Weeding out time wasters

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  ElectricDreamers

  4 years ago

  This is where I think validations have their place. It shows people can show up. We used to have 'girls talk' calls too before meets.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  We generally look for - paid account, verified, validated. If 2 of those are missing I assume fake, or they're not serious about finding a date. If 1 is missing I'm dubious as and will need some good indicators

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I’m not verified or validated and I always show up, verification only shows you can send a picture with a date on it and I’ve seen validations left on profiles between members who I know have never even met. Some people are just liars and game players and unfortunately those people really love the internet dating scene. You’ll probably never be able to weed them out, all you can do is change your expectations and reactions. Plan a good night for yourselves first and foremost and if they turn up, bonus!

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  blix_and_queen

  4 years ago

  We use the no play on the first date to weed out the serious ones. Hit rate of about 90%. Validations aren't a guarantee.

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  AnnieWhichway

  4 years ago

  Plans A B and C.... If I'm making standby plans, plan C will always be fail safe. Like a movie or friends catchup. The hammering your confidence would take is not worth staking it all on untested flaky people. So it's a Max of 1 failure per day/weekend/week.

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  Ex007

  4 years ago

  Keep people talking and messaging for longer then a week. First meet is a meet and greet, second meet is a play date.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  We had the same issue on 4 occasions was about to give up and then we finally met a few good ones

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  MsSuperFoxy

  4 years ago

  Did you talk to them on the phone prior?

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  hornyguy2305

  4 years ago

  Generally I look for a verified account that’s online or paid so you know they are active and real members. And usually just give em a call before hand to have a chat before meeting in person

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  gccouple1709

  4 years ago

  We always give our mobile number and ask for theirs in return. Then voice call to make sure they are real (usually letting the girls talk to make sure there really IS a girl and that she knows what this is all about). If they don't want to chat on the phone, we move onto someone else.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Loads of fakes profiles

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I must say I’m having trouble getting verification I’m 100 real and am a payed member I was previously on rhp and got verified very easily

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Couple posts date with location disclosed to RHP only. Candidate applies and couple consent, location issued by rhp at a time of couples choosing. If candidates location does not show said location at that time, RHP boots them.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Unfortunately for me i am still a bit old school where we actually used to meet people and have a face to face conversation. The online messaging only works for people who know how to tell people what they want hear and these people have no real commitment to meeting or anything else. Face to face you can read the body language and there tone of conversation

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  RHP User

  3 days ago

  To be honest, I’m getting really sick of time wasters as well. Today alone I had two different men not show up. One kept pushing back a planned meet from 9am until after midday and then just never came, so I blocked him. Another simply didn’t show at all and didn’t even bother to cancel after days of chatting. It’s becoming a pattern—endless messaging, vague plans, and no actual follow-through. Some people seem more interested in collecting photos, chatting endlessly, or just staying behind a screen rather than actually meeting in real life. I understand not everyone is a match, and I’m not perfect either, but there has to be some level of effort and respect. Clear communication isn’t a big ask. I also find it frustrating when profiles are low effort or inconsistent, because it makes it hard to take things seriously from the start. At this point, I’m only interested in people who are genuine about meeting, communicate clearly, and follow through. If someone can’t organise a meet within a reasonable timeframe or keeps things stuck in endless chatting, I just move on. I’m not here for endless back-and-forth. I’m here to actually meet people in real life.

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