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We WANT to be your fantasy, but it’s not that simple
May 09 2022
But as women? You know we don’t just shower and turn up looking like a million dollars right? There is always a lot of time, effort and money invested in making sure we look our best, our sexiest, and the way you imagined.
When someone replies to your messages, they are giving you their time and attention, they are choosing to spend their time on you, giving you priority over everything else in their life, in that moment.
If they choose to meet up with you, again, they are organising their responsibilities, their life, to make time for you.
If they choose to give you more than just a meet, depending on what your fantasy is, you can guarantee she has gone to every effort she could to provide it.
We aren’t ‘hairless’ time and money have been spent achieving that, to be bare, smooth and ready to blow your mind.
Our skin isn’t perfect, we age, we do what we can to look young, to stay attractive to you.
Lingerie isn’t cheap, we could spend our money on soooo many other things, but lingerie drives him wild, and we want him to be happy.
Apart from the dollars we prioritise to invest in these things, all to give him a better time and experience, time is also money.
It’s one thing to turn up sexy, bare and ready to fuck, it’s a whole different ball game if you want all holes available. Before any meet, I avoid smelly foods, God forbid my breathe or body odour be bad, but if he wants ‘everything’ prep starts the day before, to ensure there are no messy accidents and it is as much fun as it looks like in porn.
I can guarantee, that if she is going to this much effort, you are on her mind, she is thinking about you, her body is reacting to you, you have her mind and her body at your beck and call. That kind of distraction can affect everything, her driving, her work, her sleep.
Foreplay starts from the minute you have her attention. Stop taking advantage of it. Whether you don’t have the confidence to meet, and prefer to hide behind the screen and get yourself off, whether you get a better offer from someone else, whether you get rip roaring drunk and end up too hungover to meet, the reason doesn’t matter.
Just stop it. Now. Stop ‘pretending’ to be interested, if you are online for home entertainment, there are services who provide it, use them, they have consented to it, stop deceiving people who actually give you the benefit of the doubt, their time, money and effort. You are stealing from them, and from all the men who do treat us right, who do appreciate the effort we go to, who do shower, shave and turn up to meets looking fresh and smelling great, who are willing to reach into their pocket and buy us a coffee or dinner. Men who APPRECIATE what we have spent and the effort we have gone to.
Fucking with someone’s emotions and self esteem has consequences. Stop treating people like they are disposable, replaceable or unimportant.
No means no, and everyone has the right to change their mind. Problem is, people seem to have forgotten how to be honest, kind and thoughtful in their pursuit of a ‘happy ending’.
If you want sex with no effort, hire someone, if you want an experience, then read her profile, treat her like she is a person, and appreciate and respect her. Remember, her inbox is overflowing, if you get any response to a message, value it.
Women? If you are using men for anything other than mutual sexual satisfaction, you are just as bad as the online time waster man. Go find yourself a sugar Daddy who gets off on that kind of treatment. Don’t pretend to be in it because you like them, when you only want their wallet.
Comments
RHP User
2 years ago
Nicely constructed discussion.
Hopefully most men adhere to a similar routine in order to impress or make it a mutually enjoyable experience.RHP User
2 years ago
It’s the tale as old as time, fantasy vs reality
The effort, the moving of our lives, relying on mutual respect
The split seems two ways, we hear guys want pics, but women want the feeling of being desired.
The odds are against those genuine, but when it clicks, it’s so good (clicks, being the word).
It’s becoming a culture of ignorance, one where we can all be the better human.
MsSuperFoxy
2 years ago
BUT WAIT!
I don't mind using men (who give consent). It doesn't mean I want their wallets or need a Sugar Daddy.
Ms Foxy
OneLickOne
2 years ago
Impressive constructive paragraphs, great read. Yes preparation with time spend to be your best on meets is totally respected and appreciate from this view. Unfortunately in our life of many different journeys for every amazing person you meet there is always going to be a few more that have no idea, it's a beautiful thing to have standards of engagement to maintain with no adjustment, hold your values as we have less days to live than what we have lived, enjoy the ones you want share life with.
Hiluxman1
2 years ago
Ahmen abit of effort and respect goes a long way 👍💯
Rising_Phoenix
2 years ago
I actually got exhausted reading this 😅
That’s a lot of effort to go to and a few too many expectations for me...
Dear men, foreplay does NOT start the moment you have my attention, not even close, please don’t think that.
I’ve also never “prepped all holes” to meet someone, that level of effort was only ever for the MVP.
No people should not use each other but you also shouldn’t give more than you’re willing to lose just in case they take it and run. That goes for money and feelings 😉
countrytouch82
2 years ago
Finding someone, be it for a night, a short term or long term, can take a LOT of time, effort and certainly money (eg in physical products, fuel, site memberships, time used in place of work, ticket event fees, or other).
The amount of cumulative effort seems wasted when ultimately, we appear to spend much much more time looking and preparing and hoping than the comparitively tiny amount of time actually spent in the communication and physical company of someone actually quite decent and respectful, and compatible with one's self.
But, I think, that makes the great moments that much more precious and memories worth holding on to.
On individual occasions, it is rightly frustrating to make various efforts for say, stood up dates, or seemingly promising communication resulting in ghosting for no apparent reason, but all humans are greatly fallible and sh*t goes wrong with accidental, deliberate or circumstancial intent all the time, that hurts others, be it in dating, communication, relationships, working life, driving, etc etc.
All of us have our own needs and wants and hopes and dreams and desires at any point in time. We want someone to complement those even if it's just for one night, and meet their own desires, ie fantasies. Fantasies aren't just sexual but also fantasies involving how we want our life to be.
Whenever we hold fantasies involving other people, that will always be at risk to our own emotions, because we have little or no control actually of other people or their actions. Particularly when such people do not have any such investment (yet) in own own life, like an established partner, friends, or family will.
We have to manage our emotions and expectations with people that are only slightly better than complete strangers. The amount of effort we put into try and meet them or play is not necessarily relevant in their completely seperate life, which may or may not be fair on occasions, but that's life, I guess. Just my own musings.RHP User
2 years ago
Here’s a thought, how about people in general just don’t be dicks!
Maybe I’m showing my age but I think you should treat people and react to people in exactly the same way you would if you met them on the street.
I wouldn’t walk up to a woman and say “hey wanna fuck” and proceed to whip my todger out 🤷♂️
Let’s stop hiding behind the screenRHP User
2 years ago
Unfortunately the time wasters you describe barely read a profile let alone a how to be respectful post.
RHP User
2 years ago
Clean sheets would be a nice start when I rock up to a date dressed in expensive lingerie and heels.
RHP User
2 years ago
Spot on. Well said and absolutely agree.
nightingale8
2 years ago
I have noticed a strange phenomenon of people not following up in person or cancelling last minute when I have made time to meet more than a day away. Never encountered this before. It’s rare for me to come out given my working ridiculous hours so it has been a bit of a let down when I do make the time. Guilty with my own sins online of course.
RHP User
2 years ago
Babe u r so much more a lady that oozes sooo much sex appeal u r confident smart not to mention that u just get it.everything u said I couldn't agree more and I practice and believe that it's a necessity.if I'm meeting a woman for the first time I make sure I'm clinically clean as I want our experience together to be as hot and erotic as possible. Anyways when are we catching up just listening and reading your posts is making my hot rod hard fuck u r a turn on sorry but hey being honest xx
kyleer
2 years ago
Yes! This!! I’m sick of men who just want to jerk off over my pics.. I live rurally, so it does take time and effort to be prepared for a visit….sometimes they don’t give any notice - just a ‘are you busy tonight?’ completely forgetting I am a person with a personal and professional life as well…
curiousgirl35
2 years ago
100%
Serendipity69
2 years ago
Right on the money
RHP User
2 years ago
I see you are trying to make a point ok but be fair you are saying that men don't put in effort well I don't think that is all right .
As for paying for it that has nothing to do with it . We are all on this site so You either want sex or you don't up to you .but
If You actually talk and meet the man they are going out of there way for you so there is effort made
Talking online is less effort but again that is the man's time they are using to talk to you before they even meet up with you . If they send you a photo appreciate it they are going out of there way to take that photo what ever the photo is but if you don't like it you can reply no thanks . If you are not interested don't waiste there time and they won't waist yoursRHP User
2 years ago
I’m getting some serious prince vibes going here… baby you can be mine…
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