you to know this you would have to see and be part of the lifestyle. So I forgive your ignorance. A lot of them end up as couples and continue the swinging path. Leesa xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Furthermore if swinger are supposedly smug about the lifestyle, why is it then that most swingers don't come out of the closest, they simply keep their lifestyle choice to themselves and never tell anyone about. Swingers are NOT smug at all about the lifestyle, to be a swinger you have to be a very stable, and self assured person. As a couple they are self assured, communication skills are high, love for each other is enormous and so is trust. That's it for me in this forum, I don't have to explain what we do or how we do it to anyone. It is a lifestyle choice that thousands of couples and singles make, probably your doctor, your lawyer, your teacher of your kids, your dentist or you local butcher or hairdresser.. Trust me I know the demographics and you would be surprised. Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
The way it has been written.....wouldn't be for a assignment he needs to do research for...just a little sceptical
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
It's easy to confuse the two when you don't have the context. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mr_MrsJones
13 years ago
Quoting 'swingpr6969' The way it has been written.....wouldn't be for a assignment he needs to do research for...just a little sceptical Now that you mention it swingpr I think you could be on to something!!!If Big Whyte wants to get some info about swinging he should not be so lazy. There are plenty of blogs out there where people give in depth descriptions of their journey into the lifestyle, their ideas and opions about said lifestyle etc. In my experience RHP is NOT a particularly good place to get a well rounded opinion of partner swapping amongst committed couples. Most of the people who respond to forums are singles or couples looking for a unicorn, and (sorry Leesa) I don't think they can really count themselves as swingers. Mrs Jones.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They are called swingles..and I know heaps of them. And they come to our singles nights. Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
degenerated into the ridiculous by people bound and determined to be right at all costs and therefore add more credence to thier choices. The accepted definition of Swingers have always been couples as well you all know. Swingles? Horse pucky, just a made up name for... Singles who actively seek sex. Ignorance? How do you know I have not been a part of that lifestyle? After all these are parlor games I played many many years ago before the OP was even born. Me thinks you all doth protest a little too much....clearly none of you feel the need to justify anything....
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RHP User
13 years ago
'protest'? At what point has there been a protest? Theres no protest from us....lol we are swingers....and we don't care what you or anyone else thinks of us for that.,.never have. We play with singles....so to us, they are swingers too.,,,makes sense? 'swinging' isnt about group sex....thats something else entirely, its just a nice way of saying 'promiscuous'....so if you have had a string of consecutive sexual liaisons with others.... You'd be called......an fairly correctly I might add.....a 'swinging single'..doh! You say we 'protest' or justify ourselves....who to handmaiden, who to? We play openly and honestly with the full knowledge of all parties concerned......and that includes partners....what's to defend??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
So just curious handmaiden, what do you call singles that go to swingers clubs, that attend with girlfriends or boyfriends..that play with couples and or other singles...what do you call them. Please tell us all we would love to know. If there is another name for them we would appreciate to your imput certainly. They are swingers and they call themselves swingles. Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris' Handmaiden , I respect your opinion on swinging , however you are incorrect re long term marriages in this scene ! I know one older couple married 41 years this year, swinging for 30 of those years , plus many 20+ year long term married couples just in our inner circle ! Including myself . We are 22 years married this year and swinging for the entire time :) monogamy was never on either of our addenda or life's plan . Monogamy works for some which is awesome - however I know FAR more cheating " monogamous " friends than swinging couples in ugly relationships. Say what you like about swinging, but suggesting long marriages don't happen when you swing is incorrect ! ...............my opinion on swinging is it takes a ton of real communication to make it work, it is fun, social and sexually enriching - however it is NOT socially acceptable . Interestingly enough my daughter , who us 23 , and all her friends all have 3 somes and 4 somes etc but all said ewwwwww when I bought up swinging as a general topic ! ........ This is a secret life for us , our fun time out , decadent , and exciting. I love seeing my husband with another woman , LOVE IT, no need for him to fuck around , I'll bring her home for us to fuck her together :) All the swinging couples I know are in sound relationships!Awesome post Delish
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RHP User
13 years ago
To us it is just abit of excitement nothing over the top,We dont fuck others at all that is not for us.It is our little secret where we have some soft sensual fun, then go home to our family just a bit of innocent adult fun.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I certainly don't judge those that choose to participate in the 'lifestyle' on any level.I'm of the view that people should indulge in whatever floats their boat, provided everyone is being honest with each other and only participating at a level to which they feel comfortable. If so, then go for it (literally and figuratively)!Monogamy is one thing. Cheating is another. I'm of the opinion that monogamy (for the purposes of this discussion, defining the word as being in a committed relationship with one sexual partner, forsaking all others) for a lifetime is a somewhat uncomfortable proposition. However, I think that as a couple, you can decide against monogamy but NOT cheat. Cheating to me is about deceit, or about one partner participating in activities outside of the relationship which the other partner does not agree with.I'm currently single and not really on the lookout for a committed relationship; perhaps because I'm not 100% certain where I sit on the above. I am a happy participant in play with couples, but would I want the same for my own relationship? As a bisexual woman, would I want to 'share' my partner with another woman? Another man? Both? I'm sure I'll have fun figuring it out!Whatever my personal preference for myself and my own relationships, I would not judge the decisions that others make, provided they are informed and not made under duress. One of the greatest things I have taken away from my time so far on RHP is the open-mindedness of the friends I have made, and the different take each of you have on your own relationships and what you choose to take away from the experiences you have.So play nice, boys and girls
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RHP User
13 years ago
Everyone's normal is different. What one likes another person thinks "yuck". I am happy for everyone to like what they like, even if it is things I am not in to. Whatever floats your boat as the saying goes.
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