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WTF cant cum?
January 06 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
look up retrograde ejaculation.... or tricky plumbing......men ...just when you think you have them figured...better than cum before you kiss hello....what did you say his address was ?? lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mate of mine often doesn't come in group situations or with people he doesn't know really well. Sometimes it's a mental block, maybe something in his past.
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BigJLittleC
13 years ago
It can happen, I have it sometimes when there is alcohol involved. No idea why it just happens.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I wouldn't worry about it, let him talk about it when he is ready. I know how it is though, well for me anyway I can't help but feel as if I am not really doing it for him but of course that is not true. You must feel a little cheated though I know I get a little disappointed at times ... Watching a man cum is so awesome. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
And he's happy, and you both come back for more .... win /win me thinks. ;-)
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madotara69
13 years ago
He is still adapting to how hot you are, and himself is the last person he may be thinking of.Mado
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RHP User
13 years ago
thanks allIm not telling anybody where he lives Missbowpeek ! lol he's all mine he doesnt drink or smoke anything Big_J84 ( takes these chinese tablets tho )you're right Meeka even though i know he enjoys me I just want some proof, to feel his body jerk, to hear him moan something !!!!He's a real pleaser though, all that matters is if Im enjoying myself! so i guess ill just count myself lucky as ive had my share of the ones that cum before I've even warmed up!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some medication can have that effect
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
MADE ME FEEL LIKE SH*T and that I felt like it was me...didn't make me feel sexy at all.Performance with everything was dam fine...Was not until he came clean that he was sleeping with some one else... GUILT TRIP!Soon gave the FLICK that worked...didn't cum AGAIN!!PS- I LOVE seeing a men cum...EUPHORIA!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's one of those subjects where, thanks to the double whammy of pop culture and porn (and, in fairness, from your typical experience) male sexuality is assumed to be a pretty open and shut case - enclose, apply friction, repeat, ejaculate in/on/over. Sure, this works a lot of the time, but contrary to popular belief our penises actually ARE controlled by our brains (though I'll grant you, not the conscious parts of them.) This means there are any number of physiological or psychosomatic issues that can affect penile function - including whether an orgasm happens or not.As others have mentioned, a whole variety of drugs - prescription or otherwise, can affect it. "The brewer's droop" is a common idiom for a reason. Sex on uppers? You can grind away for hours, but the big-O will be like the rabbit on the greyhound track - spurring you onwards yet always out of reach. One of the most common side-effects from anti-depressants is a reduced sex drive etc.Of course, there are an ENORMOUS range of psychological issues that can affect it too. Stress and anxiety are classic causes of erectile dysfunction and performance issues.There could be underlying health issues. Or just different wiring. Coming at it from a different angle (no pun intended,) someone once said that excessive masturbation with a heavy grip can desensitize the penis, and make it harder to orgasm from the more 'subtle' sensations of intercourse. Don't know if there's any actual study on this, but it could certainly make sense.At the end of the day it could be any of these things, or a combination, or something else. Who knows? They're not usually permanent issues, and men might experience problems at different stages of their lives for varying periods.What I do know is that he's probably aware of it a lot more than you are, and self-conscious about it. That could make the situation worse if it's anxiety related. You say he laughed about it - sounds like a pretty typical way of dealing with it. Maybe he's on anti-depressants, but since you're FB's and not necessarily close out of the bedroom he doesn't feel comfortable sharing that.Whatever the case, I wouldn't worry about it. While it is frustrating for you, you almost certainly aren't the cause. If you like the guy and you like everything else about the sex, then keep at it. There's not a lot you can do, other than make him feel worse about it by thinking he's letting you down, so just enjoy what you've got. Good luck!N_D
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RHP User
13 years ago
One was used to it and not bothered by the fact, he loved to brag that he 'can go all night baby' and really seemed to get off on me getting off, which would have been great except that I'm also one of those people who really get off on my partner getting off. Two 'givers' don't always make a good match but I'm sure he's perfect for someone out there who needs a marathon effort, I'd rather cum a few times and then get some sleep LOLI think he would have been quite happy if the fact that he doesn't cum was never mentioned, and not made to feel like a challenge to make him cum, because the inevitable failure only makes it awkward when he'd rather just keep making women happy :) The other was a bit bothered by it, so it became a vicious cycle of effort and frustration for him, but there were a couple of times we made it work and when he finally came I kinda felt like I'd won a prize!! Those are the only 2 types I've found tho, don't know if there are other variations but I think you just need to find out if he's a happy-go-all-nighter and make the most of it, or a tough nut to bust (pun intended) and work with it. Either way it's not something you can blame yourself for. We're all ultimately responsible for our own orgasms. xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
its very simple hunny ,,,,,,hes knocking the top off of it before he comes round to see you ,,,,,makes a guy go for longer before he cums again ,,,,,,an old trick guys have been doing for years ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,xxxxxxxxxx catherine
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RHP User
13 years ago
It can be a bit frustrating some times. But you get use to it.Sometimes on a second or third shag I can't make it. After a while you feel your self soften and then you know it's not going to happen this time. A bit of a let down but you can always come back to it after a rest. Besides you don't have to be hard to enjoy having a pussy wrapped around you.~smiles~@cutiepuss does he stay hard or does that come and go?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Can sometimes be quite difficult to get over especially if built up over a number of years but that doesn't mean he is not enjoying himself. By the sounds Cuitie he really gets a kick out of seeing how much pleasure you get which can happen as well and if you are both happy .....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thats crap.. I've experienced it a few times and its different to what your suggesting..To you ladies who feel disappointed your man didnt cum.. Can you imagine the disappoinment he feels ? You feel you didnt excite hime and he feels he let you down... Believe me, its not that he is not enjoying you or the sex.. on the contary.. But the reason for not cumming can be many, from alcohol to medication , low testosterone, a bad experience , or just bad mojo on the day..Last year I had some great sex with a girl whose body felt the best.. The sensations were great.. We humped for ages and ages then she cum and I didnt.. Even though it all felt good and I loved every minute of it... it just wouldnt happen...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have you asked or do you know if your friend happens to medicate for depression? Over time and certainly dependent upon the static daily requirement dosage, drugs in this group whether SSRI/SNRI can cause what's commonly referred to as a 'delayed ejaculatory response'. If too he happens to be taking medication for HBP there is a fair chance it will contain a derivative of candesartan cilexetil....interestingly and quite by accident the R&D to develop this drug led to the discovery of common prescriptions to aid erectile dysfunction, Viagra and Cialis. In your relative age group, none of these would be uncommon and perhaps a talk to him and following on with him speaking to his doctor might just help you come up with a few ideas and a prescription. That said, for any men that are on or use any of these in combination...just kick back, relax and learn to enjoy it!Disclaimer: Never self-diagnose on Doctor Google.
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YoungOne91
13 years ago
I have exactly the same problem. In my opinion i don't really care i still have fun and its no issue to me but i do understand that some people feel bad or don't find themselves good enough if i don't. It sucks that some people feel that way because it has tended to make things go bad on more than one occasion.I'm not on any drugs nor do i have a lil solo fun before the actual fun begins so personally i know its not that for me. According to some people i have just built up a mental block on myself as i used to have the complete reverse problem lol. As MissSarahCurious said though don't blame yourself it is rare but does happen. As long as your both having fun it shouldn't be a problem.
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RHP User
13 years ago
thanks N_D makes me all the more curious about what the underlying issue is, but i wont push the issue ! He's a very placid, easy going guy who doesnt seen to be under any stress at all! If we stay together it may come out at some stage ( no pun intended) lolThink he's quite proud of his stamina Sarah and it doesnt seem to affect it at all! He is a pleaser though, and Im enjoying being spoilt ! nope Catherine he's not doing that, he has to drive 70 kms to get to me and now has sleep overs and we've done it quiet a few times in a 24 hour period - so dont think thats it! but ive heard of that trick!~ lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Do women feel less of a woman if their partner doesn't cum?? IF YES, then why??......2nd question: if the roles were reversed, and the man was unable to bring his partner to orgasm, and HE felt less of a man because of it, what advice would YOU give??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am not sure, is the media, the movies, something else but the general perception of sex is that a successful outcome is the climax. And yes I do mean orgasm. Ergo no climax then the sex must have been bad. From a women's view point we, or should I say I always thought, that it was easy for a man to come. Therefore if he doesn't come with me it must be me that is the problem. I know this isn't true and forums like this has taught me that this is not true. I always come, and often because I have a hand between my legs. Maybe I shouldn't do that?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Practice practice practice! I think it is harder for women to come so If I was a guy I wouldn't feel bad about it. I think a woman appreciates it if you ask her about what she likes, also listening to your partner is always key. Is she groaning in a good way, etc. one comment I will make, when a woman is close to orgasm and is about to come don't start doing whatever it is you are doing faster! Keep it at the same pace for god's sake! And when she yells "don't stop" that is not synonymous with go faster!!!! ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is the op finds it a little weird that her partner/fb/whatever, doesn't cum.......yet it appears as though its less "weird" if a woman doesn't cum....and the male is always told (usually), that it's ok and not to worry.....I think it's a very strange inequality(not sure if that's the right word for it).
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RHP User
13 years ago
''Did you cum yet?''...it is true that some people rate the pleasure they give you by how fast, and how many times that you cum.There is more to the journey than just the destination whether you are male or female. So many factors could be at issue here,as many others have said.I had an amazing lover who never came because he took viagra,it certainly did not mean that he did not have an great time.He was very open with me about it and so I was not left to wonder.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ghostbusters'Do women feel less of a woman if their partner doesn't cum?? IF YES, then why??......2nd question: if the roles were reversed, and the man was unable to bring his partner to orgasm, and HE felt less of a man because of it, what advice would YOU give?? I was was a no cum girl till I came to RHP yes guys got my first oral O from a guy of RHP and saw him yesterday. and he has serviced several of my girlfriends. with no expectation of pleasure for himself, ...he is the oral King! some men just have a wank after the event as what they do is a visual for them to pull up the movie when ever they like. I am just after myself these days, I guess if I was in a relationship with the guy it might be different I am making up for lost time, so the guy can either get on board and ride it through, either way I am going with or without him
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cumming or going??? :p
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N4November
13 years ago
While it sounds like he is an awesome lover and is ticking lots of your boxes, perhaps you could change your technique and see how he responds? Maybe give him lots of foreplay and take it slow. Add food, oil... toys mmmmmmm and get his head into the sex - not just his dick - do you know what I mean? I know heaps of men (my bf included) that when they play with others, they don't cum. And that's cool!!!! But like many who have posted, I just love love love to see a man cum!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ghostbusters'Cumming or going??? :p I always cum first
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RHP User
13 years ago
In a 4 way play session or group situation I can not cum with another girl, only my wife. I suspect it is because of the wearing of the condom. However it does not bother me as I find the closeness and seeing the girl getting off a much more pleasing experience. I wouldn't worry about, if he is coming back for more, then he is obviously enjoying himself. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've been reticent to comment on this thread but what the hell.I've always had a long fuse, even as a boy, no wet dreams and when masturbating it took considerable time.Later it became easier the longer I had spent time with a partner but i was never accused of being a 2 minute man ! I am not circumcised so the sensitivity should be there however I have never come from oral sex though more on that later.In my marriage, I had two children which both required ovulation tracking and mad bonking sessions to get pregnant, not an issue, job done ! Then as the marriage went stale I relied more and more on porn as a release as going outside the marriage for "relief" frankly never occurred to me.Post marriage and on the loose, cuming again become a random event but always a long session, then a bout of depression and medication, I was told sex would be about as interesting as washing up, however the old libido ploughed on through, I kept dating and getting laid but the orgasm evaporated totally, that was a really interesting time of my life, I was enjoying the company of women, enjoying sex, but all that was in it for me was the satisfaction of seeing my partner come, what an amazing time, I have become a more accomplished and considerate lover and I began to have non ejaculatory orgasms, for want of a better term. Head rush like an ice-cream headache, goosebumps and tingles, wobbly legs but no spunk !Now they were ok but, you know, not quite the same ! Some women were fascinated and loved it, some I think bailed because of there own feelings of inadequacy.The meds are history now and have been for about 18 months but the (real)orgasm is still elusive, it's a mixed blessing to some it's legendary to some it's a letdown, for me I have learnt to accept it and live with it, I must admit fucking all night with someone who enjoys a marathon is pretty awesome !The latest development that has lead to a few orgasms is the good old prostrate ! A finger up the bum while receiving oral has done the trick a few times now, or a vibe or some such ;)So....why ? There are a plethora of issues in life that could contribute, issues in my life could be trust, I was totally humiliated by a nasty piece of work in my early teens.Stress, financial, work related, whatever, doesn't help.Porn, I do believe that an overuse of porn can de-sensitise one, not from spanking the monkey as someone hypothesised but emotionally or perhaps sensually. Whilst old fashioned is not a term I would remotely connect with me, I have a lingering ghost that says coming in a women's mouth is humiliating her, I aim to get over that one ! And with my prostate therapy that seems to be working !So miss cutiepuss whats in this confession for you ? Number one, don't apply pressure in any way, offer subtle encouragement , be sexy for him, just go with the flow and enjoy a unique experience and yep you may just win the prize and that will be doubly awesome for both of you.RRP.S. Yes I have tried blue and yellow pills, no change.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks RR I appreciate your openness and honesty. I definitely dont want to push the issue and prie too much, Im hoping in time, if there is an underlying issue he will open up and tell me, but as we enjoy each others bodies and company Im not going to rock the boat ! as i said he does take some sort of chinese pills that he says enhances and makes sex feel better, has even got me the female equivalent - and most of the time they do !Im not game enough to suggest the finger up the bum yet - but ill keep it in mind! regards and all the best Cutie xxxYep Little Red Engine, he does stay hard throughout - plank of wood hard
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