F51
Uninvited guests
June 08 2021
He says he would love to meet me and his female friend will be there if it’s convenient for her.
Wait, wtf?
So I wrote back to him, he’s inviting me on a date but without discussion with me as another human being, states that another person will be there at her convenience. Seriously? I find this to be disrespectful, demeaning and objectifying for starters!
Talk about privilege! I told him to hire an escort if he already had plans!
He responded that he had no idea how he may have demeaning.
He deleted his messages, I blocked him.
Surely I can’t be the only person to experience this?
Comments
SpicyKale
3 years ago
Oh God, all too regularly! Absolutely nothing surprises us on here anymore, we just like to think that guys like that do their own vetting for us🤷🏻♂️ How the heck he thought that would get him anywhere…. Oh, I forgot, all the women on here are dtf with anyone with a heartbeat 🙄
Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
I know right? All too common.
It's assumed by a lot of men that because we have a profile on a site like RHP, we aren't 'normal' women just sex crazed horny robots.
Kokoflamingo
3 years ago
I am only looking for Perth men but often get messages similar to this one. Very often they have " a female friend who can join us" even though Im not bi. Im not here to entertain interstate travellers. We are lucky to have some wonderful guys here in Perth, thank you 😊
ElectricDreamers
3 years ago
It's in all kinds of communication - ie: between couples too. Some people present with an expectation that their interest will be matched - rather than enquiring whether we all might be a match and then going from there.
Maybe they read somewhere confidence is attractive.
Maybe they figure you'll either bite or you/we/people won't so there's nothing to lose.
Or maybe they do believe they're God's Gift.
Player_J
3 years ago
Yes, have had a few of these! Like it's Tuesday night 8.30pm and you get these random messages, like sure I'll get out of my uggs and trackies and dress up in lingerie, travel to you, all at my own expense because im so desperate for sex with a stranger (and their "friend") after one templated invite. Does this actually work?? 😅
To be fair i actually was going to give one guy a go after quite a few detailed msgs and i was like great, maybe this evening (they were listed as in Sydney)?? Response - oh no no I'm still in x city. Wtf? What a waste of time.
RHP User
3 years ago
Happens all the time. It's like a throwaway comment in profiles or messages - "I have a female friend that can join in too." No, I'm not bi (as stated in my profile). No, I haven't agreed to f**k you yet, let alone some other random I've never met. No, your female friend hasn't agreed to f**K me yet either. Wtf.
I had a date planned a while ago with a single guy who was in town, when I messaged to confirm on the day he replied that he'd made plans with a couple instead but that I could join in. Firstly, rude that he didn't keep our date, secondly, am I meant to suddenly want to sleep with 3 people I've never even laid eyes on before?? I agree, hire an escort if you expect the person to just be up for any random. Men on here need to stop assuming women are easy just because they are.
This_couple
3 years ago
Our profile clearly states we want at least clothed body pics on your profile and we have our age range up to 45. Have had more than one message from coouples in 50s and 60s with not even any pics in their profile (or only a blurry tit and cock). The other day is was an older couple, no pics and the message was "I think you're hot, what do you think of me" default template message...
RHP User
3 years ago
This post actually hits a deep nerve.
Soooooooo many times there’s a huge assumption placed on us women, that we’ll just ‘join in’ without effort or connection. Simply because we’re on RHP.
I had a guy from a younger couple approach me late one night (after 8pm), with something akin to “You’re hot. Me and the Mrs are horny. Drive up to us now and I’ll let you lick my wife’s pussy”. (They lived 40 minutes away)
I replied with something like “Not with a rude and disrespectful opening message like that”.
His wife then got online and wrote, “LOL. My husband was obviously horny, but it would have been a hard pass from me anyway”.
I just can’t imagine disrespecting another person like that let alone another woman. In general, I’m really struggling with how people speak to each other online.
And how can another person (man) think I’ll let him penetrate my body when he can’t even speak to me with civility, let alone kindness and compassion!?!.
Some days are really hard on this app 😢RHP User
3 years ago
Omg. I thought it was just me. You ask for a face pic. You get a dic pic. They want you to drop what your doing and go to them. At night. Never met them before. It’s like wtf. And these guys are my age range. I don’t understand. Where are their brains.
N4November
3 years ago
I date aka fuck safe. I will only meet in a public place and usually old school. A few drinks, maybe a meal and hopefully lots of banter that confirms that I want to enjoy time with them. Hopefully blow their mind and my own!! 😈
I don’t do coffee dates.
I won’t meet you at yours.
Encouragingly, a guy recently asked if he could cum inside me and I said no, I only play safe. It was a test and I appreciate that because I do the same.
I just have to remind myself there are genuine people out there who are looking for the same.
But this privilege by both men and couples is a massive turn off and is why I rarely play with couples these days.
And ffs, don’t get me started on the tyre kickers and married men!! 😠
Obi1kenietzsche
3 years ago
Entitlement and arrogance is not very sexy, irrespective of gender, and whether be it from a single or a couple.
But It happens to us men too you know ☹️.
I once agreed to meet a woman (after mutual interest was established) and when she showed up she had hubby in tow unannounced.
I remember the occasion quite clearly as they were both riding bicycles.
MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
You are not alone. You're example is quite tame.
I recently showed a very trusting male friend of mine, the outstanding messages I have received in my inbox.
When I'm in an audacious cheeky mood, I just can't help myself to reply. My favourite reply is my BBQ line, followed by a picture so they can get a full visual.....its awesome because they block me. Saves me doing it. Works everytime. 🤣🤣
Ms Foxy
teamaj2
3 years ago
All of the responses made me nod my head in agreement. Not wanting to sound bitter , angry or disgruntled- where has respect, consent and common courtesy gone ? Do people honestly think we would want to invite anyone into our homes that didn’t show us respect ?
We of course get our fair share of pictures that strangely enough don’t show the guys face . I understand Victoria has been in lockdown and that can lead to many a single guy feeling isolation, loneliness and perhaps no way to ‘scratch the itch ‘ . Interesting, that this topic has arisen . The past two weeks have seen an increase in the unsolicited pictures . I know we can all block , it just seems such a waste of time .
Like everyone else we have seen some ‘interesting ‘ messages . The initial message of ‘I’m down from interstate tonight, tomorrow ‘etc etc ‘ seems to be a common thread.
We have also had over and over - also first message -‘I’m working in your area today , how about I pop in at lunchtime? ‘
I’m trying to not sound irritated but
⁃ we both work
⁃ I don’t know you
⁃ What would make anyone think that’s appropriate. My husband and I aren’t sitting around at home waiting for someone to come online 24/7 .
⁃ The list goes on .
⁃ I would like to believe that everyone has it in them to show some common decency . We have met some lovely men via RHP . We love to play but that does not mean we are hard up , we will hook up or meet just anyone and we all have busy lives beyond RHP . AxRHP User
3 years ago
We spoke to a couple over the phone and decided to meet up at a local tavern for drink , unbeknowning they decided to bring their daughter aged about 9 along , turned us off right away .
We finished our drink while our code exit word was going off in the conversation.
Never knew one could use the word “ pinkie” in soo many ways .MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
This forum reminds of the comedian Tiffany Haddish: my body is like a house quote.
You tube or google "My Body Is Like An Expensive House - PART 1", about 1min in. It's GOLD!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ms Foxy
NewVicCpl
3 years ago
We've not had that one here as a couple though we have had plenty of "Couples" we have been chatting to try and meet only to say at the last minute that the Mrs half is busy so it will just be the Mr half meeting
RHP User
3 years ago
You're not the only person. Unfortunately it happens all the time. I had one who dropped a message out of nowhere to say that they travel to Sydney once a month and that they want to meet up with a person who suits them (ie their sexual needs) and also included how 'great' they were sexually.
I messaged back to say that he can hire an escort/sex worker.
He responds back to say he didn't mean it like that.
I'm thinking "Go f#%k yourself", but didn't say it, so just blocked the person.
What I find is that no one reads a profile anymore.
That being said, there are instances when people do read profiles and just mislead others.
2EssesExploring
3 years ago
Just in our inbox, hot off the press: “Hello good morning. You are such a a lucky man. One day I would like to share her with you”
Really?
So this guy would be happy to share my wife with me, I feel so damn lucky now!
This is why I hardly look at guys profiles when I see they have viewed ours as by just viewing theirs they automatically jump to this!
Stop the Pie I want to get off!!!!!!
Mischeviouslad
3 years ago
Sadly so many guys in here see a profile photo and think “want to fuck it” without consideration that the owner of the profile is a person (real, or fake) and not just a location to direct their agenda and dump some DNA
Harsh?
Hardly. They contact you with an overtly sexual outcome in mind well before the normal human courtesies of some engaging chat to determine if you are even suited to meet because they dont care much for you….. just your holes and their urgency and convenienceRHP User
3 years ago
Too true. Bi women - especially single - can to be “used” by couples. One bi fem friend went for drinks with a couple. They got on and went back to their place. The wife approached her in the bathroom and said ‘I’m not really bi. It his birthday and you are his present.” They wondered why she got dressed and walked out the door !!!
RHP User
3 years ago
You're not the only person to experience it. There is a high proportion of men on here who think that women on here are substitute or free sex workers unfortunately.
Player_J
3 years ago
Woah some of the stories! Crazy but even crazier, totally relatable. Had one the other day, first message is "oh damn, was just in your area - wish i had seen your profile earlier!". Um not sure if this was their pick up line, but such a gross assumption.
2_Perthguys
3 years ago
Women have to deal with so much more than men not just biologically, but the challenges and hurdles of our patriarchal society to then have to some how navigate through what seems like an endless sea of clueless, clumsy selfish men I'm surprised the human race has survived this long. Just imagine if the roles were reversed us men would be lucky to survive periods for those that did childbirth would finish them off way be and that's not even taking into account societal challenges
Justdoingstuff
3 years ago
Our experience with this that was similar was a guy coming to town camping.
Said he would be up here in three week, with four or five other guys camping.
Love to meet while there.
Seemed nice on first message, polite, articulate.
Then says he can't vouch for all of the other guys yet, but two were alright.
We asked, 'vouch for, what do you mean?'
His response was he knew his two mates would be down, but would need to check with the other guys for a gang bang.
We asked why would he think that it was ok to just organise that after two messages.
It was in our list of interests, so he thought it was cool to arrange.
So yeah, some people do think from our interests lists they can just organise our sex lives for us we guess.
Ell_uno
3 years ago
Respect is everything Period.
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