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Trust vs Love - Is one better or are they equal?
June 08 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Grrrr two threads appeared on same topic. RHP please delete one.
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RHP User
16 years ago
to me trust is a big thing...if you cant trust a person they shouldnt be in your life...that goes for partner, friends and family....everyone it takes a lot for me to trust so if that gets broke i walk away..the person isnt worth anything to me any more i also believe you cant love someone you cant trust....so for me to fall in love i need to trust that man completely so i guess to me trust really is everything roxxy xxx...wow reading that back i look like a heartless cow haha
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RHP User
16 years ago
Not sure what the context is from the author, but I expect it would have to be one that could have both love and trust i.e. friends, family, partners. xxMiss Honeyxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am the same as you and must have the trust first, so my initial thought was I agree. However reading the quote again, it seemed, that you could have trust without the love...to me anyway. When I think you have to have both, which means they are equal. xxMiss Honeyxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
you dont have to love someone to trust them....i went to Sydney last weekend to visit a man i never knew, i had to trust that he wouldnt kill me and would look after me i had extra phone numbers of people i dont know incase i got stuck there so i had to trust them to be there if i was wrong in the first place we trust people all the time and dont love them...we trust our mechanic, our doctor, our checkout chick, all the people we have daily dealings with, we trust them not to rip us off i trust my ex with my children but i dont love him...but i do trust that my kids are safe when they are with him so i think trust comes in different forms and i dont think you need love to trust someone, but i think you do need trust to love someone roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah, I'd back up that observation. I guess plenty of people have fallen in love but know not to trust their lover. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
..hmm... vey good question and a great topic for a dinner conversation!... i am still undecided also, i think when you have been with someone for a long time and you are commited to your relationship, and perhaps if trust is broken (be it big or small issue, there are different degrees for different people, and no one should say what is right or wrong for anyone else), then if you decide that you want to stay together and you love this person, you need to work togther to get that bond back..but again there are a million different scenarios and relationships out there... i have friends i love, but i think we live and learn with what information we trust them with..and i love my brother, and if i lend him $20 and he says "thanx ill pay you back next week...do i trust ill get my money back..?.... ... but i still love him.... and i have realised living in a trusting relationship is a much happier one than living in one without trust...so i guess its what WE choose to live with.. xx have a great week all xx ms C
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RHP User
16 years ago
... so i am thinking now, a happy and confident , loving and respected relationship with your lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife...... you definately need to feel secure, happy, loved and trusted.. to be able to be generous and open with your love and trust in return... thanx for a great post... back to the house work x ms C x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Both are extremely important aspects of a relationship obviously, not sure which is the more important of the two. Trust is something that comes with friendship not just lovers, but then you could say you 'love' your closest friends anyway. In an ideal world both come hand in hand.
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Hi miss Honey....Long time etc.... Yes i would have to agree with that statement.....There are also many forms of Trust and love..... Like I love the way you always seem to promote thought, and from past posts I trust you to always supply a thought out contribution. Love to me is the greatest gift you can give or take from someone ! Trust is something you have to earn.......to give or receive !........as opposed to blind trust which isn't really earned, so therefore is not worth as much, and probably a recipe for disappointment. Love and peace Tam.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Me is just even more confuzzled lol. I agree you can love and not trust and I agree that love is better with trust. But in the context of close relationships, as specified above. Can you just trust and not love? If your son trusted you, showed he trusted you and said he trusted you but never showed you that he loved you, or said he loved you. Is that better? This is my interpretation of the quote with the emphasis on THAN. Perhaps my interpretation of compliment if incorrect. ....Help. Pfft the author was a fairytale writer, maybe it's not supposed to make sense. Tam Tam...Me missed you!!! Thought you loved perving up me skirt actually and not here for the articles teehee. WB sexy. xxMiss Honeyxx <
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RHP User
16 years ago
is is because trustworthiness is a comment on the actual person, whereas love is not a comment on the person themself, rather on the commenters relationship/feelings towards that person.
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RHP User
16 years ago
...to be trusted IS to be loved :)
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Of course i missed you to Missy. I might get of the fence on this topic and go back to trying to catch glimpses of your left nipple shimmering in the sunlight through the paling fence.....I love that !
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RHP User
16 years ago
Not sure which is better. You can have one without the other, like love and respect.Unconditional love does not need trust to thrive, though lack of it could cause much pain. Blind love is the same.I tend to love regardless of fault, regardless of the mundane and regardless of external challenges. Loving someone is hard work, being loved can be also.Andrew broke my trust once a long time ago now and we overcame it. I now trust him more than I did before then, is it love therefore that allowed us to move on together and stronger for the experience? Without love would we have fought for our relationship and without love would Andy have come to me and told me about it or kept the secret? back when all this went down a person I love dearly told me that in order for Andy to regain my trust I would have to give it first. He was right and that is what I did. it was hard, much harder than loving someone because there are so many ways to love and only one way to trust.One is not better. Trust in a loveless relationship? Love in a relationship without trust? xx Salina
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RHP User
16 years ago
I broke the trust to build the trust. It was all part of my relationship plan :PGod again, thanks honey for telling all my secrets!! Smacked bottom time! a :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's like a double edge sword but when you love someone as much as you say you do then you should trust them as much as you love them !!! It's all about being open and communicative in a relationship but it does take a lot to love someone. It takes a lot to say I love you, same goes for trusting someone. Once the trust factor has been lost due to damaged circumstances then how much can you really say "I love you". Plus for the majority who have had their hearts broken from past experiences how long does it take them to love or trust again.
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RHP User
16 years ago
This statement has one critical flaw. Being loved is a state of being not a compliment. I hardly see how the two are in comparison with each other. Trust exists (by default in any relationship) and can only be erroded by behaviour. No further analysis here.
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