What are some subtle traits immediately put you off someone?

February 05 2024

For me, making sounds while eating. I can't handle it, it just drives me insane!

I was in a meditation retreat last year and I sat beside a guy at lunch that would make a subtle sound while eating. I can't describe the rage that would go through my mind while I sat there beside him.

Subsequently, I discovered a thing called misophonia which pretty much explained everything.

Curious to know what are some subtle things put you off someone.

We all know the obvious ones, like big egos, arrogance, really bad B.O. etc.

I'm more thinking things that make you go "this shouldn't be a big deal, but I really can't handle it"

Comments

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 months ago

    trying to sound intelligent by using loquacious words incorrectly.

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    8 months ago

    Mouth breathing, using ones teeth on utensils, hair twirling all instant turn offs for some reason.

  • fun2behere

    fun2behere

    8 months ago

    in some cultures it is important to make sounds eating as it shows you are enjoying the food. BURP

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 months ago

    Bad listeners who always interrupt when they can relate what I’m saying to be about them.

    “Oh, that’s like when I did….”
    “I did that once and then this….”
    “I’m just going to finish your sentence for you because I’m sure you’d like that.”

    You know.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 months ago

    Just a few
    1. People who are real c*nts to their parents. Not on! 🚩
    2. Pick me men: When they say, " I'm not like other men" or are dramitic. PFFFT! I'm not picking you- go away.
    3. Crocs- those with designer pins on them. In this heat, you ain't putting those sweaty feet in my bed.
    4. During sex they say, "Oh my Goodness". Don't fucking say it!
    5. They need help at self serve checkouts. You are holding up the queue. Dump that shit and walk out.

    Ms Foxy

  • ppiffle3934

    ppiffle3934

    8 months ago

    Men wearing socks when they’re having sex 🤷‍♀️

  • xxxpeachesxxx

    xxxpeachesxxx

    8 months ago

    People that constantly check their phone when you're having a "conversation" ...

  • Felicitous

    Felicitous

    8 months ago

    My biggest petty instantaneous turn off...
    those that write in numbers and abbreviations - it actually hurts my brain 😂🧐

  • Yellowpenguins

    Yellowpenguins

    8 months ago

    Yes , I have misophonia so I'm with you on the eating sounds Alexis.

    People who just sit there sniffing GET A DAMM TISSUE !
    Pen clicking 😏 the internal rage I feel.

    Also , if they pick at their toe nails 🤢 or bite their fingernails ❌
    Equally, long finger or toenails on men 🤢

  • Aligirl443

    Aligirl443

    8 months ago

    I had a recent date where the guy showed up in a faded polo shirt and jeans with 2 of the BIGGEST holes I’d EVER seen in both knees…I didn’t say anything but my mind was SCREAMING “What the HELL are you wearing???!??!”

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    8 months ago

    When people miss the point. It might be someone missing the point of what you are saying because they lack the ability to comprehend what you are saying. But even down to personal choice. Like someone I know decked out her backyard in artificial plants because she wanted more nature in her home. You missed the point, lady.
    I know, freedom of choice, etc. Hard to watch when there are whole islands of plastic floating in the Pacific Ocean.

  • RachWandered

    RachWandered

    8 months ago

    @Alexis …do you just eat soup? Or do you have a bird in another room chewing your food then bringing it back and regurgitating it into your mouth… quietly
    Hahahaha I’m laughing so hard right now
    Sorry not diminishing your misosoup phobia but
    How do you shovel a pack of chippies and cut the roof of your mouth?
    I’m so confused… 🫤

  • Dann_May

    Dann_May

    8 months ago

    People who don't take care of their appearance and people who can't use grammar or punctuations correctly 🙄

  • BOOEAST

    BOOEAST

    8 months ago

    When your date squints when reading the menu even though it was the sexy librarian look (with glasses) in her profile which attracted you in the first place. 👓

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 months ago

    TV volume: putting the volume on odd numbers! DONT TOUCH MY REMOTE! Absolutely not on. Goes on even numbers.

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    8 months ago

    People that constantly refer to me as ‘babe , either to my face or via online chat ‘. It really is cringeworthy . I have pulled guys up on it but I’m they always go back to it . I guess it’s just a habit . It just grates on me . Ax

  • StaceOffHerFace

    StaceOffHerFace

    8 months ago

    Stink breath or body odour 😫🤮😣

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    8 months ago

    Men who don't sit up straight, lean on counters, walls etc

    Ick

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 months ago

    When they use a 2in1 shampoo/ conditioner as body wash. They probably don't wash their butts with it .

    Ms Foxy

  • JaneDoe40

    JaneDoe40

    7 months ago

    When a man uses the word ‘lovely’ 🫣🙅🏻‍♀️

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 months ago

    Waiting in line/queue and people who push in.
    You're not in a slip lane, go wait your fucking turn!

    Ms Foxy

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 months ago

    Physically....Cankles, long nails, smoking and bad teath 🤮

    Mentally.....lackluster communication and people that assume things rather than asking.

  • Darkness

    Darkness

    7 months ago

    The general awkwardness of not giving me enough to work with about themselves..
    or when it’s all about them.. take a breath lol
    Being rude to staff big no no.. I hate it.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 months ago

    Anyone who uses the term 'wazzup'

    I should reply - 'your opportunity' - not sure they'd get it 😂 so instead generically say we won't be suited.

  • No_probLlama68

    No_probLlama68

    7 months ago

    Using speaker on their phone in public whether it’s for calls or music/vids

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    7 months ago

    The following traits/characteristics have become more noticeable to me over the last four years. I have always been put off by anyone displaying them. 

    Anyone arrogant enough to profess to know what the ultimate truth is to me demonstrates complete ignorance and an unwillingness to learn.

    People with a holier-than-thou attitude.

  • AshAndPaul

    AshAndPaul

    7 months ago

    When in a chat conversation and starting to get to know someone they asked for some pics and I shared them…then about 1/2hr later he asked for more because he said he was desperate and my boobs looked hot! 🔥…🙈🙈🙈🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ that was like oh no your not for us!

  • Funcplgc

    Funcplgc

    7 months ago

    Arrogance

  • Exoticerotic69

    Exoticerotic69

    7 months ago

    We would never tell as we like people to post what they really think without giving people the opportunity to mask what we feel are shortcomings aka “put offs” then end up meeting and wasting everyone’s time 😉