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Used n abused
November 24 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
How an you feel used ???You are saying that you are there for each other, and you obviously enjoy his friendship.......Why does a sexual relationship needs to be part of it ???I can not see how he can be using you......Not enough info in that area.But if you need a friend with benefits and he does not want to go there, maybe start looking somewhere else.Whether you maintain his friendship on the side is up to you I guess.
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Hanna_ybbn
13 years ago
Your post is not specific enough, sorryCheersHanna x
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Hanna_ybbn
13 years ago
Did you ever have sex with said person?Have they just stopped all of a sudden?Are you just 'talking' friends and you want more?Um what is it?
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RHP User
13 years ago
ML: You MIGHT be right.. BUT... we don't know anything about him.. He might be at an age where his plumbing is disfunctional. he might have CAUGHT something and is is too embarasses to discus it.. his prostrate might be playing up he might have any kind of issues making him doubt his ability or functionality he might be he might he might.. Let's not be too rough on this fella yet eh? The OP might be able talk him around to discussing his issues.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sounds like he just wants to have you as a friend! We can never have too many friends! I think he may have found someone new that he is interested in sexually! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Asking him this question??? If you talk about everything else, life's worries etc. why is it so hard for to say something like, "xyz is how I feel about you, but I'm getting abc impression, where do WE stand?? Are we only friends??" But be prepared to hear the answer you DON'T want to hear. We talk about "manning up" this, is one of those times instead of trying to second guess the situation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
In what context were you used? and how did this come to be abuse?
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RHP User
13 years ago
And as Cavey ritely said, there are a million mights in this scenario And Miss Sarah in rite in asking the question that she has.........you want some help you need to provide more info, if your hear to gripe, you will be slammed dunked... If you are such good friends, then ask....communicate, communicate, communicate.....few people have ever resolved anything without talking...............its called peace negotiations...works so well in the Middle East... But this I do know....if your feeling used and abused in any given situation ....then ONLY YOU can change the situation and the outcome...nobody else...and dont think for a second that people change...they fundamentally dont....... If your feeling used and abused.............then YOU get what YOU settle for...
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RHP User
13 years ago
From what's here I don't see anything that looks like either person was used or abused, it may be a rumour but men and women can be 'just friends' and even enjoy what they might think is a bit of sexy banter without getting naked together. Time to 'person up' a bit and if you've got all the friends you need, scrap it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MissSarahCurious'In what context were you used? and how did this come to be abuse? +1 In your own words you've been there for each other but he either doesn't want or no longer wants sex. OP was a little cryptic.
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Smilingwithfun
13 years ago
Funny how because he might want to just be a friend,its not right. Just because the women says ok,i'm ready,does he. How does plutonic friendship consitute abuse & being used?
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Hanna_ybbn
13 years ago
I thought I asked this of the OP in the 3rd post??
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RHP User
13 years ago
This probably looks like a pile-on, but most of the people asking the same question don't have instant posting privileges so we couldn't see their posts til the forum moderators approved them all, so please don't feel like we've all jumped on you.xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
Comes before fornication , talk about it
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