Want what we can't have

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Humans are eternally flawed. So is one of my two dogs, come to think of it.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I once had it all, nice home, no financial worries, exotic holidays, didnt have to work....yet I wasnt happy with all of that? Now I have absolutely nothing in a material sense but I do have a fantastic son, my health, the best family and friends ( love you all so much!) and a roof over our heads. And Im so content.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  A wise Tibetan Lama say,"You Westerners,you are so fortunate,you have so much compared to the rest of the world,and yet yo don't have the karma to enjoy it xxFreya

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Freya70' A wise Tibetan Lama say,"You Westerners,you are so fortunate,you have so much compared to the rest of the world,and yet yo don't have the karma to enjoy it xxFreya Sorry, for a moment there I thought you had been talking (and listening) to a Tibetan Llama

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  They were talking about the Ashley Madison thing and the amount of members ( something like 13 mil ) and why we are not monogamists.. ? The very number goes to show lots of people need more than the lovely lil home with the lovely flower bed and 2 - 3 kids and each other to keep them happy. Just as we grow tired of favorite holiday destination we grow tired of repetition so its quite natural to have a need for something new .. To be honest... I dont think we are built to be monogamist.. The sooner we learn that the better we can understand it all.. Truth is , monogamy has taken hundreds of years to get into everyone's head so the battle just goes on.. Just my opinion... Dont shoot me...

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  On_Safari

  10 years ago

  And then think about your question again. I would if I could but can't so I won'tHave thought that I should then told myself don'tI've had it all and lost it then had it all againLife goes in cycles it's just a matter of when. What could I be you ask of me?Anything I choose and anything once....anything but meI could be like him, I could be like herBut it's still so much fun being wilder. ....Sometimes.... I could have been famous I could have been richI could have been like others and been a real bitch.I chose to take the high road and fight for what's rightBut no one wins there when the cards are stacked so tight. I've lived and I've loved and I've laughed and I've criedThe best lesson to learn is that I didn't just dieI've been successful, in my own measure of course;What you cal successful comes from your own source. I need not your approval your validation or dislikeI do just fine with people who respect and treat me alikeI have friends on the bluff as well as under the hillAnd they're all worth their measure of strength and goodwill. I'm perfectly imperfect with all my flaws intactAnd I'm here to tell you as a matter of factWhat would I be if I could be....sure, soft and toughBut what I am as I am now .... is surely enough. Love me or hate me I don't give a shitI'm living my life every tiny bit. I wrote that when I was asked "what would I be" and had to present the results of the question at a business function for an exec recruitment company I worked for. OP until you've lost everything how can you appreciate it? Take a look at the people out there who don't have their health or limbs, ability to walk, talk, move. Families without homes living in cars. Hard to do unless you've been there hey? Sometimes it's a lonely planet....

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  When told I can't do something due to circumstance and/or environment, more often than not, it only fuels my determination to prove otherwise. I can't relate to wanting to be with someone who wasn't available or worse, not into you though.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Are mostly less happy than those living in undeveloped cultures. We live 'on the treadmill' with many pressures and expectations and often without a community. It IS lonely and unfulfilling. We struggle to live in the present. We complicate everything. But maybe, just maybe this is the human condition and if only we would accept that then we would be happier..... Lol

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I've been on top of the world, doing what I loved so much, performing... It passed with age. I had a home and it past with divorce. I met my soul mate and experienced a joy and wonder that no-one and nothing could take away, except death... and he did. I lost my health for a time which cost me my job and forced me to sell my home... I've never had a job (except music) that I have enjoyed or received any satisfaction from. It's always been a chore to go to work. I sold and moved to the most beautiful place I know (Terrigal) and live 1 km from the most beautiful beach in the world. I have a small cottage that I'm lucky enough to own.I am now studying to be a Counsellor and will be qualified to help those whose lives are not going so well. From this, I know I'll get the joy and satisfaction I crave from my job, that I've never had. I am the happiest I've ever been, because things went wrong and I had to sell up in Sydney and buy cheaper in a beautiful place (well sought after). I* will, in about 18 months be qualified to do what I know I'll love... May even set up practice myself and be free of any restraints or rules or lunch hours or people telling me how they'd do something. You don;t need possessions in abundance or trips overseas, nor the modern conveniences that the TV tells us we can't live without... We need happiness, in whatever form makes us happy. But, in my opinion, we need someone special to us, that we can share it with, otherwise it can be a little empty. But I'm working on that and with some luck and providence looking after me, as it has done, I'll find that too...

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Why is it somehow bad to want what you don't have, or not be content with what you have and want more?!. Isnt that the basis for all aspiration? To want something better for yourself, and those around you?! YES...... I want what I can't have, because who the hell says I can't have it in the first place? I want a bigger boat... so I work my tail off with that as a goal. I want a great partner.... so I meet people, screen them, with the ultimate purpose being to find that great partner. I want a lovely house, a comfortable income, good physical fitness and health, and great experiences of quality time to spend with family...... so I do what I feel I need to, to attain that. Problem? Its no problem for me.

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  AnnieWhichway

  10 years ago

  We strive for perfection. Despite being imperfect within ourselves Perhaps by finding that perfection we think that may perfect ourselves. But of course in the search, it will make us even less perfect by hurting others and ourselves. Annie xx

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  There all always people in worse positions in life than yourself. And there are always people in better positions. You can compare yourself to either, but you can only really try to move forward from your own unique starting point, wherever you happen to be in life at any one time. In relation to this site specifically, it does get tiring chasing fantasies or partners or activities that may or may not ever happen, certainly not in any hurry. Reading about other peoples amazing adventures can have the effect of wanting them yourself, and take your mind away from the moments you have actually had, or can have. So I really do try to appreciate the simplest things, like just having someone in your arms, which are probably only really appreciated if you've been without it for an extended period. So I think a break from the site, a break from work, or a break from any other consuming part of your life is good sometimes. Perhaps to spend it assisting the needy or disadvantaged in the community, puts things in perspective a little. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Jealousy or envy plays a part. Yes, I'd love a swinging partner like I see in many other couples/playmates. But then again, there are people in unhappy relationships and those without any partners of any kind who would be jealous of myself, and/or the single life. So comparing myself to what I can't have (at this point) is detrimental to appreciating what I do have. Which is some lovely friends in the scene who think well of me, being lucky enough to be invited to the odd play event, and having a very lovely lady who I have spent some quality time with only recently. So I have to ask myself, WTF am I doing being envious of certain others and the activities they get up to? I guess that's just human nature, and the nature of our own imperfections as others above have mentioned. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Whateverway' We strive for perfection. Despite being imperfect within ourselves Perhaps by finding that perfection we think that may perfect ourselves. But of course in the search, it will make us even less perfect by hurting others and ourselves. Annie xx Striving for perfection and wanting what we don't have is no problem at all... But I do disagree with your assertion that it will make us less perfect by hurting others (and ourselves)... That will only happen if you become (or are) ruthless in your pursuit of the things you want, stepping on and harming others, in some way, in the process. We don't have to step on and over people to reach goals... (although some do... Our politicians spring to mind). I'd never use, or harm anyone to fulfill a goal or get something I want. If I can't succeed on my own merits, without being ruthless and non-empathic, not caring how I get it (legal or not) and who I hurt or inconvenience and take from in the process, it's an empty goal and no achievement at all... It would be like robbing a bank and claiming you worked hard to get what you have... There's a saying... "Be careful who you step on, on the way up the ladder... You might come across them on the way down"... And we can all come down... Especially if we've used questionable methods to get where we are.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  There's a saying... "Be careful who you step on, on the way up the ladder... You might come across them on the way down"... And we can all come down...

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