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To cum or not to cum.....
January 14 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am not a Tantric Master but I know about Tantra & the theory of storing sexual energy & life force . I would need a regular partner to explore that . Whereas meetings for sex seem to have an unwritten agreement that Cumming is a pre-requisite . I met someone from this site & I had a wonderful night with her despite the fact that I didn't Cum . It means that we have unfinished business ;) Successful Tantra requires patience & practice which is hard to achieve with a casual encounter. The Reward of Tantra is more powerful Orgasms so the benefits are obvious. I do not claim to have complete control over my Orgasms but it is something I would definately be interested in exploring further ...- Posted from rhpmobile
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wingman2014
13 years ago
Dont know their own bodies . I used to think ejaculation was the only goal worth scoring . But then I started to dabble in tantric techniques and discovered a whole new world of possibilities . I learned that with breathing ccntrol and the simple touch of one finger on a particular accupuncture point at the time of climax would. cause me to cum so hard and yet not ejaculate at all . All the thrill and no mess ! Excellent for ladies that like to go down on a guy but dont like the taste of cum .Added advantage of this is that you recover almost immediately and can stay hard so much longer. So guys Get to know your body and experiment its well worth the effort - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have had days of sex without coming, sore as at the end. I have very good control of it. I know that at times if I come that's it for me. Pillow and sleep please, thus I hold off, sex is way to much fun to have it end. Then there are time when I know I can have many in a night, or I am after quick release. I have had few come races in my time, from soft to cum in under 30 seconds. LOL nice way to impress the ladies.. LOLI find the longer I hold back the better the final release. God they have been the best body spasm world shattering ceiling staining cums ever. Guess being such a hedonist I learnt to be this for the joy of it.Don't understand how some guys cant control it. Where is the joy if its over in less then a minute.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Due to 'conditioning' myself when masturbating while growing up I'm used to a certain type of stimulation to reach orgasm. This allows me to choose when I come or to control how close I get during sex. Having said that though, a vigourous lover that makes a lot of noise can seriously upset that control ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
You do not have to cum to enjoy sex GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is so true....if sex is just a race to get as quickly as possible to the big O then so much of the enjoyment is removed. And it's not just men who can feel this pressure. I have been with guys who were so intent on getting me to orgasm that in the end I essentially find myself suffering from performance anxiety, I'm not relaxed or enjoying the experience, and I just can't cum. We need to learn to 'go with the flow' a lot more during sex....embrace the whole experience and not see it as a failure if one or both partners don't have mind-blowing orgasms every single time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not a zen master or yogi, and sometimes wish I had more control (although being quick to go again, and again, is a help - my little sell, else I'll be a pariah).I agree, a focus on the big O is debilitating, and turns what should be intimate and exploratory into a transaction. I think men are conditioned to focus on cumming, but women also are taught to think that they need to make sure their partner has cum, too, to achieve success. Wouldn't we prefer not to cum and still be enjoying the experience hours later, than to cum in an instant and then have to flick on Eastenders ;)(Although a quickie is also fabulous, for all sorts of reasons!)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is said to have a myriad of mind, body and spirit benefits :) So many misconceptions about Tantra! It's a journey of the self, not of sex. Sex is the vehicle but not the goal.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would say it depends on the moment, about 8 out of ten times I can control my ejaculation. It is influenced by your thoughts, energy levels, fear, and stress. I do agree that the orgasm lasts a few seconds and thats it, for us guys the orgasm is pretty non-eventful.......just build up build up and then splat.......but holding it feels better and better the longer you can control it. ........I often have gotten annoyed at previous partners as they would enjoy having constant attention followed but multiple orgasms without me ejaculating which ended up as hour of fun, but in a long term relationship, its nice to have a partner that is willing to give you the same attention and let you release once and a while.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have no idea what all the Tantric stuff is about, just know that Sting is a fan.I am also no sexual genius, however there are certain things I can do, and would have thought anyone could do, to prevent the end game from coming to pass so to speak. Things like, slowing down or going down.There is something else which helps but is a bit more specific, back pain. After an hour or so my back will start to hurt from an old injury and that pain emotion kicks in which is pretty useful if you are wanting or needing to go longer :)Sometimes I don't go at all, its not a big deal for me but I find that a lot of women are put out by that. They sometimes question weather I was into them or not, and while most certainly I was, I dont need to go 100% of the time. Besides, its easier to pick up after a quick rest :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Spot on sweet dreams!! The term tantra has been flagged around so much it has become completely diluted. I could write pages and pages about all this. Tantric love making is a very spiritual, deeply connected and blissful experience to share with another only when you have first explored the vast depths of your own inner being. You dont have to be in love with the person you are making love with but you definitely need to be in love, or love, ypurself first. Two already complete beings conjoining in a blissful state of union....rather than just seeking out another to fill some void. Sweet dreams sweet dreams!! :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
...the Tantra Mantra or even need to put 'tea leaves' smuggled in from Columbia in my incense burner and in hale the fumes.This one is Simple Science...every single part of our anatomy, male and female, is hardwired directly to the brain. Sure, you need to rethink some of what you want and some of what you do...but there are times when you want to be a race horse and others where you simply want to take a long slow trot in a more sensual pasture, that's all up to you.The real key from my own experiences, it's a game played by two...not only do you want to want it but so does your partner who is the one that will and can help keep up the pace with you. Personally, I'm into practicing this as a team sport...find a trainer part and work out regularly together. Think about it...... happy Mahavishnu and Hare Krishna to you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have had a heap of encounters over the time, where I have felt totally satisfied but not cum myself, from simple brief oral encounters to huge sessions over multiple hours or group stuff, I guess its due to my pleasure comes from well seeing and hearing my partners cum... Mine is more a fullstop (well short comma) :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
For years I've tried to learn to control my ejaculation and it feels great not cumming and to be able to keep going. The best sex I have is when the woman keeps cumming and I can keep going and when she says she can't take any more ill let myself go but it's taken ages to get to that point hours of masturbation and no release its great I would recommend all guys try it
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its time for a tantric orgy xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tantriclove69' Its time for a tantric orgy xxx I'm in
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is a really interesting topic and if anyone is keen to find out more there is loads of info on the internet (or bookstores)......
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RHP User
13 years ago
You know, Mischievous, it's entirely possible to discuss a topic - and use a word God forbid - without it being for shameless self-promotion. Did you read the above posts that mentioned Tantra - I didn't see any such self- promotion - or did you just react to the word and automatically dismiss people generally for using it? It's one thing to make your own choice not to use a word, but to have such an overt dig at anyone else who uses it in the process is kind of cheap don't you think? Generally speaking, and in my view only, it's not nice to hold yourself up as superior, at the expense of others. I also find it intriguing given you have no hesitation spruiking your methods and the things you've learnt, how they've helped you become a better lover etc - self-promotion if I've ever seen it ;) Perhaps my favourite thing about Tantra is that it teaches you deep self-awareness, humility, compassion and tolerance for self and others. And on that note, I suspect karma's going to bite me on the ass for this post :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Male cum/sperm contains essential life force/energy so that when it is released the body is drained of this energy both in the short and long term. Female friends....how many times has your male lover had all the energy in the world only to cum and fall asleep within a couple of minutes!!!! Boring!!! Too much ejaculation also speeds the aging process....a male friend of mine who has consciously not ejaculated in years looks way younger than his age.....and his girlfriend is one blissfully happy lady!!! :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
It takes two to tango, and tantric sex is very orientated on the uniting of minds. Good sex is so hard to find and very few know anything about what it is to listen to another's body while enjoying one's own. tantriclove69 you have got to be kidding right. Long life through no orgasm. Not sure if you are taking the piss or not. Life force, well I do like to swallow so looking forward to a long life. Or am I just balancing out???The human body is an instrument and you cant play another's well till you learn to play your own. Way to many people are selfish, and then the rest are to wanting to impress. Its for joy and pleasure not for some grandstanding performance or selfish need.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tantriclove69'Too much ejaculation also speeds the aging process....Oh fuck...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I did not mention anything about no orgasms. Orgasms without ejaculating far deeper, long lasting, and more of a whole body experience (as well as being beautifully blissful)....so orgasm tp ypur hearts content!! Whilst driving to work, shopping, drinking coffee, doing yoga....whatever wherever!!
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madotara69
13 years ago
I don't think it would be fair, getting to work to say that we never finished things. The boss would probably send me home.Mado
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tantriclove69' I did not mention anything about no orgasms. Orgasms without ejaculating far deeper, long lasting, and more of a whole body experience (as well as being beautifully blissful)....so orgasm tp ypur hearts content!! Whilst driving to work, shopping, drinking coffee, doing yoga....whatever wherever!! I would love to learn that, orgasm without ejaculation (its happened, but only by accident, and I suspect only because I was spent). Time to Google... (any suggestions?)My 'oh shit' was - apart from a slightly boyish attempt at humour - more about all the ejaculations gone by. Average 1 a day (probably 4 fold that, but lets pretend), since I was, say, 12... close to 9,000... how many years have I forgone???
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RHP User
13 years ago
By the sounds of it mesolongi you aint got longi til you expire!! Yep, you're fucked!! But hey, why not make the most of your limited years and enrol in a tantric sex workshop or something. Or theres heaps of books (much more romantic than taking a laptop and google to bed!!) Start by becoming intimately familiar with your breath, breathing deeply and slowly into the bottom of your stomach through your nose (mouth closed)....even if you just devote the next week to becoming fully aware of your breath....let me know how u get on :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I think you have read and misinterpreted my comments I made no reference to any individual.... only the concept of referring to the word and its misuse. I could similarly agree with Tantriclove69 in her definition of orgasm v climax.... others took issue with me when I made that same definition and differentiation in the past. Thats cool. DG. Perhaps :) I might have seen your comments as much the same as the many other comments (digs?) you make about self-promotion. I'm happy to own that mistake.
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