M58
Validations - revisited...
July 20 2010
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wannabyummymummy
15 years ago
Agree with Sweetiepie, the personal/original written ones mean a lot more than the pre-done ones.They can be a bit of a brag list but at the end of the day it is a rather small community on here and the fact is that one way or another you do tend to find out who has been with whom anyway I think it is quite flattering to receive a glowing validation and i personally like to leave one for someone that has shown me a lovely time, is decent and respectful (sometimes think it is a shame we cant have 'warning ones' lol but also what is great for one person may be just meh for someone else and something that left one person feeling less than satisfied may blow someone else's mind so you do really have to meet and see for your self in the end anyway.To answer your question though, if you are open to the idea, let people write them, you can always reject the validation if it is one that you don't want to post or if you don't want people to know that you were with that person for some reason and just tell the person that sent it why, at least you can see what they would have written that way and it is a nice mood booster
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RHP User
15 years ago
thanks for the input guys - appreciate it. hugs Wayne x
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RHP User
15 years ago
i dont want to know where he has been or who he has done i dont want validations cause it has nothing to do with anyone who iv been with that means who iv had coffee with and who iv slept with unless i decide to tell no one else needs to know xxRxx
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2more4fun
15 years ago
Wayne, you can always knock back a validation you are given if it reveals too much about the nature of your relationship with someone on here. We are pretty discrete as far as validations are concerned and only describe our views of people on a social level. If we know the people well enough then we might put in more detail but at the end of the day, if the other party don't want the validation up, they can refuse it.We've left a lot of validations for people we have only met socially. It's just a way of letting people know that the people we are validating are nice, normal and genuine people. Not good or bad shags.
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RHP User
15 years ago
..i dont really see it as a braging tool, ..i do however take huge notice if people have like 135 friends..and no validation, even if its just a friendly validation, i would like to think that if they have come into contact with that many people someone should be able to say "hey we met these people/ this person and they are pretty cool"... x peace x msc
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RHP User
15 years ago
The person who I gave a validation to, I said I'd never met him but he was a respectful communicator. The guy who gave me one (only one I have ever received) did so because of our communication in the now defunct Qld chat room. So its not all about scoring, sometimes its just about people being respectful and appreciative of one another and the online friendship that has developed, which is something I appreciate. And yeah, if you don't want to accept it don't. But let people appreciate you. Its good for them as well as you. Cheers WTG
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Bubbaj
15 years ago
i see validations as a way of sayin how a person is....not a brag as such. mine would be very sparse if it was about bragging lol. i like validations as it says that other ppl have met ppl and say what kind of temprament they might have. i dont like braggers....for one, they might be good in ones eyes but crap in another so there is no point bragging becoz all i would do is sigh and walk off :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I can see the value in validations too as it's a way to assess how genuine people are but personally we only play with very few special people and it's special and intimate and even though it might help to have validations we prefer to keep our special private friends just that, private. I guess if we were shagging around every weekend with a new couple then we'd welcome the validations but it's just not the way we swing!
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RHP User
15 years ago
it's all about the wording of a validation for sure... I've communicated with a number of people here - both guys and girls that I've never played with and have built a pretty good "feel" of the type of person they are along the way. therefore validations from that perspective are very much valid and I guess i've not thought of it from that angle. Hmm - me thinks I'll change my mind on this and see what happens... see what my friends write about me and go from there... as has been said - I can choose not to accept a validation or have them re-word it slightly. Thanks guys - has been a learning experience... hugs Wayne x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Great post, I had not even concidered validations as a brag book! I had just thought of them as a nice way of saying this person is great. While it hasn't changed my preference for them thank you for giving me something to think about :0) Mrs Sassy
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RHP User
15 years ago
i could go both ways on this on one hand yeah bit of a brag list but on the other a good way to see what others think and if they are legit profile here to play but then to be totally nasty i would love to see people posting bout the bad things as well to give a warning to others i would love to post on the profiles of all the people that have droped us the instant they seen our pic (great warning to other NON MODEL looking people) that those people are superficial and only after the looks and the prefect MEDIA HOT people
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RHP User
15 years ago
I see validations as a reality that that person is who they say they are and what they are like If someone is validated it means to me others have met them and they have taken the time to post a validation so they must be a nice and respectful person. We at Couples International have met thousands of RHP users at our venue and when they attend if they wish us to validate their profiles we do so with out hesitation. Validations are an important tool in meeting others and allowing you to know what sort of person you are talking to and how respectful and courteous they are. Keep on validating those you have met and know and let everyone know what they are like, it makes this site so real and interactive and allows people to get to know others, before they meet them. Leesa
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RHP User
15 years ago
As yummymummy said, it's a small community...I've been tossing up whether or not to meet with some people and seen someone that is a mutual acquaintance in their validations, so asked them about the other person to see what they were really like. It's a great way to find out if their genuine. I never thought of it as a brag list at all. Just because someone is validated, I don't automatically assume that they've bedded them - I've had validations from people that I've met and not slept with but still enjoyed their company immensely. I love giving validations if I really enjoyed their company and never give the generic brand of validation. Miss Red xxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'RedsTheNewBlonde' As yummymummy said, it's a small community...I've been tossing up whether or not to meet with some people and seen someone that is a mutual acquaintance in their validations, so asked them about the other person to see what they were really like. It's a great way to find out if their genuine. I never thought of it as a brag list at all. Just because someone is validated, I don't automatically assume that they've bedded them - I've had validations from people that I've met and not slept with but still enjoyed their company immensely. I love giving validations if I really enjoyed their company and never give the generic brand of validation. Miss Red xxxx about the validations being brag lists... as it seemed to be what the ones I'd read so far were all about... One of the things I like bout these forums is the variety of opinion that we get back - really appreciate it all. It's allowed me to decide to both offer and accept validations and I've now found I can write them in such a way that I can acknlowedge that I might have played with a person or not... it's a learning experience for me. hugs Wayne x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint' I see validations as a reality that that person is who they say they are and what they are like If someone is validated it means to me others have met them and they have taken the time to post a validation so they must be a nice and respectful person. We at Couples International have met thousands of RHP users at our venue and when they attend if they wish us to validate their profiles we do so with out hesitation. Validations are an important tool in meeting others and allowing you to know what sort of person you are talking to and how respectful and courteous they are. Keep on validating those you have met and know and let everyone know what they are like, it makes this site so real and interactive and allows people to get to know others, before they meet them. Leesa Like Leesa said, I think Validations are very helpful to know whether a person is genuine or not.. Especially as i'm a single guy, i think it makes alot of difference... I look at validations in a similar view to rhp friends.. With having validations from other verified members it gives you a better idea of who they are.. More to go on when looking at their profile..And similar to what Miss Red was saying, if you happen to have a mutual friend to give you their validation all the better.. :)Congrats on your decision Wayne :)Si xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Bubbaj'i see validations as a way of sayin how a person is....not a brag as such. mine would be very sparse if it was about bragging lol. i like validations as it says that other ppl have met ppl and say what kind of temprament they might have. i dont like braggers....for one, they might be good in ones eyes but crap in another so there is no point bragging becoz all i would do is sigh and walk off :)
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