We are new to swinging

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Hi guys and welcome to the world!As with everything on these marvellous forums, you'll soon be reading a wealth of experiences with clubs. Personally, the club scene didn't work out so well for us and its not something we are rushing back to repeat. But that's more about us, our personalities and what we are looking for with swinging rather than clubs per se.We first went to a club (CI in Brissie) in 2008 and were welcomed heartily. We went really to 'test' out whether swinging was for us or not - we hadn't discovered RHP at that point.The positives were that there was no expectations, the rules of the club were very clear (though broken...we got walked in on by a drunken lady looking for a lost earring) and we got exposure to some stuff we'd never seen before. It was easy to meet people and clearly everyone there was there for the same reason as us and that gave a sense of belonging.On the downside, we felt that we really stood out as "nervous newbies" and as neither of us are big drinkers, we found it hard to relax our nerves (but of course, that may not be the case for you). We did end up playing and it answered a lot of questions for us about whether we could see each other with someone else etc..Ultimately, it depends on your expectations and what you want to get out of it. For us, we prefer to take our time, get to know our potential playmates a bit more as it makes the sex better for us - so the club scene just doesn't work in that way unless you use it as a regular meeting venue. But others will tell you they've had some of the best sex of their lives with randoms at clubs.Hope you find what you're looking for.Kisses,J

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  So young to take on such a big relationship test! Make sure it really is what you both wasn't and that your relationship is extremely secure. If you have boundaries its best that both partners fully know and agree to them.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We were together ten years before Mr broached the subject of including others in our sex life. We are bot really "clubbing" people, so we've never been to a swingers club... But we've heard stories. And the stories that we have heard have well and truly made up our minds that it's not our thing. You never know until you try though...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Yes your young but older enough to make decicions so as Apollow says make sure you have your boundaries on the table and the people you play with knows that no means no if things get out of hand. You can easily get caught up in the moment and lose sight of whats going on around you and your partner. Personally I would if I was you is find a nice couple on RHP and stay away from clubs. Find someone in there early 30s and above to have a more understanding expierience with no presure. I have met the best friends in my life through swinging and a few bad ones just take people as they are and go with your gut feeling and remember until you adjust to swinging stay in the same room together. Good luck

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have to disagree with mystery,I would recommend going to CI.It is relaxed as every one says just like a night club (if you like clubbing) no pressure.Even if you decide you don't want to play you will have a good time and nobody would care either way. As everyone always says make sure you you set your boundaries and stick to them.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  "Be aware, this is a door once open you can't generally close."   Very true, we also found having a word or signal for your partner that you can subtly give when things get a bit beyond what you want or expected is handy.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I don't disagree with clubs as I know you can have a good time just being new to swinging and young try other couples to know what it is like and break the ice then venture to a club once you find your feet.

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