M48
Vague men are hotter
May 29 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not interested in guys that "play" hard to get! Not into mind games or guessing games! If they like me, then tell me...I am not a mind reader and neither am I in Grade 6 at Primary School! < If a guy shows interest in me and I feel the same way...then really there shouldn't be any games at all! If they do decide to play..I tend to disappear pretty quick and if they contact me to tell me that they were into me, then I tell them it's too late and to go and play their games on someone else! < Lol...I move on quickly! And I don't believe in the 3 day rule that guys have! If you like the girl...ring/text/message as soon as you want to....There should be no rules when it comes to someone you want to see on a more permanent basis nor should there be rules on when you fuck or the next time you want to catch up for another great session! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it's extraordinarily silly to play a woman at her own game. Nope. If a guy is vague it's probably because he's under-estimated his adversary.HUgsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
......paragraphing!!! Just sayin
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RHP User
15 years ago
.....and I walk away......into a lovely sunset.Seriously not in this life to play games (does backgammon count? )We like each other or we dont.....man up and have the balls to say it....end of story.
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RHP User
15 years ago
But I'm also talking about how studies are strongly showing that if a guy is actually not playing a game but is genuinely confused or not ready to commit , then he usually becomes more attractive to her than if he is really nuts about her. Isn't it interesting???? I've got my own theory as to what part of the 'hotness' may be. ----And that's part of the alpha male thing , she's subconsciously looking for the top dog , sex wise , (and guys also look for the top girl). The guy that is really keen on her is less likely by the law of averages to be as good a mate as the one who is not so keen. Because in part the subconscious suggestion to her is that he's got his game on , the other females are INTO HIM perhaps and he must be all that. The girls don't think this on top of their minds however , it happens underneath , and that's why he gains this sort of special quality. They can't figure him out. He seems independent and stronger than the other boys ; even when actually he may be only the same or even weaker. This is primal urge stuff , but it can also be the road to ruin coz girls n boys can chase the wrong person because of it. It's really hit me hard a number of times in my life , I've often been crazy about a girl because she was unsure or undecided actually , I found it a big turn on and was always thinking about them , but actually they weren't any more special or sexy than the other girls , usually in fact they were the stupid option because they were less interested in me and not ready for a relationship , and therefore likely to split with me later on and make me miserable. It should be said of course that it wasn't their fault , it was just my nature and my ignorance. So I'm saying isn't the guy that actually reveals his heart the stronger , sexier guy (or girl)???? Isn't he really the independent muthafucka they're looking for???? Or does the undecided guy really have some special "I don't know what" that sets him apart from the pack????
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RHP User
15 years ago
if she sees herself as not being a 'top dog' female then she's underneath it all going to think that if a guy is crazy about her then he can't be an alpha male , because surely he'd be going for what she thinks are the hotter females , why would he bother with her? Nope surely he's not as powerful and sexy as the other guy....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh.. well now I see what you mean. Most women are pretty pesky truth be known. I can take it or leave it on a whim. I mean, I'm minding my own damn business and they all undress me with their eyes. Half the time I feel like I have next to nothing on! Other times, I just ignore their incessant leering and cum hither hair swishing. But snagging an alpha male down at the gym on the other hand... well that takes serious smarts, four beers and an opportunity.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
you think too much.... :).If the person you meet is the one....Girl likes boy,boy likes girl...great, get together.If you think the person you meet may be the oneGirl likes boy but not to sure if he really does like her,Boy likes girl but not to sure if she really does like him........gawd.....all that does is go around in circles, vagueness in the nth degree,screams of teenage angst.Dont let yourself be caught up in it !.If you really do meet the right one you know....there is no confusion.Confusion only comes when you are not settled and comfortable with where you are at in your life.
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RHP User
15 years ago
but I'm asking ; why are we usually attracted MORE to the people who are less into us???? its a fact that it's the case , so many studies have just come out in the last few months showing this beyond any doubt , google it. It can occurr at first glance and can continue right thru till after alot of dating etc , the longer it goes the more powerful the attraction. But if we're smart we'll see it for what it is ; just a temporary attraction (however powerful) and actually an illusion , just like if you've got your beer goggles on at the pub then everyone suddenly seems a whole lot hotter , when actually they're not , it's your distorted perception of reality. Know what I mean???? ALOT of people make this mistake because it's so subtle and strong. The studies are really interesting actually , maybe I should chuck some findings on here to make it clear.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Stalky , you're a funny bastard :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
that's why I know how damn powerful this attraction is , its like a frikken whirlwind , I Wish I had known years ago.
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RHP User
15 years ago
'Research published earlier this year in the journal of the Association for Psychological Science found that women are attracted to men who they think are attracted to them, and uninterested in men who they think are uninterested in them. So far, so what? But the interesting finding was that the women were most attracted to men whose feelings towards them were uncertain or vague. In other words, shrouding their true intentions in a cloak of mystery made the men seem more attractive. "When people first meet, it may be that popular dating advice is correct: keeping people in the dark about how much we like them will increase how much they think about us and will pique their interest," said Harvard University psychology professor Daniel Gilbert.But why? Why on earth would women be more attracted to men who are vague about their feelings? Surely their best bet is to go for the men who are open about their attraction? While that might be true, psychologists reckon there's something called salience going on, which simply means how frequently you think about something. By keeping her guessing, you're keeping yourself at the forefront of her thoughts. According to psychologist Adoree Durayappah, "because you keep wondering about the other's interest in you, you end up thinking about that person more than if you knew, off the bat, that they liked you a lot." And the more she thinks about you, the more interested she becomes.'
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RHP User
15 years ago
what you are saying ANAL....It happens with both male and female ....also with cats.Cats know when someone doesnt like them, they will do their best to win them over...smooch all over them, purr in their ears, act sooooo cute, anything to attract that persons attention..Then, once they have reeled that person in, they ignore them...To many people, it is the attraction of winning someone over who really has no interest, they see it as a challange..It probably does have a lot to do with the subconsious top dog theory....Its great that you have researched it.....read it, accept it and move along.Knowledge can become an obstacle if you dont learn anything from it..Its a great topic, many out there have know idea why, how they behave in some situations...you may have given them a key to their subconsious responses.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would like to know what age the participants of this study were? If they averaged under 40 it makes perfect sense. My observations have been that the older you get the more you appreciate guys that are open and honest. Guys who can't make up their minds or seem to be playing games get left behind pretty quickly. The same works for girls too.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I also think it is an age thing.I did refer to it as teenage angst in an earlier post.....It seems to be less and less important as you gain a few more years....lolGive me open and honest anytime!
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RHP User
15 years ago
'The more she is kept guessing about how much a chap likes her, the more she likes him, scientists have found.Their study involved 47 female students who each had a Facebook profile with a photograph and information about her likes and dislikes.Each woman was told that male students from two other universities had viewed her profile, along with those of up to 20 other females.Then the women were shown four men’s Facebook profiles that they thought were real, but were actually fictitious. Some of the women were told these four men liked them the most; others were told they had rated them average. A third group were given deliberately vague information about how much the men liked them. As other research has found, the women who believed the men liked them a lot were more attracted to them than women who believed they had only been rated as average. But the men most attractive in the women’s eyes were those whose intentions were not clear, Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science reports.'and there's studies showing that this is the case even after quite a few meetings....
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RHP User
15 years ago
but still the fact remains that for many of us the person who IS NOT PLAYING GAMES but is genuinely confused or not ready will be more attractive on a purely carnal level , he or she will make you want them bad because of it WIYTHOUT EVEN TRYING. btw I'm cool with all this , it's not a matter of getting stuck on it , I just want people to know how it works so they don't stuff things up like I have , cheers , Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Do I chase men that are emotional unavailble to me.......... yep guilty. I want what I can't have for some reason. When you first start seeing someone and they are super keen... almost stalkying you, then I admit I don't find that appealing. Freaks me out a bit. I think I prefer to do the chasing. Need to give this a little more thought though. xx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Oh.. well now I see what you mean. Most women are pretty pesky truth be known. I can take it or leave it on a whim. HugsStalky Thanks becuase you don't want us Stalky.... so we chase you. You play hard to get. :P The boys should take a leaf out of your book. xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm the wild child type and you can see that by the things I'm into sexually for example and the way I talk on other threads. But I do understand that Ferris Bueller quote "Life moves pretty fast , if you don't stop and look around once in a while , you could miss it" If twenty years ago I had spent half an hour thinking about this I would have saved myself years upon years of torture and chasing after the wrong girls.
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RHP User
15 years ago
You are probably right...and they are women after all so how in the hell are we ever going to know what they want. | Here is a novel idea...let's just figure out what we men, yes real men who are the Kings of the Jungle, want and make them chase us to get it. | Until then I guess we just suck it up and learn to live with the abuse. | ...what else can I say.
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RHP User
15 years ago
was about to email you , um nope in my case they weren't playing games at all , they either just weren't all that crazy about me (although still attracted) or they had shit going on in their heads , negative emotions and conditioning from past relationships gone wrong. Eg only being less than a year out of a long marriage or having someone cheat on them before etc etc So they were a little unsure AND/OR they were a little distracted. Having another bloke still in their hearts is another one that made them aloof. And I'm such a fool that I never saw it for what it was , you gotta laugh don't ya???? MEEKA :-) yeah it can freak you out and put you off when someone is nuts about you , I know , it's happened to me alot too , but now I'm thinking I shoulda taken some of those ones more seriously. Btw it makes the sex way hotter when you think that someone has that special something , it makes you cum hard too. On saturday night I had sex with a really hot girl but I'm damn sure that she was way hotter to me coz she never said hardly a word all night , she was just mysterious as anything , actually I had banged two other girls that night too that were also hot :P but they didn't make me cum and they didn't excite me as much , but she had me cum really hard and her touch was pretty magical because of her mystery , her alloofness.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Um yeah sorry bout the paragraphing , can't do it with the iPhone , shits me too , Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Stop talking about banging ANAL, you show off. You're supposed to leave a little mystery you know. I want to bang too. That's it... I have had enough, officially back in the game as of now. :P xx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Um yeah sorry bout the paragraphing , can't do it with the iPhone , shits me too , Loz Yes you can paragraph on an iPhone, you just hit the return button!! That's how I post my comments!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
you'd still make me cum hard even tho I know ya a bit :P just sayin'
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not for me. Nor is "the ungettable get". Pfft. Too hard. Sorry ANAL, that's all I've got tonight *shrug* . Interesting topic though ... I agree the "game" often plays out just as your quoted studies have shown, but you would need a massive meal, an entire case of wine and a talking stick for the speaker to pass around the table to canvas this one sufficiently. It would be a never-ending conversation as long as both sexes were partaking in it LOL. . Flirty x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Nup when I hit return on mine it doesn't do that , I've got an iPhone 3 , have you got a 4 ? Or maybe my phone is just rooted coz I've dropped it 12 times lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Nup when I hit return on mine it doesn't do that , I've got an iPhone 3 , have you got a 4 ? Or maybe my phone is just rooted coz I've dropped it 12 times lol Yep I have an iPhone4........dropping it ain't helping your situation either!!! lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
game play is for kiddies. we feel the 'vague' ones are a waste of time, and have both walked away from relationships where the partner played stupid bloody games and played hard to get. its arrogant and just a tad ignorant in many cases.
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RHP User
15 years ago
what 'studies' are these? and how 'many'?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it has a lot to do with maturity...as well as an individuals self confidence. We all like to try and "punch above our weight" a little in terms of attraction. And if you get someone too easily, you tend to be too complacent, and think "ooooh...I might try for someone hotter/smarter/funnier...etc. And when you find someone thats not as easily won over, you tend to try that little bit harder. I should know, I've been guilty of it many a time myself. But i think the more you wise up and mature, the less "games" you feel the need to play....both with yourself, and others. Might be a good reason right there why I like more "mature" women...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Your MSG was totally cool , don't worry :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Right , good question , well the one I've been quoting the blurbs about was a Harvard study published in the Journal of Psychological Science. I haven't looked too hard for other studies and so because everyone's talking about that one it means the google search is a bit clogged up with it. But in some of the articles I read they've stated that there have been other studies showing the same thing. Also there are numerous studies which appear to me anyway to show much the same thing ; they show that women are more attracted to men who dont smile than men who do (brooding mysterious types) , that they prefer men who are looking a little ashamed or down-cast with their eyes (James Dean or current Vampire movie stars) , and there's others , if you google these topics the studies and articles will come up. Bear in mind these findings are all about what a woman is most sexually attracted to IN THE BEGINNING of a relationship or encounter , WHEN SHE IS LOOKING FOR SEX and NOT what she is looking for in a long term partner. The experts reckon that when she's looking for a long term partner she'll be looking for a guy who does smile , is openly happy , is a nice guy , and is clear about his intentions. But I'm talking about raw carnal sexual desire in the beginning , that HOT stuff , and why does she feel that way? But as I said before I don't think it's a great indicator that he's actually an alpha male , it's really just a general subconscious reaction in her , she senses that he's probably a top dog , but truth is her mind is just reacting to general impressions and he may actually be no more alpha than the guy who is an open book. But she's thinking about him , and so it goes on....
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RHP User
15 years ago
*in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him....
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think I remember once asking someone and she said that vague men are probably way hotter than this other thing
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RHP User
15 years ago
tell me.... do you feel you are one who looks a little ashamed or downcast? if so, is this just a fishing expedition?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' *in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him.... Brooding, unsmiling, sullen, downcast or just downright cranky?? I don't want to have to look at a Mr Grumpy. I want to see Mr Happy! Much sexier.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Btw women who smile more are considered more attractive*in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him.... Happy people get dates. It's pretty simple. As for brooding, that just brings out the rescue in them. When they're busy rescuing... they're obviously not spreading their legs in anticipation of your roaring hard on... merely offering a nipple for suckling on.... .so brooding is a silly strategy... just saying. :)HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Btw women who smile more are considered more attractive*in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him.... Happy people get dates. It's pretty simple. As for brooding, that just brings out the rescue in them. When they're busy rescuing... they're obviously not spreading their legs in anticipation of your roaring hard on... merely offering a nipple for suckling on.... .so brooding is a silly strategy... just saying. :)HugsStalky women do not 'rescue' for sex or with sex they rescue with that part of themselves that is the 'mother'. theres nothing attractive about a man who is a sook, or who is vague (like dumb and dumber?) or who play hard to get. women do not enjoy the mind games and hard work that goes with these guys, especially if its with the intent of bedding someone. your study sounds like a crock. sounds contrived to generate interest for yourself.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' *in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him.... smiling is a way to generate attention and much more efficient than being downcast..sullen...brooding...sad...secretive..or even vague. and we dont need any 'study' to tell us that. symapathy wont get you sex, any more than any other manipulation you can come up with.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I just want to be crystal clear here ; my reason for starting this discussion was to emphasize that we can fall for the wrong people because of mis-placed animal attraction coming from the subconscious which can then become much stronger and more difficult to detect. So this is simply a warning to spend a moment of thought on the subject in order to avoid a whole lotta problems. I'm not going to over analyse it , I'm just going to go on being my natural sexy self , no need for me to think about it any further :-) Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' I just want to be crystal clear here ; my reason for starting this discussion was to emphasize that we can fall for the wrong people because of mis-placed animal attraction coming from the subconscious which can then become much stronger and more difficult to detect. So this is simply a warning to spend a moment of thought on the subject in order to avoid a whole lotta problems. I'm not going to over analyse it , I'm just going to go on being my natural sexy self , no need for me to think about it any further :-) Loz sounds very much like it already been 'over analyzed' but still a crock.........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Alpha_Bitch'......paragraphing!!! Just sayin Have to agree, it's hard to read when It's all together like that. It's a good question, and one that evokes many peoples' curiousity. Perhaps the fact that you (Male or Female) know that other person will probably wait while you look about. Prehaps it's because people want to get the best they can and if it's too easy they think...mmmm...could I do better? Lets face it sometimes first impressions can be misleading, someone can be shy (later turns out they GO OFF) Someone could seem confident, (Later it turns out they think so much of themselves there isn't room for anyone else to shine). We could spend years trying to figure this one out...and many have spent longer... mmmmmmm I'll have to get back to you...a little distracted right now....
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15 years ago
Ummm.... MikeandShel... we seem to be saying much the same thing... but in different tones.... unless of course you think I'm saying that being broody will get a guy laid... (sure some probably do manage it) but what I said was quite the opposite.HugsStalky Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Btw women who smile more are considered more attractive*in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him.... Happy people get dates. It's pretty simple. As for brooding, that just brings out the rescue in them. When they're busy rescuing... they're obviously not spreading their legs in anticipation of your roaring hard on... merely offering a nipple for suckling on.... .so brooding is a silly strategy... just saying. :)HugsStalky women do not 'rescue' for sex or with sex they rescue with that part of themselves that is the 'mother'. theres nothing attractive about a man who is a sook, or who is vague (like dumb and dumber?) or who play hard to get. women do not enjoy the mind games and hard work that goes with these guys, especially if its with the intent of bedding someone. your study sounds like a crock. sounds contrived to generate interest for yourself.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Ummm.... MikeandShel... we seem to be saying much the same thing... but in different tones.... unless of course you think I'm saying that being broody will get a guy laid... (sure some probably do manage it) but what I said was quite the opposite.HugsStalky Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Btw women who smile more are considered more attractive*in the beginning* a study shows , which I thought was interesting. And the guys that had the down-cast faces like they were ashamed and/or brooding were in part considered to be attractive to women because they invoked sympathy. I also think it would make a woman very interested in what's in his mind too , and so she thinks of him.... Happy people get dates. It's pretty simple. As for brooding, that just brings out the rescue in them. When they're busy rescuing... they're obviously not spreading their legs in anticipation of your roaring hard on... merely offering a nipple for suckling on.... .so brooding is a silly strategy... just saying. :)HugsStalky women do not 'rescue' for sex or with sex they rescue with that part of themselves that is the 'mother'. theres nothing attractive about a man who is a sook, or who is vague (like dumb and dumber?) or who play hard to get. women do not enjoy the mind games and hard work that goes with these guys, especially if its with the intent of bedding someone. your study sounds like a crock. sounds contrived to generate interest for yourself. we were agreeing with you and sharing our belief on the 'rescue' bit. then directing the rest to allnite............. cheers hey?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks so much for mentioning that. For some reason I'd never seen Gone with the Wind. But reading about it just now has really blown me away , what a brilliant story!!!! I can see immediately why it became such a classic and why that line was voted the best movie line in history. So tragic and deep. Wow wow wow , thank you so much. ________-And ACTION________'Outside Ashley collapses in tears, helpless without his wife. Only then does Scarlett realize that she never could have meant anything to him, and that she had loved something that never really existed. She runs home to find Rhett packing to leave her, she begs him not to leave, telling him she realizes now that she had loved him all along,....' ________but it's all too DAMN late
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RHP User
15 years ago
You couldn't get more 'on topic' than that if you tried for eternity. Exactly my point ; some people chase after the wrong thing
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RHP User
15 years ago
To KD , RUBY and Holidayfortwo as well , those points were really useful to me. And thanks to everyone else too :-• Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
just spend so many years chasing after or staying with the wrong person , they're driven by 'loving' that special something about them , that intangible thingy , that je ne sais quoit , waste of fucking time
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15 years ago
You know what else I found so cool? -the portrayal of how a guy that is really keen is not as attractive as the one who for whatever reason is not so available. That is he's not so attractive to a large group of women , not all women. The character 'Rhett' makes it chrystal clear right from the start that he was mad keen on her and will do "whatever it takes to win her love" , the dude fucked up right there lol he just didn't really 'do it for her' after that , it was a turn off. She loved him later but it was too late
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RHP User
15 years ago
You know what else I found so cool? -the portrayal of how a guy that is really keen is not as attractive as the one who for whatever reason is not so available. That is he's not so attractive to a large group of women , not all women. The character 'Rhett' made it chrystal clear right from the start that he was mad keen on her and would do "whatever it takes to win your love" , the dude fucked up right there lol he just didn't really 'do it for her' after that , it was a turn off. She loved him later but it was too late. Have we forgotten something that was common knowledge back in the forties????
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15 years ago
you weren't being fickle :P yep with ALOT of younger women especially that is game set n match , I had a similar experience while shacking up at the backpackers. Thanks man :-) Loz
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15 years ago
Mrs Peachypear you are so on to it :-) yep I'll check those out , and yes there's stacks n stacks of brooding actors that have been sex symbols throughout generations , and they're not just sexy to the young girls either , I can even feel the attraction myself for chrissakes!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
After reading all the posts, it does make sense......especially to me. With falling for the wrong people due to mis-placed animal attraction, and it being more difficult to differentiate between genuine feelings for a person and this attraction. Really explains why I always like the wrong person. There is what appears to be heaps of attraction, but actually no genuine feelings, its just an illusion and a waste of time. But even being aware of this happening, its still so hard to stop it from happening...........Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' I just want to be crystal clear here ; my reason for starting this discussion was to emphasize that we can fall for the wrong people because of mis-placed animal attraction coming from the subconscious which can then become much stronger and more difficult to detect. So this is simply a warning to spend a moment of thought on the subject in order to avoid a whole lotta problems. I'm not going to over analyse it , I'm just going to go on being my natural sexy self , no need for me to think about it any further :-) Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Even as kids, lets face it, if it's a "no no" we want it. Just to see if we can get it and what all the fuss is about. If someone had told you all this years ago ANAL would you have "got it"? (Did someone try to tell you?) Some leasons require practical experience. Now that you know, use it...but don't abuse it. Holding back your name Mikle1 golden. Harmless, fair and fun It's a fine line. Learning to walk it just so is what separates the men from the boys (or bitchy teens from the sexy women). Manipulative game playing..Nope not interested....a little mystery to follow up...could be a challenge Lots of food for thought here, Thanks AllNiteAllLucid Your a thinker and a dreamer, who needs to be seen and understood. That's me so I can relate.
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15 years ago
Yeah Damnsexy and Holidayfortwo exactly. Real love is when it's not a 'business deal' , it's not about feeling like we're good together or about electric shocks , cumming hard or powerful magnetism. It's not about having so much in common. Real love is giving with no expectation of return whatsoever. Real love is the most rare and valuable thing and everything else is a mere temporary distraction. Real love means that you would do absolutely anything to make the other happy , even if it cost you everything you wouldn't hesitate for even a split second. And real love causes miracles to happen , the impossible to ocurr , it is the true driving force behind the churning of the oceans and the growing of the grasses , real love IS your soul , and everything else is a joke. It flows out of your heart like a giant river that has gently burst it's banks and it's deeper than any ocean. Deep sadness , grief and frustration all feel beautiful where before they were so horrible. But it is not an emotion , it is being actually awake and alive. Real love only knows kindness and affection. When real love is fully present then everything else in the universe follows it as it's servant , so when it's there then all the other things turn up anyway , and not because you wanted them but because you wanted them for the other. Real love cuts up lies and deceit and shines a light on everything. When sexual it is when sexual attraction is real and genuine but originally motivated by wanting them to enjoy your attraction to them. Real love is all about them. Real love is eternal. Real love doesn't often visit this prison house. It is raw , naked , unlimited sweetness , and without it you're more or less dead. Real love gives the other complete freedom to choose. It is no ordinary love. Real love is staring us all in the face but we're too blind to see it. Real love is when you realize you never really knew a damn thing , and you still don't. It makes you wish you could love more
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RHP User
15 years ago
And when it's really pure then even when it's not reciprocated it just keeps getting bigger........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Um yep Mrs P :-) that'd be the short version lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah Mrs Pea I think people are just experiencing a shadow of it , with the odd exception , all that is not given is lost.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I once did a project on the meaning of love. Much harder then it sounds. I had heard some languages have five words for the english word "love". I'm still figuring out what "true" love is. Is it a dream, an ideal? Is it straight in front of us, so natural we fail to see it's intensity until a life changing event takes place? What I do know is that like a ray of sun shine or a rainbow if you try to catch, label and bottle it you will be disappointed. The way I see it we could easily spend our whole lives persuing that rainbow, or we could just bask in it's glow when we find ourselves in it's presence. People spend years, lifetimes even, looking for something which they need to first give themselves- self appriciation and respect...unconditional love. (this isn't directed at anyone, I'm just pondering). Sometimes the loneliest of moments in our existence are caused by our inner turmoil, yet is it not that same turmoil which drives greatness. If we where all content to just leave everything within ourselves "as is" then what change and evolution could take place? Would everything become stagnant, stale? If we never felt hungry would we fail to eat? Just a thought, take it or leave it. Love your new photo, best yet AllNiteAllLucid. Use of lighting, angle, part of strong arm, use of mystery.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks for liking the pic guys :-) I'm bi so I get really turned on looking at my own body :P anyone else got that 'problem'? Lol Holidayfortwo yep you think alot like me :-) and yeah it is definitely right in front of us but we fail to see it :(
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Thanks for liking the pic guys :-) I'm bi so I get really turned on looking at my own body :P anyone else got that 'problem'? Lol Holidayfortwo yep you think alot like me :-) and yeah it is definitely right in front of us but we fail to see it :( ha! Recently Ive been doing up the bathrooms.... then I realised that I have 19 mirrors in this house. lolz. Does my arse look big in this?HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' Thanks for liking the pic guys :-) I'm bi so I get really turned on looking at my own body :P anyone else got that 'problem'? Lol Holidayfortwo yep you think alot like me :-) and yeah it is definitely right in front of us but we fail to see it :( its not about being 'bi' at all..........lol.... theres another name for it......
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Mikenshel for me it really is about being sexually attracted to men , I see my own body and I want sex with it , simple. I don't see my body as my self , I just look at it as a vehicle that I'm driving , so I don't feel proud of it or anything like that. Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid'for me it really is about being sexually attracted to men , I see my own body and I want sex with it , simple. LOL... you really should get your hand off it Loz, because you could go blind. :P xx Meeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid'for me it really is about being sexually attracted to men , I see my own body and I want sex with it , simple. LOL... you really should get your hand off it Loz, because you could go blind. :P xx Meeks our thoughts as well............lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks Meeks you sexy girl :-) , fuck me Stalky 19 mirrors???? LOL you do have a great arse
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RHP User
15 years ago
And Mikenshel you've got some great pics too :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Direct , strong and smart , that's where it's at.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Mrs Pea :-) Yep will definitely watch Two Moon Junction really soon , will see if I can hire it today. Sounds like someone maybe be playing with your precious pea today heeheehee
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RHP User
15 years ago
make it short, sweet and to the point... otherwise I am not interested... game players generally overestimate themselves.;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
i kind of agree with this because if i want sex everyday then mrs angel won't be interested. but if i can leave it for a few days then she will be all over me, and if i still refuse then she will practically rape me.i suppose it's a bit different tho because i have put in the hard yards beforehand over the years.
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