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To validate or not - that is the question.....

February 10 2019

So here is one for all you raunchy rhp’ers... Validating another profile - where do we stand??? U meet, spend the evening with each other - by play or mayb just social with intent to catch up again. Either way u know each othr and have had some sexy fun - degrees of varying. You do the courteous - well what i deem is courteous - thing of offering a validation and then.... They accept and happily post your nice words BUT nothing in return 😱 Am i missing something here, have i got it all wrong?? Validations to me mean that the people are real and not time wasters or stand up stooges... I would not accept someones elses validation without more than a complimentary thought that i should offer the same in return... Naughties please tell me am i over thinking this, is it just basic two way respect or am i way out here 😱 Would love to get your thoughts Signed... pondering 🙄 Xx miss j 💋 of d&j - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsJonesy

7 years ago

..and I am sure someone can confirm or deny this, that only verified profiles can give validations. You are verified, the other party may not be and therefore cannot return the favour. If they are verified, yes a return validation would be great. But not everyone thinks the same as you, and expectations are often not met on this site. 😶

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AnnieWhichway

7 years ago

Is correct re you need to be verified to validate. To stop unscrupulous profiles from validating each other and dicking us all around.

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RHP User

7 years ago

If said play partner is verified.. in my opinion a return verification just seems like the courteous thing to do. But unfortunately some people are just too self-involved. Just my thoughts.

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RHP User

7 years ago

I would automatically return the validation if one is received - I did not know profiles had to be verified in order to validate - that’s handy to know

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RHP User

7 years ago

Quoting you, OP: You do the courteous - well what i deem is courteous - thing of offering a validation and then.... They accept and happily post your nice words BUT nothing in return In my years here I've asked friends to validate me, and only returned the favour if they asked too. Not everyone likes validations on their profile. At other times I've validated members I met and liked, but not asked them to do the same because I didn't want more validations than I already had. What's up with these expectations, and this waiting around and wondering? Just ask for what you want already, it saves everyone a lot of angst in my opinion.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Interesting... thanks for the feedback on the verified to validate. I wasn't aware of that! :)

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RHP User

7 years ago

I agree but maybe courteous, as beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.... or holder of the validation they didn't reciprocate lol :)

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RHP User

7 years ago

I like your take on it.... just ask - best you get what you want or worst you dont. And yes, I do understand that not everyone likes verifications for what eva reason, but I still see it as a scratch my back I will scratch yours and one doesn't need to accept a validation they don't want. But i will certainly take you up on your suggestion and simply ask for

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RHP User

7 years ago

Could be any number of reasons. I've (ms) validated people on request and it hasn't come through despite them waiting for it. N8

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RHP User

7 years ago

I agree its courtesy to return the favour and also displays a level of respect. Yes they must be verified to validate. However, lots of people, men and women are hesitant to have validations for fear of rejection and judgement. If a profile has too many validations they can look seedy, fickle, and raises questions of authenticity and safety. I’ll admit I have avoided profiles with heaps and heaps, but validations have been useful to give a few indications of personality, friendly, respectful actually shows up and real. Perhaps ask why the favour wasn’t returned? It may even be because they don’t want to increase your chances of finding another?

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QldXXXX

7 years ago

My 2c.. Having spent some time with a person, hopefully you've got a feel for who they are and their personality and character.. ..that should be the guage as to whether they'd be receptive to you validating them.. .. besides, validations have to be accepted by the person before they appear so the final say does lie with them as to what does/does not appear (happy to be corrected!)

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EarthQueen

7 years ago

I don’t think it should be courtesy Just because they were into you doesn’t mean you were as into them or maybe there was something they did that made you hesitant to validate. I won’t eloborate on that except to say people are using them to judge someone’s potential character for a meet. So I think they should come from a place of honesty not just as a token return the favour because they gave you one. (Although I have written one as a piss take, as a joke, but he was cool with that and it’s obvious) They shouldn’t be expected, but like Solitary mentioned you could always ask? I guess for couples or single males they are more important in some ways . I don’t publish mine it’s just a personal preference. Each to their own .

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