Tricks for newbies

January 24 2022

Hi
We’ve just started to enjoy bdsm. What are some things on the must do list? This could include a third or a fourth.

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  • ddlbm

    ddlbm

    3 years ago

    Try going to a club like Darq. You will get lots of ideas and the people there are very friendly and helpful.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Intense mind and body connections within BDSM I have found are best shared one on one. Think it might waver if more people involved. Unless it's more about showing others how much you can take or give.
    Depends what gets you off I guess. Only way to find out is to give a few different scenarios a go.

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    3 years ago

    A third or a fourth what? Person is probably swinging, not as much BDSM. A third or fourth with the flogger might be different :p

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Beware of the rabbit hole....😘

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Bdsm is such a huge world, what turns you on? Do that!
    Look up fetlife, go to parties and workshops if you are not sure what turns you on.
    Shibari can be a good start for couples to explore with each other.
    Including other people, maybe someone who have more experience and can teach you some tricks.

  • Boundinpleasure

    Boundinpleasure

    3 years ago

    The word tricks is just like hack, they shouldn’t be within 5000 metres of BDSM.
    Authenticity is all BDSM requires, choking, spanking or tying someone up, suspending them from the ceiling and leaving them there with cum dripping from their face and cane marks up their thighs without a level of authenticity is just weird and gross.
    Learn to do things righteously and for a reason, whether it’s to actually hurt, stimulate other senses or degrade the partner to trigger emotions, then everything falls into place and a good time is had by all.
    As for the bondage part, that is easy….the discipline side of bdsm is a different story. The “dom” needs to be able to be disciplined enough to actually discipline the
    “Sub” even when they only have their toe on the boundary line. Accountability is EVERYTHING.