To Play or not to Play that is the question

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Whenever we meet someone new for coffee it's always with the intention of taking things further....but more and more often recently we haven't. In fact it's been over a year since we've progressed further even though we have met several couples. Still quite hopeful that a recent meeting will go further but the trouble with the majority of couples we meet is that between us we have to find occasions when kids aren't being demanding!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...and not sure why anyone needs to fuel the coffee addiction, it must be one of the 4 food groups. | Most often by the time I am actually ready to meet someone, we have swapped enough emails to reforest a small third world country if they have printed them, sent all the better and/or more provocative pictures, talked at times nearly incessantly on the phone and generally quite comfortable with each other...we are both pretty sure about where it's heading and I'm usually very comfortable that she is not an axe murderer or related to Ms Bobbitt. If not, I am already a member of good standing on the "Barista Babes" website and I'll hit them up for free coffee...or step back until we are a bit more sure of the ground we're standing on, I dislike wasting my time or anyone else's for that matter. | Why not just agree to a first meeting somewhere private and neutral with an option...walk away being one of them. I like the better digs in and around the Casino so if we don't happen to click...I am ready to rock on into the night anyway. | Plan your work...work your plan.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It`s a quick easy meeting. Just to have that coffee break. Meeting in a park or other place is a bit isolated , the coffee shops are a bit more secure and they can`t chase you when you say no thanks your not my type. Besides you can see if they slurp there tea or coffee that’s the instant turn off. I am thinking of getting a card made for the ladies of the scarlet women’s group that you can leave on the table after a coffee meeting Turn the logo side up, and under it will say YES Or NO Then the guy can just pick up the card after the ladies has left the building NO or Yes are complete sentences. Just working on a logo now. It saves a lot of embarrassment for everyone one, guys can do the same thing. It may seem a bit impersonal, but then depends what you are looking for and to me this is just a sex site, nothing more. I guess people have different communication styles and desires so some like the text lead up, the email lead up and the phone talk. I find that all a bit like seduction by technology and not my cup of tea I am a more hi how are ya , do you mind taking your clothes of kinda girl. The written word is so seductive, your brain takes yo to place that your pussy may not really respond to when you meet for real. Then there is the big let down for both people. Now where is that cuppa , that I can dunk my biscuit into and slurrrrp and go aahhhhhhhhhhhhh.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Tuscan's comments open up a whole new topic.When we first arrange to meet where do we go as a preference and what do we eat/drink.I have been to some interesting places as a first meet, would love to know some of the more wacky/wierd places you have had that first meeting.My strangest was at an ice rink?? go figureSteve

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  This thread only proves how difficult it is to meet someone on an adult dating site and it is not as easy as it would first seem. People join these sites for various reasons which are not obvious to everyone reading their profile as they made hide the real reason why they joined. People who meet face to face at a pub, club, function or elsewhere are quite happy to have sex at the time of meeting without knowing anything about each other, yet people who meet on adult dating sites are reluctant to have sex even after meeting. Intersting discussion point.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I dont usually get the two mixed up. If I go out for coffee... that's usually what happens. If I go out for sex, that's usually what happens. I think there are more than two kinds of people on RHP. There are those looking for a lover with similar interests to theirs, for instance, who might meet for coffee quite frequently unttil the find the person they are looking for.... and those same people might meet other people quite seperately, in completely different circumstances, to scratch an itch.HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have had a few coffee meets, these generally are because I dont think that they are my type and its easy to meet and greet and make the final decision.   If I am keen and they are too it is usually meet for a drink in the evening and if we get on it can go further perhaps dinner some wine and then have some carnal fun.   I like to meet people in the flesh, seeing their photo on line and texting, messaging and talking on the phone are great to start with but at the end of the day I still want to meet the real person. If they dont show its their loss and I move on to the next.   I also enjoy reading the forums and contributing when I feel I want to.   I am on this site to find a friend with benefits, however casual sex is fine as well, I am not looking to change my life just spice it up a bit.

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  erotictouch4u

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'ssssteve2011'My strangest was at an ice rink?? go figure ET xox

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  well i would like to think i am a meeter (also a chatter)...i mean so many things can get in the way.... distance, work, etc.....funny...i made myself available to meet this guy...lol...and then his co workers partner had a baby....lol....oh well maybe i will get another chance...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...they were clouds in my coffee, clouds in my coffee... . Be sure to tell the coffee partner how you feel about them. Be sure to ask them politely how much they like you. Be sure to have your pad in order for special visitors just in case. Carry a condom in your wallet, not with the intention of using it, but for psychological reasons. If it goes no further, at least you know you had your affairs in order.

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