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Views about having frequent random sex
October 28 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
is not my job ,it's Judy's.Just travel safely...as far as I am concerned,morals have little to do with who you have sex with,how,and why.It's to do with how you treat others and if you live a life in an ethical way.Are you a kind person,a compassionate person,a generous spirit. They are the most important qualities you can have in my opinion.x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
You're asking the wrong crowd.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I joined RHP last month, after having been on a "regular" dating site. Until then I had never considered joining an adult dating site. Mainly because it hadn't occurred to me. I'm on here to meet people, and if we hit it off have great sex. One night stands are fine, though I prefer regular lovers. We are all consenting adults here, so I don't see any moral issues. There are certainly less than truthful people on here, but that's another issue. As for easy... I've never been called easy in my life. I have high standards and expect the same from the people I meet. So far my dates have been nothing but great. And sleazy and slutty.... I don't think I even need to go there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM'You're asking the wrong crowd. Though be warned there are some on here that assume because youre on here you will fuck anyone without regard to attraction - some are of the belief you have to be desperate. Please note I do say some and not all. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' You're asking the wrong crowd. Or if you're looking for reassurance, the right one.Seriously, sex in conservative Australian culture is far too repressed. The europeans have a far more relaxed attitude and that's more my kinda style.Seriously, have at it. Be honest and up front, and most of all be safe. Enjoy your body, that's what it's for.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For me, the only time sex is a question of morality or ethics is when someone deliberately misleads the other, be it about their relationship status, what they're looking for or hoping to get out of it (particularly relationship-wise), what their sexual health is etc. As long as there's no deception or false pretenses here then morally, fuck on (as opposed to fuck off!)HOWEVER, there's a big difference between morals (right and wrong) and tastes/preferences. For me, I'm not a huge fan of people with massive partner counts (in the high double digits/hundreds), and don't have one myself (I'm not THAT much of a hypocrite!) There are three major reasons that are probably connected:The first is because of STIs - at the moment, I'm fortunate enough to be clean. I realise that living the lifestyle I do and even with a number of partners that I'd consider reasonably average, I'm pretty much staring down the barrel of a gun, and it's probably a matter of when, rather than if. However, the longer I can put off pulling that trigger, the happier I'll be. I certainly can't (or really, am unwilling) to eliminate the risks entirely, but I can try and minimise them. Each new partner raises the risk of infection exponentially, and each partner they've had raises the risk again. If you sleep with hundreds, and you're sleeping with people who do the same, then it's a much riskier proposition. You're exposing yourself to literally thousands of partners through the chain. Doesn't mean you'll catch anything for sure, but for me it's reason enough to be selective.The second reason is because, taste-wise, I'm very selective about my partners. I won't sleep with someone just because they're available and I can. For me there has to be a connection, and I like them to be as selective as I am. If someone is 'easy' then for me, personally, it's a turn-off. Not to say that it's morally wrong and they shouldn't, just that it doesn't appeal to me (I guess I like a challenge.) And I don't have double standards on this - I find guys who rack up massive numbers distasteful as well. If they're happy and they're enjoying it and they're staying as safe as they can, then power to them. They're not really for me though.Finally, I'm really shit at picking up at nightclubs. It's a bit of a chicken/egg thing with the second reason, but I'm just not the type to go out on a Friday night and come home with someone different every week. Partially because it doesn't appeal to me, partially because I couldn't even if I wanted to! So I know my limits, I know my tastes, and I act accordingly. One of the reasons I'm on here is because I like the sex and I like the (measured) variety, without all the extra expectations a relationship can bring, and this kind of bridges the gap between a random pickup and the minefield of commitment!There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying sex, and I don't think anything you've listed as your reasons or any other reasons are 'wrong'.PS. Validations don't really do it for me either - I often find them a bit tacky. That's more of a marketing thing than anything else though!
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RHP User
13 years ago
If it's unprotected, I JUDGE.If it's protected, it's still a bit unsanitary regardless of gender, especially if you can't trace your sexual partner and don't get tested regularly. Is it any better or worse than a bar hookup? It's probably better because it's slightly easier to trace people. Plenty of people have sex with strangers in bar bathrooms with no phone numbers exchanged and no way to ever find the person. Just saw something today on Craigslist from a girl who got pregnant from a fling in a portable toilet at a music festival and she's trying to find the father. Just attempting to trace the person based on the outfits worn. Quoting 'Lost_Focus' Quoting 'DeviousMissM'You're asking the wrong crowd. Though be warned there are some on here that assume because youre on here you will fuck anyone without regard to attraction - some are of the belief you have to be desperate. Please note I do say some and not all. Kisses Focus Isn't the point that you want to find someone to fuck who you're attracted to? If you'd fuck anything, it's probably better to go to a truckstop or any bar after 1 a.m. because it'd involve less b.s.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' For me, the only time sex is a question of morality or ethics... Ok, so reading back over that, that was probably more manure than even I'm used to producing. Don't mind the prude with the apparent superiority complex. Carry on!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I just might get a thorough spanking from the forum crowd for what I'm about to say, but here goes anyway. Yes, if I see someone whose profile suggests they're happy to have a lot or random sex I automatically know they're not for me. That's very different from judging someone for their choices - there are many, many things that people on here do that I would never do, but that doesn't mean I judge them as a person for doing it. In fact, being on this site, and especially these forums, has opened my mind and heart more and more to acceptance, tolerance and embracing difference. I love my own freedom to be me and I celebrate the freedom of others to do the same.So, you might find that some people rule out contact or interactions with you because of what you're looking for, but surely that's OK? We're not all perfect for everyone, right :)Be true to yourself and others with similar minds and hearts will find you soon enough.Enjoy, and be safe xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
People do it in real life & I think good for them.. Is there any difference in an online profile?? I think not. Then again, EVERYONE has there own opinion & it should be an opinion NOT a judgement.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Kaede I do tend to agree with Fraye13 , however i think that when many of the guys on these sites come across a female on looking to meet, they tend to revert back to the caveman days and just think that the lady is there for the taking no matter what. Many times when I come across a ladies profile the catches my eye ect, I don't think any less of that person. If I try to make contact I think depends on how she has worded her profile. Looking at your reasons for being on here, i believe they seem to be quite valid as at least on the site you can be open and say what you want and feel. Now that's something you couldn't really do out on the street, cafe or local pub with out being branded a slut. I believe that we are all adults and like any other living thing we all enjoy sex on a number of levels, some rather keep there sexual contact with one person for most of there life, some may rather enjoy the different experiences they can get from others and increase there experience and taste for different things. Some just have a natural enjoyment of what they feel when being sexual with another. People that brand many as a slut are normaly those who can not have you or jealous in some way. I guess my biggest hate is those who plays games with you, lead you on and tease , then never to be seen or herd from again. Personally , I enjoy the feeling and pleasure that comes with sexual connections and the feeling I get when being intimate with a lady, also the joy of succeeding in pleasing the lady I am with at the time. I cant and won't say that I have been and will be with a lot of ladies as I do believe there has to be an attraction from both to enjoy it truly. I think when it comes to being with a couple, it can be rather different and depends on the couple you are with. Ok, getting away from it now, in a nut shell don't let anyone tell you how you should be and feel, be yourself and be happy with what you are doing and want. The real people on the site are here to enjoy life and live it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would find it rather hypocritical if women in particular were being judged because they like random sex frequently. And I hope no-one here would judge another for sexual behaviour that is safe, sane and consensual.
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RHP User
13 years ago
you know, perception is a bitch ...it gets in the way of our judgement. I don't see the men and women on her as being easy, just open minded about sex. You ask, when i see a young lady's profile with various validations and sexy pics what do i think? I'm guessing she's getting laid, often ~grins~ ...good on her.Most people are on this site for the same reasons you are, i don't find myself sleazy or slutty. Whether your having frequent random sex, or frequently having sex ...just be safe and enjoy the ride.Is it morally correct?, only you can answer that one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You took the words out of my mind..... AMEN
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RHP User
13 years ago
As long as you are happy, aren't hurting anyone and it's all consensual, it's ALL good. Whatever floats your boat is fine. I'd personally be more concerned by the safe sex side of things rather than the amount of sex. do what makes you happy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Men are easy on here, or I would be a born again virgin And they are easy to catch and release That way my heart pacemaker does not get to much use as I do not have to run so hard to tackle them to the ground. Yes people judge, its human nature. We all have the language at the tip of our tongue, slut, cougar, bitch, tease , more for women than men. Men that are the fuck and runs are judged by women to be bad lovers, quicker than the start of the Olympics sprint no medals for them. What people think of you is partly out of your control. Off-line I am pretty much the same but I lead two lives, the rhp and the other life as most of my life has been without RHP and my family , friends of many years would not be amused at all. My daughters...holly fuck don’t even want to know what they would say..except ohhhhh my god MUUUUUUUUM! I am visual and I do judge a person by their pictures and their profiles. Morals are like reading at the optomotrist, depends what eye you cover. Some cover both.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Coodie ! Love the pic !Kaede, there is nothing easy about this place, so much chaff and so little wheat !
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RHP User
13 years ago
"The first is because of STIs - at the moment, I'm fortunate enough to be clean." I think its a really silly thing to say your clean, having an STD does not mean your unclean, it means you got the sexual lotto STD tests are only as good as the last one you had, and not had sex since then, and some tests take months for a result herpes also often gives a false reading With herpes , people do not have to have any outbreak in their whole life and never know they have it, people shed all the time. Condoms do not protect you, its skin on skin I just think using words like Clean ,makes anyone that gets an STD feel like its their fault. You only have to sleep with one person to get an STD so it has nothing to do with how many you fuck at all, the great urban myth of STD it only takes ONE! partner :) Language can be a bit of a problem so maybe you can say, at this point in time I am according to my recent tests STD free. Lets just cut out the stigma of STD When I was younger a sweet handsome Doctor gave me chlamydia , we had unprotected sex behind the couch at a party I was drunk as a skunk. When I told him ,he was very bent out of shape. I said heal thyself arse hole! Must have got it of the carpet when I was rolling around back there. He made me feel unclean by his reaction.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' "The first is because of STIs - at the moment, I'm fortunate enough to be clean." I think its a really silly thing to say your clean, having an STD does not mean your unclean, it means you got the sexual lotto Totally, totally true. I probably intended that to be 'clear' in the medical sense. My bad.I do disagree that it has "nothing to do" with how many you sleep with - there's a correlation, but it's definitely not causation, and as you say, it only takes one. But I've been well and truly humbled, so I'll choose my words even carefully-er next time. Ta for pulling me up on it!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' Quoting 'tuscanred' "The first is because of STIs - at the moment, I'm fortunate enough to be clean." I think its a really silly thing to say your clean, having an STD does not mean your unclean, it means you got the sexual lotto Totally, totally true. I probably intended that to be 'clear' in the medical sense. My bad.I do disagree that it has "nothing to do" with how many you sleep with - there's a correlation, but it's definitely not causation, and as you say, it only takes one. But I've been well and truly humbled, so I'll choose my words even carefully-er next time. Ta for pulling me up on it! Having sex, protected or unprotected, frequently with people who aren't so vigilant about safety puts you in a tough spot. How many of you outright reject someone who puts "if necessary" on protected sex line? I operate under the assumption that they are already infected with something unsavory, and whether or not they know it, I won't be their exception to the rule and expose myself to the petri dish that's their nether areas with some latex in between. I don't trust latex THAT much. The same goes for anyone I meet elsewhere who I have to talk into using condoms. Not taking the risk. For me, it shouldn't even be a discussion. It should be a reflex. If you don't care enough about the general public or your sexual partners, do it for self-preservation. If you have something viral/lifelong, it puts you at a higher risk of acquiring other diseases. Also, golden rule and all. Be as responsible as you'd want others to be so that we can all enjoy safer sex. If we were all vampires and incapable of catching diseases or procreating (?), I'd say ORGY ALL DAY, EVER DAY. Sadly, we don't live in a Twitard world, so let's be responsible so we can continue enjoying sex
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RHP User
13 years ago
That as long as your confident and comfortable with the people you meet and choose to sleep with, there should be no problem. Personally, I tend to agree with DeviousMissM about why I am on here. I find most people that I meet on here to be genuine and more than willing to talk openly. It's refreshing to not have to worry about the 'social' taboo's. However I must admit, that hooking up with a random that I have no physical, intellectual or emotional connection to, to just get off doesn't interest me all. I'm not judge another person on what makes them feel good or how they want to live. Thought I am willing to help them explore who they are if I can help.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I believe if you're comfortable with what you're doing then who cares what others think ;-) Roxxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Coodie ! Love the pic ! you can thank Saskia potato head for the inspiration ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I must admit though, think the potato had had its day, its not easy being brown, dirty and... well a potato. Messages have dried up significantly.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't base your opinions on the feedback on here. If ya wanna fuck, then ya fuck, if ya don't then what's it got to do with other people's view on what's "morally right"??
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RHP User
13 years ago
My views on frequent random sex is that firstly there isn't enough of it in the world generally and secondly I want to be included in a lot more of the frequent random sex that is taking place. But specifically... 1. Morality is subjective 2. I don't think anything about men and women is particularly easy. 3. I think she's free 4. I think " sleazy, slutty or demoralising" with the right people in the right circumstances can actually be very enjoyable.
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RHP User
13 years ago
People's sexuality in my opinion is a very individual thing and each of us has our own particular needs. If a person feels they need more frequent sex with random people then who are any of us to judge? Society's views on morality have in many ways relaxed, particularly sexually with same sex couples and homosexuality in general becoming more widely accepted in western culture. I think as long as someone isn't taking advantage of the vulnerable, the young or disadvantaged then go have fun. I can't think of too much between consenting adults that is beyond my view of "morally acceptable".
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RHP User
13 years ago
If men can do it without being called names so should women. It's a free world,freedom of speech,sex(having it or changing it,who we have it with). There are many people who do it in darkness but want to call others names just because they are more open about it. Like previously mentioned,let's play it safe,it's a dangerous world out there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
it all depends what moral standpoint one views it from so it depends whom you ask . Asking the question here is to a more selected audience but rhp is a community and a set of morals . I guess most men would not object to a morale standard that its is perfectly okay . Where do most woman draw the line . In most societies and cultures it is considered immoral , and some would even say immoral . if it was not immoral in society we would all be bonking like bunnies .
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RHP User
13 years ago
it all depends what moral standpoint one views it from so it depends whom you ask . Asking the question here is to a more selected audience but rhp is a community and a set of morals . I guess most men would not object to a morale standard that its is perfectly okay . Where do most woman draw the line . In most societies and cultures it is considered immoral , and some would even say immoral . if it was not immoral in society we would all be bonking like bunnies .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Kaede call me maybe
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sti roulette modern generation never lived thro era of age where one was too scared to touch any body . Genital herpes is however at an all time high the number of cases has risen and how does one protect against . Chlamydia is rampant especially in 18 to 25 year olds. Young women especially are more concerned with being pregnant and with availability of emergency contraception other protection is fore gone , younger guys especially are more averse to wearing condoms. any comments or observations
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RHP User
13 years ago
pose the question to a public audience for debate . A FB post or survey could be the go j
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RHP User
13 years ago
I for I appreciated what you provided when we met :)
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