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Too hot to play with
October 08 2015
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MrandMrsBrady
10 years ago
Mr Unicorn here, I would much rather Mrs Unicorn get quality over quantity. Occasionally we may veer away from our preferred choices to allow each other to experience something different, I wouldn't call it taking one for the team but some playmates tick boxes that I or others don't. We are on here to fulfill fantasies together. Our profile reads the way it does because of what the OP has described, and from my experiences it's the M of the couple that had the biggest issue( I'm not saying all, just my experience) - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
When we have played with others ( 2 single male guys and 4 or 5 couples, over the past 2 1/2 years) their personalities, intellect and "values" have been the deciding factor for us rather than their "beauty" (looks). Obviously there has to be some form of attraction but for us it was more important that we could have a decent conversation with them, get to know them a little better over a glass of wine and a decent meal. That the things that were of value to us, in our lives (we call them our core values, the things that define who we are) , that they also shared the same values, beliefs and things that we did (if this all makes sense?). That we had something in common. The biggest & most important sex organ is, we feel, the human brain (mind) and so for us at least there has to be a connection before we play, which is why we have always preferred to get to know the other couple well, meet them a few times for drinks and dinner , talk about our likes, dislikes, wants and needs, what turns them on etc. Important therefore that we are all on the same page. So far we have had some really nice experiences and met some great couples whom we spend quality time with - go away for weekends, dinners, bbq's etc. The playing aspect, if and when it happens, is a bonus and something that we feel should be cherished and enjoyed by all concerned. Because we prefer quality over quantity, we prefer to take our time and get to know potential playmates well, before taking the next step. Again so that there are no regrets should we decide to play. So that's our answer to your question, based on our personal experience, on here over the past 2 1/2 years. It may not be right for others, but for us it has worked out just fine and as a result we have enjoyed our experiences so far.
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SassyRascal
10 years ago
Average looks and shape I find really attractive guys and girls intimidating. If "The Rock" asked me out on a date I would be far too scared to go!! SweetF
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was wondering why I don't hear back from some people :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was afraid I wouldn't live up to their expectations but I know better now 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's never happened to us :( Guess we'll have to keep on waiting.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are looks that important? Surely, most of us, are old enough to now it's about the person not the image. Thank goodness I have a fantastic image though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Feel like I am second (third, forth) choice if a attractive guy seems interested...and it is normally the case lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I feel the same if there is an attractive woman around , in fact I may be even further down the list or even passed over for an attractive bit of furniture.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
The basis of the OP seems to have been missed by the majority. But i guess that couples that might bypass someone because of fear of introducing someone so hot into the mix may not be so forward in admitting it on the forum or even to their partner. Perhaps its a secret fear and hiding that secret fear by making small reasons/ excuses to bypass said hottie and move on to someone that wont make them feel inferior or even the risk of losing a partner to the third party.
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MrandMrsBrady
10 years ago
Mrs Unicorn here...we have in the past been given the thanks but no thanks by profiles that read we should have been a match..we asked why? Was it our profile wording? Pics? We have been told we were to fit looking , too intimidating & one even said too buff😳 sometimes we get pgs come through & I will not lie depending on how I am feeling about myself at the time I will say no to a profile that is a match if I feel the female is too gorgeous or young & gorgeous and I'm not in the mood to deal with that...other times it doesn't bother me...damn hormones!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If Mrs3 is able to bag a looker then kudos to her...why does everyone think couples are so bloody insecure. If we were why would we be sharing our lovers with others in the first place?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
No , most couples are secure. But there are those that cover the spectrum. Im with you. I would allow my playmate to choose the hottest. But we are both bi so we have win win situation because we both get with the hottie male or female.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway'Perhaps its a secret fear and hiding that secret fear by making small reasons/ excuses to bypass said hottie and move on to someone that wont make them feel inferior I've felt that way once or twice playing as a couple with two guys I didn't even have any romantic feelings for, though I'd never publicly admit it. D'oh!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bit different from a real couples perspective but I was recently teamed up on another site with a fwb who was bi,we were looking for single bi guys and he picked ones that I didnt find attractive at all and the ones I showed interest in, my fwb would find some lame excuse for not following it up. Ended up that he had a fear that I would like them better than him and I would fly off into the sunset. But like I said, that wasnt a secure relationship that I was in.( but I did fly off into the sunset... On my own.)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some are new, some may be in a newer relationship and have had trust issues with previous partners. The key is that as long as both in the couple are comfortable and one is not feeling pressured by the other - it has to be a team decision, whatever the reasons may be. For us, as long as we are both attracted (mind and body) to the interested party whether they be guys, girls or couples, we will play. And if they are more attractive then either of us then even better! As a couple we know what keeps us together, and it has a lot more to do with things other than just looks. Sexy is a frame of mind, and a relationship is so much more than that!
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Countless cases of the unicorns after having played with married/relationship couples, the male messages her on a separate account wanting to play 1 on 1 without his partner knowing. Of course it happens with the female partner chasing the single male/female on the quiet but would presume the ratio is skewed toward the male partner wanting a bit more of the unicorn.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ive had the phone call on the sly from the male with 2 couples." The wife doesnt know Im calling you but..." But not in majority of my experiences
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' Countless cases of the unicorns after having played with married/relationship couples, the male messages her on a separate account wanting to play 1 on 1 without his partner knowing. Of course it happens with the female partner chasing the single male/female on the quiet but would presume the ratio is skewed toward the male partner wanting a bit more of the unicorn. I get that a lot, too much actually, I'm starting to get annoyed with it. They always deny their partner doesn't know? So I get a message a few days ago, and yes, I hope he's reading this because he deserves it. Very VERY hot guy from a couples profile contacts me, hard to think rationally when a vision like that pops up in front of me, and local, so I ask about his partner, does she know, he said yes, she hadn't seen the messages yet but she would, yeah right, heard that before. That in itself doesn't really bother me, but being lied to does, I hate that, so they lie to their wife and their fuck buddy? Then said he couldn't communicate on here, gave phone number so we could 'exchange more pictures'. Shit I have about 500 at last count lol so I'm thinking his partner isn't doing it for him, maybe he doesn't want to cheat properly, so wants to get off with sexy chat and dirty pictures, vids, whatever. No thanks, he's local, and I'm not prepared to be a free 'service' for him, without actually hooking up, which is the way I see it going, f%&k him, he can go pay a hooker if he's that frustrated or pay for phone sex. States in the profile they only play with each other present, not apart. So i really think denying your partner what they want, in the end has a negative and detrimental affect on the relationship. Being turned on by bringing other people in just makes you hornier for each other, or it should if managed properly. Just an example, so many women don't realise their partners are fooling around on them, but I get hit on all the time by attached males, just my thoughts and I openly play with anyone, so I know I'm more likely to be hit on, but the fact remains, it happens a lot, and I don't think it's healthy for a relationship to have jealousy come into it
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